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How do you know when you love someone? (link)
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Ok, I've made a little quiz (cheesey, I know, but I'm bored and I think it'll help..) for you to take and see if you might love *someone*. This is not a specific 'yes' or 'no' answer, only an idea. Answer honestly, then read the 'answers' at the bottom. DO NOT CHEAT. The acceptable answers for this quiz are 'N' - never, 'A' - Always, 'S' - sometimes, 'O' - often, 'yes' and 'no'.
1. Do you dream about this person at night?
2. Do you dream about this person during the day?
3. Do you get butterflies in your stomach when talking to this person?
4. Are you sometimes nervous around this person?
5. When you think about this person do you go to "dream land" and have to be touched to be revived?
6. Do you like this person as more than a friend?
7. Have you liked this person as more than a friend for more than six months?
8. Do you often talk to this person?
9. Do you long to talk to this person more often?
10. Do you think you love this person?
If you answered questions 1,2,3,4,5,6,7, or 9 with 'no', 'never', or 'sometimes' you're probably not 'in love'.
If you answered questions 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9, and 10 with 'yes', 'O', or 'A', then you're probably 'in love'.
If you have more 'no', 'S', or 'N' answers than you have 'yes', 'A', or 'O' answers you're probably not 'in love'. (and vice-versa)
Remember, this is only an estimate and a general figure, not a specific answer. Being 'in love' is something that you really have to feel with your heart.
-FunnyCide
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ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana (link)
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Mariana, what a pretty name..
Ok, I'm still not sure what your question was.. but ok. I cannot predict the future, so I can't tell you if something is going to happen... but I am going to give you a warning, Mariana. Do not do something with Joshua that you will regret later. Maybe that wasn't clear - Don't have sex with him. You'll later regret it if you do. Just, don't do that. How would you feel if you were a mom at fourteen? How would your parents react? Or grandparents? How about your friends? How would you continue with school if you're having to feed, change, rock, and care for a newborn? Though I do belive what you did was wrong (cheating with this guy), the blame is still on him. The guy is almost always the initiatior of these things, and he should know better than to cheat on his girlfriend if he loves her. So, don't feel too terrible about that. Seriously though, think this through, go through every possible thing that could happen. I mean EVERYTHING. Hurting, a baby, broken hearts, trouble with Joshua's girlfriend, grudges... and more!
Attempt to get over Joshua. I know it's hard... but you can do it. "Alot og guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them" Try and find the good qualites of each guy.. write them down on paper, be generous, something like this (using one of my guy friends - even though I don't like him, he's my "lab rat" for now)
-kind
-generous
-hard worker
-intelligent
-sense of humor
-fun to be with
-cute (lol!)
-Christian (this may not be important to you, but this is so, so, so important to me!)
-doesn't tease me (unless we're joking.. then it's no hard feelings.)
Ok, I think you're getting the idea. Be generous with your compliments on these guys.. then pick the one you like the best (or two or three of them) and start to hang out with them a little more. Start as friends, get to know them, talk to them on the computer, in person, whatever works for you. Then, you might find that you are starting to like one of them more and Joshua less. If that doesn't work, (and I don't like to say this... but..) write a list of things that are not-so-good about Joshua. Here's an example (not using the same guy, a different person, this time a girl..)
-rude at times
-can be pushy
-can be bossy
-foul language (this may not be a big deal to you, but it matters to me..)
-doesn't respect other's feelings
-has cheated on her boyfriend before
-doesn't feel guilty for cheating on her boyfriend
Ok, you're getting the idea. So, once you get all of the negative things there all at once, you might not like Joshua as much. Whenever you catch yourself thinking lustfully about Joshua, slap yourself (mentally or literally) and think about something totally different and off the wall. I think that's about all I can tell you... sorry. I hope it answers your question..
-FunnyCide
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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K) (link)
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Well, K, I would say, if a guy asks, tell him, "yes, I'm a virgin." Because, it's better for them to know.. you see, I wouldn't really know, 'cause no one's ever asked me that question.. you could consider me "prude", but if that's what I am.. I'm glad to be that way. I guess all the guys that I socialize with know that I'm a Christian and I'm not gonna have sex until I'm married. I don't know.. ok? 'Cause this question was many, many questions all in one.. but, realize that once you've lost your virginity you can never get it back. You can only lose it once... lose it to the right man, please! I'm begging you, save sex for marriage. If and when you get married, your sex life will be different if you've had sex many times than how it could be if you're only with one man. You might rate this answer badly, but this is all I know to tell you. This guy should know you're a virgin.. and you should stay that way.
-FunnyCide
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ive read some questions and most about sex with guys is a little making me uncomfortable. not all guys are horny lil bastards. i dont go looking for sex and all that, i just look for some1 i can relax with and have a good time with, not the first girl that is willing to give it up 4 me. trust me girl when i say this, guys are all talk. they say that with their friends, but if a girl came on to me wanting sex (im a virgin) i wouldnt have a clue what 2 do. (link)
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I applaud you on your taking a stand for guys. Though I'm not a guy, I agree with you. Not all guys are "that way". In fact, it's probably about half and half. (half "that way" and half "the other way".) Though you hear about guys wantin' to have sex, it's sometimes the girls to initiate it. The guys just go along with it.. but you're exactly right. You sound like a cool guy.. more people (male and female) should look for someone they can relax with, hang out with, have a good time with.. not have sex with. If all "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" did was have sex, I'd be a hermit. ;) You sound really cool, thanks for taking a stand.
-FunnyCide
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hey i'm 13 and i'm a Christian! i would really like to know more bible verses for i'm going through so much (parents are like yea...and my friends are failing me...and i have like 2 major issues of being easily angered and jealous, i'm praying about it too) so if you know any bible verses that might help me with the above or just any good ones tell me!! thanks soooo much *i rate* (link)
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YAY!! I love this question!! Ok, now, down to the question. Here are some verses - awesome verses! And, feel free to ask anything!
-Mark 13:13
-Exodus 34:6-7
-Proverbs 18:24
-II Timothy 4:7
-Romans 6:18
-II Timothy 4:1-5
-Philippians 2:1-11
-Psalm 23 (over read and quoted, but when studied in depth, it's awesome)
-Proverbs 30:33
-Proverbs 31
-Revelation 6 (tough stuff right here..)
-I Corinthians 14:19
-I Corinthians 13
-I Corinthians 12:12-27
-I Timothy 4:1-7
-Ephesians 6:10-12
-Ecclesiastes 9:11-12 (these are a very deep verses..)
-Ecclesiastes 9:17
-Ecclesiastes 11:1-4
-Ecclesiastes 12:13-14
-1 Corinthians 10:13
-Revelation 7:17** (Awesome verse!!)
-I Corinthians 3:16-17
-I Corinthians 6:19-20
This doesn't even begin to cut it.. there are so, so many more, but these are some of my favorites, and I hope they help you out. I know it's sortof alot to look up.. now you know why I didn't type it all out! (Especially since some of it's whole chapters or almost whole chapters!)
I hope things get better for you.. pray about this, and all things.
-FunnyCide
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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Oh, my friend, my friend.. I cry inside.. I cry for you. I.. I don't know what to say, honestly, I don't. This answer may be long and pointless... but I'm hoping it'll make you feel better. :\
I do believe this would be normal... the not being able to sleep, sitting at his grave for hours, trying to kill yourself. Oh, why, oh, why?! I do not understand this at all! Why?! *shakes head sadly* Don't hold it against yourself. It's not worth it, sweetheart.. I know, I know.. it's so hard. I have never been in this situation, but I think I may be able to imagine how awful, how wretched it would be. I do not know the extent, the severity of your pain, but I am trying to imagine it. There is no way that I will be able to understand it, until I feel it myself, but I am trying. Sweetie, you wouldn't know how close I came to crying when I read this... and I haven't cried in... several, several months.. last year sometime. This had an amazing effect on me. Sadly, life has no rewind button. What I would do if life had that button... what we would all do! But, then life could be perfect.. we would be able to erase hurt, erase pain, erase scars, but, it wouldn't be realistic. What you did may have been wrong, but it is a natural human error. I've done stupid stuff, and so have you, so has my best friend, my dad, my pastor, my sister, my Grandmother... everyone. You're not alone in this. Though I know you're feeling alone, and probably want to be alone, that's not what you need. But, you don't need to be around people who are going to pry things out of you, ask what you said, what happened, in detail over and over.. that'll be worse. You need a friend, a friend who you can confide in... tell everything to.. and not be hesitant or worrysome. My friend like this? His name is Jesus Christ. Jesus will be your friend like that too. I know it sounds cheesey, but it works... I have never known the loss of a human that was close to me, but I lost my best friend this past year. My best friend of nine years.. she was an American Grey Shorthair cat. That was my best friend for nine years... but when we moved, she left us, ran away, probably got hurt, killed even. I was... oh, I was like you.. I wanted to die, I didn't think I could live without her, she was my baby. I didn't think life would go on, but it did. You see, I never knew the sun would rise again... I didn't think it should. This is probably how you feel... you probably feel like the whole world has deserted you and you don't think life should go on... yet it does. Forgive me if I'm wrong... but I can sortof relate to what you're feeling, but it's also worse when it's a real person, not a cat. All I can say, is really, really truly and honestly pour your heart out to someone. This may take hours, days, weeks even. But it'll be worth it. "Take the time so it takes less time." - Pat Parelli. If you attempt to get over this now, it will be less likely to haunt you in your adult, married, motherly, senior life. You'd be amazed at the things that haunt seniors (65+) .. things that happened when they were 15, 16, 17 years old! Don't let that be you! Please, please! I beg of you! Don't let that be you! Pour your heart out!
It would also probably be helpful if you'd write yourself a letter. Maybe an e-mail if that's better for you, but write it, and if it's an e-mail, send it to yourself, if it's a letter, mail it to yourself. When you get it, read it slowly. You'll be amazed at how much better you feel once you get your feelings out there, on paper, even if it's to yourself. Now, once you've done this, save the letter/e-mail. Don't ask, just do it. It'll be helpful later in life. It will also be helpful if you write a letter to your boyfriend. I don't care if he's gone now, just do it. Tell him that you're sorry, that you love him, that you wish you'd never said those things... type it or whatever, but save that too. Put one on his grave, and keep another copy. If you don't understand, don't ask. Just do it. You'll be glad you did. If you type it, save it on your computer and on a floppy disk, and print it out. Same for your letter to yourself. Now, write a letter to your boyfriend's family. Tell them how you feel. Or, do it in person. I know you've been doing this already, but if you do it all at one time (basically) you'll feel alot better.
Don't beat yourself up.. it never helps. It will only make you feel worse. Though you think it'll help, it really wont. I'm really glad that you've already began to seek counsel from a counselor, but seek counsel from the Eternal Counselor, Jesus Christ. Write a letter to Him also, you'll feel alot better. (I am very expressive in letters, though you may not be as "wordy" as I am on paper, it usually helps to write a letter.) Jesus Christ is the ONLY one who can save you... the only one who can keep you through this time. You're walking through the proverbial Valley of the Shadow of Death, but Jesus is with you! It may help to go to your church (if you don't attend church regurally then a local church) and speak to the youth pastor or pastor. They will offer counsel for you and help you fill your life with the healing Holy Spirit.
Try and remember all of the good times you had with your boyfriend and do not dwell on the bad. Remember this, my friend: You never know, your boyfriend may have killed himself anyway, whether you said those things or not. Forgive yourself.
I wish I could help you more.. if you believe I could, then just ask away...
My friend, you're in my prayers. The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be with you.
-FunnyCide
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I was a professional guitarist for about eh, a few months. Then all hell broke loose and I started crowd surfin' at every performance, skip the drama. I've been rockin' for almost a year..but now more awesomeness is stirring about in my world. I've been thinking about joining lynyrd skynyrd but I've still been rockin' alone.
Now that you ahve the background...
What can I do with all of my.. guitarism..(did that ever sound cheesy) I already am a songwriter and a musician. I pound out on Bass, too...
Donkey - Seriously!
-Mistress Insaney (link)
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Crowd surfing? That's awesome! You should make that your profesion. Eh, no. You might try joining Lynyrd Skynyrd.. but that might not work. Keep your mind focused on your "gutarism" and songwriting. If you get a recording, do well, get on purevolume.com, who knows where you might go! I don't know really what to tell you, but it sounds like you could go places (literally) if you work at it. All I can say is keep up the good work, happy rockin', and sorry I couldn't help you more.
-FunnyCide
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Ok. One of my guy friends has a girlfriend, but he hangs out with me and my other friend more. So now his girlfriend is mad at him and now he can't hang out with us exept at school. It's really making me sad and neither of us wants this. What should I do? (link)
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I have one question for you: Why is your guy-friend letting his girlfriend control his life? Does she really get to decide who - and when - he hangs out with his friends? She should know that he isn't interested in anyone but her that way.. and if he's letting her control him that way, you need to talk to your friend. A girl like that will cause problems. Talk to your friend about talking to his girlfriend. The girlfriend needs to understand that it's not ok to rule her boyfriends life.. and that he likes her, not his FRIENDS - previous friends. If she doesn't listen, he should end the relationship. It's only going to get worse.. if he can't hang out with people other than her, isn't that trouble? Talk to your friend, and get your friend to talk to his girlfried. Try and get her to understand and be less overbearing. Get her to understand that y'all are friends, nothing more, but absolutely nothing less. He shouldn't be a slave to his girlfriend.
-FunnyCide
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umm...i almost have a $600 and i wanna buy a computer. my mom doesnt like PC's or any thing that smells and my nana dont like anything that makes alot of noise that will make the dogs bark. and my friend is trying to make her G5 crash so she can get a new one but that might take awhile so should i wait to get an iMac or i might be able to get a Powerbook but i dunno please help!!!
ill rate high :)
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You're right, that'll take a while for the G5 to crash.. eh, why don't you take that G5 off of your friends hands? (that is, if she's sharing.. or "he" should I say?) an iMac? A Powerbook? PFFT! I don't care! Why do you ask such crazy questions? Use that $600 on something real, something interesting.. I'd say, an American Quarter Horse mare. That'll give you plenty of entertainment. Really! And if you think you're up for it, get an Arabian stallion.. but don't have that American Quarter Horse mare around, that is, unless you want a Quarab foal!
-FunnyCide
-Response to feedback - no, not a miniature pony, but maybe a Miniature Horse. I don't know why they're 'horses' instead of 'ponies', but that's how it is.. lol But, yes, that will work. And if all else fails, go get yourself a nice dog. :)
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Hey Everyone! Well.. I have this PC and things are goin pretty good. The only problem is that I get Fatal Exceptions about 3 hours, so it's pretty hard to get anything done. It's about 3 years older than me also so a lot of people keep telling me it won't work and that he's probably dying on me. I'm not sure what to believe. He says he really hates me and I really hate him.. but do you think a relationship like mine can actually last?! Thanx for your help! (link)
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I'm sorry. You should end this ASAP! Wow... oh, sometimes I get "Fatal Exceptions" every fifteen minutes on my PC. You're right. Your PC is about to die on you. You should kill the relationship before anyone gets hurt.. Hold your hats! It's gonna blow! Believe your friends! They're right (if only this time) So, KICK HIM OUT THE DOOR!
-FunnyCide
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well on friday night i went to the movie with my best guy from the Russian Mafia and we saw a scary movie, and well i was like leaning up against him and i would always hide my face in his hood whenever it stopped being scary, and well his bodyguard picked us up afterwards, just me and him, but we went with like 750 other people, like 50 guards , 700 mafia members, but they were going out to kill Micheal Jackson and we werent, only 2 other members werent, so i walked inside and my guard was like, so which one was your victim? and he was like hastling me all night. and then i went over to my favorite gangster's house on saturday and he told me that his guard was doing the same thing, and then he took us to the movies again that night, but this time it was just me and him, and she was like, "you know i think you guys should consider killing people because your really blood-thirsty together" and personally i think so too because we both have black jump-suits and he's a tiny bit stronger than me, and well i didnt say anything, but anyway we saw another scary movie, and i dont know how it happened but we ended up killing everybody there? and my cohort was there and he saw it and he got us a ride with his gang pals so while we were in the car his gangster was like, aw guys come on i swear you two could really beat up people together. well we didnt think anything of it. but yesterday i went bowling with another guard and we had to take our Ak-47s so our other guard who's our age went too, and my best mafia member called me and he asked me if i could blow up the city and i told him what i was doing, but my guard was like, "no you should go hang out with your cohort" and my best mafia member heard it, so he asked me to kill his enemies today, and in school we were spraying bullets everywhere and we got in trouble?? but anyway i'm REALLY afraid we're gonna disband into different gangs, i mean, he tells me he cares about my Russian tactics and he wishes he could kill with me and his guard has always respected me, but i dont know im really scared our blood-thirstyness wont last. do you have any tips how i can get over this??
sorry its so long.
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Ok, I think the main question here is if your blood-thirstyness is going to last and such. I think it will.. with a little nourshment that is. Practice all the time to get better. You'll find tons of easy targets to practice on. Live dogs, cows (hamburgers, come one!) schoolmates, cheerleaders, shoppers... the list goes on. Eh, you might disband into different gangs, but if that happens, it sounds like you'll have the choice of the lot.. you'll be able to pick which gang you want to be in. *mutters* no fair.. Anyway. I like your Russian tactics too. Choose who you like best and kill with him.. I can't choose for you, and you probably wouldn't like my choice anyway. But, you see... your cohort's guard respects you.. ok. Do you know how dang confusing this is for someone who has no experience with the Russian Mafia. Honestly, you're probably going to break up into five or six (min.) gangs. You're just going to have to play it out.. Sorry about the "no direct answer" thing, I don't know what your question really was...
-FunnyCide
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I've started using an amish appearence. (I dressed in black a lot and use no make-up.) Nobody even understands why I'm doing it. I'm sort of doing it as an expirement. (My utmost apologies if I spelled that incorrectly.)It freaks out my teachers, classmates call me a farmer, my boyfriend acts scared of me, and my parents don't like anything about my new look. All I've changed is how I look. I don't want to lose my friends just for the sake of looking amish. But, if they can't accept how I want to look, are they real friends? What should I do? Advice please! (link)
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Wait a second, if you're going for the Amish look, you wouldn't use the computer, phone, electric lights, the AC or heat, heck, you'd be sitting in the dark, well, by the fire if you're lucky. I don't think you're actually Amish, you're just trying to convince yourself that you are Amish. Get a new look, no one likes Amish wanna be's. I'd say.. eh.. not a prep, definitely not goth, or punk, don't go "geek" or "nerd" either... well, I guess you're best off Amish.. but you've got to change a lot about yourself, my friend. Your friends.. get some new ones! Eh, parents? Get new ones.. not too hard to do. (I've done it a few times..) As for people calling you a farmer, enjoy that. Farmers are cool. My grandad is a farmer.. No one understands you? You're right. I don't understand you either. Sorry. You might not get this though, considering that you're adopting a new religion and staying away from electric by-products.
-FunnyCide
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well i just got dumped by the one boy i love..so you should pretty much get where this is going. he was my first boyfriend and we went out for a pretty long time..and i was also his first too. he dumped me a couple of hours ago and i cant stop crying..and the worst part is..he broke up with me for my best friend. he likes her and she likes him..its gonna be hard for me to see them together at school..and i dont think ill ever get over this. i feel like killing myself..and theres no one really there for me..like i mean..i dont have anyone to talk to cuz they've never felt this. its usually my best friend that i come to for advice but of course i cant talk to her cuz she already knows how i feel but obviously shes not helping..how can i get over this? i still love him with all my heart and it hurts a lot more than i thought it would..and i never expected him to dump me this soon..please help me..its killing me. (link)
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ah, the real life drama of Romeo and Julliet.. yuck. Ok, I know what you're feeling.. sortof. My best guy friend liked my best female friend, they sortof hung out, held hands and stuff, so I know the hurt.. even though I never went out with my guy friend (and I don't like him that way) the pain is still there and very much real.
My advice to you, talk to your best friend. She'll understand that you really would like her to wait a while on going out with your ex boyfriend. I know that she likes him, but ask her to give you a couple of weeks to recover from your trauma. If she's a true friend, she'll understand that you need a bit of time, and she'll also know that if she's liked him this long, it's not going to kill her to wait fourteen more days. If she wont listen and goes out with him, don't look. That's the worst thing (but most appealing thing) to do. You want to see what they're doing together, if he looks happy with her, etc., but don't look. You'll make yourself more misrerable. I know you're hurting, and as much as I hate to say it, sweetie, you're going to hurt. That's how it is.. why, I don't know or understand, but I know that's how it is. Don't dwell on the memories of your (now ex) boyfriend. That'll make it worse too. Think about the new aspects in life, think about Easter coming up, about how nice it'll be to get out of school for the summer, to just mess around for a few months.. it'll help you get over him. Think about the positive and don't dwell on the negative. I know there is often more negative in life than there is positive, but, if you look hard enough, you'll find there is plenty of positive things. The best thing you can do is to pray. Ask God to relieve you of your pain and suffering. Don't believe, however, that you committed a sin which caused your boyfriend to break up with you. It is more than likely not so. If you think it it, then you're probably wrong. The chance of your breaking up being a punishment is only about a 3-5% chance. That's not a big chance is it? But still pray about it. That's all I know really to do. Oh, one more thing, don't hold it all inside. Talk to your mom or a friend, if you keep it all inside, you're going to become depressed and withdrawn. That's not what you want. You'll get over him sooner if you talk about it openly with one or two people, they'll provide support for you too. If you need me.. you know where to find me! Sorry I couldn't help more.. God bless
-FunnyCide
-Reply to feedback - thank you, I like to try and help out where I can.. and I sortof understand where you're coming from. :)
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i just wanted to know how i can ask a girl if she likes me without looking stupid (link)
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Do you like her? It sounds like you do.. though you might not, but that's normally why a guy would ask a girl if she likes him.. ok, on to the question!
(if you do like her, say something like this:) "Hey, *her name*, can I ask you a quick question? .. *her response* Ok, I was just wondering if you maybe liked me as more than a friend. I know that I like you as more than a friend, but I was just wondering. If you don't, it's fine, but I was wondering."
(if you don't like her, say something like this:) "Hey, *her name*, can I ask you a question? .. *her response* I was just wondering if you liked me as a friend or as more than a friend."
Though, if you don't like her, I don't really see a reason to ask her if she likes you. But, if you like her, THAT IS SO STINKIN' AWESOME! That's absolutely awesome that you like her and that you're trying to make a move to see if she likes you too! That shows a real man! I know this probably isn't the most helpful thing, but you're not going to look stupid if you ask her, she'll only think you're sweet. And, if you are honest and straight up with her, she'll be honest and straight up with you too. You can do it online (AIM or E-mail) or in person, or on the phone. You've got a better chance in person or on the phone or AIM than you do E-mail or letter, but it's your choice.
-FunnyCide
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Age: 13 Gender: Chick [girl]
Ok, I have this problem and like it involes this dude that I truely like. But like, we went out for like 10 to 11 days and then we broke up. I did something like so fucking stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do. Then, he already has this other chick under his arm and it's not me. But like I know why we broke up and everything. But like on a note he sent me he wrote that no matter what we will try to make this relationship work and last long even if we have to marry each other! Like, I knew he was going to take back those words. But like, he made feel so freaking retarded and like now, I just think he's like such a dork for confusing me! Like, should I forget about him and move on and just stay friends or should I like still continue to kill myself this way? Because everyday I cry for him to come back to me and like I also "cut" and like I'm like always depressed because of him. Help me please, what should I do?
The Loner, loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M...
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Don't listen to harpist4you... they're the idiot and freak. I understand that you're honestly hurting here... and you really want this boy back. Oh, honey, "I just think he's like such a dork" - all guys are dorks! I know this one for a fact!
"something like so ....... stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do." - if he asks if you still like him, TELL HIM!! My goodness that will help! He'll know that you still have feelings for him, and honestly, it sortof sounds like he still has feelings for you. That's why he keeps asking if you still like him. Next time he asks if you like him still, say, "Yes, honestly, I still have feelings for you. I really like you, and I know that it didn't work the first time, but I'd like to have a second chance. I know this is weird and all, me telling you that I like you out of the blue, but I want you to know." You don't have to say anything about crying if you don't want to.. but you might say that you think about him often. Sweetie, if you're cutting yourself, tell a counselor (school counselor) or a friend who can help you. Self harm isn't some innocent pastime, it can seriously get you hurt and in trouble. If you need a way to get rid of that energy and stress that you're feeling right now, consider investing in a punching bag, or create a punching bag of your own. (a pillow works quite well) Talk to a super close friend (a female friend will sometimes be better, though guy friends are best sometimes.. I know..) about what you're feeling. Sometimes girls understand better because they've felt the same thing, but sometimes guys are better because they've felt the same thing. You just can't hold it in anymore! Talk about it! You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel. I talk to my animals sometimes because I know they're not gonna call me "stupid" or spread my "secrets" and they always listen, but talking to a person is alot better because they'll talk back! You might want to try and visit the school counselor... there's nothing wrong with seeing a counselor, alot of people see counselors. Alot of "normal" people see counselors.. they help alot. And if you don't feel comfortable seeing a counselor, talk to a responsible adult that you trust. A teacher, a parent, a grandparent, an aunt, a pastor from the local church... almost anyone will be able to help. You just need to talk about it. Realize though that you're only thirteen and have a life to live.. don't worry about what you'll eat or drink, what you're going to wear. God will provide for you. God knows the very number of hairs on your head. Talk to God about it!! He'll be able to help you the most. This guy was probably a player, afraid of a real commitment, and when he saw that's what you wanted, he quit. You may be able to get back together with him.. but he has to know that you still care. Sorry if I didn't help much. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask, if you want to know a contact (e-mail etc.) then drop one in the inbox and let me know. God bless
-FunnyCide
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When you go to the doctor just to get meds. for the flu or something...do they still weigh you? I know they do when you go in for a physical or a check-up but what if you just have the flu? (link)
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The doctor weighed me when I went, but that was because I had been losing weight because I was sick. I had the flu and pneumonia, and I had lost about seven pounds in a week... and it's not good for your body to lose that much that fast. They probably will weigh you if you go in just for the flu because they want to make sure you're not losing too much weight from being sick. They may not.. and it may be case-variable.. but they probably will. It'll be ok.. it's not that bad... at least they don't make you take off your clothes.. *shudders* Though, if you don't like taking off your clothes.. beware, they might make you do that. When I had croup I had to take off my shirt and wear this nice little paper thing.. but when I had the flu and pneumonia the doctor let me keep all of my clothes. (of course, I saw two different doctors, and that could be why..) You'll be fine.
-FunnyCide
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I know having bulimia,anorixia or anything like that isnt pleasing to God...but is it considered a sin? (link)
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I think it is considerd a sin because your body is God's temple, and Jesus said to take care of your body (His temple) so if you're not eating right then you're not taking care of his temple. The same goes for smoking and drinking. It messes you up in the head... but, yes, I do believe that it would be considered a sin because you wouldn't be taking care of your body.
("Don't you know that you are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy him; for God's temple is sacred, and you are that temple."
1 Corinthians 6:19-20) And, if it's not pleasing to God, doesn't that make it a sin already? .. I think so. God bless
-FunnyCide
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i happen to work as a janitor in a mental hospital, and there is many a stain that penetrates my jumper suit and stains me clothes. i know how to deal with the usual: urine, feces, vomit, but i want to know how to clean out those unidentified disgusting stains, or U.D.S's. I need to know how to clean off blood most importantly.
regards,
sir salad (link)
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Sir Salad,
Get a new job. If that's not an option, buy some extremely strong detergent with Stain Out and use that. My sisters did an experiment using different kinds of detergents with Stain Out, and no matter what was on the cloth, the Stain Out got rid of the stain. Stain Out did remove blood quite well, though it was an accident, and dog blood (don't ask), it worked. But, if you're tired of disgusting stains, get a new job. (or try to find one) unless, that is, your current job pays well.
-FunnyCide
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What exactly is the drug Salvia, is it legal, and what are its side effects? (link)
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Ok, it's legal, but I'm not gonna type it all out for you. Go to the following web sites to learn more.
http://www.sagewisdom.org/usersguide.html
http://www.sagewisdom.org/
http://www.erowid.org/plants/salvia/salvia.shtml
http://justsayonce.g2gm.com/
But if you're thinking of taking it, you need to do alot more research than this, and be aware of the side affects.
-FunnyCide
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Hey, so heres my problem, theres this girl. We like each other. But we have(more like she has) made the decision not to date until were like 16. So thats fine i'm willing to wait. But theres a lot of other girls that like me. And i do want to date and she said that she doesn't care if i date while i wait. But.....well i really like her. Like almost love her. Cus we've known each other since like the age of 3. But i moved when i was 8. And now at 14 she shows up at my church. So i'm really confused on what to do. So PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Well, you could take her word for it and go ahead and date while she waits until she's sixteen, or you could not date, and wait for her. Theres a few pros and cons for each, and I'll list them. The "cons" for dating other people while you wait for the girl you like to turn sixteen:
-You could lose intrest in that one girl
-She might get upset and not want to date you
-She might lose intrest in you because you're dating other people
-It might hurt worse if you're dating someone, then you break up with them to date the girl you currently like when she turns sixteen.
The "pros" are:
-You'll know what to expect (maybe)
-You might lose intrest in her anyway, so you might as well date..
-She might lose intrest in you anyway, so you might as well date.
I don't think that it's a good idea for you to date while she's waiting, because she might think that you don't really like her (I might think that..) and might lose intrest in you. And if you're dating other girls, you might become much more attracted to them than you are to the girl you're waiting on. You see, it's full of things that could happen that would keep you from dating this girl when the time is right.
The pros and cons for not dating while you wait - "pros":
-You'll have less of a chance of losing intrest in this girl
-She'll be less likely to lose intrest in you
-You'll be closer to this girl when the time is right (because you'll not feel like you're double crossing your girlfriend to talk to this girl)
-The girl wont get her feelings hurt because you're dating other people (even if she said it wouldn't matter, it really does)
The "cons":
-You'll be waiting for almost two years
-You still might lose intrest in her
-She still might lose intrest in you
Ok, now, you do realize that I don't think you should date while you wait, but that's your choice. What I'm saying is, if you wait, and you do lose intrest in her, or she loses intrest in you, you can always start dating other people then. You're only fourteen, you have a long time to find the right person. I hope this helps you out! God bless!
-FunnyCide
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