well i just got dumped by the one boy i love..so you should pretty much get where this is going. he was my first boyfriend and we went out for a pretty long time..and i was also his first too. he dumped me a couple of hours ago and i cant stop crying..and the worst part is..he broke up with me for my best friend. he likes her and she likes him..its gonna be hard for me to see them together at school..and i dont think ill ever get over this. i feel like killing myself..and theres no one really there for me..like i mean..i dont have anyone to talk to cuz they've never felt this. its usually my best friend that i come to for advice but of course i cant talk to her cuz she already knows how i feel but obviously shes not helping..how can i get over this? i still love him with all my heart and it hurts a lot more than i thought it would..and i never expected him to dump me this soon..please help me..its killing me.
iMfruMnEwyorK answered Sunday March 20 2005, 3:37 pm: you have to think is go he probally broke up with you because youre too good for him and he has to be with someone on his own level. hes juss a guy youle have pleanty of other boyfriends and in a few years youll probally forget bout him. hope i helped .. JESSiCA [ iMfruMnEwyorK's advice column | Ask iMfruMnEwyorK A Question ]
lostsoul_forever answered Sunday March 20 2005, 7:04 am: Well, honey, same thing happened to me. Um, all I can say is just try to remember that love will find you, even if you have to wait forever. Which I am also waiting for love myself right now. Um, if he dumped you for your friend then, who needs him. Because that's just a little too weird. Um, ty to forget and remember that he's not the only guy out there for you. Um, if you're still holding in all this anger and sadness, then find a way to let it all out. Like, through poetry, songs, something. Tell him how you feel also! Good luck
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FunnyCide answered Sunday March 20 2005, 7:03 am: ah, the real life drama of Romeo and Julliet.. yuck. Ok, I know what you're feeling.. sortof. My best guy friend liked my best female friend, they sortof hung out, held hands and stuff, so I know the hurt.. even though I never went out with my guy friend (and I don't like him that way) the pain is still there and very much real.
My advice to you, talk to your best friend. She'll understand that you really would like her to wait a while on going out with your ex boyfriend. I know that she likes him, but ask her to give you a couple of weeks to recover from your trauma. If she's a true friend, she'll understand that you need a bit of time, and she'll also know that if she's liked him this long, it's not going to kill her to wait fourteen more days. If she wont listen and goes out with him, don't look. That's the worst thing (but most appealing thing) to do. You want to see what they're doing together, if he looks happy with her, etc., but don't look. You'll make yourself more misrerable. I know you're hurting, and as much as I hate to say it, sweetie, you're going to hurt. That's how it is.. why, I don't know or understand, but I know that's how it is. Don't dwell on the memories of your (now ex) boyfriend. That'll make it worse too. Think about the new aspects in life, think about Easter coming up, about how nice it'll be to get out of school for the summer, to just mess around for a few months.. it'll help you get over him. Think about the positive and don't dwell on the negative. I know there is often more negative in life than there is positive, but, if you look hard enough, you'll find there is plenty of positive things. The best thing you can do is to pray. Ask God to relieve you of your pain and suffering. Don't believe, however, that you committed a sin which caused your boyfriend to break up with you. It is more than likely not so. If you think it it, then you're probably wrong. The chance of your breaking up being a punishment is only about a 3-5% chance. That's not a big chance is it? But still pray about it. That's all I know really to do. Oh, one more thing, don't hold it all inside. Talk to your mom or a friend, if you keep it all inside, you're going to become depressed and withdrawn. That's not what you want. You'll get over him sooner if you talk about it openly with one or two people, they'll provide support for you too. If you need me.. you know where to find me! Sorry I couldn't help more.. God bless
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