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A lonely lover with no love
Age: 13 Gender: Chick [girl]
Ok, I have this problem and like it involes this dude that I truely like. But like, we went out for like 10 to 11 days and then we broke up. I did something like so fucking stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do. Then, he already has this other chick under his arm and it's not me. But like I know why we broke up and everything. But like on a note he sent me he wrote that no matter what we will try to make this relationship work and last long even if we have to marry each other! Like, I knew he was going to take back those words. But like, he made feel so freaking retarded and like now, I just think he's like such a dork for confusing me! Like, should I forget about him and move on and just stay friends or should I like still continue to kill myself this way? Because everyday I cry for him to come back to me and like I also "cut" and like I'm like always depressed because of him. Help me please, what should I do?
The Loner, loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M...
[jennymanzanares@hotmail.com]
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Don't listen to harpist4you... they're the idiot and freak. I understand that you're honestly hurting here... and you really want this boy back. Oh, honey, "I just think he's like such a dork" - all guys are dorks! I know this one for a fact!
"something like so ....... stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do." - if he asks if you still like him, TELL HIM!! My goodness that will help! He'll know that you still have feelings for him, and honestly, it sortof sounds like he still has feelings for you. That's why he keeps asking if you still like him. Next time he asks if you like him still, say, "Yes, honestly, I still have feelings for you. I really like you, and I know that it didn't work the first time, but I'd like to have a second chance. I know this is weird and all, me telling you that I like you out of the blue, but I want you to know." You don't have to say anything about crying if you don't want to.. but you might say that you think about him often. Sweetie, if you're cutting yourself, tell a counselor (school counselor) or a friend who can help you. Self harm isn't some innocent pastime, it can seriously get you hurt and in trouble. If you need a way to get rid of that energy and stress that you're feeling right now, consider investing in a punching bag, or create a punching bag of your own. (a pillow works quite well) Talk to a super close friend (a female friend will sometimes be better, though guy friends are best sometimes.. I know..) about what you're feeling. Sometimes girls understand better because they've felt the same thing, but sometimes guys are better because they've felt the same thing. You just can't hold it in anymore! Talk about it! You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel. I talk to my animals sometimes because I know they're not gonna call me "stupid" or spread my "secrets" and they always listen, but talking to a person is alot better because they'll talk back! You might want to try and visit the school counselor... there's nothing wrong with seeing a counselor, alot of people see counselors. Alot of "normal" people see counselors.. they help alot. And if you don't feel comfortable seeing a counselor, talk to a responsible adult that you trust. A teacher, a parent, a grandparent, an aunt, a pastor from the local church... almost anyone will be able to help. You just need to talk about it. Realize though that you're only thirteen and have a life to live.. don't worry about what you'll eat or drink, what you're going to wear. God will provide for you. God knows the very number of hairs on your head. Talk to God about it!! He'll be able to help you the most. This guy was probably a player, afraid of a real commitment, and when he saw that's what you wanted, he quit. You may be able to get back together with him.. but he has to know that you still care. Sorry if I didn't help much. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask, if you want to know a contact (e-mail etc.) then drop one in the inbox and let me know. God bless
-FunnyCide
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You sound like you need a lot of advice, so here: Shut up. You are only 13 years old. You have no right to talk about loving someone or marrying them. And as for cutting yourself, don't waste time on your wrists, go for the femeral artery in your leg, it's quicker. And if you don't have enought balls to do it, give me an address so I can send you some arsenic. Stop breathing, you will do the entire human race a favor.
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In all honesty I think you should stop cuttingyourself and realize it is ok to be single. You were fine before him and will be perfectly fine after him. Just because he may tell you he loves you doesnt always mean it is the truth. I know this very well and hope you never have to deal with any jerk or any guy who treats you wrongly. A guy you date needs to repect your thoughts, opinions and beliefs. Just realize if it soesn't work out it is not all your fault and know there are bigger fish in the sea
Gwen
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ok you are 13years old and you only dated him for 10 or 11 days...hunnie i highly doubt that you are in love with him. you may like him a lot but love is a very very strong word that you shouldnt throw around like a piece of meat. You are INFACTUATED with him...you like him so much that you think you are in love with him...you only dated him for 10 or 11 days ur not fuckin in love! geezus fuckin christ ppl are so fuckin stupid sumtimes....GRRRR!! get a clue 13 yr old! get a god damn clue!!
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Uuuhhhh . . .
I had a similar situation where my boyfriend kept on breaking up w/ me and we kept getting back together and now hes back w/ his ex and I have a new boyfriend who treats me right and now I'm HAPPIER THAN EVER!!!And were stil friends.But i say yall should stay friends and u should move on too like theres no use of waiting for something thats never gonna happen or waiting for something thats not gonna happen soon.I'm not sayin that yall will never be together ever again.I'm just saying while you wait atleast use your waiting time and go out with other guys to explore your possibillities and hopefully you'll find the right person.
-HOPE I HELPED!!!:)
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You are probably not going to like my answer on this one, but you should not date this guy, first of all, you said he made you feel retarded, no guy thats suppose to respect you doesn't make you feel retarded, and second, you cut over him! If you date this guy, your going to bring this problem upon him, too. And now, because you did something stupid like cutting over a guy, you're probably addicted, there is no absolute reason to cut over a guy, theres also no reason to cut at all, but don't ever cut over a guy. You need to fix your cutting problem, its ok to feel sadness, but hurting yourself is too far. Get a parent involved in this, I would suggest getting a parent to help you with this, and that guy has a girlfriend, and hes writing you a note about getting married? He just sounds like a weird two timing person.
-TheTeenGirl
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