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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

advice

I really need a new straightener, because my old Conair straightener stopped working all of a sudden
a couple days ago.
My mom said she'd buy me a Chi straightener but I don't know if I want one.
I was thinking of getting this Bed Head straightener.
http://www.ulta.com/control/product/~product_id=2144454
Does anyone know for sure or has one, or has used one.
Does it work the same as a chi, better or less?
It seems that it's really good.
Please tell me ASAP.
I'm going to go get it Tuesday.
Which is better Chi or Bed Head?

My friend bought a Bed Head straightener and she really didn't like it.

I never believed in expensive straightener but I tried my cousin's Chi and it's absolutely amazing. i'm in new jersey right now- the most humid state- and my hair stays straight the entire day. It's worth the price and will last forever.

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16/f does anyone know of a store that sells sorta mini courdoroy skirts? i go to private school with a basic dress code so im not looking for ripped jean skirts, but shortish skirts that are a material other then jean? links to websitres for ordering would be much appriciated.

p.s price doesnt matter.
thanks so much! ive been looking everywhere!

I just got a whole bunch of skirts like that at Wet Seal. They're having Buy 1 Get 1 free and 2 for $20 depending on the style. Here are some links:

http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1200&size=&style=38456879&color=10&token=

http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1200&style=38053306&size=&color=294&token=

http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1200&size=&style=37895914&color=40&token=

I couldn't find the ones i bought online but they have a lot more in-store.

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I would like to eat more healthier and well i dont know what to buy when i go to the grocery store with my mom, like other then bananas and apples and grapes. What are some specific healthy things to get, fat free things maybe?,things big in fiber?. I just need a list of things,be specific dont just say cereal or fruits and veggies, say the kind of fruit or whatever.

Please and thanks. =]]

Chicken breast- soaked in a good marinade for a few hours and grilled, this makes a great low-fat delicious meal. Try Baja Chipotle, Lemon Pepper, or Lime marinades.

Fish, especially salmon- grilled with some lemon-butter sauce (mix melted butter and lemon juice) this is another low-fat food that's healthy and good for your hair, skin, and nails.

Whole-wheat bread- Makes really good toast and has lots of fiber

Yogurt- if you like yogurt, get the plain fat-free kind and try putting some honey on it for dessert. If you don't eat a lot of yogurt, try flavored yogurts, I love the Key Lime Pie flavored kind. Make sure it's fat-free or 99 percent fat-free. It's low-cal and helps your digestion.

Sorbet- get an all-natural fruit sorbet for a treat that's not high in calories.

Oranges, apples, raspberries, peaches- to make fresh-squeezed juices. Fresh-squeezed orange juice tastes great, my favorite is raspberry-peach juice (add some apple if it's too thick).

Any fruits you love for smoothies, look up recipes online.

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If you are like 13 or 14, isn't it kind of hard to actually fall in love? It kind of gets me annoyed when my friends say like "i would die without ____" or something like that. Very rarely do people get married to the person they went out with when they were that age. Do you think guys at this age just go out with girls for sex and things like that? Or are there some guys who will wait till your older and feel ready and really love you?

It's possible but not likely. At around age 13/14, most girls go through a boycrazy stage where they think they can't live without one guy- until they find a cuter one. The point of going out with people isn't to get married, it's to get social experience, have fun, and meet new people. I'll be honest with you, most guys at this age are just looking for sex, but it's not their fault. They just haven't matured yet, but there are a few who are willing to fall in love. But why fall in love at 13? Have fun, go on dates, but don't get too committed. Being single is a lot more fun.

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hey

this september, i'm going to be going into high school. i have a few questions. - you don't have to answer all of them; even if you can answer one, i'd be greatly appreciative.

1.) what's the FASTEST way to learn the map of my school? - besides getting a map & memorizing it

2.) how do i not become nervous the first few weeks when i'm getting accustomed? [like when i get lost, etc.]

3.) any tips on how to survive at least freshman year?

thanks so much, kidss.

1. Before school starts, get a map. Take it to your school and walk around, getting a general feel for the layout of the school and where things are. Then, once you get your schedule, do it again, taking several different routes to each of your classes and figuring out the shortest way. Once you find a way that works for you, walk it 10 times. No, I'm not kidding. I guarantee if you practice it you'll remember where to go.

2. Remember, people in high school are not here to make your life miserable. Take a deep breath, calm yourself down. It's okay to get lost, teachers will understand. If you see a teacher or administrator, ask them for help. (I don't recommend asking students). Memorize where the office and library are, and ask for help there. Your first week will not be the best week of your life but I promise it gets better.

3. Freshman year isn't really so bad. The classes aren't super-hard, and it's a great opportunity to try things and meet new people. Do everything you can, go to dances, social events, join clubs, sports, etc- do everything you want to try out and have fun!

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My sister is in a Huge Dilema. she is interested in Modelling but she thinks that she is not upto it.i feel that her lack of confidence is dragging her down.
I need some really good comments so that her confidence level increases....Pls!

She's very pretty but she doesn't have a fashion model kind of look. She could probably do ads in magazines, etc. but I don't think she has the right look for fashion- she looks really young and her face structure isn't right.

Honestly, modeling isn't all it's cracked up to be anyway. It's not a fun career and it's not a good time, I don't recommend it to most people.

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At the begining of the school year last year , there was a guy in my Spanish class. Gradually we became really close friends, and the more I hung out with him, the more I relized that I really liked him. At both of my best friends pressuring, I told him that I liked him.

How I told him is that I wrote a note telling him. I know it was very childish to do so but I am happy now that I did not tell him in person.

His response to me telleing him was that 'He would never consider being more than friends with a black person.' His words exactly, then after a few days of me fuming and wanting to kill him, he says that he only said that to spare my feelings. He said that he really did not like me the way I liked him, but I think he was lying. Now I feel a little uncomfortable around him, should I tell him how I feel about him now? Or should I leave well enough alone. I'll take any advice. I am an African American female, and he is a white male.
We have currenlty (well he believes we have) settled down and are now still good friends, although I am not sure that the hurt I feel will ever go away, and I am not sure that our friendship can last. I thought he was a very nice guy, and besides what he said he has been a very good friend to me.

My friend thought that by saying he does not like black people, he would hurt my feelings less than if he said he did not like me. I find this very stupid, andhe should have said he just does not like me, and like a stated before, i think he lied about that because he only said it when I said I did not want to be friends with him anymore.. Even now, long after the sutuation 'ended' I still don't feel as comfortable around him as I used to. Please help. He has been a really good friend to me, I'm just not sure if I can stay friends with him.

((I've asked this question before. I did not get many answers though.))

I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.

I'm not going to sugarcoat it, this guy sounds like a real jerk. Anyone who says anything like that (even if they claim to be trying to spare your feelings) is not a true friend. You're right, he should have just said he didn'tlike you. I really think you deserve someone better, even just as a friend. You don't have to tell him how you feel, but try to distance yourself from him a bit. Distract yourself with friends and other activities and hopefully you'll find that you don't care about him anymore. There's no point to being friends with him, it would be awkward even if he didn't say that. All you can do is move on.

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To say the least, I want to look good for this school year. I have breakouts on my face including acne scars (i used to be a big zit picker XP) and im getting my brows waxed. I don't need too much help with my hair, I think its ok. (I'm getting it trimmed before school starts) I'm a normal weight, and I think I lost a few pounds. So that is ok. Umm, actually the only thing i need help with is my acne! I have braces, but I can't do anything about that... :( so yeah. thanks in advance guys! (o btw, i use st.ives apricot scrub, and then i use benzaclin which is a prescription acne medication. i use it regularly, and im seeing SOME results, but not much.... if anyone has any suggestions, they will be needed!

Apricot scrub is not good to use, because the little bits of apricot can clog your pores and cause more problems.

You'll probably hear this fifty million times, but ProActiv really does work. They're having a money-back offer right now. You'll see faster results and it's a complete routine as opposed to just scrub and treatment which will try out your skin.

As for your braces, try playing up your eyes instead (but just a little bit, teenagers don't need smoky eyes) and using a clear or slightly tinted gloss- stay away from lipstick- to move the focus up. Having your hair out of your face also helps.

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I'm 19, my boyfriend is 20. I'm not religious whatsoever, but my boyfriend is muslim and his family is very religious. He's met my whole family and they love him. He's forbidden from dating outside the race/religion, and me, being white and very un-religous makes it worse. His family has no idea of us & he's not even worried about it, saying "we'll take care of it when it comes down to it". I worry constantly because I think we have a future together! What am I supposed to do? Never meet his family?

I hate to say it but I think your boyfriend is right. Unless you're planning on marrying, what's the point in meeting his family? Enjoy what you have right now and be happy that you don't have to stress about living up to his family's expectations. Don't worry about your future, concentrate on the present day and enjoy what you have now. Your boyfriend knows his family best- if he says he'll take care of it trust him.

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how do you lose weight FPREVER? like if you lose a lot of weight and your happy with it then how o you maintain that copz it USUALLY goes back rifht? then youll feel pissed off and give up on your body how do i make that not happen? like if you drop 10 pounds how do yuou keep that and not gain it back

A permanent lifestyle change is the only solution- stopping eating junk food and constantly exercising. That's why something like Weight Watchers is a good idea- you need to change the way you eat forever. It takes a lot of willpower.

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13/f. I go back to school in a month and i would like to get some new cute outfits to show off. where are some good stores I could go to?


Thanks

I just did that. I saved up all my money and spent several hours at the mall. Stores I went to:

Macy's- layered-style shirts, lacy tees
Wet Seal- miniskirts, zip-up hoodies (they're having a really good Buy 1 Get 1 Free and 2 for $20 sale right now, I got 3 skirts and a hoodie for $30)
Payless- having a big sale right now

If you have a lot of money, American Eagle and Hollister have cute stuff.

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I need to get a lot of clothes in the next month, by the time I start school. Where can I get nice clothes that aren't too expensive, so I can get more of them?

Thank you!

Forever 21 has a lot of great, cheap stuff.

Also, Wet Seal is having a really good sale right now- they're having Buy 1 Get 1 Free and 2 for $20 sale. This is the best time to go shopping because all the stores are having back-to-school sales.

Macy's often has a lot of good clearance, and Sear's has a lot of surprisingly cute stuff.

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by the way, im 13 years old. i asked my mom why kids like me cant have debit cards. shes like, "you have to work to get one". i understand that credit cards are loans, so you'd need to work to pay them off, and if a kid has it, its cause a parent pays for it. at least.. i think that could happen, right? anyways, debit cards you put your own money into it. i have about 200 dollars in my bank account, and im like, why cant i have a debit card instead of carrying all the money around? and my mom said to ask the people at my bank which is annoying cause i barely get chances to go there, so i need money a lot when i already have it, but i cant use it till we go to the bank. so it makes no sense.. my mom says you have to be working to have a debit card but that makes no sense cause like kids can even have more money than some adults with debit cards who work at like flippen mcdonalds! ugggh why? is it cause we're not responsible or something and would lose it? adults can lose cards too. and yeah.. this makes no sense to me. explain please.

Sorry, your mom is wrong. I got mine when I was fifteen and unemployed. Probably your mom just doesn't want you to have you because overdraft fees are super-expensive. You have to have a real ID to use it though, not just a school ID- either a license or you can go to the DMV and get an official state ID.

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i like to wear my jazz shoes w/ out socks but lately they smell.

i'm too scared to wash them cause they're leather [split sole] but idk how to get the smell out.

This may just mean you need new jazz shoes; most dancers have several pairs.

However, you can try foot spray or powder, Arm and Hammer makes a good spray. Also, as soon as you're done dancing (or as soon as possible) take the shoes off and let them air out. Turn them inside out if you can. You can also try putting cornstarch in your shoes, wearing those socks they make for flats (you can buy them at payless, i use them for dance a lot), or wearing pantyhose.

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lately, one of my friend were getting bullied, and i stood up to the bullie.. and now shes threating me and everythink! and the problem is shes really popular!!

I'm assuming you're a teenager. My friend recently had problems with a group of bullies.

This is going to sound dorky and your reaction will probably be "I don't want to do that"...but just try it. First we had my friend's dad call the girls and talk to them, telling them that if they didn't stop he'd call the police. So he did call the police and made an official report, had them stop by the girl's house and talk to her and her parents. She has never heard from that girl again, aside from a begging apology.

You can try to fight them but it won't do any good; I know from experience ignoring it doesn't help either. The best thing to do is get her in trouble because it means she'll never do it again to anyone.

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I'm having problems with fanfiction.net. I write stories and I'm supposed to get an e-mail everytime someone reviews, and everytime I update a story... but as of day I'm not getting e-mails.

Any ideas?

If you have Yahoo Mail or any mainstream email domain, it's probably going into your Spam or Junk Mail folder. Check the folder and temporarily stop your junk mail filtering and see if that works.

If not, try contacting the site.

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what is disneyland and disneyworld? is the true disney in florida?

They are huge theme parks with tons of stuff to do.

Disneyland is the original, in SoCal near LA. There's the regular park and the California Adventure park.

Disneyworld is in Florida. The two parks share a few rides but they are different experiences.

For more information go here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disneyland

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disneyworld

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hey everyone!

its really hard for me to make friends.

do you know any tips on making friends?

im really quiet, so it's hard for me.

HELP!

Group activities- ask someone to the movies, tell them to bring a friend.

Get involved in extracirricular activities- sports, clubs, hobbies, classes, whatever you like. Whether it's dance class or french club, you'll find people who like the same things you do.

This book might help you:
http://www.amazon.com/Keeping-Friends-American-Library-Middleton/dp/1562474820/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-5083773-3968111?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1185658534&sr=8-1

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i hear that jamba juice is really good. i live in hillsborough, new jersey and i really wanna have it, though im 13 and i cant drive, nor would my parents want to drive me like an hour away to new brunswick, which is where the closest store is, apparently. can it be ordered or something? :( i really wanna try it! otherwise, whats the exact location of the jamba juice in new brunswick so if we ever pass by there maybe we could also go there? *wink wink* lol

Since Jamba Juice is a frozen drink, if you ordered it it would probably melt. I don't think the stores often ordering service anyway. I know they do have a service where you can call and preorder and they'll bring it out to your car when you get there.

Jamba Juice is really good, I live in California and every year when I visit new jersey (family vacation) I miss it. Honestly, though, it's not worth an hour's drive. It's just a smoothie.

I checked the locator online and it couldn't find one in new brunswick. You can try if you want, maybe I'm doing something wrong:
http://jambajuice.com/where/index.html

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Ok so for my school i need to wake up at 5. and right now im at a thing where i dont feel sleepy until 3am and so then i wake up at like 1:30pm everyday. how do i fix this for school??!!! i want to actually be awake and alert in classes this year :/

About two weeks before school starts, slowly go to bed earlier each day until your body gets used to it.

Cut down on eating before bed and try drinking a bottle of water instead.

Avoid caffeine and large amounts of sugar after 6 PM.

Don't exercise after 7 PM and do something relaxing- read, listen to your ipod, take a bath.

You can also try melatonin supplements- they're all natural and help you sleep.

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