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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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my best friend died on father's day which was about 2 months ago she was only f18 at the time and iam 20 years old and I have been actring different ever since the death my best friend that i've been friends with ever since 5th grade and I donk't understand why Gabby had to die so young. I've already tried to commit suicide twice since it happened it's just that I feel nobody loves me becouse I was molested when I was 3and then my parent's divorced after that becouse my mom found out what my dad did to me, and then my dad died when I was 12, then my granny died when I was 17 and then my cousin who I was very close to got mad at me and won't talk to me anymore and now my best friend that have been friends with since 5th grade dies I just don't feel loved at all please help me.

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss. It's very hard to deal with a close friend dying. However, the fact that you've made it this far says a lot. You're strong - even when you feel you're at your weakest.

Have you thought about seeking therapy? Maybe talking to someone about this will help you. You've been through a lot, and while seeking professional help won't fix the things that have happened, it'll make you see everything more clearly, and it'll help you come to terms with it all.

Death is never easy, but it's bound to happen. At least you know that your friend is in a better place, and that she's happy and doesn't have to suffer anymore.

I'm also very sorry to hear about your sexual abuse. It is not a hard thing to live with because you often feel like the abuse was your fault or that you deserved it. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve it. Therapy will also help with this. I'm sure your cousin will talk to you in time. Give he/she time to calm down & they will eventually see eye to eye so that the problem can be fixed. :)

I really hope you seek professional help. I really think it'll help you come to terms with everything. Depression can go away, but you need to be willing to get help for yourself. Take care of yourself.

Okay here's the problem. I have a small group of friends that I hang out with in school. When we're glad and happy, it's all howdy-dowdy and good. However, if I ever mess up or become upset, they joke around and laugh at me (in a "friendly" manner they say). Since I'm Asian and smart, they think that if they get a higher grade than me, they can go "Ohh! I beat you!" or "Oh-! Is your mom going to say,'YOU FAIL TEST GO TO SWEATSHOP NOW'?". When I'm upset, they say things like, "What's wrong, got a B+ ?" They also make mean jokes and insult and criticize my art jokingly. (With things like,"Why does she look like a slutty schoolgirl?" or "Her eyes are retarded.")

I'm pretty sure they don't mean any of it, but it just pushes my buttons. I'm unsure whether I should tell them how I feel, because they always have something to say and will probably try and make me look like the enemy (Which has happened before). But If I leave them, there's nowhere else to go. I'm really shy and there's not much people I know...

What should I do?

Tell them about it. They're not being true friends if all they're ever doing is making fun of you. Regardless of whether it's intended for fun or not, it's not nice and it's getting to be racist and rude.

Point it out. If they don't change, you need to drop them. Maybe if there's an art club at your school, you can join it. There are a lot of ways to make friends. You just need to find friends who aren't going to be racist about everything.

Im 16 and im dating this 19 guy. How do i tell my mom??

Just tell her.

However, you really shouldn't be dating this guy to begin with. You're a minor & he's an adult which it makes it illegal for him to be with you.

my mom is thinking about getting a divorce with my dad. but my dad doesn't want to and he is trying to make sure my mom won't. my mom has been crying and she can't eat or she might puke and she can't sleep. she jus read a book called the the divorce express . she won't even sleep in the same bed as him. she sleeps on the floor in the living room. they don't even talk to each other anymore. i dont know what to do cuz i really dont want them to separate.

I know exactly how you feel. My dad has been having an affair, and it definitely affected all of us. My brother & I didn't feel as loved by our father. A lot of drama went down, and our parents don't sleep together in the same bed, or even in the same room anymore. They still live together, and are still married by law, but consider themselves separated.

I didn't want them to do what they're doing either because I still had the idea that they should be together forever. However not everything works out, and despite everything that's been said, and everything that's been done, I still love my parents equally. I still consider myself to be my father's little girl, and I still consider my mom to be my best friend. I can't make them stay together, and I can't make them fix their marital problems.

I think that as time goes on it gets easier to accept, but you still need to remember that you can't stop your parents from separating. They will do it whether you want them to or not. You just need to remember that whether they're together or not, you're still their kid and they'll always love you - even if they don't love each other.

Just make sure you can keep an open relationship with both where you can talk freely about whatever you may be feeling. Holding things in can make you resent them. Believe me, I learned that the hard way. :) Everything will be okay. Even if they do separate. I hope they don't, and I hope you remember everything I've said. It really does get easier. I hope this helps.

ok so like if u go out to eat and then you kiss your boyfriend right after, wouldnt the kiss like taste bad or something????

Only if you eat something like garlic, or onions or something. :) Just carry mints or gum with you & you'll be fine. :)

last night i gave my bf a bj and he said he liked it, but then he said he wanted to go farther and i said you will find out tomorrow....should i do it??? im 14 btw

No.

14 is way too young to be doing anything sexual, and that includes oral. If you don't know whether or not to do it, that means you aren't ready or that you don't want to. Both are good reasons not to have sex.

If he cannot accept your decision, dump him.

hey i am smart but my grades arent that great.

i have a really low gpa its like a 2.8 and i have no idea what college i should go to.

i want to go to north eastern or bu but i know i cant get into that.

what college shoudl i look into?

I would suggest that you go to a community college first. That way, you can bump up your GPA until you can transfer to a university. Going to a university straight from high school with your GPA probably won't happen unless you can manage to get it up before you graduate. I would just recommend community college first though because it's just easier to do. :)

well ! i didn't mean to hurt them physicaly but
i meant that if girl thinks that her husband/boy friend's penis is thin ,wont she get bored ?
and if i go with a long foreplay before entering her then ?would she forget about penis fatness ?

She's not going to get bored if you know what you're doing not only inside the bedroom but within the relationship as a whole. If you're romantic and have a good relationship with her, the sex will be good regardless of penis size. It'll never be boring. Girls are emotional first prior to physical. Show her that you love her & that she's wanted, and do things that make her happy. It doesn't have to be a big thing because the small things almost always mean more.

If you do that, the sex will prosper and be fine. Besides, if she really loves you, things such as penis size/width won't matter to her. She'll love you regardless.

Well ! what do you think ,do girls like to take thin and large penis?
wont they feel boring while playing with thin penis which can't even hurt them.

Hurt them? You're not supposed to hurt someone when having sex. Sex is supposed to be gentle, loving, sensual, etc.

The size of a penis doesn't matter.. Skill does. If you want to hurt someone during sex, you shouldn't be having sex. If a girl is bored with you during sex either end the relationship or do something to spice up the sex life.

im going to be graduating next year and i know im interested in architecture and thats what i would like to go to school for but i just dont know what schools would be best. i live in california and would like to go to school localy so can anyone help?

http://www.architectstore.com/schools/usa.htm

That site has a list of schools with good architecture programs. :) I'm sure you'll find one on the list that is close to you.

Okay I know that when I guy does everything his gilrfriend says, they call him whipped, but what you call a girl that does everything her boyfriend told her to?

My boyfriend says "Normal, because that's how girls should be."

RUDE. :(

I'm kidding. I guess the term whipped can go both ways. So, just "whipped," I guess. :)

what good sites are there for ny ten year old sister on sex

Your ten year old sister shouldn't be learning about sex.

Hi i recently met this girl, didnt really have much of a conversation with her but asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. She said sure, so i asked her a couple minutes ago if she wanted to get coffee. If she says yes, then how do I prevent awkward silence while we are together, seeing as i dont really know to much about her?

Ask her about stuff. Bring up music, movies, friends, school, hobbies, etc. Any of those things can instantly spark a conversation. :)

Have fun on your coffee date. I'm sure nothing about it will be awkward. :)

okay, so, somebody hacked my facebook and posted a bunch of random and really embarrasssing statuses. now, they made an AIM screenname that's almost exactly like mine, just changing one letter. if i have their screen name, and theyre on their computer, could i track down their IP address from there to find out who it is? or should I leave this to someone more experienced?

It would be illegal for you to do this, just as it was illegal for them to do what they did.

You need to make a new screenname, and a new Facebook. Tell everyone on your current Facebook that you got hacked, and give a link to your new one. Make a new e-mail as well, and make sure that your password contains both numbers AND letters because those are harder to do. I realize it'll take a while & it's a pain in the ass, but there's no other way to get around it besides this.

I have recently decided to collect shot glasses and I was wondering if anyone knew any stores/sites that have unique or cool shot glasses?
Thanks!

Spencer's Gifts. You could try Pier 1, or any liquor store (assuming you're 21+).

If you ever travel, you could buy shot glasses in the city too. :)

...to get ringtones on my phone, believe me, i've tried........ every time i try it's 9.99 a month, wtf is up wit thAT?????

www.myxertones.com is free.

Okay, I was an accident child, so I'm fourteen years old, and my Mom is 51. Anyways, she's been smoking since age fourteen, and she's addicted to cigarettes, but she won't confess it to me. Anyways, I'm going to be needing her for quite some more years, and besides, I want her in my life as long as possible. I hate the way it makes my clothes smell, and house. It's EMBARASSING. Purely. And I absolutely hate it, and I'm to the point where I'm constantly washing my clothes, and putting on body fragrences to run away from it. It's hurting her, and smoking is j ust a terrible thing. I want her to stop, and she's been telling me she would for the LONGEST time. And I'm sick of being let down. I'm to the point where I don't know what to turn to anymore. Any advice? I want to also go buy some "quit smoking" stuff from the store. But She can't chew gum, And i surely don't want to waste my $$$ on something that isn't going to help. Do you know any good producrs?

You can't really make your mother quit smoking. She is 51 and can do whatever she wants. I can understand it's embarrassing because my parents smoke too, but there's nothing you can do about it.

I've been in the same boat. My mom's been smoking for a long time & she even smoked while pregnant with me. Honestly, there's not a lot you can do.

You can try & suggest the patch, but whether or not she takes it is her decision. You can't make her stop so if she decides not to quit, you need to accept it.

I started my period on september 6, and finished yesterday afternoon(sept 13). I had unprotected sex last night in my spa. I don't know how long my cycle is, I've never understood it but my period is 7 days. Is there a chance I could be pregnant?

Yes. There is always a chance of pregnancy whether you use protection or not. You are not safe. If you miss your next period, please take a test.

I'm 21 years old
I have penis girth problem.
My penis in hieght is 5 inches less then 2 cm.
and it errects normaly.the problem i'm only facing is that my penis is thin.My Penis is not fat it's thin plese advice me about this problem.

This isn't a problem. Your penis is normal. Every guy has a different penis when it comes to length, and width.

I keep seeing stuff about it on TV and on the internet. and all I wanna know is how does anyone know when the world is going to end? because in the bible it says that only god will know when the world is going to end? and why would people make stuff up about that? some people may believe it and drop out of school or quit there jobs. it just doesn't make sence. Do people get joy out of scaring people? PLEASE help! I need answers.

No. I've said it before & I'll say it again:

The Mayans don't know shit. The world was supposed to end in 2000, and on 6/6/06 and we're still here. Therefore, these little conspiracy theories about when the world is going to end are BULLSHIT, and we need to stop giving them attention because people are panicking over something completely ridiculous.

No. We will all be here. We will see Christmas or whatever holiday one celebrates at the time of year. We will even see 2013.

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