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Mother smoking?
Okay, I was an accident child, so I'm fourteen years old, and my Mom is 51. Anyways, she's been smoking since age fourteen, and she's addicted to cigarettes, but she won't confess it to me. Anyways, I'm going to be needing her for quite some more years, and besides, I want her in my life as long as possible. I hate the way it makes my clothes smell, and house. It's EMBARASSING. Purely. And I absolutely hate it, and I'm to the point where I'm constantly washing my clothes, and putting on body fragrences to run away from it. It's hurting her, and smoking is j ust a terrible thing. I want her to stop, and she's been telling me she would for the LONGEST time. And I'm sick of being let down. I'm to the point where I don't know what to turn to anymore. Any advice? I want to also go buy some "quit smoking" stuff from the store. But She can't chew gum, And i surely don't want to waste my $$$ on something that isn't going to help. Do you know any good producrs?
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You can't really make your mother quit smoking. She is 51 and can do whatever she wants. I can understand it's embarrassing because my parents smoke too, but there's nothing you can do about it.
I've been in the same boat. My mom's been smoking for a long time & she even smoked while pregnant with me. Honestly, there's not a lot you can do.
You can try & suggest the patch, but whether or not she takes it is her decision. You can't make her stop so if she decides not to quit, you need to accept it.
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Hey there.
Its very hard to tell which anti smoking product might work. The reality is that probably all have a greater chance of not working. Some people respond to patches for example, others do not seem to take to them one bit.
One product a friend of mine is using now is a smokeless cigarrette- where you essentially suck on a nicotine dispenser of some kind. He says it helps him because it feels like smoking somewhat.
If anything that is what I would recommend (as an ex-smoker myself). However, no matter what, it will come down to your mom's determination to quit. I cannot emphasise how hard it is to stop smoking if you are hooked. Those things are so addictive both physically and psycologically. I have stopped now for 4- 5 years and I still get cravings. And I was a smoker for less than 10 years.
So, best thing you can do is to encourage her to pick a time when she feels very ready to stop. It can't be rushed and anything short of a full commitment will not work. Then have whatever products you choose ready for that time.
Good luck.
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Well they also make a nicotene patch, but that too is very expensive. Your mom probably knows about them. I don't think she wants to quit, or she would have tried by now. I know what you are going through, my mom smoked also since she was 15, but she is not 82 and still smokes, and is fairly healthy. (she looks like hell though, nothing ages you more than smoking) SMoking is one of the most addictive substances known to man. My mom is a nervous smoker, I know that she will never be able to quite, and she complains about how expensive it is all the time. Go figure.
I don't live with her though, so I am not affected, I know what you mean by the smell. But now I don't let her smoke in front of me or my kids. She depends on me now, so if she wants my help she knows she cannot smoke in front of me. Some day you'll be able to say that, but probably not now.
My mom is in denial too, she won't admit that she is addicted. Sorry I couldn't be more help.
Good luck, and don't you ever start smoking, and when you do move out and get your own place, FROM DAY ONE, never let her smoke in your home, or your car, or in front of your kids, etc.
good luck
- Michele
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