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divorced parents
my mom is thinking about getting a divorce with my dad. but my dad doesn't want to and he is trying to make sure my mom won't. my mom has been crying and she can't eat or she might puke and she can't sleep. she jus read a book called the the divorce express . she won't even sleep in the same bed as him. she sleeps on the floor in the living room. they don't even talk to each other anymore. i dont know what to do cuz i really dont want them to separate.
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Well im going threw the same thing . but mine is a little more serious . You have to let your mom do what she has to do . Becuz at the end of the day she is lookin for what is best for you and her. Maybe ur dad did something that wasn't rite . Just talk to your mom and ask her why is she gettin a divorce . But other wise let her do what she feels is best for you and her . And ask your dad wh6y does he feel she wants one .
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Truth is you can't really know how your mom is feeling or what really has led her to this point. As most parents do, she may have sheltered you from problems they have been having for a long time. I know you don't want them to seperate, but you also don't want them to be miserable. It will be hard on you and your sister. But this is between your parents and you should not get in the middle of it, nor should you take sides.
I suggest you sit them down and just ask them to listen. Tell them how you feel about whats going on and how it's affecting you. Be clear and concise and don't point any fingers. Tell them that you love them both and you want both of them to be happy and you want to be happy too so they need to figure things out so the whole family can move on and not be stuck in this painful limbo. Suggest counseling. But most importantly tell them that you dont want to be in the middle of it and that you will love and support each of them no matter what happens.
I can bet that you just going to your mom, telling her you love her, and want her to be happy, even if that means divorce, hug her, it would make her day.
If they reconcile and can make things better then great. If they choose to divorce, you will be ok. It will be hard, you will be hurt, angry and you will cry a whole lot. But always remind yourself that you will be ok. You have your whole life ahead of you to focus on so invest your
energy in that. And if you need it, go to a group for children of divorced parents. It helps to hear what other people are going through and to know you are not alone. Best of luck to you and your family.
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It really takes a lot to finalize a divorce. Mom may just need some space right now; She might just be going through a phase and doesn't feel the support and affection she may have once had from your dad. If this is the case, then maybe your parents really need to have a long discussion on the consequences and tolls this will have on the family. If your mom is just being, for the lack of a better word, selfish- then there really isn't anything that can be done if she has really and truely made up her mind about it (which I doubt). She just may need more convincing right now. I hope I helped :
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My mom seperated then divorced my father when i was 15 and i was pregnant. lots of stress.
my mom did it for a stupid reason and it really took a toll on all her children hit us all really hard.
sit your parents down and the kitchen table together. tell them you understand you to are talking about seperating but before they make that choice ask them if they will do something for you. if they will talk to a marriage counsler and try and work out their differences. it may or may not help depending on the reason they want a divorce.
good luck.
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I know exactly how you feel. My dad has been having an affair, and it definitely affected all of us. My brother & I didn't feel as loved by our father. A lot of drama went down, and our parents don't sleep together in the same bed, or even in the same room anymore. They still live together, and are still married by law, but consider themselves separated.
I didn't want them to do what they're doing either because I still had the idea that they should be together forever. However not everything works out, and despite everything that's been said, and everything that's been done, I still love my parents equally. I still consider myself to be my father's little girl, and I still consider my mom to be my best friend. I can't make them stay together, and I can't make them fix their marital problems.
I think that as time goes on it gets easier to accept, but you still need to remember that you can't stop your parents from separating. They will do it whether you want them to or not. You just need to remember that whether they're together or not, you're still their kid and they'll always love you - even if they don't love each other.
Just make sure you can keep an open relationship with both where you can talk freely about whatever you may be feeling. Holding things in can make you resent them. Believe me, I learned that the hard way. :) Everything will be okay. Even if they do separate. I hope they don't, and I hope you remember everything I've said. It really does get easier. I hope this helps.
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listen.
i've been through the exact same thing.
Your parents want the best for you, and they dont want you to worry about them divorcing. it doesnt effect you, so you shouldnt worry about it. Your parents wouldnt want you to worry, they want you to focus on your OWN LIFE. and concentrate on work and stuff.
whatever goes on with ur parents, just know that everything happens for a reason. you cannot be in the middle of it. and maybe it is for the best.
my parents have been divorced for like 4 years now, and my dad lives 5 minutes away and comes home to visit almost every other day.
so try to think positive, and dont worry. live your own life. need help? let me know :)
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