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my mom is thinking about getting a divorce with my dad. but my dad doesn't want to and he is trying to make sure my mom won't. my mom has been crying and she can't eat or she might puke and she can't sleep. she jus read a book called the the divorce express . she won't even sleep in the same bed as him. she sleeps on the floor in the living room. they don't even talk to each other anymore. i dont know what to do cuz i really dont want them to separate. (link)
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Truth is you can't really know how your mom is feeling or what really has led her to this point. As most parents do, she may have sheltered you from problems they have been having for a long time. I know you don't want them to seperate, but you also don't want them to be miserable. It will be hard on you and your sister. But this is between your parents and you should not get in the middle of it, nor should you take sides.
I suggest you sit them down and just ask them to listen. Tell them how you feel about whats going on and how it's affecting you. Be clear and concise and don't point any fingers. Tell them that you love them both and you want both of them to be happy and you want to be happy too so they need to figure things out so the whole family can move on and not be stuck in this painful limbo. Suggest counseling. But most importantly tell them that you dont want to be in the middle of it and that you will love and support each of them no matter what happens.
I can bet that you just going to your mom, telling her you love her, and want her to be happy, even if that means divorce, hug her, it would make her day.
If they reconcile and can make things better then great. If they choose to divorce, you will be ok. It will be hard, you will be hurt, angry and you will cry a whole lot. But always remind yourself that you will be ok. You have your whole life ahead of you to focus on so invest your
energy in that. And if you need it, go to a group for children of divorced parents. It helps to hear what other people are going through and to know you are not alone. Best of luck to you and your family.
Peace & Happiness
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I'm on seasonique birth control. My last two packets I've started to spot a week before I switch to the sugar pills. My doctor told me to just start taking the sugar pills and have my period. Well I started to spot today so I was going to start the sugar pills, it just so happens I have an appointment on thursday to see my gynecologist. Should I reschedule or is it okay to go to your gynecologist on your period? (link)
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It is totally ok to see a Gyno on your period, although for your own comfort you probably don't want it to be at the heaviest time. If I were you I would reschedule till next week, this way they are able to do a complete exam without any trouble. You can also call them and ask the nurse what they would advise. Hope this helps!
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I go to a mental health counsling center every day from monday throgh Friday and I get up and go all day long and stay at that center until 2:00 and one of the counslers their died and i've only been going there for about 4 months now so I didn't really know her all that well but it's really hard on the other clients that are there how can I help them deal with there loss and feel better during this time of pain? (link)
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The best advice would be to talk to your primary counselor about it. As a professional they can give you good guidance. Grief is a very difficult thing that everybody deals with differently. While you may want to help others, sometimes it's not our place to do so.
As a friend, some key things to being there for somebody is to be a good listener if someone wants to talk about it. Lend an ear and a shoulder to cry on. If they are having a really hard time then tell them to speak one-on-one with a counselor to help them understand and sort through their grief. Good luck.
Wishing peace & happiness to you and your friends at the center.
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I'm interested in transferring to Texas A&M from another TX university, but I'm really nervous... I always wanted to go there but was wait listed and ended up at another university and I'm not at all happy here. I really want to transfer, and I have the grades, but I'm really nervous. Tradition is really important to A&M and I feel like I'm not gonna fit in as well there because I don't know what's going on and everyone else will have been there for two years. I know it's not ALL about the traditions and I'll find my place eventually, but I'm just nervous about feeling like a reject. So does anyone have any advice for transfer students? especially people from a&m? I'm just really on the fence about transferring and I want to, I'm just nervous!
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As an experienced transfer student I can understand your hesitations. No one wants to be the new kid at school. Only this is college. People, especially in Texas (used to live there), are usually very welcoming. If this is where you really want to go, make sure you visit the campus a few times to get a feel for the vibe there. Make sure it's still your #1 choice, it may have changed and that's ok too. The best advice is to get involved. Clubs, Organizations, Greek, etc...meet people that have common interests. If there isn't a club you like then start a new one. Be friendly and outgoing and you'll have a whole new group of friends before you know it. Transfer centers on campus offer a lot of resources too, you can meet other transfers here too. Be sure to attend all the orientations, another great resource. Go forward with confidence and it will all work out great! Good Luck!
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Last year I took my senior picture and it came out really bad, i looked really fat and wore all black which also looked really bad. I'm kind of fat anyway so I know i'll look fat no matter what in the picture but are there any ways to lessen it a little? are there ways to kind of avoid the double chin? what should I wear? (link)
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First off, let's put the "fat" term to rest. I'm sure you look great just the way you are. Nobody is perfect and I mean nobody! But I understand not liking the way you look in pictures, happens to me all the time.
Pick an outfit that is flattering to your figure, something you are comfortable in. You should feel good in it and it may require some shopping for a new top or a whole outfit. Ask a sales clerk for help picking something out, they have a better idea of what might look good on you. Ask a friend to help you do your hair, or if you can set an appt to get your hair done at a local salon, a fresh hair cut does wonders. Girls- You can get your makeup done for free (yes, free) at department store makeup counters or stores like Sephora (appt may be required). Make sure you get a nice face wash to keep your skin clean and moisturized (yes even boys must moisturize!)
Once your ready for the pictures, sit up straight (very important, slouching makes one look bigger than normal), shoulders back, suck in your belly button a little (helps you sit up taller and look leaner) and SMILE! There is nothing worse than a grumpy photo.
Key- If you feel good about yourself that day it will show in the picture!
Peace & Happiness!
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I go to the gym about 3x a week for an hour each time. I do about 30 minutes of cardio on the elliptical, and roam around for 30 minutes doing 20reps on random machines at random weights. Does anyone have any actual gym routines that have helped them tone up? (I don't want to pay for a trainer, I don't have that kind of money.)
I've recently cut out sodas and fast food, so I'm hoping for some results in the future. But I feel like I get no where whenever I go to the gym. Any advice is welcome. 17, female, 130lbs. (link)
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Well working out for girls is always a little tricky. All of our body types are different and depending on the results you want to get there are different strategies. First, it would be a good idea to build a weekly schedule that allows your muscles time to rest. For example work out your arms on Monday, Cardio Tuesday, Lower Body Wednesday...and rotate that 5 days a week. You must, must, must give your body at least one day to rest with no working out. If you want a sporty look & tone I would suggest reading "Fitness for Life Women", this has a great workout routine in it that really works well and doesn't bulk you up, just tones. If you want more of a dancers body kind of tone, then try adding in some pilates or dance classes. Pilates is excellent for toning and strengthening and a home DVD works great. Hope this helps!
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