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Annoying jokes.
Okay here's the problem. I have a small group of friends that I hang out with in school. When we're glad and happy, it's all howdy-dowdy and good. However, if I ever mess up or become upset, they joke around and laugh at me (in a "friendly" manner they say). Since I'm Asian and smart, they think that if they get a higher grade than me, they can go "Ohh! I beat you!" or "Oh-! Is your mom going to say,'YOU FAIL TEST GO TO SWEATSHOP NOW'?". When I'm upset, they say things like, "What's wrong, got a B+ ?" They also make mean jokes and insult and criticize my art jokingly. (With things like,"Why does she look like a slutty schoolgirl?" or "Her eyes are retarded.")
I'm pretty sure they don't mean any of it, but it just pushes my buttons. I'm unsure whether I should tell them how I feel, because they always have something to say and will probably try and make me look like the enemy (Which has happened before). But If I leave them, there's nowhere else to go. I'm really shy and there's not much people I know...
What should I do?
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Tell them about it. They're not being true friends if all they're ever doing is making fun of you. Regardless of whether it's intended for fun or not, it's not nice and it's getting to be racist and rude.
Point it out. If they don't change, you need to drop them. Maybe if there's an art club at your school, you can join it. There are a lot of ways to make friends. You just need to find friends who aren't going to be racist about everything.
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Doesn't sound like these guys are very good friends. You have 2 choices - the next time someone makes a crack you can tell them the sound racist and it makes you uncomfortable or you can decide not to hang out with them anymore, if its too hurtful for you. If you decide to strike out on your own, try joining a club or activity at school, something you like (reading, math, acting, whatever). That way you'll be able to meet other kids that you already have things in common and its easier to make friends. Good luck.
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You should definatly tell them how you feel. Tell them that you think that it is offensive that they use such stereotypes like that. If they decide to turn it around on you and continue this behavior, I would try to make new friends because you should not have to put up with this type of behavior. I would suggest attending an afterschool club of interest to make new friends or try befriending the kid beside of you in one of your classes. Hang in there. When I was in 6th grade I tryed making friends with many people and was rejected. The one girl that was my friend for a while started treating me wrong. The next school year I continued trying to make new friends and finally did.
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