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I have a problem of constant worrying about getting things done. I feel as if there aren't enough hours in the day to finish all the homework teachers give us, I don't understand the lessons, then I fail the test, then it all starts over again.

I'm about to break down and cry. I get sick from worrying so much! The stress from school is killing me and my demanding parents aren't helping. What should I do? (link)
You are just like me. All I do is worry all day. I've gotten over it, but sadly my grades didn't take the change too well. I say that you need an outlet. Someway to let go of all these tensions. What is it that you enjoy? I like theatre. So, I joined DRAMA at my high school. At first I was afraid of not having time to do my homework, but I do it during practice..all while having a good time. If you can't find something that allows you to do homework at the same time, you can always take breaks in between homework to do things that you enjoy. I don't know a good way to answer this. I just say that you should really relax and have a good time. Live life the the fullest and don't be so worried. Things will fall into place if you just relax.


Hello, I am a fifteen year old female. In the past I have dated two guys but broke up with them after a very short time because the relationships seemed boring, and I was (obviously) not ready for sex to "spice it up."

Now I feel like I do not want to date anyone again. I am unsure of the reason, it may be stress, nervousness or the fact there is no one whom I like. In the past I have been hurt a lot by guys, despite only dating two of them, and I do not trust anyone with my feelings. Nor do I think that anyone should be burdened with them.

I am wondering if I should try to look hard to find a the right guy, or if I should continue on as I am, basically avoiding relationships.

I want to have a good relationship and find someone who makes me happy and who I can make happy in return, but I also fear it. I know I feel lonely often, though.

How do I let myself trust / search for someone? Do I feel like this because I am young, haven't found the right person or what?

If you have any words of advice at all that relate to something I have discussed, I would really appreciate hearing it. Thanks so much. (link)
All I can say is to stop searching, but don't keep avoiding. Live your life right now. Find something that you enjoy that doesn't have to do with guys. Focus on something that really makes you happy, and eventually somebody will come into your life that you really enjoy spending time with.

Another thing you could do is to look at all guys as friends. Forget about impressing them. If you become friends with a guy, and see him not a sex item, but just as a companion. Chances are something will spark later on. I don't know if this made sense. Hopefully I helped.


i REALLY tried to make this short but ya... im a girl, im 15, a soph in high school, and i like a guy who's also a soph at my school and i think hes either 15 or 16, basically ive met my perfect guy and i dont know if he likes me

lets say his name’s Ed, Ed is in my 0 period english class, here are some situations that had happened... (1)for some reason he is not the type of guy to follow a girl with his eyes when she stands up and walks across the room, and he didn't do that to me either but now i notice that he does (2)he look at me “secretly” in class (3)whenever im walking with my friend after 0 period to my next class, him and his friend will coincidently be always behind us (4)at games, when im cheering on the sidelines, he will look for me in our cheerlines (5)sometimes when we just get to watch the game (instead of cheering) and he isnt playing yet (hes a football player), I’ll look for him in the group of football players and our eyes will meet and we’ll quickly look away (6)BUT: in english class we do a lot of group work, and my group is usually right next to his, and when we are done and just have some free time, I will go over and talk to random groups and in turn talk to his group and him, but when i will ask the simplest of questions to get a conversation going, he will with a short answer and wont keep goin(as if he is a shy and quiet guy, but he's is SO not quiet around everyone else, guys AND girls) (7)To make things worse: I’m getting REALLY mad that he cant talk 2 me, and im noticing that he now might watch another girl in our english class in “that” way and maybe hes not noticing me and...am I losing him?? what do I do??
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You can always try to maybe start narrowing down your talk to just between you and him. Some things that you said make me think that he might have a "thing" for you, but how will you ever know if nobody makes a move? I say talk to him more often. Any chance you get make small talk. Don't get in his face and be annoying, but talk to him. Get to know him more. Chances are he'll see that you are interested and in turn take interest in you.




is it called acid reflex or acid reflux? (link)
acid reflux
=]


okay im getting older and my birthday is coming up soon.and im taking piano lessons.but every week when the time comes around for me to take them.i never want to. Is it that i don't like piano?? or do i think im too old.
i've been playing for 7 years and i don't want to give it up.but theres a feeling inside of me that never wants to play piano..maybe my teacher.idk.please help me.i really don't want to give it up. (link)
i also hate playing piano and ive been doign it for almost 6 years, but i dont want to quit, and i dont think you should either if youve done it that long.

i hate practicing, and i look for excuses to get out of it, but i would not want to quit.
you caNNOT be too old, ever

maybe its your teacher --> my sister had piano lessons with my teacher whos kinda strict, and hated them because of her. so then she got a younger, more relaxed teacher, and she began to like it better. i however like my strict teacher because she pushes me


me and my boyfriend have been together a year the 15th of this month and i have no idea what to get him. i wanna get him something cute or do something cute for him without spending over $100. do you have any cute ideas for me? itd be greatly appreciated. (link)
well you didnt tell me much about him, but you could get him some of the hollister cologne. it smells really good

or you could get him a cd(and you can find the artists he likes by looking at his myspace/facebook/etc)

or you could get him something that reminds you of yourfirst date, like a movie you went to see, or you could just get a dvd.


15/f. where is the correct place to spray perfume? like if i buy a perfume that doesn't have a big spray to spray all over...where is the best place to spray it? neck? behind the ears? wrist? i've heard many things.

thanks! (link)
pressure points like neck, and wrist, etc

the reason is because your veins sort of "heat up" and make the scent kind of be strengthened (if that makes sense)and be spread around around better


Can you get pregnant from anul sex? (link)
nope, also you cant get pregnant from oral


Well, i was just wondering.....how much sex should hurt the first time and does it hurt everyone? because i had sex twice with my bf but i dont think he popped me? Is he too small? Or have i just not noticed? Thanks

Girl, 16 (link)
it depends on how much it should hurt, depending on his and yours's "downstairs" size
pop your cherry, first time youve had sex, no matter what, so yea your popped


I'm a 15 year old freshman female. I like this guy who sits next to me in one of my classes and he talks to me sometimes, usually asking for help on a math problem. How do I initiate conversation? What should I say? He sort of intimidates me, so I'm shy around him. (link)
well dont talk during class, because then you'll get in trouble, and be embarassed.

just ask him a question, like what did you do this weekend before class starts. if he intimidates you, you could say i like your shirt.


i want a 6 pack its like a wicked goal whata re some excersizesss and how long will it be till ig et one if i do it consistently? (link)
do 10 situps 10 crunches
than 20 situps and 20 crunches
than 30, 40, 50, and keep going for as long as you can

you can do this while watching tv, and its really effective


Ok so i am a blonde haired skinny girl with no boobs ( ok they are there but the guys dont think so) and i have some butt. But anyways i am growing my bangs out and they are to my chin my reg. hair is a little passed my shoulders my bangs look horrible just down with my hair straight any idea's on how i could do my hair and pulling the bangs back doesnt work i have tried. Please help (link)
chicacaliente is pretty retarded. What does wearing push up bra have anything to do with your hair? Don't start wearing push up bras; it'll make you look slutty. And you don't need hi-lights...we don't even know what you look like.


Anyway, on with your problem. Waiting for bangs to grow out is a bitch. I've had to do it before and it sucks because you're right, your hair doesn't look right when it's down straight.


chicacal girl was right about one thing though, you might want to think about getting your hair cut. Not the bangs, but the rest of your hair. Get some layers and have your bangs be where they start (have your bangs be a part of the layers). You don't need to get it cut short, not that much at all actually. Just the layers in the front and maybe a trim in the back.


If you don't want to get it cut there are some hair styles you can try. You can curl your hair. This adds different lengths to your hair so you won't even notice the bangs. You said you've tried pulling you bangs back but what about pulling more than JUST your bangs back? Take your bangs PLUS some extra hair around them and put them back on the top of your head with a clip. You can ad a little *bang bump* for style. You can also put your hair up and some of your bangs down in front of your face. This will shape your face and you won't be able to see the different in your bang length and your hair length. Adding ribbons or hair ties that match your clothes will help keep this casual look cute.


i've recently heard people talking about how they "steam" their faces and it keeps their complexion clear. how do they do this? what do they do after they "steam" their faces"? what does this do for them and why do they do it? thanks. (link)
marybethO has pretty much got it down. So I'll just add on to that. When you *steam* your face, it opens your pores. When your pores are open, it's easier to get the dirt out that's in them. Therefore, it gets your skin cleaner than washing it with cold soap and water.


My sister punched my chest area really hard a couple minutes ago and it hurts like hell. D: I seriously started crying it hurt so much. I was wondering, will this do any damage or anything? Because I don't want to look like some sort of freak. Thanks. f/14 (link)
It really shouldn't. I'm sure it did hurt pretty bad though :(. I've been hit in the boobs a few times and nothing went wrong. Only start worrying if you see any lumps or anything like that develop. But, like I said, you're most likely to be fine...after the pain goes away.


Would you concider asking questions/questioning someone cyberstalking/stalking? thanks. (link)
If its something that wouldnt be preivate, like whats your fave band, thats not stalking

But if it is something they might feel umcfortable saying, then that might be considered stalkering


Hey...thanks for answering my question of what they look like..can you tell me how to get rid of them? Or will they just go away?


thanks in advance (link)
You just put neo sporin or cordaid on it (antibacterials) until the hair grows out. Just keep appling that every day and it will go away.


i have the choice between a malibu LS and a camry .. which is a better choice? (link)
i would honestly go for the malibu. people like to give chevy's shit and say they're bad cars. but the fact of the matter is i see less chevy's roll into the shop than i see toyotas. also the chevy would be cheaper in the long run. a new camry starts at 18,270. whereas the new malibu starts at 17,710. it's a good thousand bucks cheaper at the beginning. throw in the fact that most chevrolet dealerships are always offering special financing and discounts and you'll likely save money on the malibu and be able to buy some other cool shit with the money you save.

people like to say that the malibu gets worse gas mileage, but they both get over 30 miles a gallon which is the current benchmark for most new cars. and really is plenty of money saving. the camry does get better fuel efficiency. the camry does have more horsepower on the four cylinder but will cost you 19,000 to get it with the automatic transmission as the base model comes with a five speed manual transmission (stick shift) so basically you're paying more money for the same car chevy gives you for less. i say go for the chevrolet. you'll be glad you did.


Is there such a site online where you can upload pictures of your bike and other people can rate it or vote for it?
Especially Harleys and choppers. (link)
www.cardomain.com does it for cars. i'm sure they have a motorcycle affiliate. look around there, you should find one.


I recently got a new job; however, I’m making approximately $400 less, a month. I have a car payment of $343 and would much rather rid myself of the car payment then have to move my 7–year–old son and myself into a small apartment. Currently, I rent an awesome home and am tied into a lease anyway.

My dilemma is that I really do like my 2002 Chrysler and I’m very afraid if I sell it, which just thinking about going thru that hassle is enough of a deterrent, that what I’ll be able to afford to buy, might be something that isn’t as dependable. I have roughly $1500-$2000k that I can allot towards a used vehicle, such as a Honda perhaps. I thought maybe it might be best to dump the $1500-2000 onto the pb of my loan (I owe $9,800) and maybe with income tax pay it down even more.

I’m a single parent and need reliable transportation…something that’ll get me from point A to point B ok.

My credit sucks as I’ve consider refinancing; however I don’t know that I’d even qualify.

For some reason, I’m just extremely indecisive about what is best to do for me and my family. Any advise would be most welcomed.

Thank you.
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a car can be the worst financial decision some people make. but what you have to realize is it can also be the best. automotive financing is a good way to build credit and to have a car you would otherwise not be able to afford. if you back out on the car now two things will happen. you will dig yourself into a deeper hole as the dealership you give it to will have to pay off the rest of the car, then you will have to find a way to get financing on another, much shittier ride.

your safest bet is to first, hold onto the car you have. second use the money you have in savings towards the car loan. and third do your best to make your payments on it after that point until it's paid off. getting out of the loan now would kill your credit, and get you into a car that wont be as good. and if you sold it to someone willing to pay off the rest of it the liklihood is no one would want to buy it. you would have to sell it without you owning the title to the vehicle, which means it will not sell. hold onto it, things will get rough, but you'll pull through, and when you do lo and behold you'll still have the car you love, a better credit rating, and still be okay for the most part. good luck


Can you get an std from someone by sharing carmex?? (link)
No, unless some dispensed their genial fluids or blood in it. But it is possible to get herpes on your mouth because that can spread by any contact.




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