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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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heres my problem. whenever i start to like a guy, i get really excited about it and tell ALL of my friends. then it usually turns out that the guy doesnt like me and ive been humiliated in fron of my friends. how can i keep my love life to myself?

Hey, start writing down your feelings for the guys you like instead of blurting them out to your friends. Only tell the friends that you know will keep a secret. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please.

Hey. Well im a girl but i think i can help you out. Some guys at your age are pretty shallow. Thats stupid that guys dont like you cuz you have braces. Try meeting some new guys from schools close by. Its alright that you dont have a boyfriend right now { even though you want one} that speacial guy will come to you. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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i have a really close guy friend we close but we cant be nothing but friends because on long distance and i hate long distance realtionships because the never work out. ok but n-e-ways sometimes we act like lovers and sometimes like friends but even when he had a gf we did the samething because he always liked me more then his gf even though he broke up with her for me but i still didnt go out with him and like now i dont know what to do i do love this guy and like he perfect for me and all but i am really confuessed?can you plz help i wil rate! thanks!

Hey. You said that longdistance relationships never work out, but they actually can. You have to make sure you can trust this guy. He obvioussly likes you if he broke up with his gf for you! Give it a shot and if it doesnt work out then thats fine. There are other fish in the sea. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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thongs are like really in and i was wondering if anyone who has used one can give my pros and cons of wearing them since at this rate i'll never where one myself

Hey. Thongs arent really in, people just see famous people wearing them so they do. I dont wear thongs i find that they seem to be very uncomfortable. Also, a con is that people can see them and they'll think ur a skank because your thong is showing. Im not saying that someone would be a skank if they had one on, oh you know what i mean lol. And also, once again they like ride up you but and i dont know who would want a string up there butt. Hun, your not missing out on anything. Be different by not wearing a thong lol.
~Brina~

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ok so my boryfreind came into work today to introduce me to his best freind...i was excited about meeting her, till i saw her. She was gorgous, exactly how my boyfreind used to explain how i looked wen he first met me...tall long black hair, tan, skinny...spet shes prettier then i am...least i think she is. I know he would never cheat on me, cuz he loves me, and i love him..blah blahl blah,...but now that i met her i feel completly uncomforatable with my boyfreind bieng around her...ahh i hate bieng jealous..what should i do?

lol. That happens all the time with girls when there boyfriends has a best friend thats a girl. Like you said, you can trust your boyfriend so dont fret. Maybe get to know this girl and she could actually be a nice person. You probably will be a bit jelous but thats ok, just dont hang out with her if you continue to be jelous. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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Ok there is this kid at school and i really like him and he likes me. But im afraid to tell him that i like him because i think ill be imberrassed. Plzzzzzzzzz help me.


signed in love but confused.

Awww. Well, if he likes you then you shouldnt be worried bout anything. Deffinitly tell him how you feel. Dont be embarrassed because its a good way to become less shy about telling guys your feelings to them. I suggest telling him you like him in private, not on the phone or online tell him in person. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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how do u add favorite columnists to your column?

Hey. Say you go to a site and at the top of there site it shoudl say, make favorite, add as friend, or something else other then those two. THen you click it and it goes onto your favorite columists. Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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f/13 im going out with this guy....lets call him bill. ok well i met bill at a convention thingy away from both of our hometowns. we got each others numbers and talked on the phone after we got back to our houses blah blah blah and now were going out. he lives about 2.5 hours away. now i was talking t this other guy who i recently went out with and ever since we broke up weve been pretty much best friends and talked on the phone all the time. he lives about 5 minutes away but he is moving about 30 minutes away(no biggie) lets call him fred. so im currently going out with bill right...and im was talking to fred on the phone and we still both love eachother more than anyone would believe and we got to talking about our relationship (i was thinking about dumping bill to go out with fred anyways) blah blah blah and i ended up asking fred out. of course he said yes and the problem now is that i have 2 boyfriends and ive never been the person that cheats. so what i want to know is how do i dump bill with out hurting his feelings and still be really good friends with him???? HeLp Me pLeAsE!!! ThAnX!

Hey. Are you sure you love these guys?Your 13, my opinion is that you dont find true love till you get a little bit older then 13. Its deffinitly not right to be giong out with two guys at the same time. Maybe bill will understand. You wouldnt really hurt his feelings, he would probably just be upset. Tell him you rather be friends. But dont tell him about fred cuz then he wont want to be your friend. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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13/F Going On 14 =)
Okay...my so called best friend Vallorie,Hannah,and Becca...in school the other day ditched me! I always wait for them in classes but i was walking with them and they just ran the other way. It was so sad. I dont know why they did it but im very confused. So i didnt see them the rest of the day. We are supposed to have an easter party tommorow but i dont know what i am going to do? HeLp Me tY =)
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Kristie*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

Hey. When you said going on 14 did you mean you would be turning 14 soon? Maybe, they are planning a party for you! I'm sure theres a good explanation for them " ditching" you. I suggest talking to them and find out what the deal is. Good Luck hun.
~Brina~

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Hey Ya'll,
First off Im male and 15. I've kinda got a problem... There is this girl that is pretty much one of my best friends I guess you'd say. But we hang out alot or atleast when we can. And for the last few(2) months I started liking her as more than a friend. But the problem is that I don't know if she likes me as more than a BFF. I mean some days she really seems to like me as more than a friend in my opinion and some days it just seems like were just like best friends. I really don't know what to do cause i dont want to hurt our friendship if she doesnt feel that way... Because I love hangn with this girl shes so awsome!

I was thinking of asking her to prom (my schools screwed up and small so I can go to prom if I pay) because I know she'll make it a fun time even if she doesnt like me that way because she just makes me have a great time hangn with her... Should I ask her?

Its pretty hard having a best friend thats the oppostie sex. Because, you find qualities in the person that you would find in a potential girlfriend/boyfriend, in your case girlfriend obvioussly lol. Well, you could say to her that someone told you that she said she liked you and you werent sure if you should believe the person. Who knows, maybe she does like you.
Deffinitly ask her to the prom as friends. And if things go well maybe give her a kiss. Start flirting with her more. Good Luck Hun. IM me or email me and tell me how it goes!!!
~Brina~

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hi, im 16/f i have this friend who has a bf and everything is different now that she has one, we have been fighting so much, we went 2 months with out talking, i was fine with it b/c i didnt have to put up with all of her bull shit, all she ever talked about was her bf, and if not that then just everything about her, and if i tryed to talk about like a guy i liked she'd get mad at me bc "im selfish" and we hardley ever talked about me or my problems, it was always about her. at first it didnt bug me, but then it got to be too mch so i called her on it and she got so mad at me and called me selfish, so thats why we stoped talking those couple months, now were talkign again, and it's worse then ever i can hardly stand her. sould i call her on it again, or just leave things the way they are? plz some one help me!! thanks

Hey. Everything does get different with friends when they get a boyfriend. Though your friend shouldnt be treating you like this even if she does have a boyfriend. Maybe her boyfriend has changed her a bit. A very wise person told me that you should find yourself before you get a boyfriend that way you dont depend on your boyfriend for everything and you wont be upset if you break up and stuff like that so maybe shes doing stuff her boyfriend likes and everything. Maybe shes trying to act more mature now that she has a boyfriend. You should let her know how you feel. A friendship shouldnt be like that were she doenst listen when you talk about guys. Thats stupid that she calls u selfish for talking about a guy. Maybe shes having some issues that you dont know about. Good Luck Hun. IM me if you need anymore help :)
~Brina~

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i want to make a cd for a 4 year old. does anyone know some really fun songs. i don't want anything too babyish though, just something he can dance to.

Hey. Theres a guy singer named Raffi. Those songs are good for the little ones.
~Brina~

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me and my bf broke up last month. and i still really like him, he says he doesnt like me and when i try to get him to like me by like being all like touchy feely with him he is like stop i dont wanna like you again. but i want him to like me agin i cant find some1 i like just as much. we still talk on the phone for hours and we still hang out but what do i do?? i cant get over him but i dont really want to. how can i get him to like me again?

You probably wont want to hear this but hun, u cant force someone to like you. You might like him a lot and he probably has feelings for u but if he doesnt want to be with you then thats that. Its alright to not find anyone else to like at this point. It will take a while to get over him but you will. You'll find another great guy like him. Good Luck hun.
~Brina~

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One of my ex's moved back and he is trying to pry me away from my boyfriend. He is also always teasing me for the worst things and he won't stop. I can't stand him!!! He is awful. So how am I suppose to deal with this jerk?? Please help!!

Hey. Just tell that guy to leave you the hell alone. If he keeps on bothering you then get a restraining order. Dont talk to him and when he talks to you just ignore him. Hes pretty stupid if hes making fun of you and its immature. I'm guessing your a teenager so, sometimes guys can be immature. Tell someone that hes bothering you. He probably just really really really really wants you back, but, oh well, you have a boyfriend lol.
~Brina~

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My sister at a young age died of luekemia. I dont really uderstand where she got it from. But lately I've been finding random bruises on my boyd and i know my sister had random bruises and ashe was always tired and im always tired. Is there a possiblity that i could have it too?

First off i'm sorry bout your sister. You might or might not get luekemia. Deffinitly talk to you parents about it and go to the doctor. There are a lot of new technology and medicine these days. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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i have been seeing someone on /off for the last ten years . recently moved out because the depts are way to much for me, i know he cheats on me so why do i feel like i cant move on???

Maybe your scared what will happen if you do leave him. You should dump him. He cheats on you as you said, thats not a good thing hun! Deffinitly talk to him about how you feel. There will be a great guy out there for you, you just have to take a chance. I'm sure you wont want to be with a guy for the rest of your life while hes cheating on you! You probably dont want to hear it but you really really should dump him. Good Luck Hun!Dont forget, theres another fish in the sea.
~Brina~

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I know having bulimia,anorixia or anything like that isnt pleasing to God...but is it considered a sin?

Its not a sin because its a disease. I hope its not you that has bulimia or anorixia... because its a very dangerous eating disorder.
~Brina~

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Hi, im starting to like this kid in my class. Theo only problem is i know this other "almost popular" girl who likes him and is having her friends try to get him to go out with her. Whenever they try to ask him he leaves. Hes not really the popular type in all but im starting to like him. The other girl is really nice and funny, but i dont want to let a lot of people know incase she gets mad. Its just that sometimes he talks to me and like asks me the same questions and it feels like he likes me. But even if he asked me out i couldnt go out with him cuz i know about the other girls plan. Should i continue liking him, or just forget it?
* Screwed up lover *

What is the other girls plan? You should hang out with him one night and tell him what the girls plan is so that he gets a heads up. Deffinitly go for him. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina!

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So, what do you do when the people you used to be closest with begin to ignore you? when they forget you have feelings and make snide comments?

What do you do when people keep secrets from you? When the same person tries to hit on and steal your best friend?

What should I do?

If there starting to ignore you then thats not right. If they make rude comments about you then why even bother with them? You will loose a lot of friends through your life. Try making some new friends even though itll be hard to get rid of your old group but if they arent treating you with resepct then drop em.
~Brina~

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I was just wondering, is it possible for a guy to be too shy to IM you? becuase i have imed ths one guy i like about like 4 times in total but like over a span of about 2 months but..i'm just thikning is the reason he hasn't imed me first because he is shy or that he just doesn't feel that way about me? help please..thanks

Well, guys arent usually too talkative online
{ a lot of my guy friends dont talk much} or it could be that he's too shy. Maybe he wasnt at his computer. There could be a whole bunch of reasons why he hasnt IMed you. Ask a friend of yours while hes online and your friend is that talks to him if hes talking back to her. It might be he's too shy.Good Luck.
~Brina~

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