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I need a guy!
O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please.
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Guys can be jerks, but I am pretty short, have braces and get strait A's to so I know. The right guy will come and will see threw all that. You will get your braces off soon, and you still mite grow. I don't think anyone can have friends who say they are not pretty. Maybe they are jelous. Someone will come, don't worry. Hope, do well and peace out
Daisyswim
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You are pretty and smart in your own ways. Dont listen to what other people say. And anyways a TRUE bf wouldnt care if you werent the hottest girl in the world, they would love you for who you are! Im 14 and know what you are going through, but just remeber (or try to) that it doesnt really matter if you have a bf! take your time and enjoy being 14 while you can. one day you will find your true love, but who knows when it will happen!
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Well I don't think the braces should be a problem. I can't say I know personally because i've never had them, but most of my friends do and that never really stoped them. I can understand your height thing though because im barely 5feet myself, but alot of guys go for a short girl because it makes them feel as though they can easily protect you. Maybe you're not getting a boyfriend becaue you only want one just to want one? But i've come to find that if you stop trying really hard and killing yourself over it the right guy will just come. Most likely, hes right there in front of you. Hoope it helps!
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You're 14... so most guys around your age range are gonna be shallow. But I'm almost 17 and I have braces... but I also have a few guys who like me and a bf who loves me. You'll find someone... it just takes time sometimes to find them. But these guys who just say that they won't date you because you have braces are shallow and they are not worth your time. Find somebody who will love you for you. It's hard and it takes time... but hang in there
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my girlfriend nad braces. a true boy/f will not care. and my g/f not all that hot but she has a good personality and that is all that matters
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at that age guys are just looking for modles or so to speak. just be yourself and a guy will come sooner or later. wish you the best
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I know this isn't an answer you're looking for, but heres an answer where you can seek encouragment. Every teenage girl wants somebody to love, I understand that, but then you begin to describe yourself, and let me say that you don't need to look good for guys, you need to look good because you want it that way. If you wear hairclips, hopefully you're doing it because you like it. Heres a direct quote for you, "I'd rather be hated for who I am, than liked for who I'm not." You'll catch onto it reading it more than once, but its basically saying, if it means sacraficing who I really am, then its not worth it. Your friends don't sound very encouraging, you probably feel hurt when you're told that you will never really fall in love, but I am another "friend" or "peer" here to tell you that you will fall in love so many times before you find the right guy. Don't ever date a guy who says that you aren't pretty or smart enough, I can promise you that not only will it never work out, but you will feel ugly, and more insecure as each day goes by, no matter how much in love you are, I can guarantee that your self-esteem will be so far down after the relationship. Any guy that says, "you aren't pretty/smart/good enough" is nothing but a big jerk that will get their heart stomped on many times later in life. Being 14 and single may suck right now, but trust me, you've got so much time left, time is not even near running out for you, because at your age, more than half of relationships that are going on right now are fake, and they come to an end in only weeks. Hardly any are serious. So my real piece of advice here, is to not look so hard for love, do what you love to do until love comes around and finds you.
-TheTeenGirl
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They don't like you just because you wear braces? Thats pretty shallow, or because you're not real tall? Bone heads.
Sounds like there are just a lot of immature boy's at your school. They are still pretty young yet. They would get teased by their friends and stuff for having a girlfriend.They will be knocking on your door soon.Don't worry about it.It's not you.:)
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Well Lacey, you are not doing anything wrong, sometimes it just takes a while for the right guy to come and find you. Don't worry, there is someone for everybody. And if your friends say that you are too ugly or too dumb, then no offence to them but they aren't that good of friends. They shouldn't be negative to you and make you feel bad about youself. A real friend supports you!!!
PS: I hope "Mr. Right" comes for you soon!!!! :-D
~A*m*a*n*d*a~
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ok first of all if you have friends that tell you that then they arent really your friends, second if a guy doesnt like you for who you are on the inside then he isnt a good boyfriend, and third i'm sure you are beautiful and smart and funny, you just have to wait for the right guy to come along... i know it's hard waiting especially when everyone else seems to have a boyfriend and you dont, but if you wait you will find an amazing guy that will love you because of who you are and will look past your braces... if guys at your school dont like you becuse of that then they are all shallow and dont deserve someone like you... i know it's hard to wait but hang in there!!!
have fun and enjoy being single! it's not all THAT bad!
<3 donny
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Well, if they are that judgemental is it really worth it? The right guy will come, and he will like you for you, not for what you look like or how smart you are. Just be patient and fate will take place no matter what.
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There is no point into trying to rush and find a boyfriend. I believe in the saying: <b>There is someone for everyone.</b> The right guy will come along, and like you for you. He won't care how tall you are, or whether or not you have braces on your teeth. He will like you for your personality <b>and</b> your brains. Your "friend" is <b>not</b> a friend at all. What kind of a friend would tell you that you'll never have a true BF because you are not pretty or smart enough? Keep being yourself, and Mr. Right will come along right on time.
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At your age, having a boyfriend shouldn't matter so much, I'm imagining you're in middle school. Guys at your age are very superficial, and you shouldn't pay attention to them, wait until high school, it gets better. A much wider variety. They're still shallow, but you have more hope.
As for the whole braces thing, I read in Seventeen magazine that most guys would go out with a girl with braces, it's just some urban legend type of thing that they won't, so that's probably not the problem. Guys are too interested in scoring with chicks that are 'perfect'. Whatever that means.
Anyways, keep up the good work with school, and everything will work out!
-Siobhan.
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Hey! To start- I have to say I ADORE your name lol! It's so pretty. Anyway, actually, in Jersey, braces aren't a big deal with looks. Don't worry about them. You WILL find a great guy one day don't worry, you're only 14 so you have ALOT of time! I'm sure your pretty, and just tell yourself "I am the most goregous person in this room" and believe it! It's a great confidence booster. Wear cute clothes, nothing over the top. Congrats on those grades too! Keep in touch, and if you need anything, contact me [even tho I'm not a guy, I hope I answered your question well!] ♥
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When I was your age, I was 5'2" - 5'3" and overweight with braces and glasses. Add to that that I was shy and did better at classwork than at social interactions, and I didn't have much of a love life. I thought I'd never find a guy who really liked me even when I went off to college.
Now I'm married to a wonderful man who adores me and thinks I'm beautiful, even though I haven't moved closer to the stereotypical view of beauty in this society. Nevertheless, we are together and happy, with the rest of our lives ahead of us.
And I know I'm not the only one: among my friends, there have been a few who had similar lack of dating as teenagers and similar poor self image who have since turned that dating drought around, and without changing who they are.
Meanwhile, I knew a girl in college who always had a boyfriend just about since she had been your age; last I knew, she was still single and dating guy after guy. She briefly tried to do things differently after realizing that the friends of hers who found lasting, solid relationships first were actually the ones who hadn't started dating quite so young.
My point is this: whether you start dating now, or in a couple years, or after you're 20, you're not alone, and there's always a chance that you will meet a guy who appreciates you for you. If a friend tells you you will never have a true boyfriend, how true a friend are they really? And if you decide your worth based on whether you have a boyfriend or match up to others' ideals, how will you know who you are and who you want to be?
Concentrate more on liking yourself and being the best person you can be. Try to do well in your education to make a future for yourself. Do things that you enjoy and that make you feel happy and healthy. Hang out with people who don't put you down so much. And don't worry quite so much about not having a boyfriend now. A healthy, happy relationship can only come after you have a certain degree of that health and happiness, along with a good sense of who you are on your own.
I remember quite well what it felt like to be a teenager and dateless, but eventually things did change for me, when I had a better sense of who I was. And to be quite honest, I'd rather the (imperfect) life I have with the husband I have than to have dated more when I was younger. Sure, I really, really wanted a boyfriend, but I obviously survived without one.
Many guys (and girls) your age are immature and shallow; some will always be that way, but some grow out of it eventually, and when that happens, you just might find someone special who sees you as someone special, and that is something worth waiting for.
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ok well first off im not a guy sorry, but i am goign through the same thing! you know, guys at this age are really shy and get to nervous. Most girls dont even get bf's until they are probabibly 15-16. so dont worry at all. Who ever is telling you that you arent pretty or smart, are just tryin to make themselves feel better because they arent as great as you. Hope i Helped!
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Hey. Well im a girl but i think i can help you out. Some guys at your age are pretty shallow. Thats stupid that guys dont like you cuz you have braces. Try meeting some new guys from schools close by. Its alright that you dont have a boyfriend right now { even though you want one} that speacial guy will come to you. Good Luck.
~Brina~
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