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do i call her on it?
hi, im 16/f i have this friend who has a bf and everything is different now that she has one, we have been fighting so much, we went 2 months with out talking, i was fine with it b/c i didnt have to put up with all of her bull shit, all she ever talked about was her bf, and if not that then just everything about her, and if i tryed to talk about like a guy i liked she'd get mad at me bc "im selfish" and we hardley ever talked about me or my problems, it was always about her. at first it didnt bug me, but then it got to be too mch so i called her on it and she got so mad at me and called me selfish, so thats why we stoped talking those couple months, now were talkign again, and it's worse then ever i can hardly stand her. sould i call her on it again, or just leave things the way they are? plz some one help me!! thanks
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she doesn't seem like a very good friend. if she was then you two #1. wouldn't have stopped talking for 2 months and #2. she would care about your problems more and not call you selfish. it could be the way she really is or it could be the boyfriend thing i have many friends who i don't hang around with often because they only talk about their boyfriend. if i were in your situation i would either stop hanging out with this chick or talk to her again about it. even when you guys stop talking it seems as though you're relieved. so i hope this helped.
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once a boyfriend comes into the picture they pretty much dominate a girls thoughts.So, thats why she talks about him non stop.That doesn't mean that you get all rude with your friends though.
I think you should sit her down and just tell her that if she can't treat you like a friend anymore then you can live without her.Friendship should at least be a 50/50 deal. If she won't listen to what you have to say, then she is the selfish one not you.Say something before she drives you nuts.
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Hey. Everything does get different with friends when they get a boyfriend. Though your friend shouldnt be treating you like this even if she does have a boyfriend. Maybe her boyfriend has changed her a bit. A very wise person told me that you should find yourself before you get a boyfriend that way you dont depend on your boyfriend for everything and you wont be upset if you break up and stuff like that so maybe shes doing stuff her boyfriend likes and everything. Maybe shes trying to act more mature now that she has a boyfriend. You should let her know how you feel. A friendship shouldnt be like that were she doenst listen when you talk about guys. Thats stupid that she calls u selfish for talking about a guy. Maybe shes having some issues that you dont know about. Good Luck Hun. IM me if you need anymore help :)
~Brina~
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heyy you definitly shouldnt leave things the way they are if it's bothering you that much try saying something again like i dont want this to turn into a fight it just bothers me that....and go from there if she doesnt understand that thats annoying you then maybe she just isnt a good friend i think shes a little to full of it and you need to sort it out with her hope it helps feedback please
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Okay, you're friend is being arrogant .. sort of. I think you should call her and talk to her about it and tell her that you've seen a major change in her personality AND attitude since she and her boyfriend have been together and if she wants to keep your friendship then change her attitude/personality, and if she doesn't just let her go. If she denies that she has changed, tell her to look back on the last few months (or years). And really, if she's giving you this much of a hard time, being VERY obsessive, and not caring at all about you or your problems, just let her go, or at least take a break for a while. hope i helped
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It is time that you let this friendship go. Your friend is the one being selfish, not you. Friendship is a two way street, you are holding up your end of the bargain but she isn't. It is okay to talk about your boyfriend every once in awhile, but not excessively. Her problem is that she is making her boyfriend the center of her world, and pushing all of her friends away. If she can't realize that you have feelings too, and that you need to vent and talk about your problems sometimes, then she is not worth trying to make ya'lls friendship work. Talk to your friend privately and in a calm way and let her know how you are feeling. Tell her that you are glad that the two of you are talking again, but you have noticed lately that she has been doing what she did before again. Tell her that you want to remain friends with her, but it upsets you when she talks about her boyfriend so much and puts her priorities above yours all of the time. If she gets mad again this time, tell her that her friendship is not worth all the pain and stress and that you are better off without her.
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I think you should tell her. Why are you going to hide all your feelings inside and take crap from her you know? I know it might ruin your friendship, but it shouldent. If she was a good enough friend she would understand and try to make things better. Not get all mad and stop talking to you. So yeah definatley call her on it again. Good luck, keep me updated if you can!
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