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i have been seeing someone on /off for the last ten years . recently moved out because the depts are way to much for me, i know he cheats on me so why do i feel like i cant move on???
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Spend at least a week or so away from him. go on a trip with some of your girlfriends, and take your mind off of him. spend time at clubs, parties, beaches, surround yourself with friends, and try to hang out where lots of avaliable guys would. If a guy flirts with you, feel free to flirt back, try to consider yourself single, and not connected this guy of ten yrs. just see how you like it. it will help you move on and realize that you can do so much better. good luck
:)Annie
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If you really love someone you'll let them go... :)
HE IS NO GOOD FOR YOU! you know that!
So just focus on the bad stuff he does... maybe that will make you not love him
eRm, hope i helped! Good lUcK :)-rIley
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Wow. 10 years. That is where your issue lies. Many people find it difficult to move on after a long term relationship especially if it happend to be a sexual one. My only advice I can give you is to try and find a new person to take your mind off your ex. A hobby would do just fine. Anything to keep you preoccupied. And who knows, you may meet your Mr. Right in the process.
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If he cheats on you, then obviously you need to have a serious discussion with him and talk it out, or move on. It seems like you can't because you're really in love with him, thats why you've had an on/off relationship for so long (i'm guessing the break ups in between weren't major, because you wouldn't be with him if they were). I think you should TRY to meet new people, or really talk it out with your boyfriend. If he denies it, I wouldn't trust him and give him another chance right away. Make sure he's being real if he says he's not cheating. If you catch him, just tell him it's over. hope i helped!
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I'm sorry to hear that but you need to focus on some things when you feel you miss him.
1) Remember what he did to you and what he put you through
2) Think again about what he did and tell your self you deserve much better than to be treated like that
3) Tell your self you want and deserve a better man and belive it.
Just keep going over that especially the first one. Eventually you'll realise you don't need him to survive and you need to show the world that.
Good luck, hun
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its simple after ten years youve grown attached. You feel as if you need him to be complete. The best thing for you to do is to start dateing again and find someone else. Once you do youll realise you can move on a lot faster then you think.
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Dear Cheated On, I have been cheated on myself and it takes alot of your self esteem and trust away. For some reason, even though we are not the ones doing anything wrong, we are the ones left dealing with the consequences. I went through a lot of stages starting at hurt and ending with forgiving. It is a process and if your looking for a quick fix to moving on, im sorry its not going to happen. We actually go into mourning for the relationship. I focused on myself, worked out, tanned, volunteered. Different things that make me feel better about myself and then it was alot easier to realize the guy is a loser and not worth your energy. To this day i love my life and dont regret the relationship because my past is what made me who i am today and the same will happen with you. You just need time. Good luck in the future and once your happy with yourself you will find yourself in a great loving relationship with the right person for you. Luann
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After 10 years you get used to a person, and having them in your life. When you breakup and move on it feels like you're losing that part of your life. if the relationship isn't a good one, you should move on and find one that is. it's always hard breaking up with someone. ESPECIALLY after so long. but you can do it. Just be strong and believe in yourself.
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Because you've been with him for so long. You allowed yourself to get attached to him. Ten years is a very long time to be on/off with someone. You feel that since you've spent such a long period of time with them, you can't imagine what your life would be without him, since you probably cannot remember what it was like when you were not with him. You just have to remember what is best for you and what will give you the best chance at a good life. He doesn't seem like he is the one for you, so perhaps you need to move on, even though it is hard. And once you find the right guy, you'll forget about oh what's his name and focus on your ongoing future. Good luck.
Megan
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Maybe your scared what will happen if you do leave him. You should dump him. He cheats on you as you said, thats not a good thing hun! Deffinitly talk to him about how you feel. There will be a great guy out there for you, you just have to take a chance. I'm sure you wont want to be with a guy for the rest of your life while hes cheating on you! You probably dont want to hear it but you really really should dump him. Good Luck Hun!Dont forget, theres another fish in the sea.
~Brina~
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well i was just in the same situation recently and i cut myself over the guy and everything but he cheated on me once and because i was in love i took him back. but everyone kept telling me that he was cheating on me and even though i belived it i tried not to let it show. But you have to thinnk about what is right for you and just do what you think is right if you wanna move on then move on but if you still wanna be wit him then you both have to make it work good luck hope i helped!!!!
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Because you've been in the relationship for 10 yrs! You have a lot of time invested.I think moving on is the way to go,but,it will take a while to get the message through to your head.It's a big change! Normal to feel that way.
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