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where can i buy a soundmachine? i cant sleep all the time


any tips?

but yeah where the sound machine?how much?Website?store?thanks (link)


www.Amazon.com ;)



-Bahaima22


Alright... I am a 13 year old girl and i am very actice. I play softball, tennis, basketball, and Cheerleading.. I sometimes feel like i'm a little fat. I have a stomach pooch! Oh, forgot to mention this: I'm 5 foot and 126 pounds. I have huge leg muscles.. (Huge enough for me to squat 115 pounds if that helps any) I'd love to shed a couple pounds and get rid of my stomach fat.. It's just a little.. I have some abs but still a pooch!! I want to make my legs smaller and get rid of the pooch! Any ideas on what i should do? Like some excercises? I eat pretty healthfully and i drink a lot of water. PLEASE HELP!!! (link)


Try laying on your back and putting your hands behind your back, Bend your knees and bring them to your chest do that about 15 times a day and you'll be fine ;)


BahaiMa22


Okay I have a physical on Monday (in 2 days) at my family's doctor. Every year I go for physicals so that I can play sports. I always have to pee in the cup. If the last time I smoked weed was yesterday (FRIDAY) .. do they even take the pee for a drug test? Or do they just check for other stuff that could be in there and not for drugs? I've been having to pee in a cup since I was little, so I'm pretty sure that peeing in a cup wasn't for just a drug test. Help.. I'm FREAKING out. (link)


Drink a lot of water and coffee to flush out your system.




Hope I helped a little.

-BahaiMa22


I am thirty years old and have never made anything higher than 13 an hour. I am currently going to school and I have also been married for 8 years. My wife is unhappy with her job, and so I am helping her get a better one. I am facing foreclosure, possible job loss, and was recently in an accident where I may be getting sued. Unless I finish school or get a higher paying job, I face divorce and worse. I have been contemplating suicide, and would like to know what would be the most painless, and easiest way to go about doing it. I don't want any religious answers because I am so far from God right now, he couldnt find me if he had a compass. I am tired of struggling, I just want rest. (link)


First take a deep breath, You could try applying for a state job. CNA, Janitor, etc. I am only 23 years old and I had a Janitor job for a local High School and made 13.50 an hour but that was just to start off with. No matter how bad things seem there is always a way out of it, but suicide is not the answer. Try talking to your wife about maybe also applying for a state job as well. If you don't want to do that, Try applying for another part time job to try and make the extra money. Please also seek help if you really need too.


-BahaiMa22


does anybody know a website that you can use to burn music on for free and you dont have to use money (link)


Sure do!


Limewire is the best! ;)



BahaiMa22


im 15 and i really need to make some money..i can't babysit because no one around here has kids..but ne other suggestions are very much appreciated=] (link)


Depends on what state you live in, You could try to get some working papers filled out to help you get a job seeing you are only 15 yrs old. However, If you do get working papers filled out you may want to start on a low end job like Mc Donalds, or Burger King. You could also maybe try dog walking? ;)


I hope I helped a little bit!

BahaiMa22


Well see, I've been smoking since grade 6..
and I've just recently quit and I used to be such a good athlete but that's now faded from smoking..

I was wondering if anyone here can tell me how I can gain more health in my body because I'd like to bring my dream and be more athletic..
I'm going into grade 9 and I didnt smoke that much until grade 8 and I would really like some help.

Thanx. (link)


Number one, You need to stop smoking set a goal for yourself. Try buying some gum, cinnomin, try the patch etc. Everytime you feel an urge for the ciggerette try going for a walk. Try avoiding people who do smoke by occupying yourself with something you love to do. Try working out, Go for a walk 3 times around the block. If you can do it without running out of breath then try speed walking, Then try jogging. etc Start off small steps and build your way up.

Hope I helped!

BahaiMa22


im on the birth control shot the depo one and i get a shot every 3 months and i havent gotten my period am i suppose to get it.is there something i can take to get it back.if you go on the pill will that bring your period back. (link)

The Depo Provera shot is supposed to lighten your period. You should exsperience spotting at least once a month. Spotting is basically a little bit of blood but not nessacerally a period. I was on the Depo Provera shot for 4 years and I never really got any spotting either neither a period I saw the doctor and he said it was very normal. Don't panic, Everything is fine. If you want to be reassured just make an appointment with your doctor. ;) If you switch to the pill you should get a period yes, However seeing it is a birth control it won't come so heavy.

Anymore questions feel free to ask!

-BahaiMa22


where in the mall can i find cute summer dresses and cover ups and stuff? not too expensive, thankss =) (link)


Depends on what stores are in the mall near you.



You could try..


Gap
Old Navy
American Eagle


Hope that helps!

BahaiMa22


At the end of august i'm flying from New York to Las Vegas, the flight is a good 6 hours.
I have this scrunching mousse from sunsilk that I want to bring, but I'm not sure if its safe.
It comes in a can, like an aerosol can, and it says "contents under pressure" and to not store it at temperatures above 120 degrees [F]
I know for sure it's not allowed in carry-ons, but if i put it in my checked luggage would it be fine?

Thanks. (link)


I wouldn't bring it on the plane, Only because nowadays almost anything toxic can't be borded. If I were you I would wait until arrival and maybe buy some mousse at a convience store.



-BahaiMa22


right now im overdosed. i probably wont even remember that i wrote this. but i took like 10 advil, some pepto bismol, an anitbacteria pill. i had an ingrown toenail taken out today, so ive had shots of like morephine and adreneline? soo i think im overdosed. i feel like passing out and my pulse is a bit fast. my cast fell off of my toenail and blood everywhere. my period started again today, horrible, horrible cramps. what do i take for alllll the pain???????? i cant take anymore, im already overdosed.
15/f/usa (link)


Go to the emergency room! To much medication in your system can be very serious.




-BahaiMa22


I'm not really sure how to start this so I'm just going to jump right in...

I was in a very abusive relationship for about 2 years, the guy hit me and would call me fat and just a lot of really bad things that I don't like to talk about.

Well, I got out of that relationship and it's been about a year and a half almost 2 years since then but I'm still having a very hard time with guys.

Every guy I've met (since the ex that abused me) stops talking to me. I always seem to scare them off I think. And I think it's because I'm very scared of guys and I tend to overreact over things because of it.

Any time a guy I meet does something my ex used to do I get scared because I'm so afraid of being adused again and being in a bad relationship like that so I freak out.

Like for instance the last guy I tried to talk to, he wanted me to "open up to him" because he said I seemed so sad and he wanted to know why. So I let my gaurd down and I told him SOME of the things that happened. Well, after I told the guy he started acting different before he left my house and he didn't call me when he got home, but he said he'd text me in the morning, well it was about 11am and he didnt text or call so I started texting him telling him how stupid i was for opening up to him and how he's acting different and he got really mad at me saying he was sleeping and how he doesn't understand how he was acting different. Well, we were fighting almost all day but I said I was sorry and things SEEMED fine because I thought we worked it out. But then after that he stopped talking to me... I tired texting him but he never responded and when I saw him he acted like he didn't know me so I started to do the same.

My question is, how do I stop scaring good guys off just because of what one bad guy did to me? I don't like people thinking I'm crazy, I'm not I'm just very scared and push people away. But I do just want to be liked and I'd like to be in a good relationship and I feel like just because of that one bad one it's ruined my chances and I feel like I don't even know how to act anymore around people. The abusive guy was my first bf, and I did sleep with him and not really by choice (not sure if that matters.) It was just very bad and my self esteem got very low. Does anyone have any suggestions? (sorry this is so long...) (link)


I was in a simular situation in my past relationships. It takes time to build confidence and to become comfortable again. Something tramatizing doesn't just go away overnight. Tell yourself that everything is going to be okay now and that you no longer need to be afraid. Try and build your confidence a little bit. An abusive relationship is like an injury it takes time to heal. If you feel like you need help healing then maybe you could try talking to a friend about how you feel and letting your guy friends know about how you feel and that you would like to take things slow.


Just relax, It will get better I promise.

-BahaiMa22


whats a good antivirus program?

hows webroot? (link)



Try Ad-Aware, It is a free program you scan the computer and it pretty much wipes out the viruses for you. You could also try the pay version which is 20 dollars a month I believe.



Good luck!

BahaiMa22


I always have real bad morning breath when I wake up. why is this, n how can I make it so that I don't get morning breath? (link)


lol, You really can't "avoid" morning breath. However, Just brush your teeth first thing in the morning and before you go to bed. ;)


-Bahaima22


I am a 25 year old woman who for the past year has been involved with a married man. He is 20 years older then me and has 2 kids...both of them in their teenage years. He has been married to his wife for 20 years. Our affair started off drunken sex and now its I love you, I wish I could be with you. I do have very strong feelings for him and I believe he has the same for me. He says his wife is pulling away from him and he feels like she wants someone different, as does he. He says that once his youngest kid goes off to collage he really thinks things between him and his wife will end and that the only reason he believes they are still together is the kids. I don't know what to think.. Can there ever be a future between us? Is he using me for my body? Is he seeing other girls too? Also, I'm still very young, I want children and marriage. He has already done all that, will he be willing to do it again? I'm just very confused..And I know I brought this on myself but please any advise would be great!! (link)


In all honesty, I will say you are playing with fire.

Anyway, There very well could be a future between the two of you. However, Like the last person said he is a married man cheating on his wife of 20 years for another woman and not to mention he didn't (seem) to give any thought to how it would effect his children.Also, Many men who cheat once seem to always cheat again and not to be offensive but he could also be taking advantage of you for you're body.


Give it a second thought, Go with your gut feeling however please take precaution.

Good luck!

BahaiMa22 (23/F)


My golden retriever had a sebaceous cyst on her back, near the top of her tail. It burst and scabbed over. After a few days the scab was just matted to her fur and was hanging off so I cut it. Then the cyst filled up and burst again, and then scabbed over. She had a cyst on her back leg that burst and scabbed over, and she just licked the scab off and it healed. Since this one's on her back she can't lick it but it doesn't seem to bother her. A piece of the scab fell off a few weeks ago and started to bleed, so I don't want to try to take it off. The cyst is starting to fill up again. Is there a way to get the scab off and keep the cyst from coming back besides having a vet remove it? (link)
Treatments for sebaceous cysts
Sebaceous cysts most often disapear on their own and are not dangerous. Occasionally, they may become inflamed and tender. Sometimes sebaceous cysts grow large that they may interfere with your everyday life. When this happens, surgical removal in your health care provider's office may be necessary. Small inflamed cysts can often be treated by injection of steroid medications or with antibiotics.
Complications of sebaceous cysts
Sebaceous cysts may occasionally become infected and form into painful abscesses. It is important when sebaceous cysts are surgically removed that the entire sac is excised to help prevent a recurrence. However, it's important to note that sebaceous cyst recurrence in not unusual.
Remember to consult your health care provider anytime you notice any type of growth, bump, or lump on your body. Although sebaceous cysts are not dangerous, your doctor should examine you to ensure that skin cancer is not present.


My parents made a move this summer and it put ALOT of stress on me. Ive gained alot of weight under my arms, and on my stomach. What can I do to get it off. I know workout but what kind of workout. (link)


Try Arobics.


-BahaiMa22


I first started feeling weird sensations just 3-4 days after having sex. It started out as a very sharp pain in my lower back (it felt like period cramps, however it wasn't my period), and that lasted a few days. Then I started feeling like I was going to puke, and that happens at various times of the day. And I also start to feel nauseous while driving in the car. The smell of food just makes me sick.


It isn't time for me to get my period yet, so I can't predict it by that.

Answer seriously, and I'll rate 5's

`thanks (link)
Many women begin noticing slight symptoms within a day or two of implantation, which usually occurs 7-10 days after conception (not necessarily the same as 7-10 days after sex!). The pregnancy hormone, HCG, is not present in the bloodstream until after implantation, and can be detected by an early home pregnancy test as soon as 10 days past ovulation if pregnancy has occurred. After implantation, some women begin to feel the typical signs of early pregnancy -- sore breasts, slight nausea, etc.

Hope that helps!

-BahaiMa22


Hi,
I wanted to ask is there any way to decrease the length of my period, so shorten it? Are there any natural ways? nothing like pills or birth control but other stuff? And does excercise make it last longer or shorter?
Thanks a lot everyone and for all your help in advance.
M.
xxx (link)


I don't believe there is anyway to shorten the period. However, If it is heavy and painful some birth control pills will lighten it and make it less painful. However, I would suggest seeing a doctor if that is the case.



Good Luck!

-BahaiMa22


so im going away to college in a few days.
my one question is...what should i pack everything in? i have 2 laundry basket type things that im bringing some stuff in...but what else?

and for those of you that have been to college....if you can think of any little things that i might not think to pack...that would be great :) (link)

Suitcases are the best things for traveling yet alone college. Don't forget to pack a journal..The college years are always the best along with so many unforgetful memories. ;)


Best of luck during college years.

-BahaiMa22




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