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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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around how much would it cost to get a diamond ring fixed. There are 4 diamonds missing and it's a little too small. My Grammys boyfriend gave it to me before he died and that's all I have left from him. Please help! :)
By the way I'm a 13 yearold girl.

That is a really hard question to answer as it depends on a number of factors. Factors as to the size and quality of the replacement diamond you choose. The cost to repair the setting and any other work that may be required.

Rather than guess at the cost most jewellers will give you a free estimate of the cost to repair. You can keep the cost down by replacing the diamonds with other stones that are less costly and just as pretty. Here again a good jeweler will be more helpful that I believe any of us can be.

My suggestion would be that you ask mom or dad to go with you to a local mall. Visit one of the more well known Jewelers in the Mall and ask for their suggestions and estimate in repairing the ring.

where can i find jobs for 13 year olds?

Most states and Federal law prohibit underage child labor. You have to be at least 16 years of age to hold any type of real wage earning job. To apply and hold these jobs most states require you obtain working papers from your school. These papers are signed by you and your employer and outline the hours you are allowed to work as well as the total number of hours a week that you are allowed to work, then returned to your school.

These laws, called "Child Labor Laws", are there to protect you. Protect you so that you may attend school and get the education you need to to go out in the world and exists as a functioning adult. They are NOT their to punish you.

The jobs that you can do without working papers are the normal odd jobs teenagers do. Such as baby sitting, lawn mowing, house cleaning and generally helping older adults with chores around the house.

Ok so today I had a girls day with my sister in law. We're both 18 so she lives with her parents. Well we were doing our nails and I was the one putting stuff on the table and I tried to be sure that I didnt mess up the table. Well, it turns out something actually got on the table and it won't come off. Her mom and step dad were furious thinking it was her. She didnt tell them it was me, but they want her to pay for a whole new table. I want to confess but I don't want my new mother and father in law hating me already but I also feel like it's my responsibility to pay for a new table especially since isn't wasn't her fault! Do I just give her the money that I would owe or full out just tell her parents?

As the saying goes:"Confession is good for the Soul."

I feel if I were in your in-laws position and you were to come to me and say It was you and not their daughter who messed up their table. Any bad feelingsI may have about you, those feelings or opinion may actually raise some in my eyes, especially if the damage was something you two didn't notice and were not trying to hide.

It's hard to say what someone will think, say or do. Most people admire honesty. Your in-laws will most likely admire your honesty for coming forward and telling them that the damage is actually your fault and offering to pay for the damages.

Before buying a entire new table, if the table is a wooden table, try calling a furniture re-finisher. These people can work magic with spot repairs and the cost is minimal compared to purchasing a new table. If your in-laws are not happy with the repair you can then buy a new table.

I'm not a lesbian cause I like guys and I'm not bi, but if I see 2 girls kissing YouTube or something it like turns me on a little I guess? I would never start kissing one of my friends that's a girl though. Never. Maybe if I didn't no her but I like a boy and wanna kiss him so what's wrong with me. I'm a 13 yearold girl.

What you are is a young women in her early years of puberty who is trying to discover her sexuality. If seeing two girls kissing turns you on a bit it does not indicate you are bi, bi-curious or a lesbian. You are an explorer and there is noting wrong with exploring as long as you stop well short of actual intercourse with a boy.

OKay so I wont take long I am senior and in the 12th grade and there is this new admission in my school he is in the 11th grade
he is cute and i kinda want to get to know him
but the problem is i am a senior.. and it would be really weird just walking upto him and saying HIIII and conversing
that sort of stuff cant happen
i mean you know i am fairly popular in school and my friends notice. and i know the 11th grade people quite well
and i dont want stupid stuff going around school
but
this guy is really cute and i really think he might just turn out to be my type
but i dont know how i get to know him!!!!!!!

To be honest I see nothing wrong with going up to a new person in school an introducing yourself and offering to show them around. What if the grade difference was the other way around. Would that make it more socially acceptable.

Social acceptability be damned, it is just plain courtesy to offer to help a new person get comfortable in their new surroundings. In many schools upperclassmen are asked to do this for an underclassmen. You say you know many 11th graders so it will be easy for you to introduce him to people around school. If by chance there is a chemistry between you two, well that's an added benefit.

Being a good citizen and helping a fellow student get comfortable with a new school has its own rewards. As for what others think; that is really their problem not yours. He is probably feeling bad enough having to leaving his friends behind. You will be a lifeboat that might just save him from himself.

i want general inf. about concord plane including its history and description.

There is way to much detailed information on the Concord to supply in the space available here. I suggest you take the time and use available search engines to do a detailed search on the Concord.

The Concord was a plane, that like the space shuttle was ahead of its time. The computer in your cell phone has more computing power than the computers on the concord and it was designed the old fashion way with slide rules and hand drawings.

Concord was a joint venture between the British and French Aerospace industries. The First Flights occurred in March and April of 1969 with passenger service beginning almost 8 years later. Only 12 Concords were ever built. Concords down fall was of course the sonic boom created by the plane and the fact that shortly after the first flight the world oil market price started rising at unprecedented rates.

The airlines that had made tentative commitments for the plane withdrew there offers. The builders of the plane in the end sold the planes to Air France and British Airways at fire sale prices.

A beautiful airplane had few airports that would accept them and were very costly to operate. In the end a freak accident would spell the end for Concord after 40 years of accident free service.

The history channel had a very good program on Concord, it is possible the program is available from the station on DVD.

I am a 19 year old white girl. While having sex, I tend to bleed alot. Is that normal?

Bleeding during sex is not considered normal. You should check in with a gynecologist to find out why this is happening to you.

If I jerk of before sex will that help in making me last longer when I recover

There are a number of reasons for being fast on the trigger without being considered a premature ejaculater. Prolong foreplay could be a reason. Plain sexual tension could be another.

Your suggestion to masturbate prior to sexual intercourse has been known to help. You could even make this part of foreplay. Then while your recovering you can stimulate your partner and by the time your ready again she should be ready for you to enter her.

18/f

I'm booking a hotel room for me and my boyfriend in the next few weeks. The only problem is that i've never booked a hotel room before. I went on the hotel website and tried to book it, but it said i had to put credit card information on it. Well i do have a debit card (is that the same as credit card?) but my parents get the bills so they see what I buy. They don't know about me staying in the hotel, so I can't use my debit card to pay, otherwise it will show up on the bills and my parents will find out.

Is there any way I can pay without a debit card? Maybe cash? Or will they accept someone else's credit card? like if I used my friends card and then just paid her the same amount except in cash? Or what about gift cards?? what if I bought myself a gift card using cash, and then paid with a gift card? would that work? would i do online or telephone reservation for that?

HELPPP!!!!

The purpose of the credit card is so they will hold the room past 6PM on the day of arrival. If you fail to show up they then bill the credit card for the first nights stay. Once you get to the hotel they only need the credit card to guarantee payment. When you check in you tell the desk clerk not to finalize you bill prior to check out that you will be paying by another method.

The credit card guarantee to hold the room does not appear on any statement. Allows you can use someone else's credit card to hold a room on a reservation. Under billing information use the card holders information.

I think i might be pregnant, im only 14 & im scared, but i dont know how to tell my family?

Okay as a parent I can tell you that my first reaction is going to be anger. That would only last a few minutes. I would then calm down and talk with you about what your alternatives are. The earlier you tell me you are pregnant or think you are pregnant the better I am able to help you.

What I am saying is that you have to tell your parents sooner or later. At some point you are not going to be able to hide the truth from them. It is better to tell them the truth now while you can talk with them about your alternatives.

At your present age they cannot force you to have an abortion against your will and they cannot stop you from having one either, depending on any restrictions in the state you live in. Your parents can not force you to give the baby up for adaption or force you to keep the baby. These are choices you have to make.

As a parent what I can do is help you make these choices. Depending on the choice you make I can then work with you to make your choice happen.

Should you decide to keep the baby you would need to see a lawyer to have papers drawn up making sure that the boy and his parent meet his responsibilities towards this child and that these responsibilities are ordered by the courts. This is your responsibility as the mother to see to it that the babies father does not walk away from his financial responsibilities. That is my responsibility as your parent should you choose to keep the baby.

That is just one reason why it is important to tell your parents now. Yes as I said mom and dad may get mad at first. Can you blame them. Once they get over the shock and their initial anger they will be ready to help you do what is in yours and the baby's best interest.

So tell your parents now. How you tell them is just as you told us. "Mom, Dad I think I'm pregnant."

im only 13, i have cut myself over 10 times on the legs, i do when i get angry. i dont know how to get help and i am suicidal. when i figure out what pills to take to put myself to sleep and never wake up than i will take them. does anyone have suggestions to pills to take or how to tell my parents?

You cut yourself to relieve stress and inner pain which doesn't really work, does it. What you are going through is most likely teenage depression brought on by a hormonal imbalance the primary cause of which is puberty.

When I was your age doctors called this a phase that we would grow out of and for the most part they were correct. Today doctors know this for what it truly is and can help you with hormone replacements while your body works to bring balance to itself.

The hormone imbalance causes depression which also can be helped with the hormone replacement therapy and talk therapy with a good therapist to find out what the stressors are that are causing you to want to cut yourself. Talk therapy together with medication to find the cause of your depression can be dealt with and you will see a light at the end of the tunnel. Life will be much better than what you see today.

How do you tell your parents: You could simply say to them what you told us; That you feel bad, that you are hurting yourself and you need to see a doctor.

Never ever be afraid to tell your parents when something is bothering you or you are not feeling well. It does not matter what is wrong, be it of a particular women's nature or something else. As parents our primary responsibility is to your health and safety. There is nothing about you or that you have done or could do that we have not done ourselves or know about.

I know you have heard this before, though it is worth repeating. We were once your age. There is nothing new under the sun. Meaning whatever you do we have most likely done, know someone who did it or know about it and this includes sex as well. So please don't be afraid to go to your parents when you have questions or something is wrong. They are your best source for answers and help.

So, my spring semester as a freshman in college, I took intro to stats 1. I failed the class. I thought it was a combination of things, like it being my first year and the class was too hard, not prepared enough for the class, couldn't understand the teacher's accent. So, I let it go. Took it again and used a forgiveness policy we have. I got back the grade for the first test and it was like a 50 something. So I said, I BETTER drop it so I don't fail again. So, I decided to take it now over the summer so I would do better. It's the only class I'm taking. So, I felt SUPER confident about the test. I knew I had passed. I looked at my grade and I saw 75. Like, I know I passed. But, I thought I was going to get a 90, at least. I feel so stupid. I just want to pass this class with AT LEAST a B. I'm not expecting to get an A by any means. But, I need to take this class for my major and I'm just worried. Right now I have an 81% because we had a quiz earlier on and that's my grade in the class. I'd like to keep it that way. I'm just really worried. So, I have 2 questions:

1) can you give me any tips as to doing good in stats. I know, study. obviously. but, anything else? I am going to tutoring and all of that. Just anything you think might be useful. Not looking for anything in particular.
2) I have to take stats II as a pre-requisite for 2 other classes (that don't have to do with statistics, really. They have to do more with conducting experiments. So, you need the BASIC knowledge of stats, but you don't need to be a super stats genius. Do you think I should take stats II in the Fall, now that it is fresh in my mind? Or do you think I should take it in the Spring, and take a breather from it?

Thoughts and opinions are appreciated. Thank you xoxo

Statistics are probably the hardest thing to master. For a number of years I have been my Fire Companies statistician. One would think this would be a simple matter of breaking the calls down by type and then coming up with the percentage of calls based on the overall volume.

That is what I thought. Some how my stats and the departments stats have never agreed. Why? Simple, we used different databases. I used a database formulated out of the station logbook which should be the same as the database the department used, which I did not have access too. It wasn't, so not one of our statistics matched.

This does not mean one of us was wrong and the other was right. What it means and the reason I'm telling you this is statistics are always only as good as the data used. Some of the data is judgemental as is the case with our fire calls. Not all fire calls are what we consider working fires. We may log a call as street alarm non-working, and the department might log the same call as a box alarm working fire. Same call two different statistical data entries. This is real world problems with many statistical reports.

Why have I told you this. TO back up my answer to question two. Real world problems aside I believe it is better to take StatsII in the fall while you have the theory fresh in your mind, before any other classes can confuse the theory.

As for question one: Your doing all the right things. The only thing I can suggest is to relax a bit. Obsessing can do just as much harm as failing to study maybe more.

So, my boyfriend has had an issue with escaping into gaming and porn. It got so bad at one point, that he would turn me down on a fairly regular basis, but was jerking off daily at work in the bathroom.

We had a lot of fights/tears over this, I asked him to cut back and every time he said he would, but if I looked at his phone, he hadnt. He told me I can check any time, but of course I'm sure he can edit his history. He has always told me he would never edit his history.

Recently, we had such a huge fight over all of this, to the point that I was very upset and sick about all of this, and wondering whether I could live this way. He promised that he would do his best to stay away, that he would massively cut back.

Just the other night, he volunteered straight up that he "cant remember the last time he masturbated". And I havent checked his phone, or computer, so I wouldnt know, as I have been trying to trust in what he says and not focus on that.

Today, I come home from work, and while we usually spend the mornings together, he had a whole hour and a half without me. So as he had said I could, I opened up the computer.

Unfortunately for him, he wasnt smart enough to realize that if you edit your internet history, you should probably close the history tab, and click "done editing history". So its google chrome, so I immediately click "new tab" and "recently closed" and sure enough, he'd edited out looking at porn.

You know, I expected him to cut back, not become a nun. He knows that. If he's now editing though, I cant trust he's even cutting back, just that he's lying to me and humoring me. I fear if I asked over the next couple days, I would get a similar response of not remembering the last time he did it, or some such nonsense.

My question is this. Am I just supposed to find a way to accept it? I'm having a lot of trouble with this. I love him, I want to be with him, but I have a real issue with the way porn has affected our relationship, and want it at least mostly out of the equation, at least for a while. But now he's editing his history and still looking.

Do I accept it, or keep fighting? Is there even any point in fighting something when he can hide his tracks whenever he wants? I cant trust that he wont edit it, at this point.

I like the advice doctortammy gave you. It may not be that you are not satisfying your man sexually. It may just be that he gets a different type of release from masturbation that you cannot get from intercourse.

Have you ever thought of just coming into the bedroom one night in your most sexy outfit and saying. Just lay back and let me please you tonight. Then you can take care of him with a nice long handjob or combine a handjob with oral sex.

When my wife and I first got married she told me I could look at the menu but I could not reorder. She knew and knows men like to look at women. There were even times she would point out women on the street saying something like, "would you look at the chest on that women" or "what would you give to have her in our bed." Of course sharing our bed with someone has never happened but has led to many fantasies and some great sex.

She has done the same with porn. She even indulges with me. Watching DVDs with me which always leads to great sex, trying new positions we see on the DVD and even her consenting to trying things she never thought she would ever consent to.

Their is nothing wrong with porn in its proper prospective. It does not always mean you are not loved by your boyfriend or that you are deficient in anyway in the bedroom. Men are just wired differently then women are. Today it is porn on the Internet. In your fathers day it was Playboy and Hustler magazines. Nothing has changed since you were a little girl other than the delivery method.

As DoktorTammy suggested talk with your boyfriend and engage with him in some of his porn viewing. You will be surprised at what some of the soft porn can supply in the way of titillation for both of you. I'll even suggest that this is something you could discuss with mom and ask how she handled it with dad. If your old enough to be living with your boy friend then this type of conversation is one you could have with your mother. I'm sure she is aware that you and your boyfriend are sleeping together.

I recently began to consider attending a school for Massage Therapy. I would like to know approximately how long it may take (at a minimum and a maximum)to become certified and licensed as a Massage Therapist. If it helps, I live in the Chicago-Land area.

My research found that it depends on the school chosen; anywhere from 7 to 10 months. Below is a list of websites I found when I did a search on yahoo. Look at the different school, attend an open house and find the school that is right for you.

http://search.yahoo.com/search;_ylt=A0oG7lJR.SJOnjgApoZXNyoA?ei=UTF-8&fr=yfp-t-892&p2P Chicagoland+message+therapy+schools&fr2=sp-qrw-orig-top&norw=1

how do i over come the fear of cutting myself for the first time?

You don't over come it. The fact that you feel you want too says you have something that you feel is very disturbing to you. You need to talk with someone about it. This person could be your parents, another trusted adult, or your doctor.

If you are attending school talk to a teacher or guidance counselor. If this is something you can absolutely not talk to your mother and father about and there is no one else that you feel you can talk to then, if you live in the USA, pick up the phone and dial 911 and talk to the call taker. Tell the called taker your wanting to cut yourself. They will send the proper help to you.

If you live in another country and there is no one to talk to please call the emergency number for where you live.

What you are thinking of doing is very serious and very, very dangerous. If you cut yourself in the wrong place you could bleed out before help arrives. Please talk to someone or call for help.

My mom told me that if you let someone play with your boobs, that the tingling feelig keeps them from growing. Is this true?

14/f

What your mom has told you is called an old wives' tale, designed to keep you from doing something. Mothers tell boys not to play with themselves or they will go blind and or have hair grow in the palm of their hands. Another wives tale designed to keep a child from doing something that can lead to something else.

You mother does not want you or someone else playing with your breasts for fear that the pleasure you receive will cause you to seek further pleasure and possibly cause a problem you don't want.

While I agree with the desire your mother has I would prefer to tell you it is okay to explore and get comfortable with your own body. At your age it is not okay and you should not let boys touch you in any intimate places. Stick to kissing and hugging for know with boys for now. You are way to young for anything more than that.

what do guys really and truthfully look for in a girl???

I do not think much has changed in the years since I was your age. There are two things you need to know about boys. In general they are not what they assert themselves to be in a group of their friends. Most boys are are shy and gentle around girls.

In general a guy does not like girls who pretend to be something that they are not. They like girls who may have some similar interests as they have. They like warm loving girls. While all boys are looking for sex, this does not mean they are looking for girls that have a reputation for being free and easy.

Basically a boy is just like a girl when he is looking for someone to date. The same basic characteristics that you are looking for are what they are looking for. Just don't judge them by what you see at school around a group of their friends. Get to know him one on one someplace like the library before you decide if he is for you.

im 13 female and my boobs hurt....but not growing hurt...everytime i grab them it hurts and i dont even grab them hard......is this normal...whats happening??? im confused!!!!!

Being a man I can't really advise you on this subject, although I do agree with what the others have written. If you have not yet gotten your first period this could be signs your about to have your first period.

Being a parent and if you will allow me I would like to give you some advice. Questions such as the one you have written to us and any other question concerning puberty and female issues are best answered by your mother.

There is nothing about puberty or female issues to be embarrassed about. You mom has gone through it all and believe it or not is equipped just as you are. She can make things easier for you. She can tell you when something is normal or when something needs to be seen by a doctor. Your father too knows all about what your going through. As men we may not know what it feel like but we are married to women and we are well aware of the difference in the make up of our bodies and how the women's bodies work. The same is true of moms for boys bodies.

The one thing you are pretty much guaranteed in going to mom or dad with this type of question is getting the right answer. Not that anyone here would purposely give you the wrong answer. Many of us base or answer on our own experiences and each of us are different. Just because symptoms are the same does mean the diagnoses or treatment will be the same.

hey, so i've known this girl since 1st grade we have always been very close, bestfriends. but then when i hit beginnging of 6th grade i was going through some trauma in my life, only later did i realize what was happening, that i was depressed, and only later, exactly a year later did i see a therapist. Family problems. horrible family problems. I got worse. i slit my wrists at one point. actually a year and half into it. thats when it all hit me. and i drank some and smoked a little. And would have meltdowns, and panick attacks. It was pretty bad. i was losing friends. I was losing respect. i was losing the will to live. I was losing to see the beauty in life, but to see the uglynes curupt the world. it was all very hard to handle at such a young age. and i think i took it worst out of my family. i am currently still with the same therapist. it has helped me alot. through the course of a year, gradually i have changed. And change is always hard, so is growth. So let me be clear and honest and hopefully you will take the time to read the rest of this. Well up until this big divorce of my parents, it was breaking up my family as well, as to why it was so horrible.Anyway up until that point that it had happened, i had always been the happy fun, funny, outragoues loyal friend, and didnt give a f*** what you thought about me. No, i wasnt a bully, i was a great friend to my friends, and an entertainer at that. i always have been. But i would not let anyone tear me down or cross me, i was confident but not cocky, stable but not an overachiever, you get it, just a fun person to want to be around, popular,etc. So my bff Kara and i were great friends. and Kara and Ann were bffs too, so were just the perfect trio. It was so much fun, and great having best friends i could rely on, and have fun with. Back then i never looked at it twice, not saying i took it for granted, but never really looked at it under a microscope. So as i said my depression was from beginning of 6 grade to end of 7th grade. i am going into eighth grade soon. So i became this keep to myself. shut off from the world, shallow person. for a long time. It had hit so dramatically because i was always the kid growing up with a big family and love, and now this; this just destroyed me, and my rep. I beat myslef down. Because i fell in the populatry group. self-esteem was a big part of me, an di was losing it under my feet. And worst of all was that i didnt even see my best friend slipping away. We are currently friends but not like we were before, nothing like that. And so theres this girl Taylor, and she was very much like me, as i described. only diference is that she is very bossy and controlling and shit. you'd think we'd have this amazing friendship or bond,wrong. We've had some complications in the past, i wanted to move past it, so i said i was sorry for anything i did, we moved on. But she cant seem to get past it, Fuck it, fuck her, i say im not waiting around the clock for her to be my friend. I dont need her. So basically she saw me and kara were not as close, and she jumped on it. She became the new me between her and kara and ann. It was devastating, if i had been seeing a therapist longer i probly would have been more concerned about my friends than my split family at the time. But now they are all best friends. I want to have a best friend again. I want to be there for her and vise versa. I know we went throught phases this year but i defintily dont think it was permanent. She is used to me being my funny self and when she didnt see that, she had a new friend. i know it sounds bad, but she is a really good person. she is still my friend, but i need her, she has changed but not drastically like me, but shes not mean or anything. So anyway my therapist said call her you'll never know if you dont call her. So she changed phones. I asked her a couple weeks ago on chat if she changed numbers. she said yes, and gave me another number. The voicemail went to a regualr answering machine. I called this other one this girl gave me, it was some kid's, so thats not it. I tryed her old one, and it rang and rang, but went to HER voicemail with her name and everything. I left several messages a few weeks ago, like everyother day, and texted her. she never repsonded. So whats happening is she just blowing me off or did she really changed numbers? so i figured i dont just want to wait around, so my therapist posting something on her fb wall, so she'll see it. i did and basically said call me tonight or tomorrow. so i mean hopefully she'll call me back. I dont know if its because of taylor that she saying dont call her back, i dont think that'd be the case. and i dont think shes on vacation. i just want to tell her i have changed and i am not JUST their yet but i am a work in progress and will get back to my happy place soon, im determined. and i want to get her back, shes my friend, and no one is gonna take her away from me, i say its time for taylor to get a taste of her own med and back off. i was too depressed to defend myself. And now that im back im ready to get her back. and hopefuly she'll get the memo. Soooo what do you think about the phone calls, and the friendship, and whats going on here? it would make me so happy to tell what i said before, nothing negative just positive and be able to have the amazing chemistry and bond and sisterly love for one another. i realze she really does mean something to me. And i need your help and opinion on the situation. Write as much as you can. I know its baby steps and all and i am one to jump the gun but i am willing to do anything; because i realized all you need is love and friendship in your lifetime. and i am young but i very mature for my age and i know what i want. i want to show her this though i am also that girl she once knew that knows how to have a good time. Because she hasnt seen me happy in a long time. whats the best thing to do here? and dont say move on or she isnt a good friend. not happeining! thanksssss sooo muchhh!

I have been where you are to a certain degree. The only difference between you and me is that I'm an adult close to retirement age and your a teenager. Friendships are different. Teenagers, while we look at and speak of them as young adults, are in many ways still children. Children turn away from what they don't understand. Many teenagers have yet to gain the maturity to understand what you have been through.

When I started to understand what I was going through and what the cause(s) were I came up with my version of the AA 12 step program. High on the list was apologizing to those that I may have hurt while I was in a bad place. If any of my friends showed a sincere interest in the why and the what of my problem I had a short sort of outline to give them. Then I would ask if we could WORK AT REBUILDING OUR FRIENDSHIP.

For those that just said, "well I'm glad your feeling better. I thanked them for their good wishes and moved on. Not everyone, even adults fully understand and most do not understand the what and how of depression. Some may ask how this happens. When and if this happens you have the opportunity to educate. Educating sets aside the misunderstandings people have about depression which is the biggest battle those that suffer from depression have.

I cannot tell you how your BFF will react if and when you have the opportunity to speak with her. When you do I suggest you start as I did and still do, that being with an apology if you have hurt her. Ask if she will allow you to explain a little of what has been going on in your life to cause the changes she has seen. Should she say no, the again apologize for any hurt you brought on her and thank her for speaking with you. Then give her sometime to think about your apology. Your going to shock her some when you do. I fairly certain given her age she is not going to know how to react and her reaction is going to be negative if at all.

When you do apologize you start with. "bff I want to apologize for any hurt I may have caused you. I'm sure you noticed some big changes in me in the past couple of years. There are reasons for this that to be honest were not in my control and if you want to hear it I will tell you a little about what life has been for me during this time."

Talk this over with your therapist and see if your therapist agrees this may be a good approach.

I've had very bad breath for as long as I can remember(LONG time!!)...I brush twice a day and floss once. I also scrape my tongue but my tongue is all white and when I scrape I can't seem to get all the white to ever come out? Everywhere I go I always have gum in my mouth cuz I know it smells bad. But my bf wants to make out with me and I'm afraid he will smell or even taste the bad breath please help!! I'm to afraid to tell my dentist:(

When it comes to talking to your doctors, which includes your Dentist you need to tell them everything that concerns you or is bothering you medically. This is the only way a doctor can help you.

If you are over the age of 14 you have medical confidentiality, which means none of your doctors can discuss any medical condition with your parents, or anyone else, without your written permission. This is by law and contained in a law called HIPPA.

So if your concern has to do with your parents knowing something you do not want them to know; this generally has to do with something of a sexual nature, then you have nothing to worry about.

There are any number of reasons for bad breath. Most if not all are easily corrected. To do so you need to see the proper doctor and have the situation taken care of.

One final note: When it comes to medical conditions such as this and most all others: I do not believe hiding them from your parents is in your best interest. While you may have the right by law, another law says your parents are responsible for your health and safety until your at least 18. While they may not be happy with the reason for you medical condition, they are older and more experienced then you are which makes them better prepared to deal with whatever medical condition is bothering you.

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