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If im pregnant how do I tell my family?
I think i might be pregnant, im only 14 & im scared, but i dont know how to tell my family?
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I feel the first person who should be the one to know is your mother. She is the one person who is going to get you through this. Don't avoid her and don't beat around the bush about the subject. Tell her straight out about it, and be honest. She will respect you for honesty, but she will be disappointed. Tell her how you feel and don't be afraid because she is your mother, and when you are in need of help go to her! If your mom isn't going to help you find another family member, and go to a clinic to get a test. I suggest going and getting the test first. Good luck! And hopefully you're not pregnant. God bless you.
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First, I'd make sure you ARE pregnant. Second, if you are, I'd tell your mom first and explain how it happened. Third, I was scared when I was pregnant too (I was only 12!) But it turned out to be fine. But since your under aged, as for if you ARE pregnant, the person you slept with is more then likely to go to jail for sexual abuse and/or rape. Therefore even if you were willing, you were still under aged. Minimum years is 5.
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Personally, I would first contact a family member I trust who wouldn't judge me a grandparent or maybe a very close family friend/aunt whoever, who will be able to talk to your family for you, that way you avoid the initial anger, and once your parents have calmed down they will be able to help, but the choices are your's and be prepared for a bit of conflict, it might be worth it to just buy a pregnancy test before hand to make sure you are, and if you are all safe learn the lesson and go on birth control/make him wear condoms :) I wish you luck
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Okay as a parent I can tell you that my first reaction is going to be anger. That would only last a few minutes. I would then calm down and talk with you about what your alternatives are. The earlier you tell me you are pregnant or think you are pregnant the better I am able to help you.
What I am saying is that you have to tell your parents sooner or later. At some point you are not going to be able to hide the truth from them. It is better to tell them the truth now while you can talk with them about your alternatives.
At your present age they cannot force you to have an abortion against your will and they cannot stop you from having one either, depending on any restrictions in the state you live in. Your parents can not force you to give the baby up for adaption or force you to keep the baby. These are choices you have to make.
As a parent what I can do is help you make these choices. Depending on the choice you make I can then work with you to make your choice happen.
Should you decide to keep the baby you would need to see a lawyer to have papers drawn up making sure that the boy and his parent meet his responsibilities towards this child and that these responsibilities are ordered by the courts. This is your responsibility as the mother to see to it that the babies father does not walk away from his financial responsibilities. That is my responsibility as your parent should you choose to keep the baby.
That is just one reason why it is important to tell your parents now. Yes as I said mom and dad may get mad at first. Can you blame them. Once they get over the shock and their initial anger they will be ready to help you do what is in yours and the baby's best interest.
So tell your parents now. How you tell them is just as you told us. "Mom, Dad I think I'm pregnant."
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Tell them the truth. Just sit down with them and explain everything. Sure they'll be in shock but it's best they know the truth so they can help you out more. Trust and having faith in yourself is key here. Trust them and have faith that you can tell them.
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Just sit them down and tell them its better they here it from you then someone else later and also better if they know about it now so they can help you throughout your pregnancy trust me its the best way to handle this situation although they may be upset at first they will understand and help you because at the end of the day there your family and they love you. :)
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