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Should I let her take the heat?
Ok so today I had a girls day with my sister in law. We're both 18 so she lives with her parents. Well we were doing our nails and I was the one putting stuff on the table and I tried to be sure that I didnt mess up the table. Well, it turns out something actually got on the table and it won't come off. Her mom and step dad were furious thinking it was her. She didnt tell them it was me, but they want her to pay for a whole new table. I want to confess but I don't want my new mother and father in law hating me already but I also feel like it's my responsibility to pay for a new table especially since isn't wasn't her fault! Do I just give her the money that I would owe or full out just tell her parents?
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You need to tell them that you are the one who did it. She is getting in trouble for something she didnt do. They wont hate you for being honest. And if you pay for it everything should be okay. You can get nail polish remover too and try to get it off. Good luck.
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As the saying goes:"Confession is good for the Soul."
I feel if I were in your in-laws position and you were to come to me and say It was you and not their daughter who messed up their table. Any bad feelingsI may have about you, those feelings or opinion may actually raise some in my eyes, especially if the damage was something you two didn't notice and were not trying to hide.
It's hard to say what someone will think, say or do. Most people admire honesty. Your in-laws will most likely admire your honesty for coming forward and telling them that the damage is actually your fault and offering to pay for the damages.
Before buying a entire new table, if the table is a wooden table, try calling a furniture re-finisher. These people can work magic with spot repairs and the cost is minimal compared to purchasing a new table. If your in-laws are not happy with the repair you can then buy a new table.
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If I were you, i'd be honest with them and tell them you did it.
Think about it this way.. what's worse? Them finding out you messed up the table? or them finding out you lied to them?
If I were the parents, I would think lying to them is MUCH worse than messing up a silly table. If they find out you lied or that you kept it a secret from them, they are going to wonder "hmm she might keep more secrets from us in the future" and then there goes your trust out the window.
You want them to trust you, so tell them the truth. You also want your new sister in law to appreciate you. I love the cliche saying that goes "i scratch your back, you scratch mine". If you take the heat for this problem.. she will be so thankful and in the future she might do something nice for you. If the situation were reversed, like she messed up the table but the parents thought it was you, how would you feel?? wouldn't you want her to confess the truth?
Plus, you're 18 which is legally an adult. Adults need to be mature enough to step in and tell the truth, not hide from it. You want them to respect and trust you? Then tell them the truth.
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