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My bf of 5 months is kind of difficult to date. I'm not saying I dont have problems cause everyone does but heres the deal.. he's the eccentric type, 'punk style'. He cares about his appearance more than his relationship, and would rather play video games than cuddle with his gf. He tells me he's not into being romantic, though he does buy me flowers the odd time, holds my hand in public and kisses me on the neck when having sex. I find that I'm the one always making the plans to hang out, text first, take time off my schedule etc. I hate that I am the one to always initiate things because it makes me feel like he doesn't care... or try. And when I confront him about these things, he tells me everythings fine and that he doesn't want to end up breaking up with me. He tells me I should 'relax' I guess, but I feel like I cant cuz I feel like our relationship isn't stable anymore and he knows it. So I guess my questions are: how can I fix this 'distance' I feel between us, how can I get him to be more involved in us without making it sound like he isnt trying? And how do i know he isnt interested in someone else? A little background info: I'm 21, he's 24. He's been cheated on in the past. I know he tells his friends good and bad things about me. He has some adhd and a bit of attention deficit disorder (he told me). He's supposed to take meds but told me they make him 'have no feelings' so he doesn't. Hence his 'eccentric' personality. He works hard and has good intentions, but I just feel like he doesn't care about me as his 'gf' even though he says he loves me... help?
Since you mention ADHD, i will say that in comparison, My son in law has it. And he has chosen to not take meds. It does not prevent him from being romantic and creative sexually, or trying to surprise her with things. I don't know if non medication will affect all people differently.
My experience is that although she has to carry the planning of their calendar or do the majority of driving to new places cus he couldn't handle that, he gives her plenty of attention and romance and conversation.
There is nothing you can do to change any person in this world. You only have control over yourself and changes in you. So to stay with someone, you must be okay with who they are right now for long term because some people make no changes in their lifetime, some make a few minor changes on their own for the better and others make one big change but nothing like that is guaranteed. It sounds to me like you can not be with someone like that long term. Dating is hard. It is also to be looked at as a learning experience. The things you do not like about him...make a list of it. Also the things you do like, make a separate list. With the next guy do the same thing and whenever you are out in public start observing men to see if you can see the traits you don't like and are trying to avoid. Eventually you will get good at it but it takes time and practice. Very few of us get it right with the first person we date.
I am a 15 year old girl and I am currently in a "relationship" with a guy who is the same age. We met from one of our classes, and he never talked to me, but a couple of months ago he messaged me on facebook, and things got pretty intense. We talked 24/7 and he said the most amazing sweet things. He's really deep and we had this crazy connection on facebook, we had tons in common, and shared a lot of personal things. However, we didn't talk at all in person; we were too nervous. But finally we got over it a little bit and decided to be officially dating about a week or so ago. But whenever we talk I'm always carrying the whole conversation because he doesn't say anything, he's really tense and awkward even though he is a REALLY outgoing guy with everyone else. Guys mess around and flirt with me all the time and for the most part, it can be pretty fun, and that's what I want from him. It's like in person the only guy that doesn't make me laugh is my boyfriend. So I've sort of been avoiding him for a few days because I don't really like our relationship, but then he sent me this:
"Being around youis like being a man who just won the lottery twice, it's like when you wake up and the sun is shining through your window and you know it is gonna be a great day, it's like a warm cup of cider on a chilly day. But then I realize that I haven't won the lottery, or any of that, but that I am with you and I think, I am so much luckier than a man who won the lottery. I have noticed that until we met, I wasn't happy. I tricked myself into believing I was, but the happiness I am feeling now that I have you is more than one could ever ask for. Your beauty is so overwhelming I honestly feel like I'm under some sort of spell when I'm with you. Your shyness is really adorable and you are just amazing. I am glad you are mine"
This is a pretty usual thing with him, so it makes it really hard to break up with someone who feels this way about me. I still do really like him, and I want to continue talking to him, but I don't think we work as a couple, the pressure is making him more nervous and every time we are together its painfully awkward. I just think its more stress than it's worth. So my question is, how do I end things and still keep a friendship with him?
I understand how awkward and frustrating it can be for you. I met a guy online dating who can talk up a storm with me. When we met first time in a coffeeshop, I asked are you Jack, He nodded. Did you order a coffee yet, he nodded. I asked a question that couldnt be answered yes or no. He shrugged. I couldn't get but 3 single words out of him in 20 mins of just my doing the talking for both of us. Since communication...verbal is important for a healthy relationship, it is a must that he learn to overcome his shyness. I would venture to guess that even tho he does talk to others, that he is still an introvert and more on the quiet side and not extremely talkative.
Just be honest with him and let him know that he is a very nice person but he has to get past his fear of speaking to you in person because you may not be available forever. He can keep in touch on FB as he has done but since you are ending your dating relationship, please keep the FB communications strictly to friendship stuff, not romantic thoughts. If he believes he has at any point overcome his fear of talking to you, you are leaving the door open for him to approach you in person to prove it. However, if another guy has asked you to date, you will not dump the guy to come back to him. If this doesn't light a fire under his butt, then know that you've done what you could and you don't have to feel any guilt over cutting it off with him
After having sex an usual thing happened my husband after ejaculation a few moments later pees inside of me could this help to in pregnant me or wash his semen out we want to get pregnant HELP!!
While pee is fairly sterile, I'd be cautious about anything rinsing out your vagina other than plain water. Douches are even bad. What happens is that the bad bacteria in your vagina is rinsed away so it makes it easier for the bad bacteria to take hold and thats when women get yeast infections or vaginosis.
Here's some food for thought. Men who wear briefs as opposed to those who wear boxers or no underwear, will find that their sperm count could be lower. This is because their equipment is hugged closer to the body and the heat of their own body cuts down the amount of sperm. If he does, have him stop wearing briefs, his body will quickly correct the situation.
For yourself, it is important to know when you ovulate, that is the best time to try. So do a search on the web. What you put in search is "Ovulation monitor".
If you have recently come off a hormonal based contraceptive, it will take some time before your cycles are back to normal and can be monitored by such a device.
its been far too long since me and my ex broke up, a year.. and i still haven't moved on, i don't understand why? i obviously can't forget him, and i know he probably doesn't even care anymore.
That feeling is still there.. theres moments i just think of him constantly, I don't know if its the memories that im in love with stil or? , I miss the old him but i know you can never go back and fix something that is broken now.
A few weeks ago everything was going good, our conversations were really good like the old times as friends, and now he ignores me or he replies cold.. I think hes found someone or likes someone?
I go out, ive met other people but i still can't move on and i really wanttt to :/
When I had to break up from a relationship, I got some advice from my angels. It was to meditate and imagine myself and him connected at the middle by one of those ribbons you might see at the finish line of a race. Then I saw myself also as a 3rd person with scissors in hand. I was told that if I chose to not cut the ribbon, I would forever feel a tie to him. If I did cut the ribbon, it was severing our connection in all memories, even in my mind. The reason it is so important is that I had to do this for my subconscious mind to see. Our subconscious is where all our feelings and emotions are. This should help your subconscious mind catch up with your conscious mind. I did cut the ribbon and found it easy to move on.
How do you get an orgasm?
Are you a male or female? How old. And what have you tried so far so we don't suggest the same things
what is handjob?
A hand job is when someone other than the person who the penis belongs to is using their hand to bring the person to orgasm.
So, im super excited. I just ordered my first home brew kit today!! My boyfriend and I have been talking about brewing our own beer for a few months now and we decided to go ahead and make our first attempt.
We've come up with a few ideas, including (but not limited to) Ginger, sriracha, bacon and maple...and we wanna incorporate alot of different herbs and fruits as well. But after our initial mind explosion of ideas we've hit a bit of a wall.
I dont know if anyone on this site is a beer enthusiast, but if you were going to try an interesting and unusual beer what flavor would you be interested in trying? Any different ideas?
We haven't done beer but hubby brews mead and tequilla. He didnt order on line but from two different brewing supply shops we knew of. One of them has an online store and you can ask them what flavorings they recommend for using in beer.
http://store.homebrewheaven.com/storefront.aspx
Hubby says, less hops makes a big difference. Adding saffron is great. But too much can make it taste weird. Use honey instead of other sugars...like they did thousands of years ago.
Hope this helps you.
I want to know what are. the nicest flowers. to plant. in your. garden ?? As i want. to make my new. Garden look nice thnx
The site was down and i couldnt access it when you wrote so i am answering this late. But I love to garden. If you have shady areas, you will want to research on line shade loving plants and decide which ones look like they catch your interest. Do the same for your sunny to partially sunny areas. Make a list of names of plants you really like the most. Do you want flowers that have a great scent. Lavender is nice for scent and great in hot dry spots. So is Rose. As with any plants you need to decide how much time you have to put towards care of plants. Lavendar will need to be trimmed at times or it becomes scrawny looking with not many new shoots. Dead heading is important on others. Annuals are nice. But for the cost expended, it is even more cost effective to have perennials, plants that come back every year from the same tuber, corm, bulb, root stock and also re-seed prolifically. You can also plant some herbs among the flowers. Borage is pretty. . I used lots a feverfew as a filler for the emptier spots in my garden. It is in the Chrysanthemum family and looks like a plant smothered in little daisy like blooms no bigger than your fingernail. Look that up too. You can get the best advice by walking through a nursery with a list of some things that appeal to you already. Let them know if you want stuff you dont have to do a thing to after plantings, or if scented blooms are more important. Sometimes it is easier to focus on just doing one section of the yard in fancy nursery bought plants and tossing out annual flower seeds to cover the bare areas you are not working on yet.
I'm renting an apartment for the first time and my agent said that I would be given a free one month rent, except for electricity. She said that I would be moving in the 26th, but I also know that it'll be next month later in 5 days. I have heard that rent is due at the beginning of every month....I have to pay a small fee for that "free month" so I don't want them to end up telling me that my second month's fee is due already, since it's really only been 5 days. Is it okay for me to talk to her about when the rent is due every month? It would make sense for rent to be due the 26th of the second month that I'm living there since the first month is free. What if she says that isn't? Also, I'm signing a 6 month lease for this apartment. I want to try it out first before I sign the rest of my year away. What are some things I should be aware of? I know to ask for break-ins, flexibility in terms of modification for the apartment, early termination consequences, late rent, and to check for mold, running warm and cold water as well as heater and ac. If I sign a 6 month lease is management allowed to change rent every month or is that just for "rental agreement"?
Some of these one month free apartment renting deals can be very complicated and not what it seems. For example, I helped a friend move into a place where the deal said one month free. However thats not how it went. Their deal in the contract was "the equivalent of the first months rent of $800. is going to be taken off the amount of regular rent for the next 6 months. After 6mos it goes back to regular rate of $800." What they advertised was rent and told her in the leasing office was entirely misleading, just to get another renter. The ad said first month free. Monthly rent is $666. per month. They just leave off the part about that being only for 6 months and that $133.00 a month had been taken off of first 6 months. There was no mention of what the regular rate was $800. which her tight budget could not afford. So ask a lot of question. They will not volunteer any information. But they will not lie if you ask tons of questions. They are happy to let you assume what you think the deal is by what little information they have provided. The rental contracts can be confusing to read...all that small print. So ask your questions in simple terms to make sure you understand.
Hey guys
So i have a boyfriend who i have been dating for 10 months. He is 17, im 16. We go to each others houses alot but i have noticed that he is a little more quiet in the daytime and just kind of bored-like. Then around 6 or 7 when it starts getting later, he turns back into his normal self and starts laughing more and talking and goofing around like normal. Can anyone explain why this could be?
So this is happening at school where you notice him more quiet during the day? I would venture to guess it is related to school. He's bored with school, or is having difficulty in several classes at once. Some people when stressed become quiet, but once removed from what is stressing them, such as being back at home in the evenings, then he becomes himself again.
It is also possible that he has no struggles with school work, in fact the opposite...having a higher IQ than most the teens, school is too easy and he aces it and then is bored cus there's nothing to hold his interest. Since he's almost done with high school, no point in checking if this is the case and moving straight into college.
If he says nothing is wrong and his grades are not failing, he is likely okay and nothing to worry about. But in time if you see some more drastic behaviour changes, you might ask his family if they have noticed a change in him. Besides you, they are the only others who see him that much and know him that well.
Hey guys
Ok so before i talk about my question, i just want to let you all know that im on this website looking for support and advice, not to be criticized. And by the way im sorry this is so long, if you could please take the time to read it i would be so grateful:)
So my boyfriend is 17 and im 16. we have been dating for 10 months. He trusts me and i trust him but i have a problem with him hanging out with girls. Its not him i dont trust, its the fact that i dont want him to start developing feelings for another girl but not telling me or realizing it himself. I know he would never want to hurt me in any way and i know he wouldnt cheat on me, its just that its a natural part of life, developing feelings, you know? So i talked to him about it and i told him that i dont feel comfortable with him hanging out with other girls. I think he understands that but then he told me that i can hang out with my guy friends if i want to. I have a couple of close guy friends that i knew even before me and my boyfriend started dating. So my question is, would it be okay if i hung out with one of my guy friends because he said i could? Or would that be wrong since i told him i didnt want him hanging out with girls? Thank you!,
Hon, I see nothing to criticize you about, not that any one on here would anyways. You bring up a valid question that every couple on this planet has to deal with at some point in time. Do I believe it's possible to be in love and both partners have friends of the opposite sex on the outside of the relationship...just platonic, no romantic attachments, no desire for sex. YES! It is possible. Society has fed us the beliefs that it is unnatural, it is just asking for trouble. That there is no way that in hanging out with a person of the opposite sex that you can stop yourself from wanting to kiss them or go to bed with them. It has a lot to do with the maturity of an individual, being armed with information and willpower and determination.
Do you guy friends know you are dating this guy? Are they willing to spend time with you? Are they going to try to kiss you or more? Are you sexually attracted to them or not? If you have feeling for one of them too, let me say right now, it is possible to love two or more people at the same time. There are valid relationships where all the partners know of the other partner and are okay with it because nothing is done in secret and there is alwasys good communication. It is called Polyamory. Look it up on line. Now, lets say your boyfriend is hanging out with lady friends. Possibly he is a male who prefers female friends over male ones. My husband is like that. I prefer male friends over female ones. Nothing wrong with that. The key is how he conducts himself with the other girls. With good friends, it is possible to even flirt even though there is no intention behind it to go any further. You just have to know your guy really well. Since you are both teens, you are still learning about yourselves and relationships and have much more to learn over your lifetime. I highly recommend you watch Sexplus on youtube by Laci green. Here's her short video on men and woman being just friends:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--AcYR6axgA
Good luck dear.
So I watch videos on Youtube, as we all do, but about things like debates. I end up commenting, and it ALWAYS turns into an argument.
People will begin personally attacking me, telling me to die etc.
I was wondering, at what point do I tell YouTube/report the user?
I watch alot of videos and movies on You tube myself. I read peoples comments from time to time. Of all the places on the internet where people can leave comments, this is the one venue where I always see people fighting. The person who downloaded the video is not watching or monitoring who writes what like in a chat room or other such place. So, the worst of society is usually posting there, the most immature people and trying to pick arguments with others. An argument can not ensue if the person picked on does not respond back. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, no matter how stupid, childish, immature or totally incorrect they are. You only have control over how you act and react. There is nothing in the world you could say to another to teach them how to be more intelligent, see the error of their ways, be more mature. If it was possible, the world would be a very different place. You might critique your own comments or ask a friend saying you saw such a comment (not saying it was yours) and how they got picked on. Ask if they see anything wrong with the original comment. If they do, don't get mad at them, just think about it and how you can improve how you communicate so things cant be taken wrong by those hearing you. Always be willing to grow and become a better person. Don;t chose not to just because everyone else is living their lives like they live in the gutter.
I have been with my fiancé for quiet some time now and she just dosnt trust me. Like yesterday for instance I left my house like at 520pm I got to my parents house like at 550 pm and well I don't live with them anymore so I stayed a while besides my dad was helping me fix some things in the car . So it got pretty late like 9pm got home like at 930 and well like all this morning she's been giving me the silent treatment I mean I don't think that's right or even normal or what don't guys think
Advice please thanks
Yes it could be mainly a trust issue. But I can think of another. If you are engaged to be married, communication is an important thing. So when you left did you tell her where you were going. If you did, great. If you didn't, next time tell her. Good communication is key to building trust. She is not a mind reader. Let her know what you are thinking. Okay next. Did you give her any idea how long you would be gone. If you said just to drop by for a short bit then when it got to about 7 730, it would have been courteous to call her and let her know you were okay and that dad is working on your car so it may be late before you get back. Now she doesn't have to worry about her fiance having been in some accident on the road. If you never gave a time, once there and deciding to hang around, just give a quick call and let her know you've decided to hang out the whole evening with dad and be home late. Then if you got home earlier, no problem. When you did get home, did you tell how how things went, maybe pieces of info of what's new in the life of the parents, what got fixed on your car. You might think this unimportant but when anyones mind has no info and is left to wonder, our minds can come up with all sorts of terrible scenerios. If she is giving you the silent treatment, well that is not the most mature way to handle how she is feeling. Better to let you know in a calm voice without any accusing how she felt. But I would daresay, that since she is upset and giving you the silent treatment, there's a good chance it was because you did not talk to her. When married, what happens in your day and in hers when you are apart is important to share. As she gets to know you and how yo think and conduct yourself in the world, she will begin to require less information because she just knows you and knows she can trust you. If she left the house early Saturday and didn't come back til in the evening without saying a word to you? Would that bother you? If it does, then you should know how she feels. If it wouldn't make you wonder where she was at, why she isnt with you or why she didnt invite you along, or you don't have any concern if she is okay, then maybe you better evaluate yourself whether you truly are in love with her or just love some things about her. For marriage, you're gonna need to be in love with her.
I assume that she is not the needy type who has no life of her own or you would know that by now and not be marrying her.
Now here's another scenerio, you get a quick call, its your sis inviting you and fiance to come to a barbecue this coming Saturday. You say, okay sweetie, will do. Your fiancee is either going to wonder who you called sweetie or ask. Most women don't want to have to ask and become nags. They would like their guy to tell her whats going on. So you say nothing to her about "That was my sister, she has invited us to a barbecue Saturday. She will wonder if you are cheating on her boldly in front of her and saying nothing. Dont give her mind a moments chance to start coming up with crazy thoughts. Maybe some people do it more than others but men do this too. It would be better if while on phone with sis, you say, hang on a minute, Hey darling, my sister is inviting us to a barbeque on Sat at 5pm. Is our calendar clear or do you have something you'll be doing. That is the best way of communicating. Without it, a marriage is doomed. Good luck
My lil brother has a baby on the way, and is being very responsible about it, but her parents are very controlling of her. They are both legal age, she 19 and him about to be 20. The baby is due at the end of the month, and the soon to be grandmother called to tell him he's not welcome at the hospital when the baby comes, and if the babys mom tried to call him, she'll rip the phone from the wall. The sad thingis they have her so brainwashed that I'm sure she's afraid to call anyway, and her mom is a paralegal, so she's threatened to keep the baby away from us. We live in TEXAS, does anyone know what he should do????
I am sure there must be some rights he has. If it was the other way around and an unwed woman has a baby and goes after a guy for childsupport, he has to prove with DNA that he is the father. It is best that he call somewhere he can get enough free legal advice to see if he has a case. Unless someone on here is a lawyer and answers you, you might check to see what Texas laws are on line. But find out if he has a case.
I cannnot imagine why the whole family want to screen him out unless they don't think he's up to their standards of who she should marry and have kids with. Yes it's not of their business. But on the other hand, your brother might want to consider having nothing to do with her beyond getting visitation rights, if she is so weak that she won't stand up against her family. Imagine the future headaches he'd have to deal with having constantly interfering inlaws. It's not worth it.
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okay here it goes I'm 17 my bf is 21 and my parents and whole family are to over protective its a very complicated situation now i'm Portuguese and my bf is Afrikaans so what do i do cause his bought an engagement ring and i cant say no..i'm almost 18 but my parents are to controlling i can hardly see him so i don't know what to do?my sister is turning 22 and shes not allowed to do anything so its not about age its kinda like being in prison .
I don't know what the legal age is in your country but once you reach it, then do as you wish. You call him a boyfriend so you must have been allowed to see him under some circumstances.
I am wondering dear, why your boyfriend knowing how protective and controlling your parents are, went ahead and bought a ring already. Did he think that providing a ring would change your parents mind and allow you all freedom with him because you and he are engaged to be married. I don't know at what age a person in your country can marry without parents consent. But that is important too. Check into it, you may be old enough now. If not, wait then as hard as it may be. When you are old enough, then next of importance will be whether the two of you can support yourselves and not need to be living with parents. If married and living with his or your parents, they still get to call the shots as to what happens under their roof. So you may better use this time you have to wait to make plans for employment, save up enough money to afford your own place and start out with just basic needs for purchases. Thats the best i can offer you. Good luck!
im 15 ,and im really fustrated with my parents ,mainly my mom because i already know my dad wont buy me nothing , even if his job was high paying , but my issue is that im really into fashion and like shoes , because where i live theres alot of people that are nicely dressed , and have alot of "shoegame" , and everytime i go ask my mom for like the latest pair of jordans that comes out , she alway gives the same excuse like your grades , or your room not clean , or you have an attitude ... the little stuff like that , that i easily can improve , but still doesnt buy me anything . i explain myself to her like everyday how its important to be dressed nice or youll get picked on , or something like that , she just doesnt understand , ontop of that she thinks paying the bills is giving stuff to me , okay but what about the other moms they pay the bills and buy thier children thier wants and need , i look at things like it could be worse , but i also look at things like it can be better , so its a win,loose situation . idk , i just want some things..u know , and my mom gets mad if i ask other relatives for stuff , but doesnt want to buy it anyways ,wow ..pathectic , hun ?
Wow...how things have changed. When I was your age, I was earning money on my own and buying my own clothes. When you end up having spent your hard earned money on name brand fashions, your attitude will quickly change. Your money disappears faster and you can only buy one name brand item, unless you go for style and no brand name and come away with 3 items. You have not have any responsibility with money yet and so I can blame you for not knowing these things. But you can learn. Your mom isn't being fair by not being straight up honest with you. When my daughters begged for certain things over and over, I got tired of their begging and began to screen them out and throw out excuses. But that is the wrong thing to do. Mom would be better off being honest and letting you know that all a parent is legally responsible for aside from emotional love),with a child is to provide a roof over their head, it doesnt have to be a mansion, just keep the rain and cold and heat out, they must provide you with food, it doesnt have to be dinner out or pizzas and fast food, but something healthy that is good for you. They must keep you clothed, and that can be pants shirts socks underwear, shoes...what ever keeps you protected from the elements, or cool enough in hot weather but there is no written law that they must provide the lastest hot fashion and name brand. Those are not needs. They are your wants. What I did with my daughters when they said they absolutely wouldn't wear regular tennis shoes, but it had to be scetchers, I told them I would provide the same amount of money i had alloted for shoes and they would have to come up with the rest if the name brand was that important to them. One of them decided it was not that important. The other earned enougy money to afford to pay her half of the cost and got the shoes she wanted. As she earned more money she slowly realized she did not want to even pay her half on a fancy brand and allowed me to get her what I could afford and she used her money for other things than clothing, maybe cd's, going to movies with friends, whatever. But it wasnt on fashion. And yet they never got picked on in school. They were dressed the same as everyone else. When schools were just integrating computers into their format but it wasnt neccessary that you do home work on one, they all pushed for geting their own computers. Luckily, dad had his own business and used a pc heavily so it was outdated in a couple years and he was always getting new ones. I had a free pc from work i won in a raffle. So I let one daughter share it with me while the other two had the share dads old one. They told me all their friends had their own computers. When their friends were over, I heard every single one of them say, OMG, you guys are so lucky you have your own computers. I don't have any. My daughters,"But we have to share ours." Their friends, "we'll trade places with you." So I learned early on that what the daughter thinks is critical and thinks everyone else had, just isn't so. Sorry I can not support your expensive taste in fashion. Its okay that you like it, but it's not okay to beg parents and relatives to get things to just give to you. We can't all be the Queen of England you know.
Wassup? I'm 16/m and I have to tell a g at my school how I really feel about her. I love her. For 2 years. Nobody else. Just her. I love everything about her. She's perfect. We're pretty good friends and I jst don't wanna stay friends and I gotta get this foshiznt off my chest. How do I tell her wiout sounding weird?
You say you are already really good friends. So I assume that mean you haven't really dated her. Just hanging out together at school?
Well, first thing is to ask her if she'd like to go out with you. Are there any school dances you can invite her to? It will not be weird or strange to her to have some one she already knows, ask her to date him. It would be weirder to have a guy at school she doesnt know except that he's in a class with her to all of a sudden ask her to go out.
Please refrain from saying to her "I love you" and then asking her out. Frankly, though many girls dream of the day that she falls in love and a man professes his love to her, it's certainly not as a teenager. You have lots of life yet to live and may meet another girl in the future whom you fall in love with each other. Even older woman who meet a man who professes he loves her too early on in a dating relationship get scared because he comes across as needy and we dont like that. Had it happen to me twice.
Just enjoy dating her and giving her kisses and hugs and never pressure her for more. It is okay if you both are ready for that but talk about it and let her know you will wait until the day she is ready. Meanwhile, enjoy normal dating for teens. You are young and have much time ahead of you. No reason to rush it more. Keep your feelings to yourself for now.
Hi everyone, I am asian and from googling my hair type it's between wavy swavy and wavy curvy from naturallycurly website. I'm not sure what to do with my hair because most of the asian population has straight black hair, but mine are curly. There's not much advertised hair styles for naturally curly hair (with asians) and I tend to just straighten it out. I want a more natural look though. Something that I can do with my hair that doesn't need much maintenance. Is there anyone else with curly hair? I need some advice.
Why are you looking at curly styles for asians? Look at general curly hair styles and you will find more. Unless you want a hair style that makes you look more asian? There are so many mixed race people around now with all the complexity of differing hair types that you cannot just go for a particular ethnic look easily. If you want straight hair, don;t use heat on it. I hear there are some natural non harsh chemical relaxers out there now and my niece who is half black half white uses it when she straightens her hair for a change. Ask a hair dresser if she recommends a particular product. It will be kinder on your hair. If you truly want to use your curl and waves, start looking at all curly styles, not just under asian. Look for any under caucasion peoples hairstyles.
So I've been with my current boyfriend for a little while now, not a super long time but I'm much much closer to him than I've been to anybody else.
We're looking at getting our own place together and he's been talking about how he's looking for the perfect engagement ring. I see him almost every day and we really just fit so perfectly together and I never thought that would happen. I was one of those girls before this that rolled their eyes and thought all of my friends who talked about being in love were just victims of romance books and fantasies.
Anyways before him I'd never even gone further than making out because I never felt hot around any of my couple ex's.
With my current boyfriend something about him woke me up sexually and he drives me crazy and I'm tired of holding back because I'm scared of losing my virginity.
I'm very small and thin and he's much taller than me,athletic and he's large (if you know what I mean). We actually planned it out for Monday but as the day gets closer I get more scared and nervous about it.
I don't want to keep pushing him off of me though because I get so worked up myself. He's totally okay with us waiting but I don't want to anymore, I just want to get it over with so we can move past this point in the relationship. I mean we'll be living together soon but we haven't had sex.
I'm also tired of feeling pain when he tries to stimulate me with his fingers. It's just a horrible feeling for me and I don't want it to be like that and have to keep telling him to stop because I'm not used to it.
The other problem is if it hurts so much with just a finger I know it's going to be so much worse when he's actually inside of me. I thought about maybe having an alcoholic drink first but he's really against drinking and I don't want to make our first time weird if I get a little tipsy since I've only drank twice before (btw we're both adults).
I just don't want it to be this disgusting horrible,terrifying experience for me and I don't want to panic, freak out and throw him off of me or something.
What should I do about this? Should I take a pain killer or something first to numb me a little bit or will that kill the moment?
Any thoughts/advice (other than use protection I know that)?
YOur title was how should you feel losing your virginity as an adult, i think the other person answering you missed that but was right on in everything said. You should NOT feel bad or awkward for this being your first time. Many of us have been there, I was 20. My 3 daughters did at various ages from 18 on into early 20's.
If tomorrow is the day, I don't think you have had enough time to stretch out your hymen yet. Usually just the use of tampons or vibraters and dildos would have stretched you out. Have you tried your own fingers there? You may not be ready. Does your sweetie know that it causes you pain, just with fingers? Not everyone is that tight but with time can be stretched out but you must be diligent and work on this several times a day. If you wish, use a little olive oil, thats what midwives used to massage me so i wouldnt rip during childbirth. So I know olive oil is okay. Just start with one finger and lubrication is very important for comfort. Don't worry it you need lots of lube even after you've been having sex a while. The reason lubes sell so well is because everyone uses them..so its okay to not produce your own bodily lubricant, besides those might be more watery than creamy and not help much at all. So move your finger side to side and around in circles until you can do so without discomfort, then move on to doing it with two fingers and more. This is all before he uses his fingers which will be slightly larger than yours. So basically, you are not anywhere near ready for full fledged intercourse until you get stretched out to that point where his fingers don;t hurt entering you.