Ok. so my friend she is going out with my ex, and like she is telling my best friend that she kind likes him when he is over here saying he loves her and she is perfect. He is over here saying she is his world, and that he would die with out her. She is just in the relationship just to go out with him longer then i did. i really want to tell him whats going on because he is my best friend and i dont want to see him hurt again. so please help i really want to tell him but i dont want her to be mad at me!!
The first thing I have to ask is how you know that this is just a competition your friend is playing with your ex?
Either way to start with you might want to have a chat with your friend and explain to her that this 'game' has gone too far and he will get seriously hurt because he is getting very emotionally attached (although I doubt he will sie without her - all guys say that and they move along fine given time). If your friend wasn't the one who had told you about what was going on and you heard it elsewhere then you're doing your part by telling your ex (whos your friend as well) about this rumour you've been hearing and how he needs to be more vigilant.
Either way and regardless as to what action you take someone will get hurt and someone will get mad and all of that may well end up being directed to you (she will be mad you told him and he will be mad you didn't warn him sooner).
The way I see it you'll have a choice to make, a very big one too. You can either do nothing and leave them at it and eventually things will come to their conclusion or you can step in and do something about it. What I said above might be one way to go about this too. It really is up to you which you decide to do though. Good luck either way and I hope your ex appreciates how much you care about him not getting hurt.
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13/f. Ok, so I have recently been having LOTS of trouble with my knees, and I'm only 13! A while ago, my right knee had been hurting alot so I had been trying to go easy when I put pressure on that knee. But as of last week, my left knee started to hurt. Now it has progressed, and both my knees hurt constantly when I'm walking or putting any pressure on them. I do dance, but only twice a week. I do poms...and ballet, tap, and jazz, but the 3 of those are combined in one class. I'm afraid I'm going to STOP having to dance, and that isn't an option with me, because I love to dance, and it's a big part of my life. Someone, please help me!
With a medical problem like this asking for advice here is not the way to go about looking for a solution, I strongly suggest you speak to your parents about arranging an appointment with your family doctor as soon as you can.
They will most likely refer you to a specialist or at the very least try some scans to see that there's no problems. The fact that it has progressed is an indication that whatever it is might be getting worse as you put more pressure onto your knee/s. Please arrange to see your doctor asap to make sure everything is okay.
Ido hope all is fine with your knee and is nothing to worry about.
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15/f. i really like this one guy who is in 8th grade and i'm in 9th grade. we hang out a lot outside of school in this one group of friends. i'm just confused because sometimes i think he likes me and my one friend in 8th grade thinks that he likes me too, its just that he has a girlfriend! so i don't know what to do. like we hang out because we are friends but its hard not to flirt with him. and once i left my friends decided to play a game of would you rather with him. this is what happened:
my friend: would you rather go out with ashley or katie (me)?
my crush: well i'd go out with ashley, but i'd rather go out with katie.
and this got me really happy because this other girl ashley is always flirting with him and he flirts back. so then i thought that this obviously means that he likes me! but he still has a girlfriend, and i figure if he liked me that much he'd break up with his girlfriend and go out with me.
but then i don't want to be mean and cause them to breakup! see this is my problem! so can anybody tell me if 1) you think he likes me and 2)what do i do since he has a girlfriend?
thanks so much for reading this and helping me!
He probably does like you but I will be very blunt here at the risk of seeing cold hearted - guys this age will like a lot of girls. He has a gf but likes you and then when he dumps her to be with you he may like someone else more who he will dump you for... and so on.
Whenever a guy breaks up with someone just to be with another girl I find it usually a rash decision based on lust or a crush morethan anything else and it usually comes with concequences like the same thing happening again with the new girl that guy is with. If anyone can say this has happened to them and the relationship actually lasted long-term I'd be very surprised because I've never known an instance for it to happen.
I can understand you don't want to have to break them up but regardless of what I said above it might just be he doesn't see any future with who he's with at the moment in which case he should have broken up with her already instead of stringing her along. If this is the case though and he does break it off with her and wants to date you then it'll be up to you whether you want to or not but it seems at the moment there's not really much you can do. If he asks you if you like him then by all means I see no reason why you should have to lie about it. All I will say is that if he does want more and so do you then ensure it only happens after he has broken things off with his current gf. After that if he asks you out then I hope you the best of luck with him. :)
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Okay. So I'm 19 and I dated a guy for about a year, and he broke up with me in January because he thought I cheated on him (I didn't, by the way). I then went on a 2-month visit to another state. A couple days after I left, he told me that he was still in love with me and wanted me to come home. When I did come home, we got back together, and he told me that in the couple of days we were broken up, he had fingered a girl that I used to talk to (she and I weren't friends, more of just acquaintances). I didn't really think much of it -- I mean, we weren't together and he was kind of rebounding anyway.
The other day, he accidentally let it slip that he hadn't just fingered the girl, but he had started having sex with her and they had to stop because she was a virgin and it was hurting her. I'm not really upset that he did it (though, of course, it does hurt). Mostly I'm upset because he lied to me.
We started talking and he basically said he had lied because he didn't want to hurt me. I know he feels really bad for the whole thing, and regrets everything he did with her. I forgave him for lying, and of course for having sex with her. But since he told me, all I can think about is her. Like when I close my eyes, I can literally picture them together, having sex. I try not to let it bother me, because it's in the past and I know that I'm the only one he wants to be with. But it does bother me.
Am I wrong to be letting this bother me? I mean, I know that he would never cheat on me or anything like that. That's not my problem. My problem is the stupid past.
If I'm being stupid by letting this get to me, can someone tell me how to let go of it?
Sometimes things like this can be very hard to let go of but what makes it even worse is when you keep telling yourself (and everyone else) that eerything is okay and that it doesn't bother you - when deep down it's eating you up. It will just cause problems later of you don't face this now and come to terms with it. The place to start would be to talk to your bf about it. There were things like these I had to face as well regarding my ex (it wasn't that we broke up and she did stuff it was just stuff she had done before we started going out which bothered me for various reasons I prefer not to say here). The thing was I talked to her about it until I had it all out of my system and it helped with my relationship with her.
Bottom line though is that he shouldn't have lied in the beginning. If he lied about something which shouldn't have mattered what happens when it comes to something which IS important?
If you feel you can trust him then it's okay but he shouldn't have lied about it to start with. I think you should try talk to him about it (also if I was in your place yes it would bug me in the same way too, it's hard not to let it) and if he makes a big deal out of you being this way it may help to ask him to think of things being the other way around and see how he would feel about it. I can guarantee with almost certainty that it would eat him up inside too if it had all happen the other way around.
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ok well i started going out with this guy in like oct. 06 and on halloween night he dumped me cause he wanted to go out with someone else and then in dec. he called me and was like "your the only girl i can think about i really love you" (BLA BLA BLA) so i gave hom another chance. then i dumped him cause his best friends told me he was cheating on me. now i think he over me. i see him everyday and he has a girlfriend even thogh he flirts with almost every one. but for some reason i cant stop thinkin bout him i know he did me wrong and that he probably over me but i still like him alot and i dont know how to get over him
HELP ME PLZ
Just give yourself time - that's really the only way to get over someone. I have been through this with my ex as well (and because of her I have remained single for about 2 years now because of the scar she left behind) but she had also cheated on me and I think a lot more than just once. I knew she had done some bad things before I started going out with her (I mean how many people do you know who would sleep with their own sisters bf?) but I seriously thought she would change and more importantly, like you, I wanted to give her a second chance because it seems no one else would.
I gave her a chance and she pretty much threw it back in my face so it was over and I haven't spoken to her since even though she had tried to contact me a number of times since then. It takes a lot of time to get over someone. As much as I hated her Iwould end up still thinking about her a lot and it took me a VERY long time to get over her. I think you were really nice in giving him a second chance and it was his own fault that he messed that second chance up. The way I see it you can do a LOT better than someone like him. Just give yourself some time though. It may not totally take away what you feel but it will certainly help you to move on and put it behind you.
Love is a wonderful thing but if it has any flaws it's that it will make people stop thinkingwith their heads and start thinking with their hearts. Not a good transition when the other person turns out to be something their not.
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okay for some reason zamzar wont work on my computer, what other file converson ebsites are there?
One web site you can try is http://www.xconv.com/
Failing that you should try a search for a program that can do the job for you. There are practicaly hundreds out there that can do the job but some may require the downloading of additional codecs and such and many of the programs are trial version.
Hopefully the site above will work. If it doesn't you may want to also consider trying from a different computer. Sometimes it can just be the PC playing up and not the actual website.
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One of my friends called me today to ask me if I could help her with an assignment on weakness and strength and she brought up this question "Do the strong opress the weak today?" and I started thinking about it.. at first I said "not really, the rich give to the poor, the physically strong help work out with the physically weak, the mentally strong give advice to those weaker etc" cause i mean we are good and considerate as humasn we try to help, we dont think "i cant help this person cause then he'd be stronger than me" we're not like that, but she seemed convinces that the world was evil- agreed, it is, bad things happen, but it has nothing to do with the strong opressing the weak, does it? What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree with her or me?
As negative as this might be, I think all throughout history the weak has always been oppressed by the strong.
Humans started out as nothing more than animals and our animal instincts, although supressed to a large degree over the time of our evolution, those primal instincts are still there. We feed on animals weaker than us (cows, chickens, pigs etc, etc), we hunt animals we deem less superior to us (lions, tigers etc) and I think that the strong do opress the weak.
It's just how we have always been. There are those who feel because they are stronger than somoene who's weaker it's their responsibility to help them but this doesn't apply to everyone. There's the odd few but overall the strong do opress the weak. This was probably how unions came along. The weak felt powerless againt the strong so they joined forces to form a union as a means to fight injustice from those more powerful than them (powerful not necessarily in terms of physical strength). As a union, hundreds of these weaker people found strength in numbers and were able to stand up to, if not overcome, these stronger odds. This happens everywhere even today all over the world.
It's not even just a matter of good vs evil. This power struggle of wanting to be more stronger than the next person is what lies in our very essence. It's in our very blood to be the stronger because under all the popular brand clothes, the makeup, all our education and our teachings passed on from our parents and their parents we are all nothing but animals. And our primal instinct is to survive by being the stronger and more powerful.
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dear ammo
now im not taking any medicine that was my stupidness ...i took it for one day only i never done those kind of weird stufff...well i want your help... the reason we faught is just that last nite after he hit me he didn't talk to me ..we used to have little fights but next day we talk straight ...well ...this time its beeen more than 2 weeks ..im so much worried ..we live in same room in his house ...his family is weird and thats why i think im having this situation we can't do anything..im too bored and he dont talk ...we are not free in this house but he used to love me a lot ...now we dont talk at all ..frm yesterday i have decided to not to talk at all because he dont want me to so i dont want to make him more angry ...please suggest me im doing right or ?? it will effect my relation more...this 10th of may im leaving his house ...so what should i do till then i should stop talking or what ? well , its really hard for me ...im trying my best of the best ...he dont sleep whole nite its been so long he got sleeping problem he sleeps in day ...whole night he plays games and talk on vocie chat and i couldn't go sleep ..last nite it was very loud i couldn't do anything abt it so i cried and he stopped soon ..well i will do anything to get him back but don't know how cuz he don't talk to me at all ..so should i talk or not or what should i do please write to me as soon as you can because not i dont have to much days left to be with him in this house and ie without talking without looking his face ..its really hard for me ...thanks for your response ....waiting desperately for your help .....
Hello.
Firstly, sorry it tooka while to reply. How come you had only taken the medicine for a day and not anymore? Was it prescribed to you by your doctor?
As for him keeping you up all night he might just be being inconsiderate or maybe doesn't even realise it's causing you problems to sleep. I'm not sure if at this point he is just taking some time to himself, waiting for you to 'come crawling back' or he really meant it when it's over. It seems he is acting like he just doesn't care and to be honest with you, and I know you don't want hear this, if this is the case you may just have to move on without him.
Where will you be going? You had said you've not many days left there with him so I'm guessing you will be moving out for a while? This might even be a good start - it will give you the chance to get away and have some time to yourself. And it will give him time to reflect on things when you aren't actually there anymore. It seems at this point there really isn't much you can do at all other than just wait and see what happens since the ball's in his court. You can try and ask him if he wants to talk before you go and see what he says but judging by how he has been acting thus far he may not want to but it's still worth a try. That way you can tell him how you feel about everything and see what happens.
Overall though at the moment I can't see much you can do other than wait - if he won't talk to you or listen to you then there's not much you can do other than get out of that environment. with no one talking to you that can't be good at all and with how you're limited on what you can do it would just feel like a prison. Getting out would be a good start. Start living your own life for a while and take a break. When he is ready he will let you know but if he doesn't then you've nowreason to wait around for him. At the end of the day you have a life as well and you should be allowed to live it without having to wait around for him for god knows how long till he decides to get over his 'not talking to you' phase.
If you need any more help feel free to write but Ihope things get sorted outsoon for you, I can see how you must be feeling very stressed out by everything going on. That alone is not good for you.
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my boyfriend and i talk during sex sometimes.
is this a bad sign?
as some of you know, sex makes weird sounds as times. is it healthy to laugh at these together?
Hehe, I see no reason why it's unhealthy or anything at all, quite the opposite actually. The impression I get is that you are both very much at ease with your own bodys and each others' without feeling ashamed. To be able to have that open a relationship with my partner (when I get one) I think I'd consider myself very lucky. :]
If you're both comfortable with things how they are then that's really all that matters, there's nothing to worry about at all from my perspective. :]
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Do some guys get emotionally attached after having sex for the first time? Or any time? Like, do they feel any different towards the person?
I don't mean like clingy (but if they do, then okay) but I mean, would they love you more or something? Like would they feel any different?
I heard that for guys, sex is just sex, but for girls it's like a connection.. But it sounds like just a stereotype. So, if you're a guy, did you feel different in any way? Like, in your heart or towards the person? Or was it just like, anything?
Talking from experience I think it works both ways for both sexes. Some girls and guys are only after sex whereas others may want to wait for that special person (this was the same in my case which is why I remained a virgin for so long).
It can happen though where someone may have gone out with the intention of just a one night stand but they form a bond. I wouldn't say it's love though - love is all too often confused with lust. It can be hard to determine the difference sometimes but after a session of sex with someone I fail to see how that would make one or the other fall in love with who they are with. Love needs time to develop as well as understanding and knowing the other person. For example, falling in love with someone because they look hot or they have huge big breasts... this is not love, this is lust. I have always made it a rule to never have sex with anyone unless there are some feelings there. I don't go for one nighters and find them a pointless.
Also, the thing that you said about would they love you more. If a guy told his gf they should sleep together because it would make him love her more - to me that would be a guy that's doing nothing but using mind tactics against the girl just to get her into bed. :| I find any guy who uses a line like that to be nothing more than scum. :]
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Yesterday i went to a party and i met a girl ahe gave me her number but the problem is i dont know how to talk to a girl over the phone please someone help me?
If she gave you the number then chances are it was because she clearly liked you. :) So just call her and talk to her like you would anyone else. Introduce yourself - give her your name and say who you are and that she gave you her number at the party. Ask her how she is, what she thought of the party/if she had fun at the party - just start up a conversation and it'll just go there. Just don't panic. :) If you want to, text her first and talk to her that way first just to break the ice a little. It's always a good way to introduce yourself as the person she gave her number to (to make sure she remembers you, hehe) and then from there if all goes well offer to ring her the next day at a certain time or something and it'll just go from there. :) That's usually how I do it and it always works out just fine generally. Only thing I found that can be a bad thing to do is start planning out line for line what you're going to say because when your actually on that phone all those notes you made go right out the window, hehe. Just relax and talk to her - she won't bite. ;) Good luck. :D
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In Salvador Dali's painting The Persistence of Memory (a.k.a Melting Clocks or Droppy Watches), what is that white thing with the clock on it. It looks like a whale kind of? Anyways, what is it and what is the signifigance of it? Thank yoU!
Salvador Dali's paintings are amazing, I can look at them for hours on end and not get bored because of the amount of things you can dream up looking at them.
I think the white thing isn't really anything specific. It almost looks like a closed eye (see the black eyelashes?) or a whale/dolphine or maybe even something completely different. Best thing to do might be to try and search around on the net for Dali's fan sites (or maybe even his official site if he has one) where there might be more notes on his artwork and what they represent. I've never really had the chance to go to one of his galleries (that is/was in London at least the last time I had heard about) but I admire his paintings a lot.
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I'm buying a USB Cable for my Samsung u740, and I was wondering should it be non-OEM or OEM... whats the difference??
THAAANKS
OEM means Original Equipment Manufacturer. OEM versions of software/hardware are usually meant to be preinstalled or pre-supplied when you buy something. They're usually not meant for direct retail.
Often, OEM versions are restricted compared to the retail versions: They come without a manual, are sometimes limited functionality wise, or are modified to work only with specific hardware.
Either OEM or non-OEM will work fine though when you buy the cable. All that you may need to check is that both offer the same kind of functionality. Other than that you should be okay buying either versions. :)
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i'll take any answers but i'd like guys opinions too.
for guys, if your at the mall, how do girls normally catch you attention ?
and for anyone, how is a good way to get a guy's attention at the mall? like if its a guy you see there alot but never talk to him but you know he's noticed you before?
Hmm, lets see - first thing I'd probably notice is what she would be wearing because there's certain things I'd just notice more than others in clothing.
Eye contact is always a good idea to get someone to catch my attention as well as a friendly smile. Those will always get my attention (and always have done thus far). :)
Just to clarify though all guys are different - what some like others won't. Also, some can be extremely apprehensive about approaching a girl (I used to be and to an extent I still am unless I'm certain she does want to chat - otherwise I'll just shrug it off as her just being friendly). He may feel shy about approaching you so it may even come down to you making it a little more obvious that you want him to come and talk to you than normal so he is more confident in doing so. Good luck. :)
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i hvae been in a lot of fights at my new school becasue people say im mean and insulting. I dont really know what it is that i am doing. My old school wasnt a public school, but everyone was mean and snooty and i had public school friends, not saying that public schools are bad, but my frends were just mean people.
The people at my new school have always been in perfect litttle catilian rich people everyone is secretly mean to eachother enviornments, where i have been raised[[incluiding mine and my old friends familes]] in mean bitchy enviornments. The girls at my new school are used to being treated like princesses everyone being nice to them, no one even saying sumthing mean as a joke. they just DONT get it.
ive been trying my hardest to not be mean, but people even still tell me that im mean, and i dnt understand, ill say the stupid, meaningless thing, that i say in a VERY sarcastic way, that anyone would be able to tell that i was joking, even if i was sorta serious, but not letting anyone know. BUt everyone takes it WAY too personally, and they dont understand the fulmeaning thats its a JOKE!
like i said try to be nicer, but i cant seem to get that meaness out of me. I have frends, but i dnt want to loose them because im mean, so what should i do OTHER than trying, because everytime i try it doesnt work.
Although I say that people shouldn't have to change just to please others but there are times when we do have to adjust to our environments which is what the case really is here.
Some people really can't take a joke. I know a lot of poeple like that too. I joke around with my mates a hell of a lot. My ex gf (before her and I started dating) thought one of my mates and I was gay because of the way me and him used to joke around. However, there's others I know who just have no sense of humor when it comes to that. :|
I think the only thing you really can do is try and try and try. No one can really ask more than that of you. Maybe even have a talk to your friends one on one and tell them that you really are trying to adjust to your how things are different where you are now but they just need to try and bare with you while you try to do that. I'm not syaing lose your sense of humor completely but just adjust it when you're around people who can't appreciate it. As for being mean - that's something that no one really likes. I have a high tolerance for the crap I will take from people but even I have a breaking point and obviously your friends will as well.
It will take time for you to adjust and get used to where you are now so give yourself some time. Change always takes time (with guys change can be almost impossible, hehe) but give yourself some time and ask your friends to be patient with you. If they value your friendship they will give you that much at least. Good luck and sorry I can't be more help.
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ok so my friends and i have made some really cool videos on window's movie maker and we wanted to upload them to youtube, but it says it is an invalid file format or something like that. does anyone know a way that we can fix this? thanks!
Firstly check if your videos meet the requirements. They should be less than 100MB AND less than 10 mins in length.
If you're okay on that front then ensure that your file is one of the following formats: .WMV, .AVI, .MOV, or .MPG. If it is then it should upload without any problems. Best thing to do is try uploading the same video from a different pc and see if that works. If it still doesn't work then it might be an idea to try and change your files formats (if it's an wmv file try changing it to an avi file). Bare in mind though that changing the extension alone will NOT work. It will need to be encoded to a different file format in which case you may need to download another program to do this.
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I just bought Avril's new CD. I realized it was edited. Some words were clearly noticeable, but one I just noticed now -- For example, in Everything Back But You, she says "Hey hey psycho babe" when I found out she REALLY says, in the unedited version, "Bitch, slut, psycho babe" Whats up with this?! I searched EVERYWHERE for a part on the CD saying this CD was a clean version! Honestly I hate it. When they just block out words, you can clearly tell. It bugs me. Its too late to return the CD, but is it supposed to be like this, and why? Even the little book inside, with the lyrics inside are edited!
Generally when a cd is made as an edited version (clean) it says so next to the track but it seems they forgot to do that on this particular track which is kind of a rip off. I also have a major distaste for editing of lyrics especially since they are what the real track is about!
If an album contains bad language there is usually a sticker/warning label saying so on the front so those buying the cd are aware of this. If only one track contains bad language and the rest of the tracks don't I would guess the publishers would prefer to edit the language out instead of making the whole cd aimed to an older group of people. Personally if I had brought this CD I'd have taken it back saying there was no indication the track would be edited (including track listing on the back). Shame that you are unable to do this though. :(
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im 14/f
For the past month me and my best friend have had a very f***ed up friendship. I told him how i didnt know if i was a virgin because when i was lil i had a very bad past (long story dont want to get into) One day he asked me if i could send him pictures of me naked. he convinced me because i trusted him and he told me he wanted me and i was having a big effect on him and no one has ever said that to me before especially not a guy i really REALLY want. Anyway the next day he IMed me and said the only reason he asked was to see if id actually do it. he made me feel so cheap and yet i still talk to him every frickin day! and every day he makes me feel cheaper.last night we were talking and i was like the most sexual thing he ever did was make out with a girl almost a year ago and he said so what atleast i know im a virgin. and he knew how big of a sore spot that is for me and he threw it in my face! it was such a low blow. anyway how do i stop talking to a guy whos my best friend bc he keeps scaring me heart and im not sure how much more of this abuse i can take even if its just emotional. it hurts so bad that im tempted to hurt myself but i cant not talk to him. im addicted to him. what should i do?
sorry it was so long.
Firstly I totally agree with what BL4CKB3L7_F41RY said.
Guy's like this are a disease that I've had plenty of experience with. DON'T send him anything else that he asks for - pictures, going on web cam etc, etc, etc. You have no idea what he could be doing with them or who he might show them to and more importantly with people like him all they do is use them against you afterwards when you try to free yourself from their web. Don't give him any more fuel he can throw on the fire.
Cut all contact with him immediately - delete and block him on all your contact lists and put him on your ignore lists so he can't email you anymore. In school if he talks to you then tell him what BL4CKB3L7_F41RY said.
You have a big heart by being there for him when he needed someone and all he's done is act like this to repay you. This is something you don't need and he is someone you don't need. I know you have a lot of feelings for this guy but all he is doing is hurting you. People like that are not friends - let alone best friends. You can do a hell of a lot better for yourself. You may not think so but I KNOW you can. Just have some confidence in yourself. If you need a friend to talk to you have a friend here you can talk to but people like this guy are not friends. Don't hurt yourself just because of him - he isn't worth it. No guy is ever worth that much.
Just try and hang in there. You can cut away the strings this guy is holding onto you with - just believe in yourself. I know you can do it.
If you need any more help with this feel free to message and good luck. Just don't be tempted in harming yourself. :[ Especially over a guy like this, of all people.
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My bf of 5 1/2 months broke up with me on Thurs. It's my fault though. We loved each other and been through so much but I have been giving him so much shit and I was so demanding. I wanted everything my way and I always wanted to me right. I always talked shit about his family and his friends when I got mad. I knew he was getting sick of it. He was sick of the shit I was doing. He's given me multiple chances to stop and I took what he said for granted. I thought he'd take me back no matter what. But the last time he dumped me he said the next time I do it, it's really gonna be over and I said I wouldn't. But what happened was that he was out with his friends playing baseball and I texted him twice and he didn't respond and I thought he was ignoring me and was mad at me so then I sent him a text that said well you know what fuck you and your friends. I hope you all burn in hell. You're all gay and you're just like them. He sent me a text back that said well you know what you can kiss me ass because we're done. I thought he was just saying that and then we'd talk later and work it out. But he really ment it. =/ I talked to him on the phone later and I was asking him if he really ment it and at first he said I don't know and I asked him later again and he said Jacky this is what I want. I can't deal with your shit anymore. I can't deal with it. I know I screwed up and I went to far. It's all my fault. He was talking to my best friend that night and he told her that he still likes me a lot and that he's still in love with me but he can't deal with the stuff I do. He wants me to change. He said the only way he would take me back was as if I would change and not just over time but gradually over time. I cried my eyes out the day he dumped me. I only got an hour of sleep or something and then I woke up and went to take shower and I cried even more. Then I went to school and school was a total blur. It was so different without him in my life. But then I saw him at lunch and we were ignoring each other at first and then we started talking..Well more like flirting, a lot. He'd tap his leg against my knee and stare in specific private places that so called "used to be his" and I'd say, what?! And he'd smile and say, "Nothing!" lol. We'd just be smiling and laughing at each other a lot. It felt the same like we were going out. And he just kept staring at me intentionally while I knew it. I really didn't get it, whether he was playing with me or if he wants me back still or something. But what really pissed me off was that at our table he was acting like he's hot shit and he's all happy and everything. I didn't get it..I asked him how he was and he said great. We've been through so much and everything and we know each other so well and we had sex with each other. He told me he'd be with me forever. Then he'd stare at this girls body parts in front of me and act like I'd care and I'd pretend I wouldn't be looking at him while he was doing that then he said Jacky there was this girl who had a nice ass! I was like nice..I didn't understand what he was doing. Then I saw him flirting with my ex best friend laughing and smiling at her and he didn't know I was around but I don't know why he was doing that shit. I was so sad it's incredible. He loves me and still likes me, why would he be doing this?! :( And what was even weirder was that after 7th hour I walked with my best friend Laura because she always meets her bf who's friends with mine and I walked with them and then my ex and were talking and he kept smiling at me and he waited for me at my locker..It was so weird. But my life feels so messed up right now. I really want him back so bad. What do you think I should do? How do I get him back?
Hi Jacky.
Hmm, this is a bit of a mess isn't it. I can honestly say though it's not all your own mess. So you made some mistakes - it happens. My ex was the same as you in some ways at first and then we ended up breaking up because I couldn't deal with it. She was so clingy to the point I was feeling like I'm being pushed into a corner and when that happens I get defensive so we broke up.
I always say no one should have to change who they are but some changes can be a good thing. You do seem to anger fast especially over speculative things like thinking that your bf was ignoring you because he wasn't answering (knowing he was going to be playing baseball so he may not have had a chance to reply or even had his cell phone off). I don't really know where or how you can try and start trying to control your anger but it is obviously something that you will need to try and control. However, that said - your bf is also not making things any easier on you with how he is acting.
I think the best thing to do is have a chat with him and ask him straight out where you both stand. If you feel he is flirting with you but then also flirting with others to make you feel jealous (generally the kind of childish things guys do) then you've a right to know where you stand especially if he said this time your breaking up was for good. It's not fair on you for him to say that and then keep you stringing along in the hopes he likes you still and might want you back. Tell him you will try to control your anger and change because at the end of the day that the best anyone can really do but you need to know where you stand with him. It's one way or the other but he can't have both. Otherwise all he is doing is making things more complicated for you especially when he might know you still have a lot of feelings for him.
Good luck and I'm sorry I can't really recommend much else on what you can do. I hope everything works out though and if you need any more help feel free to write. :] I can recommend a few ways to try free your mind and ease your anger but I'm not sure how well they would work for you. :/
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Friday afterschool (around 5:00) my dad had prayed a bug bomb in out kitchen and had left the cookie uncovered when he sprayed. I went home and ate 1 cookie that was the only one that was only semi-uncovered. Will I be okay or should I go see a doctor? I feel fine and everything but I would just like to make sure.
Generally i would say that your mom should have called medical assistance to check if you'll be okay as well as given you plenty of water to dilute and flush the toxins out of your system. Since she didn't I would assume the stuff is probably fairly safe and your mom might have just been trying to scare you.
Either way if the amount you injested was going to cause complications I think you'd probably have known it by now, so you should be safe. Regardless, I suggest checking up on the bottle/container of the stuff for further information on how dangerous the stuff is as well as what it recommends incase of human consumption since this information is usually on the cans. If it says to seek medical advice then calling your family doctor to make sure you'll be okay will not really do any harm, just be to be on the safe side. :]
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