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Addicted to an emotional abusive guy
im 14/f
For the past month me and my best friend have had a very f***ed up friendship. I told him how i didnt know if i was a virgin because when i was lil i had a very bad past (long story dont want to get into) One day he asked me if i could send him pictures of me naked. he convinced me because i trusted him and he told me he wanted me and i was having a big effect on him and no one has ever said that to me before especially not a guy i really REALLY want. Anyway the next day he IMed me and said the only reason he asked was to see if id actually do it. he made me feel so cheap and yet i still talk to him every frickin day! and every day he makes me feel cheaper.last night we were talking and i was like the most sexual thing he ever did was make out with a girl almost a year ago and he said so what atleast i know im a virgin. and he knew how big of a sore spot that is for me and he threw it in my face! it was such a low blow. anyway how do i stop talking to a guy whos my best friend bc he keeps scaring me heart and im not sure how much more of this abuse i can take even if its just emotional. it hurts so bad that im tempted to hurt myself but i cant not talk to him. im addicted to him. what should i do?
sorry it was so long.
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In order to break an addiction, no matter what it may be, you need to cut off the source of it. So, drop this guy. Do whatever it takes for you to get rid of him. Change your email, delete/block him from your MySpace if you've got one, change your numbers, or block his number, block him or delete him off your buddylists, whatever it takes. Avoid him at school & do whatever it takes not to talk to this guy. He's a pervert, and he's a jerk. You've done the first step in realizing that this friendship wasn't a good one, and now it's up to you to end it. With that people below me said, your friends don't make you feel this way, whether they realize it or not. You need to find new friends, and you need to get some counseling. You've had a rough past, and you need to get help for it. I wish you the best of luck.
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Firstly I totally agree with what BL4CKB3L7_F41RY said.
Guy's like this are a disease that I've had plenty of experience with. DON'T send him anything else that he asks for - pictures, going on web cam etc, etc, etc. You have no idea what he could be doing with them or who he might show them to and more importantly with people like him all they do is use them against you afterwards when you try to free yourself from their web. Don't give him any more fuel he can throw on the fire.
Cut all contact with him immediately - delete and block him on all your contact lists and put him on your ignore lists so he can't email you anymore. In school if he talks to you then tell him what BL4CKB3L7_F41RY said.
You have a big heart by being there for him when he needed someone and all he's done is act like this to repay you. This is something you don't need and he is someone you don't need. I know you have a lot of feelings for this guy but all he is doing is hurting you. People like that are not friends - let alone best friends. You can do a hell of a lot better for yourself. You may not think so but I KNOW you can. Just have some confidence in yourself. If you need a friend to talk to you have a friend here you can talk to but people like this guy are not friends. Don't hurt yourself just because of him - he isn't worth it. No guy is ever worth that much.
Just try and hang in there. You can cut away the strings this guy is holding onto you with - just believe in yourself. I know you can do it.
If you need any more help with this feel free to message and good luck. Just don't be tempted in harming yourself. :[ Especially over a guy like this, of all people.
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First of all, never send anyone nude pictures. Did you know that he could be arrested for possession of child pornography?
Cut off all contact with this guy. Delete him from your IM list, change your IM address, avoid him at school... and if he sees you and asks why you blocked him, tell him that you had to make some life changes, and that you realized that his friendship was hurting you, and that it's not something that you feel you should have to put up with.
People like this are poison. No friend should hurt you like that. A real friend wouldn't make you feel like a cheap whore.
Make some new, nice friends!
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