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i screwed things up
15/f
im still in love with my ex bf. im the one who broke up with him but its only because i was having major issues w/ myself that i wish not to state here. we started hanging out again about 3 months after we broke it off & things were going good until my "problems" came back & i was so confused 7 i said a lot of things i didnt mean. & we stopped talking. then a month later he asks me to his prom & i accept. so then im thinking he wants to get back together so i kind of ask him about it. then he goes into things like i kept jerking him around & hes not really ready for a relationship again yet he kissed me. i told him i cant go to prom cuz that would be too awkward. but i screwed things up with the things i said to him but i cant get him out of my mind. what should i doo????
-Coree
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Apologize for the things you said. Tell him you didn't mean them, but you need some time to yourself so you can get your life back on track.
In that time, cut boys short. Friends too if that's what it takes. Make everything about you. I'm not saying to become a self-centered bitch, but you need time for yourself. You need you-time. Focus on school & making yourself happy. Once you can have a clear mind & you're happy with the way things are going, bring those people back into your life.
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Hi Coree.
These things happen so don't beat yourself up about it too much. We all go thorugh this sometimes and I myself have been there a lot of times. It was hard to actually tell my ex at the time exactly what 'issues' I had because it was hard to actually put them into words.
The only thing I can really recommend though is that if you want to save your friendship with your ex then you explain you had some issues you needed to deal with but you are now over them and are ready to get back into a relationship if he wants to try again. If he doesn't want a relationship then it might be a good idea, next time he tries to kiss you, to tell him you can't do that because that would just cause problems (on the one side he doesn't want a relationship and on the other he's kissing you?).
First and foremost though you need to try and resolve all these problems that you have been going through. If you have not actually resolved them and put them to rest they will only come back to mess things up again and again. This should be your first priority. I know you love this guy but getting into another relationship with him will do no good if these 'problems' will just come back to throw things back to square one again. Try and deal with them first without and distractions and once you have conquered these problems you can move onto trying to see where you stand with your ex and perhaps try to fix things between you or at the vey least at least still remain friends if nothing else.
Good luck with everyhting and I hope I was able to help a little.
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Tell him how you feel, even if you are worried by hat he might think. And did you tell him what your "problems" were? If not then I suggest you do, it'll help. Don't go to prom if it's going to put you in an awkward position.
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