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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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Hi there,

Please log out, and log back in using Zane. Your e-mail address from Zanee has been transferred over to Zane.

Thank you,

DN.



Thank you DN!

As for my computer I currently do not have one. Working on that! Should be getting one soon
:-) thanks again and have a great weekend.

-Zane

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I bought this new Easter dress from rue 21. It'd white lace at the top and a salmon-y color at the bottom. Well the problem is I need shoes but not sure what matches that. I already have some tan sandals from last year would that work??


Solid shoes or even sandals will match anything.



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Umm well my mom still won't let me shave my legs so is there a way I can hide the hair or something tht makes it look like I shaved without actually shaving. I'm dark skin. Just telling u that in case it might help. Thx!!



Technically you do not need your mother's permission to shave your own legs. You can biy your own razor at Walmart in the woman's department for about $8.00. Just shave your legs when you take a shower. This is not something you need to tell your parents. Just do it

If you don't have a walmart near by then just walk to a cvs or Walgreens.

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So, I have a new girlfriend and I really like her alot. But one of my friends (who barely knows her) was telling me to be careful, that he sees a bad future because he thinks she "has no morals" I don't exactly see what he sees. She might be immature and rebellious, but she's clean, she ironically gets good grades, and she's very unique, she acts out sometimes but doesn't really do bad things. He was mentioning how she's always trying to hit me and says rude things sometimes, but when she's not playing around, she's not as bad, like around my parents and whatnot. My parents like her, I don't see what my friends are talking about (2 have mentioned it) They said she's likely to cheat on me, first of all, she's a virgin who basically stays home all day, second they don't know her like I do. idk. I don't think she'd do anything to hurt me. but my friends worried me and bothered me.


This is the problem nowadays, Who the hell cares whst someone eles thinks?

If you like her then give her a chance. Sounds to me like these "friends" are quick to judge. This girl may actually be nothing like what they assume she may be. Infact she could turn out to be a very nice person. The truth is no matter what you do and who you decide ti date someone somewhere will have their opinions. Who gives a shit? You need to decide for yourself and not have others decide for you. If you decide to date her and people are still telling you crap then you need to tell them it is your choice and they need to mind their buisness. Decide for YOU if your friends can't grow up and learn to have some respect then you need to find dome new friends. If I listened to what other people told me I wouldn't be married right now and not listening to my friends opinions about my husband was the best thing I ever did.

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13/F/91 Pounds/5 Foot 1

So my dad always calls me fat... He always says stuff like "Yet, you're eating again." And "You're gonna explode!" Yet, HE'S THE FAT ONE. My pants are WAY too big for me and he says stuff to always put me down.

I eat 1200 calories a day - Is that too much? Should I drop to 800? I'm seriously starting to feel terrible about myself.. :( Please help me!



Sweetie the normal weight for 5'1 is 110-115lbs. At 91 you are definitely not fat at all. Infact, You aren't even nowhere near even being overweight.

Sometimes people who feel bad about themselves put other people down to make themselves feel better. No, 1200 calories is very very normal and healthy! Do not let your parents remarks put you down and remember, You are fine. You are stronger then to alloe someone eles negativity affect you. No, You are not fat and your 1200 calories is just fine.

The next time someone says something just laugh it off. Say something like " Yep! I am eating again at least I am healthy!" Laugh it off and ignore it.

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So I have an iPod Touch. Tomorrow at school, we only go for 5 hours. I want to bring it to school because there's something SUPER EXCITING at school happening at school and I want to record it.

I'm just scared I'm going to get it stolen... I never leave my backpack anywhere, and if I have to, I leave it somewhere else. I ALWAYS have my backpack with me, no matter what.

Do you think I should bring it? I'm not sure... I'm just thinking I should leave my backpack in my locker all day until that thing happens. Ugh! I need advice! Please help ASAP. Thanks :)



I would never take a chance on something like that being stolen or even possibly broken. Not a cheap object so I wpuld leave it at home, Better safe then sorry.

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Should parents give children allowance?



An allowance is not something that is deserved. In my eyes it should be given for educational purposes and award.

Allowance can teach a child how to manage money, how to save and even how to budget when money is spent.

I think an allowance is reasonable if the child helps around the house and shows good and respectful behavior. As a child I got $10.00 a week.

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I know this boy for five years.I am 13 and he is 14.He is very shy.I love him soo much.I dont know that he loves me or not.I notice that:
He starres at me alot and when I caught him,he blushed or quickly looks away.
When I am around him,he smiles alot.
He blushes alot.
He always call me by my first name.
I have the feeling that he loves me.
Please tell me that he loves me or not because its "MY FIRST LOVE"



He likes you, He may even have a crush on you but no, he does not "love you"

Realistically the kid is only 14. He is young and does not know the true meaning of love. So your answer is no.

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I've always known about my husband needing to crossdress from when we first got together I've helped him with clothes etc to help him feel more comfortable. Even go out for walks , always sit and listen if he wants to talk. The last 4 months he hasn't had chance to dress up etc as its been hectic im 6 mths pregnant his eldest child lives with us and is constantly in the house with his girlfriend. I noticed he started to get angry aggressive and like he can't cope with stress. I nearly left it got so bad. I pointed out he hadn't dressed etc for a while so he did and has complete chilled out again. I know his crossdressing was a stress reliever but does it really have this affect if left so long without? Any advice would be great. I try so hard to be supportive but I've been so devastated by recent behaviour, especially in a high risk pregnancy, could this be a valid excuse as he now seems his happy self.
Thank you for reading.



I think this may be the only time I really disagree with Adviceman

While his actions are completely harmless, I would be questioning whether he may have more behind the cross dressing.

It's a funny thing really, A friend of my family who has grown adult children has been married for 14 years and she discovered he secretly crossed dress. Comes to find out he was gay and didn't know exactly how to break the news.

Maybe it is his way of relieving stress, Maybe it is no more then what it is. Let me ask you this, Are you okay with your husband cross dressing? Are you okay that he goes for walks like this? Now these are the answers to your question.

Now if I were in your shoes; Personally I am a little on the zero tolerance and judgment side.

If my husband chosed to cross dress personally I would really be questioning his sexual orientation. I would ask what made him chose this as a stress reliever and why.


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Ok so I'm wondering if at the age of 16 I can move out of my parents house ? Can they call the cops and make me go back home ? By the way I live in CT



No, Legally you are a minor and are not an adult until you are 18 years.

Leaving home will lead to reported juvenile runaway. If caught you can end up in juvenile detention. Not worth it

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I'm writing a story and I am looking for a girl's name that starts with an S and means "beautiful," or "dancer," or "beautiful dancer" can anybody please give me some options or website links? thanks for your help :)



Serena

Sophia

Stephanie

Shelby

Stacy

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My husband and I have been together for 15 years. Our marriage has had it's ups and downs but we have managed to stay together. The problem we are having right now is too embarrassing for me to talk to with anyone else about. When I was looking at my husband's iPhone to see what time hehad called me since he asked me why I didn't answer his call. He was sitting right there with me. I noticed he had a text exchange from a former female coworker. I had asked him just a few days prior to that if be had heard anything from his former coworkers and he answered no. Anyway, the text was about them meeting for lunch but he was unable to because he was working out of town that day. He called her "quack!!!quack!!! with lots of exclamation marks. He said that was a nickname he called her because that was her ringtone on his phone and "Tall T" (her name is Theresa and she is short) Why she had her own special ringtone on his work phone I don't know. During this conversation she called him "My little red neck buddy" (he is 6'3" tall). He explicitly said "he was hoping to meet her for lunch"
but they were not in the same town so they agreed to make it another time. My concerns were the cutesy little nicknames they called each other seemed weird and inappropriate, and I saw no reason he should be meeting a former female coworker for lunch and why was he being so secretive? His response. They were just friends and nothing more and he was planning on meeting her with another former female coworker, yet the text said "meet you" no mention of anyone else. And she said "I am working" not "we are working". He has never said anything about being such good friends with her. He works with females sometimes in his work and they eat lunch together at times but I have no problems with that. I feel like he shouldn't be meeting a former female coworker that he has nothing in common with. At the company Christmas party she actually told dirty jokes to the whole roomful of people and wore a low cut blouse with her one breast hanging out that the company secretary had to tell her to cover up. And he wants to meet her for lunch. He tried to turn it around on me and told me that they were
"just friends" and I was overreacting. He said if I had a problem with it he wouldn't meet her. My guess is if he does I would be the last to know. I don't think there is anything going on now but I feel betrayed and I feel like he was pursuing her. It sounded like he was hitting on her. A few years ago at a family wedding a husband tried to beat him up because his wife said my husband kept touching her inappropriately. It was on a part bus and I was setting someplace else so was not aware of it till a few days later when my daughter told me about it. He said he drank too much and could not remember anything. My trust in him is just about gone. I can't get this out of my mind. He is home evenings and weekends but he works in different towns and could be doing whatever and I wouldn't know. Do you think I am overreacting?



There are to many red flags here.

1, An explaination for the ringtone is that he uses it to tell the difference between wife and coworker.

Sounds like he is hiding something and could even be cheating.

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I've known this guy for about 7 years we've dated off and on for the past year. He actually tried to get with me pretty much throughout all of high school but he was younger than me by two years so I never felt sexually attracted to him until now that we're both seniors in college. He broke up with me last october and we've tried to be friends but it never worked cause we're too much alike. anyway, we hooked up two weeks ago and have been "friends" since then but yesterday we were joking around about past sexual encounters and he sent me pictures of girls he screwed while we were broken up...... SERIOUSLY WHO DOES THAT?!? Am I wrong for being so upset about it even though we're just "friends"? He wasn't like this in high school, I feel like now he's just become so cruel and i've taken it for so long that I think he thinks it's okay to treat me like this. I don't want to lose him so what do i do/say? I feel like if I say something he'll be like "we're not dating so what does it matter"? HELP!



He is immature, rude and inconsiderate

He sent you pictures to make you jealous and hurt you. Doesn't sound like much if a "friend" if you ask me. Anyone who looks to intentionally hurt someone needs to grow up.

I would seek revenge in a grown up way and cut all contact with him. Life is better that way, Leave him in the past.

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Hi there,

I see you changed your account name to the same as your last one, but with an extra E at the end. How about I just combine your accounts into Zane, or whichever you choose to have as a permanent account?

Please let me know in your answer what you would like done, or if it requires a little conversation, please add me on skype. (Same username)

Thanks,

DN.



Hello DN


I do not have skype as I am currently mobile. I would live to have Zane's account back. I had accidently deleted the email account with Zane so was not able to retrieve it.

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is it possible to make a girl like you? if yes how?
if no, then please help me, i really like this girl and i would do anything for her, but she likes someone else.




No sorry you can't make someone like you.

What you can do is try to get to know her. Be nice and respectful is always a plus. Women like men who are gentlemen like and notice them. Compliments ( don't over do it though) be polite and show interest in what she talks about etc.

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I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady and I know she likes me as a person and student.

She is about 26 or 27 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time, I go out of my way to walk past her room or see her, check out her Facebook page all the time to see her pictures, and I can't stand the thought of not being with her.

I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have my sister and one of my friends stand outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. Also to immediately close the door when I go for it and then open it again after.

another way of doing this is this way. Disguise myself with a mask and change of clothes. Rush in and blindfold her and then start kissing her. However, this seems like more of a risk than the first way since she won't be so surprised if I come in as myself and talk to her normally first

some reasons why this can work

If she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do?

I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over.

And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? And also have to go through a whole investigation and her name being everywhere?

. She can also be kind of flirty sometimes with her male students so therefore it won't be hard for people to believe she is the one that came on to me if I need to tell that story.

I'm also not the type of person people would believe would do anything so rash.

Also, if she goes against me without any proof she might look like a bully.

Also, I won't tell anyone anything unless I can tell she is thinking about telling someone first


some have made some counters saying the plan won't work, I think though these criticisms have no weight

-they say that they would believe her and not me. But the thing is though she will have no EVIDENCE, or witnesses. So I find this hard to believe they will automatically go after me just on her word. If this was true, what is to stop any teacher from telling that a student did something inappropriate and getting them in trouble?

-they say the police will be called in to question me and make me take a lie detector test. First, I don't think it will have to go that far since again there is no evidence. Also, I already know that lie detector tests are considered unreliable and are not used in court.

-they say she will be more than willing to go through with pressing charges and getting lawyers and stuff to defend herself. But the thing is if she doesn't tell anyone then she won't have to in the first place. And it is not just the money, she will have to deal with the whole investigation and publicity and having this all being gossiped about

I will also make sure there are no cameras or anything in the room in advance, and if there are I will call this off. Also, I will make sure there is nobody else around so there will be no witnesses. We will take a look at the area and plan everything in advance. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me, my heart pounds just thinking about her


EDIT: You call that normal?... seriously? This is fucked up.
Kissing her and forcing yourself on her isn't going to solve your problem. GET SOME HELP

1, You want to forceably kiss your teacher - sexual harrassment

2, You look at her facebook continuously - stalking

3, You want to plan this out so you don't get caught - wwrong wrong wrong

4, You fail, There is no success in this kid.



You need some professional help

You are planning to harrass abd assault your teacher. THIS IS WRONG.

You bet your ass you will be reported and if so you can ve charged with harrassment, sexual assault and be possibly expelled from the school.

Blunt: You sound like a fuckin creep

Now please, see a counselor or a therapist because your screws need some serious adjustment

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So me and my boyfriend have been dating since august and when we first got together I told him about something i had done. It involved me and someone not of our ethnicity. He is German and has a superiority thing going on. he will constantly bring up the fact that i done this and he tells me that is disgusts him, but then he says that its his own personal demons and that he will just get over it, that it isn't me, its him. The last thing i want my boyfriend to do is to think i am sick. besides it was before i even met him or even knew of him. He said it is what it is and that i cant change it and neither can he but it bothers him ALL OF THE TIME but he wants it to go away because he shouldnt feel like that...what should i do, he is the love of my life and just knowing he feels this way but loves me very much, it crushes me to no end. Help?



Phsh, Sorry but GilbertMar doesn't know everything in the book.

I am going to have say dump him. This happened before you both got together and to hold it over your head like that is wrong. It is almost April and if he can't get over it by now then he may never get over it. Find someone who trust and respects you like you deserve.

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Im 14 and Iva had sex like 10 times. But they say i suck. What should I do?



Honestly? Sounds like this person is too immature to be having sex with. When two people have sex, They do not criticize each other. Obviously the kid has some serious growing up too do.

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Okay , so, two hears ago, i move to a new school, i meet an amazing guy, soon we're best frriends, we text, talk, all the time! He however, has a girlfriend, and i think they're happy together, n i dont want to break them up, but i like this guy, and we do go well together, problem is..this girl's smokin' hot! N im not as good looking, so thats a downpoint for me. I have no idea what to do, because we do flirt, but i dont think he's serious. And i dont think confrontaion is a good idea because we're really good friends and i have no idea what to do!



Looks has nothing to do with someone loving a person. It doesn't matter if your 3 feet tall with a pole sticking out of your ass, If you have a nice personality then your a catch.

If he is flirting with you then obviously he isn't too serious about Ms. Barbie is he? You are already working your way in there. You don't. Need to say anything, If he is flirting hen it has already crossed his mind. Now it seems like a waiting game on his part. Basically I can almost predict it's. A matter of time before he gets bored with his Malibu barbie. Be patient

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how do you make your teeth whiter? i do everything that you are supposed to do: brush my teeth twice a day with a whitening toothpaste, floss and i use mouthwash. is there something that i am missing or a weird tip that helps whiten teeth?



Proxide,water and baking Soda

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