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why does he get mad and send me pictures of girls he had sex with?
I've known this guy for about 7 years we've dated off and on for the past year. He actually tried to get with me pretty much throughout all of high school but he was younger than me by two years so I never felt sexually attracted to him until now that we're both seniors in college. He broke up with me last october and we've tried to be friends but it never worked cause we're too much alike. anyway, we hooked up two weeks ago and have been "friends" since then but yesterday we were joking around about past sexual encounters and he sent me pictures of girls he screwed while we were broken up...... SERIOUSLY WHO DOES THAT?!? Am I wrong for being so upset about it even though we're just "friends"? He wasn't like this in high school, I feel like now he's just become so cruel and i've taken it for so long that I think he thinks it's okay to treat me like this. I don't want to lose him so what do i do/say? I feel like if I say something he'll be like "we're not dating so what does it matter"? HELP!
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Well it was extremely rude and you're not wrong to be upset by this.
I mean he could possibly somehow see you as "one of the guys" and send pictures but I highly doubt that. Like the advice below, some guys think that it makes girls want them more. For me, it's a turn off and obviously is for you too.
I'd even be offended if a guy who was really just my friend and never was anything more than that sent me pictures of girls he screwed. It's just rude all together.
Anyways, you should tell him not to do that again. If he does say, "We're not dating so why does it matter?" Then tell him you just think it's rude and that different friendships have a different level of respect.
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Why? Because he's a manipulative idiot.
You are not 'wrong' for being upset, but ask yourself this honestly:
Were you wrong to expect any better from him?
Didn't you know this is the kind of asshole he is these days?
Maybe he really did just make a stupid choice. Maybe he was just trying to treat you like 'one of the guys' by showing you those pictures. Maybe he really didn't understand that being friends with you, his ex and someone he has had casual sex with, doesn't mean the exact same things as being 'friends' with the guys he get drunk with. Different friendships require different kinds of respect and courtesy.
Maybe he just didn't 'get' that, and didn't realize that treating you like any other friend wasn't respectful of the kind of friendship he actually has with you.
Or, maybe he was being a manipulative jackass, who was trying to show off too you. Maybe he believed (as many men believe) that seeing he could get other hot girls would make you want him more. (I am told some girls really do behave this way.)
He probably doesn't really know the truth of why he did this, and even if does know, he might not tell you.
I understand 7 years is a long time to know someone and it's hard to let go, but it should also be long enough to take a good look at the person he is today and tell yourself "Nope. Not what I want in my life."
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He is immature, rude and inconsiderate
He sent you pictures to make you jealous and hurt you. Doesn't sound like much if a "friend" if you ask me. Anyone who looks to intentionally hurt someone needs to grow up.
I would seek revenge in a grown up way and cut all contact with him. Life is better that way, Leave him in the past.
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