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My dad calls me fat...<;(
13/F/91 Pounds/5 Foot 1
So my dad always calls me fat... He always says stuff like "Yet, you're eating again." And "You're gonna explode!" Yet, HE'S THE FAT ONE. My pants are WAY too big for me and he says stuff to always put me down.
I eat 1200 calories a day - Is that too much? Should I drop to 800? I'm seriously starting to feel terrible about myself.. :( Please help me!
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You are about 10 to 15 pounds under weight for your age. Being underweight is worse than being overweight by the same amount. At your age being underweight can for one thing stunt you normal development that is meant to take place during puberty.
Now as for your father calling you fat. By your own writing you are not fat; as I have said above you need to gain weight to be at a healthy weight. By calling you fat for whatever reason when you are not in any way fat. This to me is a form of child abuse. Mental cruelty, which is what he is doing is a form of child abuse.
If you mom can not talk to him and make him stop or if mom is no longer with you. Then you need to talk to a trusted adult about what is happening at home. This trusted adult could be a trusted teacher at school or your school principal. Tell them what is going on and they have rules to follow that will get dad some parenting help to stop this abuse.
Continuing to be this much underweight or losing more weight can be very harmful to you physical well being. Being underweight can cause problems with your Kidneys, Heart and lungs.
Only your doctor can tell you for sure what is a practical weight you should be and the minimum calorie count you need to take in a day based on you daily activity's.
Once you talk to a teacher or principal you need to see a doctor for a complete exam and find out what your proper weight should be. Then have the doctor tell you how many calories a day you need to take in to get to that weight. Once at your proper weight you will need to know how many calories a day you need to maintain that weight.
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My mom would do that to me. I hated it and it always hurt me. But, eventually I learned that really all i need is to feel good about myself. It's not easy. But despite hearing what your dad says, you have to tell yourself you are great :)
I'm 5'1 and I way more than that, but I'm still in the normal range (105 and 132 pounds). So you're just fine. Trust me. You're probably a stick. A 13-year-old girl should consume between 1,400 and 2,200 calories each day, so really you're eating less than you should. You know, I would focus on eating right. Make sure you're getting your nutrients and don't worry about what your dad says. Parents sometimes don't realize how much of an effect their words have.
Focus on what your body needs and how you feel. Be strong :)
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My dad did that when I was around your age. I felt like crap and it really did put me down.
Honestly, even though your family is supposed to be there for you and not say things like that, there will always be someone who will criticize the way you look. Always.
What you need to do it let all that go. Don't let things people say get to you. It'll end up running your life.
Your weight is fine and the calories you're eating is fine.
Laugh it off, and continue on.
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Sweetie the normal weight for 5'1 is 110-115lbs. At 91 you are definitely not fat at all. Infact, You aren't even nowhere near even being overweight.
Sometimes people who feel bad about themselves put other people down to make themselves feel better. No, 1200 calories is very very normal and healthy! Do not let your parents remarks put you down and remember, You are fine. You are stronger then to alloe someone eles negativity affect you. No, You are not fat and your 1200 calories is just fine.
The next time someone says something just laugh it off. Say something like " Yep! I am eating again at least I am healthy!" Laugh it off and ignore it.
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