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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

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I'm looking for a very unique, well put together cute myspace layout. Do yu know any sites I can get some at? Ill rate hiiigh!

There you go.

-Laura (17-f)

i thought i was pregnant but then came on a light period. later on that same day i suddenly starting bleeding really heavy and it was not the usual dark colour blood it was bright red.can anybody explain what happened to me please?

It means you got your period and you're not pregnant.

Woo Hoo...

-Laura (17-f)

I'm thinking of making up some simple, to-the-point Babysitting fliers to put around in my neighbors mailboxes.

I have experience.. and I'm 19 years old, but here's one of the questions - do you think that's creepy if I do that? lol

I want them to be very simple, but at the same time give just enough information where they consider me... what exactly should I put?

Thanks

I think it's a fine idea. Another thing you can do is hang them up at places like grocery stores I know a lot of the grocery stores near my house have like, a bulletin board for the public where you can hang fliers advertising things such as babysitting services.

As far as what to put:

- Your age. Make sure they know you're not just some 13 year old whose young enough to still need a babysitter them self.

- Your experience. This way, parents will know that you can be trusted with their children.

- Your phone number, with "call with any questions or for more information" right next to it. This will make you seem approachable.

* Don't forget to put your name! So they know who to ask for when they call.

- Days and hours that you are available, so parents will know if your schedule can work with theirs.

Good luck!

-Laura (17-f)

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My boyfriend keeps talking about how he's planning this romantic date for us the next time i go and see him..hes making it such a big deal and i want it to be perfect...im trying to find a really good outfit for it but i dont know what to wear! hes just a little bit taller than me, and im tall to begin with so i don't wear heels...also it should be somewhat warm temperatures...any ideas...hes planning on going to dinner & then going to the beach..but im not sure what else...also is there anything else i can do to make it be even better for him? we go to school together, but during the summer we are 4 hours apart, and so when we see eachother i want it to be great

As far as the outfit goes:

A cute summer dress with flip flops or sandals (not just Old Navy ones though, maybe a pear with a nice rhinestone detail? Or maybe a gladiator sandal?) Then, wear some bangles on your wrist and put your hair in a low, semi-messy bun (the true name for the style escapes me at the moment...)

The dress is weather appropriate and nice, but not too nice. The flip flops help to make it look nicer and you avoid the issue of heels. The bangles add a cute, beachy vibe to it. And the hair will just look perfect!

Here are some ideas to help you see what I mean:

- Dress:
1. http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress%5Fcasual&product%5Fid=2062404792&Page=all

2. http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress%5Fcasual&product%5Fid=2061114921&Page=all

3. http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress%5Fcasual&product%5Fid=2061836289&Page=all#

- Shoes:
1. http://www.target.com/Xhilaration-Tameka-Flat-Sandals-Bronze/dp/B001O6SN80/qid=1244487106/ref=br_1_12/188-7358042-2081322?ie=UTF8&node=3429501&frombrowse=1&rh=&page=1

2. http://www.target.com/Sunny-Feet-Journee-Rhinestone-Flops/dp/B001VE0RES/qid=1244487269/ref=br_1_6/188-7358042-2081322?ie=UTF8&node=3429501&frombrowse=1&pricerange=&index=tgt-mf-mv&field-browse=3429501&rank=salesrank&rh=tgt%5F2%3AGray%2Cp%5F36%3A%240-%2424&page=2

- Jewelry:

1. http://shop.pacsun.com/girls/girls-jewelry/bracelets/Brown-Blue-Bangle-Bracelets/index.pro

2. http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=acc%5Fjewelry&product%5Fid=1058237963&Page=4

- Hair:

1. http://images.smarter.com/blogs/michelle%20williams.jpg

2. http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_30PRmkOl4ro/SF_F2F0EIeI/AAAAAAAAA-Q/suW_BxxJahI/s400/061008_hair11_sp08_400x400.jpg

3. http://images.totalbeauty.com/content/photos/p_reese_witherspoon_p04.jpg

As far as making it special, bring a camera! Take pictures, then make him a little scrapbook to commemorate the special night :)

Good luck & have fun!

-Laura (17-f)

okay so right now i have a Dell Inspiron 6000, but this week i am getting a new Macbook computer. my sister recently made this same change in computers but found that she couldnt transer her itunes from her dell or ipod to the mac.

so my question is, how do i transfer my whole itunes from my dell to my new macbook?

i have an ipod touch and an ipod classic by the way if that matters or helps?

Use this program calling Music Rescue.

I've used it a few times. It works and it's amazing.

-Laura (17-f)

I really want to get over this guy but i cant. were going ut for almost a month but then we got into a fight and he broke up with me. hoe do i get over this perso, i really did like him and i still do. but i dont want to. its hard for me because hes always around my friends. i just want to stop. any ideas for how to?

sign,
confussed and hurt:(

* First off: I disagree with the person below me. Rushing in to another relationship will not help anything, you'll only end up getting hurt worse.

As far as getting over it:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Best of luck! :)

-Laura (17-f)

if someone were to have sex 1-2 days right before her period, is there a big or small chance she would have gotten pregnant?

ANY TIME you have sex, there is a chance you will get pregnant. It doesn't matter if you're on your period or not, about to get it or not, there is still a chance.

-Laura (17-f)

what are you guys opinions on someone getting drunk to lose there virginity. because im thinking about doing that cause im scared its really going to hurt. and i dont want to have to deal with the pain. and by the way im 16 female. thankyou in advancee

Honestly...I think it's disgusting and irresponsible. Not to sound harsh, and not to pass judgements, but WHY would you DO that?

Your first time is supposed to be special, not some drunken hook up. I think you should wait until you're ready, because you don't sound like you're ready. You're only 16, and you have plenty of time left!

I'm sure you're a young and responsible woman, so think this situation. Think about how much you'll come to regret it and how much you'll wish you'd waited until you had been with somebody you really wanted to be with. Think about how much you'll regret it (if you even remember it?!)

Like I said: think about it, and I'm sure you will make the right choice when the time comes.

-Laura (17-f)

Ok so i still am in love with my ex and he doesnt know it ,but he has a girlfriend and she lives soo far away , but he talks to her on the phone all the time

do you think he loves her?

My best guess is that if she is his GIRLFRIEND, he has feelings of some form or another for her and does genuinely care about her, though.

-Laura (17-f)

i like this boy named josh. we get along really well and we went out for almost a year 2 years ago...then we kind of broke apart. well im in 7th grade(going on 8th) and we stareted talking again and i like him. hes really an awsome guy but hes dating my friend kelsey. truthfully i dont think they act like a couple AT ALL! im not going to go into detail. so anyway, i want to show josh that i can be better for him than her but i dont want to make an enemy, if you no what i mean. so i just need to no what i should do.

what do you think...let me no.

I think you should forget about him.

You're what...13? You have PLENTY of time for guys, and trust me, most of the time relationships aren't worth it at such a young age.

I think you should leave "Josh and Kelsey" alone and just spend time with friends. Focus on having a nice summer vacation instead of breaking up this guy and his girlfriend. If you really cared about him, you'd want him to be happy anyways.

-Laura (17-f)

The most amazing boy i've ever had in my entire life, my dream guy, just broke up with me.
Every time i look at him i feel like bursting into tears, and i cant help but still have feelings for him.
How do i get over him?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Best of luck! :)

-Laura (17-f)

I just broke up with my boyfriend and I'm SO upset. How do I get over him?!

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Here are some more tips:
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Break-Up-%28Girls%29

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Best of luck! :)

-Laura (17-f)

i know how people say write a song about the things you know or feel the most. at the moment im lonley and feeling unloved. the tune iv composed for acoustic guitar its a sweet and sort of shortish song but i would love the sweetness to be contrasted with lyricall emotion. any help please? first verse lyric sentance? your stories? anything.

thanks

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=549982

From there:
What I think makes the best song, is really putting feelings into it. Writing it so that it provokes an emotion in people when they listen to it. Allowing people to relate to it, and know exactly what you mean. I also think you need something catchy, in it. Like, it's hard to explain...

Alright, I have an example of the feelings portion of my answer, have you ever heard the song "Six Feet Under The Stars" by All Time Low? If not, listen to it. The lyrics are just really good (in my opinion) not only for your question, but everybody whose trying to write songs and I think everyone has those feelings of not being good enough for somebody and wanting to impress somebody. The song just makes you remember a time you wanted so badly to impress somebody, and it provokes an emotion. See what I mean?

And what I said about the putting it in a catchy way, have you ever heard the song "If You Wanted A Song Written About You, All You Had To Do Was Ask" by Mayday Parade? Probably not, but the song has a PERFECT example of what I'm trying to say. During the song, there's a part that says:
"And you dropped the note, and we changed key.
You changed yourself and I changed me,
I really didn't see us singing through this.
Then you screamed the bridge and I cried the verse
and our chorus came out unrehearsed.
And you smiled the whole way through it,
I guess maybe that's what's worse."

The way they put that was just so catchy and I loved it, because they didn't just make the lyrics say something like: 'you gave up on me, I gave up on you, I didn't think we'd make it through this, but you were wrong." blah blah blah.

So bottom line, good songs (to me at least):
1. Provoke an emotion.
2. Put it in an interesting way.

Hope this Helps!

-Laura (17-f)

I'm going to be applying for a few new jobs soon and I want to be prepared for the interviews. How do I prepare for the job interviews completely?

What hours are you available to work?
Why do you want to work for this company?
Do you have any work experience?
How did you find out about this company?
Do you participate in any sports/clubs?
What special skills do you have?
Have you ever worked for this company before?
What makes you most qualified for this job?

-Laura (17-f)

my boyfriend dumped me for this girl, but that was like a year ago is it okay to still be upset or jealous?

It's normal. You'll always feel an attachment to him, and you'll always care. It's perfectly acceptable.

Just don't start stalking his Facebook or following him to class ;)

-Laura (17-f)

Ok this might be long but last year i liked this guy and he had gf but i couldnt help myself.So when he found i liked him he started flirting with me and i was head over heels for him and when his gf found outi liked him she freaked out and started talking behind my back and all her friends hated me too but in front of my friends she was all nice and polite.And then like 2 weeks after he had to leave to go to another school he said i was acting like his girlfriend and i wouldnt leave him alone.So now 11 months later im here and i cant let him go .next year i have to go to the same school he went to and then i have to see him everyday.ive tried everything to let him go but i cant. plz help me

Thanks for inboxing.

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Best of luck! :)

-Laura (17-f)

okay..so me and this guy talk about doing stuff sometimes..but the thing is. is that i'm 15. and he's 19.

is this illegal?
or does it matter what state you live in?

It does depend on the state, but it is most likely illegal.

He is an adult (18 or older). You are a minor (under 18).

My advice? Find somebody your own age, don't make plans to "do stuff" with guys that are too old for you, and just find a nice guy who doesn't only want you for "doing stuff".

-Laura (17-f)

What are some ways I can get the girl I like to fall for me?
I'm 13(m)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545439

From there:

It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.

Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]

Personality wise, here are my top 5:

1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".

2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.

3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.

4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.

5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.

Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.

-Laura (17-f)

I've always wanted to be a dancer and I have a huge passion for music, but when my parents took my out of dance classes when I was younger because they couldn't afford them, I thought it was too late. I'm 19, now, and I know most dancers have been dancing their whole lives but I really wanted to see what it was like and try to really work hard at it, but I don't know if it's worth it. So I was wondering if any experienced dancers could give me advice... should I take some classes and see if there is anything there? I'm really interested in taking lyrical jazz or something to that effect. I understand that it takes a lot of strength to do this kind of style, but is it possible to work for it? How long does it take to build up enough experience to be a good dancer?

Thanks for your help!

Do you watch the show So You Think You Can Dance? If not, there was a contestant last season named Twitch, who made it to the final 4. You know when he started dancing? His senior year of high school. And he worked hard enough, and trained himself well enough that he was able to get to the finals of the show! Amazing, isn't it?

Id you're serious enough about it and push yourself hard enough, you can be an amazing dancer in a short amount of time.

As for what you should take, I'm not the person to ask. But for my gym class at school, I took beginning dance and the lessons they offered were: Ballet, Jazz, Modern, and Choreography. So, I'd probably suggest starting in those areas.

Best of luck! :)

-Laura (16-f)

I am going on vacation with my boyfriend in couple weeks & i'll be in my bathing suit most of the time. Normally I shave ya know..down there..but i want to be smooth all week...but i dont want to get razor burn..so how can i do that? and please don't say get a wax at a salon.

I know they make a hair remover that is like shower gel. Like, you put it on and then rinse it off while you're taking a shower.

I think it's by Nair, and you could bring it with and use it in the shower. I don't know much else about it, though, but I keep seeing it in my magazines? :P

-Laura (16-f)

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