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Okay, Im 14 and my boyfriend and i have been on and off for about a year and i really think im in love with him. A year isnt that long but weve been through A LOT. But we are two TOTALLY different people. We dont agree on anything except the way we feel for each other. So us not being alike at all causes us to argue all the time. We argue more than we are nice to each other. But we only argue when were not with each other. When were together everything is perfectly fine. Hes the best bf ive ever had and he wont believe me everytime i try to tell him that. He just puts himself down and thinks i deserve better but all i want is him and i tell him that all the time. He thinks we need time apart to make things better but i dont. (see we disagree again) and i love him with all my heart and i know he loves me too. Just the disagreements get in the way and i really dont know how to solve that. I'll do anything i have to to make this work. I really love him. (link)
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Hey there. Well, I know exactly how you feel-I have been the the exact same thing. First of all, you need to realize that what's meant to be will always find a way. Also, I know you think you may love him, which may totally be possible, but just keep in mind that 14 is really young. Some people liove til 90 so in comparison 14 is younggg. Okay, so that's okay that you two are totally different in a sense, because opposites attract, right? TRUE love has the power to endure anything life may throw at it. As for the arguing, every relationship has fights, but it's not healthy for either of you or for the relationship to fight all the time. Instead, you should learn to agree to disagree. Or may a comprimise. That's what relationships are about. And, listen to what each of you are defending..can you see his point even a little bit and can't he see yours. Don't scream and yell. Talk civily and maturly. Yelling just makes the other more mad. You can't force people to feel or believe things they really can't or won't. You can SHOW him that he's the best boyfriend. Or you could make more comments, like tell him what's in your heart. Write him a poem,etc. Make your actions show that they are from the heart. Show him how much you care. I know you don't like that he wants space, but if you really love him, then you should also respect him. You should want him to be happy no matter what even if it is not always with you. If you gave him time and y'all just went on a break you both would be able to work on your flaws and change for the better. But if you really and truly can't handle that then I suggest talking (civily) with your boyfriend and tell him that you are willing to make some changes and put effort into y'alls relationships. Tell him EVERYTHING you are feeling in your heart. Then give him a day or so to think about your offer. If he agrees to it, well then stick to it and work to make this a lasting relationship. If he still wants a break, let him have it..if it's meant to be it will work out in the end. But eduring this time, continue to be his friend and continue to make changes..be his best friend...just be there. Everything will work out in the end for the best with a little love, and faith. :)
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okay my friend and i are going to a dance this friday!! what can we do to get the boys to notice us?? (link)
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Just be yourself first off. That's what's most important. Be really social. To to everybody! And dance with anyone that asks. Don't be shy. On the crazy/fast songs get out on the dance floor with all of your friends and just have a good 'ole time. If you have a good time and show, others will see it. Also, look cute!! Do your hair cute and plan a good outfit. :)
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Sorry if this question has been asked before!!
You see, i wash my hair everyday, and it always smells soo good like my shampoo! I let it airdry, + it naturally goes curly.
The thing is, i straighten my hair; a lot, with the CHI [ceramic hairstyling iron.. it's my saviour!! :D hehe] my hair isn't dead, but it always smells kind of.. well, burnt i guess. So my question is, how can i get it to not smell like that? lol. It's kind of embarassing because people are always playing with my hair, and if i can smell it, i'm pretty sure they can too. Is there any kind of product you can put in afterwards to give it a nice smelling scent? Some sprays i've tried have only made it frizzy :S
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Alright, all you have you have to do is apply Biolage Thermal Active Setting Spray to your hair-I can't really describe the smell bhut it won't make your hair smell burnt. You can get it at Ulta or Sally Beauty Suppkly for like 10 dollars. Also, it keeps your hair from frizzing and it keeps it really straight! :)
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how come that whenever i ask a question... (not even bad or sexual or anything) that the mods delete them! i asked one about a friend problem and a hair problem and the mods deleted them! whats up with that? if ur reading this then this is the 1st one in 4ever they didnt delete!
THANX IN ADVANCE! (link)
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Even though you question may not be sexual, it could get deleted for various reasons. You should go to the link that MFS provided you with. You may have asked a question that someone else just recently asked, you may have sent the question more than one time, it may have been poorly written and confusing, it could be completely too long, you may have not asked the question directly..and more. Any of the above as well as what is mentioned on that link. Advicenators trys to aid people in their quest to seek advice. We try to do our best to help anyone and everyone but we need some kind of cooperation. Take care. :)
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i need a good hair style for pictire day tomorrow, so i'll look good in the year book. please help.
Also whats the best way to conceal a zit? (link)
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Never ever wear your hair comply up in a pony tail or in a bun on picture day. You won't be able to see the pony tail and you risk looking like a boy! Trust me, my friend still make fun of my 7th grade pic!! You either want to wear your hair completely down like straight, or down and cirled iwth hot rollers or soft rollers that you set the night before. Also you could do some up and some down curled or straight. The best way to conceal a zit it to wash your face the night before, put an astringent on it like (Sea Breeze) and then something with benzol peroxide in it. Then add a cream like Clerasil. Go to bed then wash you face the next morning. Apply your foundation or w/e and then take a stick concelor and put it on the zit then bend it with a brush. Then add power n top to blend it. But just remember, it's just a school pic. And those yearbook pics are tiny, noone will see your zit in the pic. Also, some companies offer an airbrushed option to photos..that would clear up your zit! :)
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Ok im 14 and im a freshman.. and i like a junior. and i was wondering if anyone knew how to start talk to him... thanks! ill rate! (link)
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Don't let the fact he's older intimidate you. You have to take a riskand just go for it. Just be yourself. Like if you have a class with him ask him a question about class or homework. That way you don't have to feel embarassed and it doesn't seem overly apparent that you are crushin' on him. Or you could compliment him, like say " I like that color shirt on you" and if you want to you could add a jokingly but serious " It's hott on you!" Don't be shy. You have nothing to lose. Or you could write him a note during class or whenever you see him. Also, you could casually ask for his weekend plans. If I were you I would just march up to him and be like Hey how is your day, and by the way I totally like you." Just have fun with it. :)
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ok like when i make out do i close my eyes? when i just go up 2 my boy do i kiss them wid ma eyes closed? nd how do i make out (link)
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Yes, you do close your eyes when you make out or kiss. If you are nervous and forget, just remind yourself it's not polite to stare! After you two have gotten close enough to be kissing (like face to face) that's when you kinda tilt your head and close your eyes. There really is no right or wrong way to makeout/kiss. To each his own. Once oyu start doing it more you'll pick up habits. Just remember these things in case you are really worried:
Making out is basically kissing with mouths partially open and tounges making contact with each other. Start with a basic kiss on the lips then open your mouth slightly, and slide your tongue out a bit, until it just touches your partner's lips. Lick against them gently until your partner gets the hint and opens up a bit. Keep sliding your tongue in further, tickling your partner's tongue and lips with your own tongue. Think of your tongue as a finger, lightly brushing against your partner's skin. The touch is soft but tantalizing.
Don't be doing lots of other things with your hands while you French kiss. This distracts the person you're kissing! Just hold them and have them focus on this tongue and what it's doing. That should be the primary focus in a French kiss.
When you're both comfortable with the tongues touching, start getting even more erotic. Slide your tongue along your partner's tongue. You're sort of reproducing the sex act here, with your tongue. So slide your tongle along the other tongue gently at first, and then more and more quickly. Do circling moves, where you go around the tip of the tongue, and then do a thrusting slide down the length of the tounge. Then ease off and circle again.
This isn't about strangling your partner with your tongue or getting slime all over the place.
Don't be nervous!! It's no big deal and it's going to be a great memorable experience for you. :)
***You can put your hands pretty much whereever. Just don't let them go crazy- you can put them on his chest or run you hands through his hair..just try different things..you don't have to keep them completely still, but don't go crazy like a monkey on him. Or, you can put them on his leg or something. ***
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How can you tell the difference between normal discharge and a yeast infection? (link)
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Normal discharge is a clear/white color and is slightly odored but not overly odored. A yeast infection discharge will have a yellowish color to it with a distinct strong smell. Also, you will burn/itch "down there" with a yeast infection. :)
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Okay is it true that laxatives help/make you lose weight?? and also, if you take too much, is it dangerous?? thankx (link)
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Laxatives speed up the process of having to go #2. It makes you go very very often and a lot at a time. This is why it is said to help/make you lose weight. Yes, if you take too much if can be very dangerous. By speeding up this process you are forcing things out that have not had the chance to properly set and digest. It messes with your body's natural system. Also, if you aren't eating right it's even worse, because then you are just going without having any real substance to come out. Mixed with a lack of food or aneroxia you can sometimes die. If you want to lose weigh (5-10lbs) within a 2 weekish period and 3 or so every week after that try the South Beach Diet. It's low-carb. Go to SouthBeachDiet.Com for more info. :)
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Hey. Whenever i think about my bf or do stuff with him i get nurvus and get diarriah. i don't know how to stop it. can you tell me what to do?? (link)
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Well, first of all it's pretty natural to get nervous about doing stuff with your boyfriend. Especially if a lot of emotions are involved. THe nervousness could be telling you that even though you may think you are, you are not quite ready to be doing "stuff" with your boyfriend at this time. Or maybe just not as much as you are. You may want to slow it down a bit. Tell him that you like him and care about him but you just want to slow down the sexual aspects of it. Also, people get nervous when thinking about their boyfriends because of their such strong feeling. That could be the case here. As for the diarhea, sometimes the brain and muscles get mixed up. Like When someone laughs, they may pee thier pants. So in your case it's kind of like when you get nervous you go #2. Or this could all just be a coincidence. I suggest going to the doctor and getting some pills (like for IBS) they will help temendously. You'll be okay. :)
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ok this is a weird question but...how do u make those holes in the knees of ur jean...i know i cud just use scissors but would it still give me like the little thread things...i know this is a weird question but if u have any idea about what im talkin about and u have done this urself before....please answer!!! Thanks!!! (link)
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Okay, it's actually pretty simple. You're right you could just use scissors but it won't be fully done by just doing that. After cutting across with the scissors take a seam ripper and go alond the same area and any stray strnad pull it so it begins to pray. Then wash your jeans. This will also make it pray and have threads. Over time you'll get more and more. :)
**A seam ripper is a tool often used in sewing, like if something has stiches in it you can ripp through it with this tool. It's got like a base and then a point sharp/razory end. You can get them at fabric store or even Walmart in the Fabric Section**
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My best friend's boyfriend was beating the shit out of her.. he made her give him head in front of his friends or else he'd beat the shit out of her.. she had bruises and i saw them.. she told me about it.. i tried talking to her and him.. she tried talking to him.. it was never gonna end.. so i talked to tara (a school counsler) with 2 other people.. and we told them what we have seen and what was going on.. now she blames me.. and only me.. she said i ruined her life and she hates me.. she said that i blew it out of proportion and her lame fucking excuse for it was that he gets worried about her and then he gets angry so like when ur so angry u wanna hit someone that's what he does.. hello but am i the only one who doesn't hit my signifigant other when i'm pissed off?? i just don't know if i did the right thing.. i love her so much she's my best friend and i'd do nething for her and i just felt like this whole thing with her boyfriend was waaay out of control and i couldn't do nething more to help! i had to tell someone.. i dunno but i feel like killing myself and i dunno what to do... first i wanna go kill him.. then i'll kill myself.. sounds like the best plan to me but ya know there are people who actually care about him surprisingly and i couldn't never kill neone but that's beyond the point.. i dunno what to do about my friend and meanwhile it's throwing me in a hole i can't get out of and i just dunno what to do.. please help :'(
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Okay this guy has serious problems. And your freind does too in a sense. You need to help her. You need to tell an adult (like her parents or yours) and you should definately report this to an abuse hotline. 1800-656 HOPE suits this situation the best. For more imformation about this hotline go to rainn.org. Get her help..she may be mad, but she'll thank you in the long run. Do the right thing..wonder if it was you. I know you feel crummy but don't you did the right thing..just stay strong. Over time she will see you were looking out for her and forgive you. Don't beat yourself up.:)
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What happens to a yeast infection while you're having your period? Does it become unoticable until your period ends and then starts up again? (link)
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No, a yeast infection WILL NOT become unapparent while on your period. It will feel even worse. The itching/irritation/burning will be just as bad/worse. Also, you're at higher risk of TSS if you use a tampon and have a yeast infection. Take care of it as soon as possible. :)
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ok how do you get your hair to look like wet but wavy or well not wavy but i dont know! well if you have any idea on what i'm talking about how do you get your hair to look liek that? thanx! (link)
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I'm assuming you mean "scrunched". It's so simple!!
All you have to do is wash your hair and then when it's damp get some mousse or gel (mousse srunches better gel is better for your hair because it doesn't have alcohol in it) (get a maximum hold one though) The put some in your pal and work it in your hair squeezing it or "scrunching it". Put as much as you want. then put some hair spray on it to lock in the look or Thermal Active Setting Spray (by biolage) and then if your in a hurry and don't want your hair to actually still be wet but appear wet blow dry it for about 2 minutes on low heat. That's all there is to it! :)
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well i havnt had my period and i take a shower everyday and stuff but i keep having this like gupy sticky white wet stuff comin out of well u no....and its always wet down there and i dont no y....it also smells bad. Is there sumthin wrong with me? What is this? (link)
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Hey, don't worry. What you are experience is totally normal. The white stuff is just vaginal discharge. All young maturing women (some more than others) get it on a daily basis even. If you don't like it you can wear a thin panty liner or thong liner so you stay dry. It's really no bif deal. And yes, it often does give off an odor. Try to wear only cotton crotched undies and make sure to wash down there in the shower! You'll be fine! :)
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Ok I just got over this relationship from an online girl. We were together 5 months but she held so many lies to me and I never saw her. She lived like 4.5 hours away from me tho. But here is the question. I meet this other girl and she likes me and I like her. She lives in the same state and pretty close. How should I go about this without getting hurt again? I would love to be with her but just am scared i'll be hurt. Please help all that can. Thanks Much (link)
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Well, it's okay to be slightly reluctant and scared, but don't ever let that keep you from living your life. You only get one life so you have to live it. Online relationships are totally different than inperson ones because there are so many more things a "real" relationship has to deal with. I think you should go for it with this girl. You have to take risks so you can prove to yourself that you will be okay. Just keep your gaurd up a little BIT. Talk to this girl upfront and tell her than you want her to be honest with you and you will do the same. Tell her everything you want and listen to her wants as well. Don't pass this up because of the past. Live for today! You'll be fine. :)
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how do you unsave your password on this website? so when you come to this website you have to log in instead of being logged in already..?
plz respond asap! (link)
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All you have to do is log yourself out close out of the web site, come back to it and login like usual. :)
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ok i like this boy adam, and i think he likes me too but im not sure. i ask him who he likes and he won't tell me. but its a sticky situation because one of my best friends likes him too, thats how i got to know adam. she wanted me to hook them up, and then i fell for him. i cant tell her i like him because i dont want to hurt her. she wont get mad, shes not like that, but she wll be hurt. so my question is, how do i find out if he likes me, and should i tell my friend or should i just move on from him? (link)
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Well, first before you deal with thing conerning yor friend you should find out how this guy likes you. You could say it flat out and be like "so do you like me or not because I need to figure things out with my friend if you do..." Or you could ask him if he wants to come over and study or something (if he says yes then you know that he is interested and then you could nicely bring the subject and explain to him how you feel about him and your friend and everything) if he says no then he probably isn't interested, but try one more time. Ask if he wants to go out to eat like something quick or get coffee or something. (Same thing applys as when he were to come over to study) Then, if it ends up you both like each other and want to pursue things you THEN need to tell your friend. Don't tell her before hand because it will jsut create drama and hurt her when she doesn't need to be hurt. But, DO TELL HER THAT YOU INVITED HIM OVER TO STUDY OR EAT OR w/e so that she kind of has a heads up. Then, ask her how she feels and explain that you don't want to hurt her and if she thinks it will be too painful then maybe this isn't the best time for you and this guy right now. Just be honest with her. :)
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Why do peoples breasts get sore sometimes? (link)
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Well people's breasts sore sometimes because they are either A.) growing, B.)a week or so from started their period (not just for the first time, but every month), C.) on their period, D.)they have recently had a large intake of something like caffeene, or E.) you may have been sleeping on your tummy with an underwire bra.
Any of these would cause the hurting.
If you need to take an Advil or some kind of pain reliever to cope! :)
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I have a really really low self confidence, if someone compliments me I immediatly think they're only saying it to be nice or they're taking the mickey. How can I be more positive and self confident? (link)
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Well, there's got to be a root at the bottom of all this. What is it that makes you want to not beleive these people, why are they only being nice as you put it. Why shouldn't people compliment you? I am sure you are a great person. If you don't believe it then no one else's opinion will matter to you. People aren't just going to say things to "be nice". Especially in junior high and high school. You should try making a list of all the great qualities you posses and accomplishments you are proud of. Also, write in a journal about all of your thoughts and feelings. Everytime you walk by the mirror, compliment yourself. And next time you around someone, compliment them so you can see the expression on their face and how it makes them feel. Then in time you will learn to appreciate when people compliment you on your qualities or hard work. Love yourself, and know that you are you for a reason. Be proud of who you are. :)
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