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Okay, Im 14 and my boyfriend and i have been on and off for about a year and i really think im in love with him. A year isnt that long but weve been through A LOT. But we are two TOTALLY different people. We dont agree on anything except the way we feel for each other. So us not being alike at all causes us to argue all the time. We argue more than we are nice to each other. But we only argue when were not with each other. When were together everything is perfectly fine. Hes the best bf ive ever had and he wont believe me everytime i try to tell him that. He just puts himself down and thinks i deserve better but all i want is him and i tell him that all the time. He thinks we need time apart to make things better but i dont. (see we disagree again) and i love him with all my heart and i know he loves me too. Just the disagreements get in the way and i really dont know how to solve that. I'll do anything i have to to make this work. I really love him.
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Hey there. Well, I know exactly how you feel-I have been the the exact same thing. First of all, you need to realize that what's meant to be will always find a way. Also, I know you think you may love him, which may totally be possible, but just keep in mind that 14 is really young. Some people liove til 90 so in comparison 14 is younggg. Okay, so that's okay that you two are totally different in a sense, because opposites attract, right? TRUE love has the power to endure anything life may throw at it. As for the arguing, every relationship has fights, but it's not healthy for either of you or for the relationship to fight all the time. Instead, you should learn to agree to disagree. Or may a comprimise. That's what relationships are about. And, listen to what each of you are defending..can you see his point even a little bit and can't he see yours. Don't scream and yell. Talk civily and maturly. Yelling just makes the other more mad. You can't force people to feel or believe things they really can't or won't. You can SHOW him that he's the best boyfriend. Or you could make more comments, like tell him what's in your heart. Write him a poem,etc. Make your actions show that they are from the heart. Show him how much you care. I know you don't like that he wants space, but if you really love him, then you should also respect him. You should want him to be happy no matter what even if it is not always with you. If you gave him time and y'all just went on a break you both would be able to work on your flaws and change for the better. But if you really and truly can't handle that then I suggest talking (civily) with your boyfriend and tell him that you are willing to make some changes and put effort into y'alls relationships. Tell him EVERYTHING you are feeling in your heart. Then give him a day or so to think about your offer. If he agrees to it, well then stick to it and work to make this a lasting relationship. If he still wants a break, let him have it..if it's meant to be it will work out in the end. But eduring this time, continue to be his friend and continue to make changes..be his best friend...just be there. Everything will work out in the end for the best with a little love, and faith. :)
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try to let him win some of the arguements and try to do things his way. Talk to him and ask him why he puts him self down tell him it hurts u when he says that...and he doesnt want to hurt you(right?). You should try and not get into an arguement by just ok we can talk about it later and most likely he or u will forget.... just do the give and take thing and it will work out... if u are ment to be together it will and if u dont really know what to do just pray (even if u dont go to church or anything God still likes to answer your prayers)..he will listen...
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i think you should tell him that you both need a relationship without the drama who cares which one is wrong and which one is right!! Don't let those little disagreements get in the way of your relationship!! and continue to tell him that you love him and show him how much you care!!
*BeSs*
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well, it sounds like a family relationship - they fight, but they never stop loving each other. it sounds creepy, but that's basically what it's like. if you'd do anything to stay with him, you obviously want this relationship to last. you need to tell him [how silly or hard it seems] that the arguing is hard on the relationship and that you two need to try to work things out more. when arguments come up, try hard to resist the defence of your side. let some arguements slide by... hopefully he'll do the same. if things work out, it should make the relationship stronger. thanks for asking my advice! =] -ask_anything [PS: leave another in my inbox if you need more advice.]
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