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Low self confidence
I have a really really low self confidence, if someone compliments me I immediatly think they're only saying it to be nice or they're taking the mickey. How can I be more positive and self confident?
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I know this is really weird.. but studies have shown that people who make lists and check them off when they're dont get a higher self confidence about themselves. So write down all your homework or groceries or something and when you're done with it or get it then check it off. I know it's weird but I guess it works! Hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can do anything for you! =c)
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i know exactly how you feel. i also have low self confidence. i know this may sound stupid or unhelpful, but it has helpd me dis year. you have 2 choices. you can go to ur guidence counsler in ur skool, and have 'therapy' with her, or u can be ur self and act positive. today i did the same thing im tellin you and guyz were throwin compliments my way. nice perfume,etc. and im not even dat pretty. or u csn just twk to me. crazyflirty@yahoo.com
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Well, there's got to be a root at the bottom of all this. What is it that makes you want to not beleive these people, why are they only being nice as you put it. Why shouldn't people compliment you? I am sure you are a great person. If you don't believe it then no one else's opinion will matter to you. People aren't just going to say things to "be nice". Especially in junior high and high school. You should try making a list of all the great qualities you posses and accomplishments you are proud of. Also, write in a journal about all of your thoughts and feelings. Everytime you walk by the mirror, compliment yourself. And next time you around someone, compliment them so you can see the expression on their face and how it makes them feel. Then in time you will learn to appreciate when people compliment you on your qualities or hard work. Love yourself, and know that you are you for a reason. Be proud of who you are. :)
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Know this, most people dont lie just to 'be nice'. In nowadays world, especially if you don't normally talk to the person, they're definetly making a compliment, b/c otherwise they just wouldn't have bothered. I think every day you should grab a piece of paper and write 10 things you like about yourself, it really helps! And if its a really bad DAY you can include things you like about your life. Everyone has something good in their life even if it's something as minor as your mom's making what you like for dinner, it helps make you appreciate things more.
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Try complimenting yourself first, think of the things you like about your self and just try and think positive look at the bright side of things
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You just have to believe in yourself. Try to be less paranoyed. If someone is giving you a compliment, just take it as that smile and say thanks, don't think of it as anything else. if you keep doing that your gonna dig yourself in this big hole of self-pity, and thats no fun getting out of.
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lol there is only one answer lol take things more positively instead of looking at all the bad in this world look at the good, such as in bad situations dont look at how much things suck looks how much things could suck worse and be happy that isnt happening to you
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