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ok this guy at my skool has a gurlfriend..hes beeen with her for 9months...but he TOTALLY flirts me with me...i flirt back because i really like him...we sat next to eachother in english and we recently moved seats...he sits like 2 rows away from me and when he walks in he always comes over to my desk and plays with my hand or something...he always gives me candy and stuff and he just does little stuff like that and today i gave him a hug after class bc i wont se him for 2 weeks and he like kept his hand on my waist for soo long....he tells me im pretty and stuff to....he does more stuff but yea...what do i do about it??

It sounds like he definitely likes you! I would talk to him about it. If he decides to stay with his gf, then when/if he breaks up with her, he'll go straight to you! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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today i woke up with a sore throat, runny nose, watery eyes, and just A BADDDD COLD! its the begining of winter break and im tryin soo hard to get better by atleast monday....is there anything i can do/take to get better? im taking halls cough drops and dimetap so far....is there anything better?

Get plenty of rest, drink those fluids, and take Tylenol Cold! Lol. Maybe use Vicks, that'll clear your nose up. Also, Puffs with lotion will make your nose not hurt when you blow it. Just take it easy and stay warm. Hope you feel better!
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~*Erin*~

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ok, there's this guy that i really like, and after a long while (like two months) i finally got the courage to say somethign to him, but it turns out, he never even noticed me, and he thinks my best friend is like, the hottest thing alive. him and his g.f just broke up about a week ago, and he says that they are talking about getting back together. i see him every day at school and now it's just awkward. my friend doesn't even like im, but he keeps talking to her and not me. to be quite honest, that's the second time that's happened to me with her this school year. she seems to get all teh attention because she has a large bust. i'm not mad at her, because it's nto her fault, but i really just don't know what to do, i can't even get a second glance from practically any guy when im with her, and im almost always with her. erg...what should i do?? should i try to talk to him again, or should i just back off and accept the fact that im never gonna get attention when im with her...? this is sooo freakin depressing, i don't think i've spoken a word in almost two days...

Why would you want to go out with someone that doesn't like you for who you are? It's sad, but a lot of guys are like that. Don't worry, that guy will come, you just have to wait. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My boyfriends said all of his friends say im miserable and they dont like me and not one of them has even talked to me in lunch i dont sit next to anyone besides him so i dont talk and he barely talks to me and at night when he calls me we dont even stay on the phone fore more than 3 mins usually..i want to know why he has such a big problem with me wantin his friends to like me and maybe talk to me, Help what should i tell him to make him understand i dont want to never sit with him at lunch because now i sit with my friends and dont even sit with him at luch..

I think communication is really important in a relationship. If he's treating you like that, I would let him go, no matter how hard it is. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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hello. i am a girl and 14 years old. i have a boyfriend. he is the sweetest most wonderful person you can ever meet. there is this other boy in school and he told me he liked me. yesterday, i was in school and i said "im bored, i want to makeout" my cousin went over to the boy and told him to go to the restroom when i went. i went to the restroom and he was there. i like him too. so then we kissed. i feel bad about this. i kissed another boy when im going out with another one. i feel so guilty and i dont think it meant anything to him. But i feel like i did something really really bad. i dont know what do to. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend in any way. what should i do?

Don't tell your bf about this. You have to think about this. Who do you like more? Whoever you're more comfortable with is your answer. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Me and my boyfriend have 1 class together and thats lunch, and i barely see him in between classes b/c he always goes to his locker and we only have 4 mins so it takes up like 2-3.and in lunch i sat with him and i'd sit on the end and never talk because he would barely talk to me and hes like oh god whats wrong? and i tell him nothing just being ignored like usual and he just says okay and goes back to talking with his friends..he wont let me sit inbetween him and his other friends justin cuz he says im takin him away from his friends? i wanna know why he doesn tlike me haning out with him when hes with his friends. actually why he wont even let me hang out with them? please help me i wanna know why he acts like this?

If he's not comfortable having you around his friends, he might not be interested in you anymore. I know it'll be hard, but you have to let him go. If you really like him, talk to him when he's not with his friends, and tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't change, then dump him. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I have this friend and me and her decided to try a new style for christmas and summer.its kinda 80ish.We want to cut pantyhose knee length and wear a cute abercrombie skirt over it.This is for summer by the way. But then we want to wear a colorful tanktop. For shoes we want flipflops or converse. Can anyone tell me if this sounds cute?

It's different, but cute and unique. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My boyfriend and i have been goin out for about 11 months and between the first day until maybe th 6th month mark he was the sweetest guy in the world he sang me the dumb cute little love songs and he'd lay on the couch and like wrap his arms around me and say the sweetest things and lately i ask him if he's lost intrest and hes like no baby i love you but i just dont get it, how he doesn do or say the sweet things any more. whats going on??

He probably knows that you know that he loves you, so he thinks he doesn't have to do those things anymore.. Don't worry, he still loves you.
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~*Erin*~

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I have this guy friend that i have liked more than a friend for a while. I thought he kept dropping hints such as putting his hand around my waist, talking to me alot and gointo the movies. But when I asked him to go to homecoming with me he said i dont know. he still talks to me in the hall after that but it took a while. Should I keep flirting with him or just leave us as good friends?
~*Confused*~

He probably just wants to stay friends, because he might be afraid that you'll lose your great friendship, but that's normal. I would ask him again, but make sure you tell him that you're going just as friends. And you never know, with the right dress, maybe he'll like you and ask you out! (wouldn't that be great? lol) Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

It's good that he stopped doing those things, but I think you should tell someone, especially if he starts doing it again. No one should have to go through something like that. Best of luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Okay here's the deal I'm a freshman in high school. I know, I know ugh freshman. Anyway this's the deal I like a guy, and he's kind of a senior. He's taller than me and we... sort of get along. We argue about almost everything, I love it. Only thing, he has a girlfriend and there's a three year age difference. Now I know some of you are going to tell me to move on and try to find someone my age, but I really like him. =(

And I don't want to tell him I like him at least not yet, I love him and his friends, and I like his girlfriend too. So if I say something then they're all going to act ackwardly around me.

Just stay good friends with him, and if you're lucky, when/if he breaks up w/ his gf, he'll go to you! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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my mom is sick with breast cancer and bone cancer and 3 brain tumors.....i kno thats bad but shes in remission now and doing really well...but for some reason no matta how much i spend time with her she keeps telling me to stay with her.....no i can see when she was really sick and wantin to spend time wit me but she betta now....and this is cutting into my skool work and social life...i told her i cant spend every second wit her but the she told me that i dont respect her and that i hurt her feelings....now everytime i go to my friends house i feel bad....what do i do to tell her i need my space (i've tried sendin her flowers,and cards)--(doesnt work) help me out !PLEASE!

I'm so sorry about your mother. What you could do is maybe do your schoolwork while you're visiting her, and that way, you can spend time w/ her and still get your work done. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hi
I'm a 13 grl. I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 5 months.. I really love him and I always want to be with him and he feels the same. We say we r going to get married someday.. well! I have a best friend and we've always kinda've liked each other and our friendship is growing.. my bf is going to high school next year and im going to be stuck behind for a year... he skipped a grade. but he's still my age. well! I don't know wut to do bc i want to kinda give our relationship a break when he goes to high school and get back together when i get there... but he wants to stay together.. and i dont want to break his heart or anything. please help!!!
confused girl

I don't think you should take a break. You don't want to break his heart! Lol. I think maybe you should like, call him every now and then and not everyday, you know what I mean? Plus, think about how much you'll miss him. If you want to get married, you gotta get used to seeing him all the time! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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im thirteen and i was datin this fifteen yr old until i found out what an ass he was...he always tried to go down my pants and kiss me...so about two weeks ago i broke up wit him...i still went to his house and we r really good friends...after i broke up wit him i met his uncle who is 19...and i found that he likes me....then he called me and asked me out afta we got to kno each otha...(IM NOT GONNA DO ANYTHING WIT HIM BECAUSE I KNO THATS RAPE!!) i said yea so eva since we have been goin out...i luv him a wicked lot and he luvs me to but all my friends say i should dump him...i dont want to but my friend kayla gives the best advice and shes the main one who makes me feel like i should


>should i dump him or not?
thanx a bunch

A 13 year old dating a 19 year old isn't going to get anywhere. Is that why your friends say to dump him? If you really really really like him, I would say wait like, 5 more years, til you're 18, so at least it would be legal. And the older you get, the age difference doesn't matter. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Alright, well I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday that I had been dating for 2 months and some days. And we had tried going out like 8 times before and this time it worked out for a while. Well as the relationship went on the attention he was giving me slowed down immensely and he started talking to other girls way more than me and hardly called me anymore and stuff. We talked about it for hours and he didnt change so I finally decided that I could do better. I was pretty happy when I first broke up with him. But then I listened to a song that I used to tell him was to him and tried talking to him online and that upset me and I cried a lil bit but after I stopped talking to him I was better. And he suppesdly still likes me and cares and crap. Should I try and go back out with him or just get over it considering he doesn't want to pay attention to me when he had plenty of opurtunities to change.. thanks xo

If you still really like him, I'd give him a 2nd chance, but if that fails, then I wouldn't go out with him anymore. But I think the best thing to do is let it go, because you don't want to get hurt like that again. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My mom and I got into a fight last night because i was sick and she didnt want to take me to the doctor. my friend is having a party tomorrow night and i really want to go but my mom says im grounded just because i confronted her with the fact that she is the ONLY one allowed to be sick! He is my next door neighbor and i think i should go anyways! She cant show her butt or we will get kicked out and if she tries to hit me she knows i will call the cops because i have before. Its not fair that because she was in the wrong I cant go. What do you think? I need advice, do i go or not?

That's a hard question to answer, but I'll try my best, lol. If you go, you'll just get in more trouble. Try talking to her, but don't mad. I don't really know what else to say, but good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do?

I know you don't want to lose your friend, but he's wrong in this situation. Tell him how you feel, and if he still can't accept it, I would stop being his friend. The truth is, he's not being the greatest friend. No one has the right to tell who to date and who not to date. Go out with the guy you like, and I wish you the best!
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~*Erin*~

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Hey everybody. I'm 15/f. The problem is.. my legs are really skinny.. and i want calf muscle really bad! Does anybody have any good ways that they know of for sure that builds calf muscle? Also good for your butt? Thanks so much guys!

Mods please don't delete- i really need help.

Maybe you should start dancing? I've been dancing for 9 years, and my calf muscles and butt are nice! Lol. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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im going up to New York for christmas and new years eve. Me and my friend want to do something awesome for new years eve because its the first year that were able to actually hang out with friends on new years eve, but then thing is we dont know what we want to do.. or what to do lol. what my question is, is does anyone have any ideas on what i can do for new years eve? thanks

First have dinner and a movie, then watch the ball drop. That would so fun. Then, maybe you could have an after new years party at your hotel and have like, a sleepover. Have fun!
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~*Erin*~

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Okay. My friend told me something not to tell anyone. I accidentally told someone though, like it slipped out. She won't talk to me and she told me to tell the person I was kidding and I was just wondering, so I did and now shes like "you're crazy, you're insane" crap like that and it's really annoying but I don't know how to deal with it, because we were really good friends, and I would think she would have been more mature about something like that. Anyway, my question is what should i do about it, there is no way she is gonna let me have my say and tell her what happened and she won't even talk to me. How should I handle this?

Try writing her note about how you feel. If she's really your friend, she'll read it and forgive you. Best of luck!
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~*Erin*~

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