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my mom is sick with breast cancer and bone cancer and 3 brain tumors.....i kno thats bad but shes in remission now and doing really well...but for some reason no matta how much i spend time with her she keeps telling me to stay with her.....no i can see when she was really sick and wantin to spend time wit me but she betta now....and this is cutting into my skool work and social life...i told her i cant spend every second wit her but the she told me that i dont respect her and that i hurt her feelings....now everytime i go to my friends house i feel bad....what do i do to tell her i need my space (i've tried sendin her flowers,and cards)--(doesnt work) help me out !PLEASE!
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It sounds like shes scared & she wants you to take care of her... like she once did when you couldnt take care of yourself... you do need to spend time with her... but you need to explain to her that sometimes its not good too over do things... you need to be social to live a healthy life... thats a fact... your ur mom needs a social life as well as you... yeah ur mom has been thru a lot... but she needs to get on with her life... yeah parents do a lot for us... but that doesnt mean we they own us... there comes a time when you need to make your own decions & decide whats best for you... no one can tell you wants going to make you happy other than ur heart... i understand exactly how you feel... you need to explain it to ur mom... & dont feel guilty... you should never feel gulity for being happy... you & ur mom both need to be social... that's what's best for you & ur mom...
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hey! sorry about your mom...but i think you REALLY need to spend time with her because my friend her mom was like that but she only had brain tumors and cancer well my friend told me that she needed space and stuff but then one time she went over to her friends house after telling her mom and hurting her feelings and she went to her friends house and her mom died! so i really think that you need to spend time with your mom. Hope your mom feels better! and good luck! you can write to me whenever you want to!
lildesidevil143-xoxo
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Wow i am really sorry my mom died of cancer and i had the SAME EXACT problem!!! but i didnt spend that much time with her i now wish i could of!! If i was you i would spend every moment with her because you never know when that time will come. if shes on kemotherapy then thats why she says you dont respect her shes just moody from the kemo dont take anything personal because if you were her you would be stressed too trying to spend time with her daughter i would too if i was sick! god bless you and your family! i hope everything goes well!!!
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**kristen**
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Spend as much time as you can with her! I dont mean to make you sad, but her conditions dont sound to good. And if its really cutting into important things in your life you could try making kind of a schedule with your mom. Picking certain days and times to see her making sure they dont cut into your time! But dont skip seeing her just to go to the mall, hanging with friends, etc. I hope I helped! Something else that mite work is if yoO tell your teacher about your mom and they mite cut you some slack with your school work! <3 Good Luck!
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well spend as much time as you can with her because if something does happen to her then you will regret it and then feel really bad about it and then the thought will haunt you probably for the rest of your life i mean you can't blame your mom for wanting to spend some quality time with you if you soemtimes don't spend time with her maybe she needs someone to talk to o yea... you shouldn't tell her anything about having your own space maybe she needs you right now. sunshine
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Parents are the most important thing in life...they gave you life! Spend as much time you can with her....because as bad as it sounds...and as geeky as it sounds or watever...they arent always going to there.
You can chill with your friends and go party later....stay with your mother for now...she needs you for a reason...she wants you there for a reason...you may not understand it....but just beleive it. Your mom wants to be with you....so give her that much.
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I'm so sorry about your mother. What you could do is maybe do your schoolwork while you're visiting her, and that way, you can spend time w/ her and still get your work done. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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maybe it's cuz she's sorta not feeling right cuz of all the surgery.If you were her how would you feel if your daughter wouldn't be there to help you through.If she doesn't want you to like go to the bathroom and other stuff then tell her that you still need your space and no matter what you'll always be there.Hey it worked when my cousin was havin her baby.Happy Holidays and hope you have a great winter break
pinayprodigy
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you need to spend a little time with her, she feels very lonely because she has cancer. you dont know how long you will actually have with her if things start going wrong again... sometimes when you want to hang with your friends just remind your mom that you need to spend some time with them too. you only get to be a kid once.
hope i helped
~stef~
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