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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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ok, so i am completely in love with this boy for the past 2.5 years. we are on a swim team together and that is the only time we see each other, so everyday. plus meets. these are some of the things he did. what is your opinion, does he like me? (hes really shy)

he stares into my eyes a lot

he layed his head on my lap, of all the girls that were there... but i was the closest cuz i sat next to him

in a game of sharks and minnows he went for me and grabbed me hard by the wrists and kept me underwater instead of forcing me up. then when i pushed off the bottom to get air he asked if i liked his tactics.

he blew on my face when we were lying next to each other at a swim meet

he sometimes "steals" my sunglasses, but not from my face, but he def. know there mine

we went to a dance once, but it was one of those "girls ask the guys". he said well go as friends, but we didnt know each other as well then, and it was a long time ago, but we danced with each other for practicly the whole dance, but he did go dance with this one girl that he went to homecoming with, and who he supposedly used to like... i dont know if he still does but he might

when we were lying next to each other, he moved hand was lying against my forhead on a pillow, then he said sorry i'm punching you in the face, and moved it down towards my nose so it was touching. than he probly felt me breathing on his hand, cuz he asked if his hand smelt good, and i smelled it, and almost kissed it (lol!) and he didnt move it away.


but otherwise we dont talk much, like we never had a conversation, but as i said he is really shy around me. but with other girls he is fine, but with the girl he supposedly might like he talks alot to her, but not as much as he used to. now there just friends. but she doesnt like him.



so ya based everything that i told you, does he like me? and how should i give him hints that i REALLY like him without scaring him?








I'm kinda going through the exact same thing. This one boy is so shy around me, but talks to every flippin girl besides me. & junk. But, anyway.. i most deff. think he likes you. Like I'm 98% sure. That, thing with the other girl, just doesn't make me sure..that he likes you & only you. He may like that other girl a little more.. maybe, i dno. Just flirt with him alot. Or just tell him. Personnaly i hate waiting around & wondering if someone likes me.

i hope that helped kbye

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Ok...Well...When your breasts are REALLY TENDER does that mean that they are growing or what or is it just when they itch?? please help!
&&hearts

hmmm. probaly puberty, it depends how old you are. But, if you get cheap bras, then thats why. Get your bras at Victoria secrets. I know.. there kinda expensive, but I like them. So yeah. If you already went through puberty, then its because you don't have good bras. Or you could have like, banged them against like a desk or whatever, ha I did that in school.

but, k hope that helped bye=)

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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person?

Personally, I think the true, 'okay' age.. for teenagers, is 16. But, if I were you, I'd wait to marriage. Personally, I don't have to throw myself, at some guy to make him like me. But whateverr. I'm pretty sure the average age is 16. Atleast where I live. I think its better to lose it to someone whos a virgin, experienced people, could have STDs. If you plain on doing this, anytime soon.. remember, the huge risk of pregnacy. & diseases. If your a girl, make sure you have birth control. Remember, who do you think is going to be stuck with that baby. Or if your a guy, then... the girl will want money from you when your older, & personally.. I don't wanna be giving a good percentage of my money, away. But, yeah. Just make sure you know what your doing, if your plaining anything.


mkkk, bye

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To start off, I apologize for my question being long, but I think it's necessary for you to know the history of this question so that you can fully try to help me. Thanks :)

The other day I had a tear-jerking conversation with my friend. I noticed scars and scabs on her wrists from cutting herself. I confronted her, and she broke down and confessed everything. Around springtime last year, she was sickeningly skinny. She honestly looked like a skeleton, or a concentration camp survivor. Then all of a sudden this year she gained a ton of weight, and now she looks healthy. She had reasons for being so skinny, (she's a vegan) but I always worried about her, but never confronted her until just now. She admitted to having been anorexic and only eating 500 calories a day. She's 5'6 and weighed 76 pounds. Now she says she doesn't weigh herself in pounds, only in kilos. She weighs 56. She says that the whole anorexic thing was never about being skinny (she naturally is thin) it was about being able to control her life, because her home life is very screwy. Her mom is a nutcase who is addicted to the internet and has a seperate family online. She says her mom hits her, not in a life threateningly way, but hard enough to leave bruises. Her dad recently lost his job, and her mom is waiting for him to get a new one so she can divorce him then make him pay. According to her, her parents never knew about her anorexia or depression. She told me she desperately wants help, but because of her family's financial situation, she's not sure if she can afford it. And on top of that,she tried commiting suicide once by taking a bunch of pills. Thankfully her plan failed, and she is still here. She says she's no longer suicidal or anorexic, but not yet healed. Cutting herself is a sure sign of that. I feel like a horrible friend because i wasn't there for her during this hard time. I've been sworn to secrecy, but for the safety of my friend I can't keep quiet. What should I do?

Worried in San Francisco

Shes needs help, badly. All that stuff, could start all over again. The finacienal situation, is they have something, where you don't have to pay or its very very cheap. I just throughout the book. [I took a class on this stuff] Its a good thing, shes getting better. But, if shes still cutting herself.. if this has been going on, for awhile, like for more then 2 weeks [which I believe you did say.. it went to like last spring err whatever?] But, anyways.. she should have gotten help alonggg time ago. & then she probaly wouldn't have gone through, all that other stuff. If you don't get her help, its either going to get all better, or its going to get a tonn worse. Personally, if that was my friend.. I wouldn't beable to take a risk like that.

What would you rather lose a friend or a life?
That decsion is really up to you. I hope you take my advice, & help your friend.

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If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins

They are not against gay people. There against gay marriages. Big difference. I'm not entirely sure, but I think its what the church say, it wasn't like what God said. Like, it is suppose to be for a man & a woman. But, I think gay people have every right to get married as well. God does love everyone, no matter what decisions people make. I'm catholic. & some people in there, make such a big deal about it. & others think its fine. Its just peoples opinions. To make this a little clearer, if you don't understand it.. because i'm kinda confusing myself as it is.. but haha, what i'm trying to say is ... the people think its a big sin. I don't think God does.


i hope that helped. mk bye =)

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So I have these two friends, Shelly and Gina. You see, when I hang out with Shelly and Gina separately, we have alot of fun and there's no problems. But, whenever I hang out with them together, like all 3 of us, i totally feel like the third wheel and they leave me out. They're always walking away without me, hugging each other, and telling each other they're each others` best friends. Sometimes it feels like they don't even know I'm there! For example, we were shopping at Old Navy awhile ago and they kept trying on the same things and telling each other what to wear, but when I said I was gonna try something on or I liked something, they either totally ignored me or walked away. Also, people always seem to associate them with each other and invite both of them to things, but not me. I'm pretty sure Shelly is doing it purposely, but Gina probably isn't. This is really making me feel bad. And it's not like I can move on and hang out with my other friends, or hang out with them separetely all the time, because i take dance with them 5 days a week and that means we're all together ALL year long. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks.

First, make some new friends. Get close to some people, espically since schools talking.. start talking to other people. Don't ditch them.. just yet. Just get together with other people. Then, in dance.. talk to the other people in there.

Then, after you make new friends, yeah you gotta talk to them, love. How are you gonna either move away from them, or make anything better, if you don't talk to them about it? You have to. If they end up telling you, that they don't want to hang out with you anymore, then they suck.. & they don't see you for the great person you are. & plus, you'll have people to fall back on.

I hope everything works out for the best =)
kbye

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ive been going out with my gf for a month now and we've kissed acouple times now but i dont now a way to get her to start making out w/ me can someone plz help

Just stick your tongue, into her mouth, slowly. It might shock her a little. It did me, when he first did it. Because I've never kissed/made out with anyone before. But, once you do it.. she'll do it back. Thats basically, all there is to it. Inless you wanna like, tell onna her friends you wanna make out with her.. but eh, i like the other way better.

i hope that helped kbye

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i really wanna go on the pill, so without my mom knowing about me wanting to have sex what are some excuses to go on it besides pregnancy? we've considered me going on it before because i've always had severe menstrual cramps but i think she thinks i'm too young (i'm 16) ? i always hinted towards it but i don't think she gets it so what are some things i can use as an excuse to get on the pill? thank youuu

I think you can get it for really bad acne. & besides period problems, I don't know what else. If you go down to the clinic, they wont tell.. but if your mom looks at your like idno health report, or whatever the heck its called.. then she can see you got it. Get it from a friend =)

i hope that helped k bye

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i have this friend and we are really close shes one of my bestfriends and i have a feeling that she might be racist against caucasian people because like all of her friends are black and she like only has one caucasian friend and everything to her has to be black and it really bothers me im colored myself and i have friends of all different racis and when someonelse is another race or color i dont notice it until she brings up the color or race that they are and it really buggs me because it kinda insults me because i am a little bit caucasian and my family is mixed of different colors and i asked my friend if she was racist and she said no and got mad that i asked that and she also doesnt like black and white couples she thinks theres something wrong with that but honestly i dont see anything wrong with it and i really dont know what else to do she says she's not but i think that she might be a little bit racist but not a whole lot so what should i do because i dont wont to have a friend like that and i also dont want to stop being friends wit her


wait... are you milano =) Oh my gosh. YOU'RE MY IDOL!!!! =) hahaha. yeah i think i'm milano, because im practically black on one side [because i got tanned] & then white on the other. so, yeah i envy you. hhaa...

anywayyys.. there is always going to be racist people in the world. Alot of white people, think that they are better then black people, which I think is insane.. because some of those people, that hold there noses in the air, those black people are alot richer then them & everything. its gay, & i hate how people are racist. Its what she believes, or maybe how she was raised. All you can really do is like believe her. you probaly.. will always have friends like that. there always be that one friend, like that. & you just gotta thhink.. whats more important? your friend? or .. just what you believe in? i say, your friend. because just tell her, that you dont like it when she says that stuff.



sorry that that wasnt like a ton of help, but im so overwhelmed, that your milano.. because its like amazing. & even if your not milano persay, then its still pretty sweet, cuz ur still a mix of something, so therefore you rock.

haha yep, i hope i helped a little kbye=)=)

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I weigh 129 pounds at Five Two. I would like to weigh 125, ideally 120. What is the normal weight for this height? Fifteen btw, female. Around how much should I loose?

Your normal in weight. If you go to google.com & then type in "BMI calculator" you can go to the thing, where you type in your weight & height & it tells you. but your normal. So, I wouldn't really worry about it.. if you wanted to lose any, like to look super skinny.. go down to 125.

I hope that helped a little. kbye =)

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I have a horrible pimple near my chin. It's really big. What can I do to make it smaller/less noticeable by Monday. How can i even get rid of it faster without having to buy anything?

Washing your face, will help it go away. But, don't over do it.. it can make it worse. To make it less noticable put coverup on it =) Thats all you can really do without like buying acne medication. What you should get though, is Proactiv, I put that stuff on my face, like every other day.. just so I don't get zits on my face=)

i hope that helped. kbye

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This is embarassing for me but.. im 13 years old(14 in like 3 months)and i weigh like around 160 pounds. I know im really over weight and i hate it. I play sports too so its not like i just sit around the house all day. I play softball almost all year round and i do cheerleading. All my friends are tiny. I guess you could say that im just built big because i got my period around 3 years ago and i wear a c cup right now. I dont want to be as little as them. My mom used to be big so i know i got it from her but she lost a lot of weight and she weighs like 130 right now. I just wanna have a flat tummy, a littler butt, and littler thighs. I want a fun way to do it though. Any suggestions? PLEASE HELP!!!
[[FAATT]]

Whats your height? If your like really tall, then its probaly not that bad, & can do it easily. Just by drinking lots of water. I know, I hate those little teeny girls, all my friends weigh like 90 pounds & i weigh like.. 105. But anyways..
-dancing for an hour burns up 300 calories =)
-walks are always fun.
-drinking plenty of water, can help too.
-getting enough sleep, will make you less hungry.
-but, eating balanced meals.. will speed up your metablism
-dont eat junk food.
-i personally think, stretches are fun to do.
-jumping on the trampoline also gets your body moving & is good for you.
-swimming, is also a good exercise =)

do all of those, & you'll weight alot less later on. hope that helped. kbye=)

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I know this is probably a stupid qustion, but I can't find it anywhere else.
I was wondering if it is possible to have videoes on your iPod that you don't have on your iTunes/computer. AKA: can I download some videoes onto my iPod and then delete them from my computer and not have them deleted when I update my iPod again?
I have an iPod video by the way.
sorry if it's confusing.
~Ank

Nope. You have to hook your ipod up to the computer, & then you delete it on itunes & it will delete on your ipod too.

hope that helped, kbye

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I am 4 foot 11, and age 13, and i weigh 96 lbs. i need to loose 7 lbs in like 5 days... without my parents noticing... help?!

Why would you want to lose any weight?
You should want to gain weight.
You seem pretty skinny to me. Don't lose anymore, you won't look good, I swear. When I was 4'11 & like 94 pounds, nobody thought I looked good. They thought I looked anerex (sp, i know) & like a 4th grader. I now weigh 105 I'm 5'1. & everyone thinks I have a great body. So yeah, don't lose any. If you do seriously think, that you need to lose some, then just take a walk every day, & drink alot of water. your parents are going to realize it no matter what.

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if i run for a half hour to fourty-five minutes everyday for a month how much do u think it is possible to lose? i am 5'6 and 126 lbs. the doctor said its normal, but i just want to tone up my thighs and drop a few pounds. thanks!

Pshh. you sound pretty skinny to me. But, walk don't run. You burn more calories walking. I take a 3 mile walk everyday & drink [well try too] 6-8 glasses of water. You'll lose 10 pounds, in like 2 weeks, doing that.

hope i helped. =) k bye

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This kid, Ryan, was visiting my friend's brother and so was his other friend and I seriously think his mission was to piss me off! I've never had a boyfriend and he asked me if I had and I said, "No, I've never had one.". Then he asked me to rate how hot his friend was and I said, "No." and he said, "Well fine then. I guess you're a lesbian."(I would've have called him an asshole right there and slapped him but my friend's mom was there.) When I went down to the pool ryan was there, my friend, my friend's brother, and ryan's friend. He kept getting this water gun thing and shooting it at me(I just dyed my hair a few days ago and the chemicals from the pool water can turn your hair green)and I told him to stop and all he did was laugh and keep doing it.(By the way, my hair did turn this stupid green color and I had to wash my hair about six times to get all of it out) Then when I was leaving I fell down and I scraped myself really bad and he started laughing. He kept saying all this perverted crap too and it freaked me and my friend out. He said I was weird so I went up to him and I said, "Okay. Now how am I weird? At least I don't IM random people and say, "HEY BABY! WHAT'S UP?!" like you do." (He did that to me.) and then he said, "Psh. I never did that." and everyone believed him and then he said, "Oh yeah and don't ever talk to me on IM again." He had ASKED for my screen name! He really pissed me off. He finally left yesterday but he is coming back here for thanksgiving. He has instant messenger and I have his screen name. I want to yell at him about everything and tell him what an asshole he is. But, he'll turn it all around and say HE was the one who cussed me out. So I don't know what to do now! Should I IM him and cuss him out (if you think I should do that then what should I say to him if he tries to turn it all around?) or just not do anything?!

No, no no. You're going about it all wrong. Hes enjoying you getting mad. Why do you think he keeps doing it? He thinks its funny, when you get all mad. Guys are gay like that. Instead of wanting to tell him off, & everything. Just laugh. & that type of thing.. then it wont be funny anymore,when your laughing with him.


I hope that helped. kbye

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i am the school dork
i am SERIOUS
i am a loner
i need friends..OBVIOUSLY
well see on my messenger i have 2 friends my sister and me (i have two e-mails)
people call me dork and loser because i love to look at stars and pretend to talk to the martians that live there
its true! i've seen them with my super deluxe telescope from my true love, my mother, on my birthday :)
i had a party but unfortunately only my family came i invited all my classmates. lets put it this way i live in beverly hills (my dad is a top attorney, my mom is a CEO) so everyone at my school is all uppity up and shows off about their being rich and all. i'm just glad that i have a home and all but i am 13 and 1/2 i want a boyfriend! i want friends not friends that would just use me! please give me tips! let me give you an idea of how i look:
glasses (these cool d&g aviators) on sale
school uniform (private school)
the straightest stiff hair anyone here has ever seen.
school is coming!
I NEED YOUR HELP!
signed,
desperately desperate

First off, don't put yourself down, saying that your the school dork. Have some confidence in yourself. Point out all the good things about you.

What you need to do, is go & find some people, that you think look nice. Go up & talk to them & just say.."Can I hang out with you?" When, I was in like 2nd grade, & I only had 2 friends & I wasn't popular at all, I just made friends with these girls, that like took dance at the same place I did & stuff. & now there all my best friends!

Now.. about the whole, talking to 'martians' or whatever, & everything.. maybe.. don't tell people that. Just keep that to yourself. Everyone has something weird about them. Like me, I still like to play with my dolls. I don't tell people that, because they'll think I'm gay. But, my best friend, likes to too. But, we don't go around telling people. So.. just don't tell anyone that you do that.

Now, about you wanting a boyfriend... well don't rush that. First, make some good friends. Atleast 2 or 3. Once you got that.. then start going for the boys.

Also, going to a private school, yeah so do I .. so the label you get from when you were like in 4th grade, its pretty hard to break that. I'm in the 7th grade [ going into 8th ] & just last year.. I made sure I was nice to everyone. Because everyone thought of me, as the rich snobb whos mean. Which is most deff. not try. Because they were sterityping me, of what my friends are like. Which some of them are really nice ! So yeah, it may be hard.. to make people believe that your not just some loser. But, if you change your appearance & stuff. It may make some people accept you.

Now, about the way you look.. your 13, so I believe you can get contacts then right? GET THEM! Start wearing a little bit of make up. [To make your eyes look bigger & stuff] If you don't usually wear makeup, & you've never worn mascarra, get the clear stuff first, intill you get good. Thats what I used when I was learning how =) Your hair, yeah.. go to a salon. Get a very in hair style. & style your hair. In our private school, on the first day of school.. we can dress down. If you can, wear something from Abercrombie & fitch or the abercrombie kids. [Abercrombie kids is cheaper] Or you could wear something from hollister. But i like A&F a ton better. So yeah. & if you can't dress down the first day.. just whenever like your school has like a field trip or something or a dance, wear abercrombie. You may impress some people..


I really hope that helped. =) kbye

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I was wondering if anyone knew who sang a song I think (Im not that sure it`s called this) CHAIN HANG LOW. I know it`s a rap song & it`s kinda like skids sing it that`s all I know.

ha i love that song. the name of the song is chain hang low, by jibbs =)

kbye

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Hello, I'm 5'3 and 160 pounds. I recently went to the doctor (last Thursday) and he noted to me that I need to lose 20+ pounds.

Now since last Thursday I have lost 5lbs. Well now I'm wondering if I hurting or depriving my body of the correct foods.

For lunch I'll have a Slim Fast drink (200 calories) and that is usually around 2. I wouldn't eat anything again until 6:30 which is usually dinner. And my dinner is usually 600-800 calories.

But here is the thing in between that I work out for 45 mins to an hour. Which when I do it I do 100 cruches,200 arm exercises with weights, and bike ride for 40 mins.

Does it seem like I'm doing to much?


Thank you to anyone in advance!

You should eat breakfast.
Most deff. It is thee most important meal. Eating healthy, & not a stupid slim fast drink, is better. Stop drinking that junk. It doesn't even work well. Drink 8 glasses of water a day. & eat breakfast lunch & dinner. It will boost your metablism. Take an hour long walk. I lost 10 pounds, in one week. Oh yeah, no junk food.
get a good amount of sleep, it will make you less hungry.

hope that helped. kbye

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My 11 year old brother confided in me that he likes to look at naked men. ohhh boy--that is just something that I'd rather not know! but he feels comfortable talking to me about it (i don't though..lol) he will not tell my parents. he is DEEPLY religious. and he knows the catholics frown upon gays. but yeah, he tells me that he likes flipping through magazines and ENJOYS looking at naked men...this creeps me out a little. he was freaking out last night asking me what i thought--and i told him that he's not gay (idk if he is though..but i just said that to make him feel better or else he would have a SPAZ if i told him i thought he was. like i said, he is DEEPLY religious.) --and i also told him that maybe he was just curious..idkkk he doesn't know. but i feel VERY uncomfortable talking to him about thsi but there's no one else he can talk to. he asks me stuff about sex too and i don't know how to answer him. can anyone help me? thannnnnnks :)

First off, catholics do not frown against gays. They frown against gay marriages, make sure he knows that. He problay isn't gay & he just is going through something. Try to tell him hes not... & like, I don't know, tell him hes too young to know if hes gay or not. He obviously knows more then a 11 year old should. Just be there for him.

I hope that helped a little k bye

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