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i think my friend might be racist!!
i have this friend and we are really close shes one of my bestfriends and i have a feeling that she might be racist against caucasian people because like all of her friends are black and she like only has one caucasian friend and everything to her has to be black and it really bothers me im colored myself and i have friends of all different racis and when someonelse is another race or color i dont notice it until she brings up the color or race that they are and it really buggs me because it kinda insults me because i am a little bit caucasian and my family is mixed of different colors and i asked my friend if she was racist and she said no and got mad that i asked that and she also doesnt like black and white couples she thinks theres something wrong with that but honestly i dont see anything wrong with it and i really dont know what else to do she says she's not but i think that she might be a little bit racist but not a whole lot so what should i do because i dont wont to have a friend like that and i also dont want to stop being friends wit her
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At least she's not saying terrible, insulting things about different races. If she just points out different races like she's worried or mad just laugh and say, "I can see that!" or "Why does it amuse you to point out something like that?" I hate to be mean but you could even say, "Get a life!" About the couple thing, just say, "It's their romance not yours. How could you know anything about that?" I just hope this helps!!
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It's fine for friends to have different views from one another, even on something as serious as this. As long her views don't make you loose all respect for her and you can manage to respectfully disagree with her and maintain your friendship, then you are fine.
Of course you are completely free to argue with her! Respecting the fact that people have different beliefs doesn't make hers correct. If you hear her say something that you feel is wrong, talk about why you see it that way. If she says something that offends you, point out you are just as proud of your Caucasian heritage as the rest of your bloodline. If you feel strongly that her thinking is distorted, speak up!
Many people fall into slightly racist ways of thinking without even realizing it. They simply learn racist views from others and accept them without thinking. So raise some good points, argue calmly and respectfully, and maybe when your friend stops to think about what she is saying she'll realize it doesn't make as much sense at she first thought it did.
If she doesn't change her mind, or if you discover in talking to her even deeper seeded racial hate, you might want to consider getting some space from her. As it stands though, just be true to your own beliefs and listen to your conscience. As long as you can do that and still be her friend, you have no problems.
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she may be a little racist. some people are hurt by a person of a certin race or sex and learn to not like that certin race or sex. some people can also be convinced to not like a sex or race. what advice i give to you is to maybe wait a little while, my brother used to be a little racis but he idnt know because he grew out of it. but if she dosnt grow out of it i reccommend not to be her friend because people who grow up like that tend to grow up to be really bitter.
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different people have different oppinions and they only person who can change them is themselves i would stay friends with her and just accept her thoughts and feelings like the friend you are.
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As sad as it is to say, even in the 21st century racism is still common in the United States. But you shouldn't stop being friends with this girl just because you have a different belief than her. My parents are slightly racist, not exactly to the extent of your friend, but they believe a certain race of people are rude. I get into many arguments with them about this topic, but I can't seem to change their opinions. Despite this, I still love them. Keep being friends with your friend. If she brings up that she sees something wrong with black and white couples again, politely ask her not to talk about that subject again.
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Racism is something that is learned, usually at home. Are her parents maybe believers that inter-racial dating is wrong? Do they not want her to have or do they not welcome different races in their home? This could be the way she is raised and that is really hard to fight against what you have been taught is "right".
If I was you I would simply agree to disagree with her. By this I mean allow her her beliefs and when she says/does stuff that you think are racist tell her that you think that is wrong, and explain that she is disrespecting your family when she says things like this. She is going to realize sooner or later that multi-culturalism is the way of the world. She will have to work, learn and be with all kinds of people throughout her life and learn how to get along with everyone.
Hope this helps.
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wait... are you milano =) Oh my gosh. YOU'RE MY IDOL!!!! =) hahaha. yeah i think i'm milano, because im practically black on one side [because i got tanned] & then white on the other. so, yeah i envy you. hhaa...
anywayyys.. there is always going to be racist people in the world. Alot of white people, think that they are better then black people, which I think is insane.. because some of those people, that hold there noses in the air, those black people are alot richer then them & everything. its gay, & i hate how people are racist. Its what she believes, or maybe how she was raised. All you can really do is like believe her. you probaly.. will always have friends like that. there always be that one friend, like that. & you just gotta thhink.. whats more important? your friend? or .. just what you believe in? i say, your friend. because just tell her, that you dont like it when she says that stuff.
sorry that that wasnt like a ton of help, but im so overwhelmed, that your milano.. because its like amazing. & even if your not milano persay, then its still pretty sweet, cuz ur still a mix of something, so therefore you rock.
haha yep, i hope i helped a little kbye=)=)
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Tell your friend you are sorry for offending her by asking if she was racist, but ask her...why doesn't she have many friends outside her own race and why her views on relationships are black or white? Remind her, that you yourself have many different components to your race and she found you cool, so that just means there's so many other people that she will like..regardless of their race.
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