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is walking on the treadmill a type of cardio excersize?

Walking generally does not have the same health benefits as say jogging. In most cases it has negligible effects on your aerobic fitness. The only exception to this is if you are really out of shape.

The reason for this that is in order to get the benefits I mentioned in your previous question, you need to elevate the heart rate to between 55% and 85% of your predicted maximum heart rate (which is calculated as 220 minus your age). For most people, except the severly out of shape, walking does not elevate your heart rate into this training zone.

You can actually get an exact measurement of this by wearing a heart rate monitor which can be bought. However, I would recommend that you jog slowly instead since this simplifies matters enormously. If you get too tired, then slow to a walk for the remainder of the time. Sooner than you think you will be able to do the 20 minutes without that much difficulty.

If you happen to be interested in knowing more about the heart rate thing, I dug up this article online:

http://exercise.about.com/cs/cardioworkouts/a/ex_intensity.htm

Good luck.

how come when you finally get close to your friends they ended up leaving our in lives? because it happens to me all the time when i get attach to them they always have to move and stuff it makes me feel like i dont wanna get close to anyone what do you guys think? =/

Well this I can really relate to. During my childhood I moved around between three different countries. Also I went to international schools, so that meant everyone else moved around just as much. It was impossible not to lose your friends. Oh and thats in an age before messenger and email, so keeping touch was difficult to say the least.

Its really hard I know. However, hang in there, there are two bright spots. The first, and most obvious, is that eventually you will make friends with some people that wont have to leave. It will happen.

Second, keep in touch with the ones that have left. It might really surprise you how old friendships have a way of coming back to life. I recently got together with a guy who was my best friend when I lived in the US (thats back in 1990). Funny thing was that it was just like old times.

Of course it wont always be this way, but I have managed to keep some friendships from ages ago, despite the long distance. In a way its kind of nice to know I have friends scattered all over Europe and the US. Of course I would rather have them here, but at least its not all that bad.

One thing you might consider is widening your circle of friends just a bit. Theres nothing wrong with keeping a handful of good friends, and that way one can be there for each other when one leaves. There are enough good people out there to make it work :)

Good luck.

what is it?

my stomach has a little 'baggage'
so i want to make it flat
how do i achieve that?

Cardio is short for cardiovascular, which refers to your heart. Cardio workouts refer to those kinds of routines that keep your heart rate elevated for a longer period of time. Cardios essentially promote aerobic fitness, and burn a lot of calories as well as having countless health benefits.

Examples of cardios include: Step machine, jogging, swimming, biking, eliptical machines, etc.

Contrary to popular belief the key to a flat stomach is very much related to cardio workouts. Situps, crunches and other isolation exercises will build muscle on the area. However in order to have it flat, you need to lower your body fat percentage. The only way to do that is exercise and diet. Cardio burns far more calories than other kinds of routines and is therefore the first choice (remember you cant target fat loss).

So, to get your flat stomach, start to eat healthy and to consume a few hundred calories less than you burn every day. Work in say 20 minutes of cardio exercise every second day to start with. That will not only help you lose weight, but also give you a healthier heart, help you relieve stress, make you sleep better, slow the aging process etc.

Good luck.

if i do twenty in the monring tenty in the afternoon/night
what would it do for my body?
seriously its the only excersize i'm starting to do.
also, what kind of excersizes can i do to lose weight? i want to weigh like 15 pounds less really badly.

14/f

I agree with the answer below. The best exercise for losing weight is cardio. That includes jogging, many sports, stair machines, biking, etc etc.

The sit ups will build some muscle but wont do all that much for your general health and weight loss. Dont get me wrong, any exercise is better than no exercise, but it wont do all that much.

Also remember, that diet goes hand in hand with the exercise, so watch what you eat.

theres this girl that i really like and she really likes me ( by the way her name is tara) she was in a car accident and broke her arm, she was also complaining of cronic head pains, the other day her best friend went to the hospital to see her and told me that tara didn't even remember her. and they have been friends since they were 3. does this mean she will forget me too?

Ok first off Im not an expert on this, but I will give you my 2 cents worth.

To me this sounds like amnesia. Those effects are often temporary, which will mean that she will remember her friend (and you) at some later point.

What she has forgotten and what she remembers exactly is impossible to tell. You can only know if she remembers you by visiting her at the hospital. I doubt anyone else will be able to tell you this for certain.

Either way, whether she remembers you or not, keep in mind that her memory will probably come back with time. Also remember that no matter how frustrating it may be for you, it is very likely even more frustrating for her. So be patient and things will probably go back to normal.

Good luck.

I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.

I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.

So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?

I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).

S_C

:]

Well like YG I also stumbled across this site through bored.com. In November I will have been here for 3 years.

I remember thinking at the beginning that I would make an account just for a laugh. I figured that I would answer a few questions, particularly some of the really outrageous ones, and then be on my way after a few weeks.

It didn't take too long before I was checking my column daily. This site has a way of growing on you somehow. Also there are some pretty nice people on here, which also helps.

I am afraid I have promised too much to an organization that I am a part of. I am a 28 year old, female, married, graduate student. Last year as an undergraduate student I became chapter president of an organization at my university that has been nationally recognized for years. Since my university is mostly made of commuter students it is very difficult to get students involved so I did most of the work to complete the requirements and application for our chapter to receive a national award in the spring. We received the second highest award given but there has been a lot of pressure from both the professor who is our chapter advisor and the Dean of the College of Business to get the Top Ten Chapter Award. At about this time I was considering an offer to come back for my MBA with a graduate assistant position, which would pay my full tuition. When I mentioned it to the advisor I told him that if I came back I would make sure we got the Top Ten award this year. He immediately got very excited. He and his wife, who is also a professor, made arrangements for me and the vice-president of the chapter to attend the national professional and student conference over the summer. They called in several favors to help get the funding and handled most of the paperwork necessary for the trip. Then when my graduate assistant position for the summer semester fell through they found me another position when I wouldn’t have been able to find it on my own. Through out this time I was very optimistic about the future and told them several times that I would make sure we got the Top Ten award.
So I started my MBA over the summer and went to the conference. When I returned from the conference I had missed an entire week of classes and was so behind in one class that I had to withdraw from it. (Prolonging my MBA studies an additional semester.) I’ve since started the graduate assistant position that was originally offered to me by another professor. As the semester will be starting on Monday, I have started working on some things to get the chapter prepared to work toward the award. However now I am very concerned that if I continue as president of the organization or even step-down to a lower position, it will require so much of my time that my studies will be affected and I will be very stressed. During the spring semester the organization required at least 20 hours a week of my time.
I am a very determined person and know that if I remain in the president’s position I will achieve the goal of being named a Top Ten Chapter. But I feel like if I do this it will affect my grades, I will be overscheduled and stressed, and all the stress will affect my relationship with my husband. If I didn’t feel like I owed it to the advisor and the Dean to continue as president of the chapter and get the award, I would step-down. I know that if I mention this to the advisor he will insist that I remain in the position and that he is sure I can handle it. I don’t want to just ‘handle it.’ Between my course load and working 20 hours a week as a graduate assistant I just don’t think I want to keep this stress in my life.

Do you think I should leave the organization? (If I stay in a lower position I am sure that I will end up with just as much responsibility as I have now but without the title to go with it.)
How should I address this with the advisor? How do I do so without appearing ungrateful?
Should I really be concerned about how this may affect other professors’ or the Dean’s perception of me?
Would future employers see me stepping-down as a sign of weakness?
Any advice would help.
Thank you for your time and consideration.

This is a pretty serious problem you have ended up in. I have been debating whether or not to offer an opinion since I am not all that familiar with American higher education.

I read the answer below, and that offers a perspective different from that which I have acquired. I have on multiple occasions been asked to bring my grades transcripts to job interviews. My masters diploma, (in Economics and Business Administration) comes together with a list of my courses and grades. Of course if your system works differently, then this may not be too relevant for you.

If the perspective offered below is the correct one (i.e. if grades tend not to matter as much later compared to other activities), then perhaps that is also the best advice. Just make sure they really dont matter, and that empoyers will not ask for them.

I know that in my case I would have taken one of two routes. My first choice would have been to postpone my graduation further, by adding yet another semester and spreading the courses out. That way I end up paying for my mistake, while at the same time saving my grade point average. Alternatively, if that was not an option, I would have come clean and explained in all honesty the mistake I have made.

If you step down the perception people have of you will change. I think thats unavoidable no matter how well you explain things. You will not seem as perfect as you have done so far, and people will see that you have limitations. Whether it goes much further than this depends a lot on your Dean and the other professors. That being said, it is also very human to make mistakes. There has to be some room for that, even in university.

Usually I will be the first person to say that one must stick to ones promises. However, there are times when circumstances change in an unforeseeable way. What I am saying is that you should not sacrifice too much because of a few overly optimistic promises. It is after all your future you are dealing with here.

I wish you luck in resolving this matter. Hopefully it won't cause you too many difficulties.

okay. so i have a physical on tuesday, tomorrow. and i smoked pot on friday and saturday day nights. and i have know effing clue waht to do. cause they will like make me pee in a cup right? oh btw im 14 and a girl. im not a pothead. it was only my second and third time.. but neways please help i have no clue what to do. my friend is telling me to drink bleach cause it\'ll clear my system but im scared! pleaseeeeeeeeee please please help :[
but im not going to drink bleach cause thats poisen and i dont want to die. my other friend said to drink tons of water and cranberry juice? will that help? i hope i have been. please if you have any ideas for me that will help clear all this stuff out of meeeeeeeee! please help :/

Under no circumstances should you drink bleach. Thats really scary advice.

To my knowledge there isnt much you can do to get rid of the traces of pot once its in your system. It usually stays there for weeks.

The water idea is intended to dilute your urine so that the THC (the active ingredient in pot) is less apparent. Problem is that other things will also be diluted, and the testers will know what you have done.

Are you sure that they will be testing for this substance in your physical though? It seems a bit odd to me that they would do this.

whats you're lots opinion on people's different personalities when they get drunk? like how you see a persons other personality when they're drunk?

Well, as mentioned below, one of the main things that happens is that you lose your inhibitions. You also lose some of your ability to reason (this varies immensly from person to person... some can just shake off the booze, others become totally retarded).

This means that you will have a greater tendency to act on raw emotion or impulse. Some people claim that your true personality comes out. Thats utter rubbish in my opinion, since your personality includes your reasoning ability and inhibitions. Basically drink brings out random parts of you, that in normal life would be more inhibited. Thats the reason you have so many different kinds of drunk personalities (and they are too many to mention here).

Now, on a side note, I think its important to never ever let someone use "I was drunk" as an excuse for something. After all, it was a choice to drink in the first place.

Well, thats my take on it anyway :)

are squats and running the only effective way to loose weight on your thighs?
What are other ways?
Thanks XD

There are no ways to lose weight on your thighs specifically. All of the spot reduction stuff is nothing more than a very persistant myth. You can lose weight from your whole body, or not at all. Humans simply cant do it any other way (though genetics will affect if one area gets emphasised more than another).

Basically, squats build muscle and thats pretty much it. They are the best exercise for this purpose.

Running, like all cardio, burns a lot of calories. Thats great for weight loss, however not specifically from the legs or thighs. Of course, there will be no weight loss at all without a proper diet.

Good luck.

do guys like sex better if the girl is 'tighter' down there? i mean i know they wont care as long as theyre getting some lol... but if they had to choose... would they prefer it?

Overall I would answer yes. However, in theory, it should also depend on the size of the guy...

Chest Bicep Day-
• 15 min stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten on bench press
• 5 sets of ten for bicep curls
• 5 sets of ten Russian twist (slip in abs)
• 5 sets of ten six inches
• 15 min on stationary bike
• jog

Triceps and back day-
• 15 min stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten of triceps extension
• 5 sets of ten of shrugs
• 5 sets of ten of tricep dips
• 5 set of ten of military press
• 5 sets of ten on barbell rows
• 5 sets of ten stiff legged barbell dead lifts
• 15 min stationary bike
• jog

Legs Day-
• 15 min of stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten Barbell Full Squat
• 5 sets of ten leg extensions
• 5 sets of ten Russian twist
• 5 set of ten six inches
• 15 min stationary bike
• jog

Off day-
• Jog
• Jump ropes

im 15 male. 6'0 and about 175 pounds i have done weight training before. any suggestions are welcome

I also think this is too much. The main problem with that is you wont be gaining weight or strength optimally.

I am also not sure about the order of things. You go from smaller muscles to larger ones (usually its the other way) specifically on your Triceps and Back day (which is actually your Triceps, Back and Shoulder day since I see military press in there).

Just for the record, I have no clue what six inches are so I wont comment on those.

A few suggestions could be:
- Move the stiff leg deads to the leg day
- Start the Back day with regular deadlifts
- Move the military press to the chest day and make that your chest- shoulders- biceps day. This is a bit more organised since day 1 would then hit the triceps indirectly through bench and military press, while day two would hit the biceps indirectly through rows and other pull motions. That way the arms are hit directly on one day and indirectly on another. Just one way to do it of course.
- Remove the shrugs
- Organise the back day like the others, big compounds first, smaller muscles last
- Cut the leg extensions on the leg day. This is not a particularly good exercise imo, and the squats should be enough.
- You are working your triceps much more than your biceps. I would choose either extensions or dips.

Another thing, cardio is great, but there is quite a lot of it too. On weight days, I would not do more than 20 mins in total, and preferably after your routine. Going for 20 mins+ in one go also has more cardiovascular benefits than shorter runs.

Finally remember to take at least one full rest day every week (without any cardio or anything). Particularly with a routine as heavy as yours.

Good luck.

Oh, if you dont mind, could you actually let me know what six inches are... cant seem to find them online.

If I do about 100 crunches a day do you think i'll have a flatter stomach by September? And ill also be drinking alot of water. But do you think my stomach will be flatter by the time school starts if I 100 or more crunches a night ? Thanks for the help!!

Whether or not you will have a flatter stomach will have awfully little to do with your crunches. A flatter stomach is obtained by lowering your bodyfat percentage. Thats diet and cardio primarily. Building some muscle is always good of course, but it shouldnt be your primary focus (remember you cant target fat loss).

Secondly as mentioned below, abs like any other muscle need time to recuperate. The fact that it hurts means the muscles are sore from exercising. Every time you exercise you damage the muscle, then the body repairs it and (hopefully) overcompensates for the damage making you stronger. Thats the idea anyway. If you dont rest enough, the body cant repair the damage.

i want to gain muscle=eat more calories
i want to lose fat=eat less calories

i want to gain muscle=exercise
i want to gain muscle while not losing my bulk and not going skinny=???

bottomline,how do i gain muscle,while losing fat and exercising but not too much till i lose my bulk at the same time?

Ok, as should be somewhat apparent by what you wrote, its a choice. You cannot gain muscle and lose fat at the same time. The only real exception to this rule is the honeymoon period... the first 6 or so months of training. During this period beginners can experience those effects. Later this is no longer possible.

Now, I take it you are not just starting out at the gym, since you say you have bulked somewhat. Therefore you have to make a choice. Do you bulk or do you cut?

If you bulk you eat a calorie surplus, but you eat clean (i.e. balanced, not too high on fats and carbs, etc). You will gain a little fat, thats unavoidable.

Alternatively you can cut. You create a calorie deficit (say 500 or so cals under what you use), and you eat clean and with adequate protein. You continue to train normally (there is some debate out there about changing your rep range, but I havent seen anything conclusive that you should). I dont know what your current split is, but unless its very demanding there is no reason to change it.

If you eat frequently and correctly, you will have minimal muscle loss (but there will inevitably be some). Just remember that even though you might have to lighten the weights, these losses will quickly return during your bulking phase.

If you try to do both, you will get worse results. While it may be sometimes possible to make minor gains while on a cut (most people cant even do that), it really does not compare with what you can do while bulking. So dont get stuck trying to do the impossible. Split up your routine into training blocks and choose your emphasis in each period.

ok. well my moms side of the family (which is HUGE!) is very religious (catholic/christian) so i go to a Catholic church, and i am in the sunday school and youth choir and groups there. It's fun but i dont always beleive what they do.
My dads side of the family (only 4 people living by us) are well my aunts (well ones my aunt and the other ones her partner if you get what i mean) are jewish and my grandma is idk what. and my dad became catholic when he married my mom.

well after talking to my mom and aunts about what they believe i kinda made a bit of a different religion... I believe in God and Jesus. I believe in heaven. not in hell. I believe that when we die we can be reincarnated into ANY LIVING being (animals, humans, plants). eventually there will be a judgement day and we will all go to heaven. I also believe that with the power of god and because we only used 10% of our brains, some people can tap into some more of their brains, and do (magical type things.) like kinesis, and other stuff like that.

i'm a bit confused of what i should do. i mean if i say anything like that (that is againts catholic belief) my mom and grandma gang up on me and start arguing with me. I know that people that believe different things can get along, but idk what i should do.
Should i tell my parents what i believe, or should i keep hiding it and only say anything about it around my aunt (who lets me say w/e and helps me continue my beliefs)
please help me and tell me what you think i should do! thank you!

Personally I would always opt for the honest approach.

If you are asking which would create the most harmonious environment in your home, thats a different matter altogether. However, I understood your question as what is the right thing to do. The right thing is not always the most pleasant thing.

If you want to be your own person and not be pushed around, you should be open with what you believe and stand your ground. Of course you shouldnt ever stand your ground in a matter where you are proven wrong, but this is religion... no one on this planet can prove a thing one way or the other.

Its also good practice for other things in life. I have always believed that a strong person is one that can stand against outside pressure. One that is not afraid to be the only one in a crowd to be different.

Good luck

Hello I wanted to ask you a qucik question, I am so scared to get my wisdom teeth pulled, I am crying about it right now just thinking about it, I'm not scared for the segery I am scared for them to put me asleep. Also do they have to put an iv in you and if they do why? I hate needles is there a way around that? any advice would be great thank you so much

Hey there. First off, there is no need to be so scared. The experience is not as bad as its reputation.

You dont have to be put to sleep. I for one chose not to be. However, as far as I know, its either being put to sleep, or local anesthetic. The latter is applied using needles. So Im afraid that, to the best of my knowledge, its either being put to sleep or enduring some injections.

I have never been put to sleep, so I cant tell you what thats like. I have talked to people who have though, and they tend to describe it as a harmless experience.

As for the local anesthetic, it does hurt a bit when they apply the injections, but it isnt a very intense pain, and it passes right away.

One word of warning regarding local anesthetic, just so you are prepared in case you choose that road. You will hear everything that goes on in your mouth. Thats not the most pleasant thing I remember.

Now, either way, its nothing to worry about. Certainly not worth crying over. Both procedures are perfectly safe, and you wont feel a thing during the process itself. In the greater scheme of things this is not something worth worrying about all that much :)

Good luck.

Edit: I have no idea about the iv. I dont really see why that is necessary, and I certainly did not have one.

I am 42 and I just recently got married to a woman I have known my entire life but we both got married to other people shortly after high school. She has three teenage daughters Sam is 19 Meagan is 18 and Audree is 16. Their father left them shortly after my wife had her youngest daughter and so she has raised them all by herself. They have always been pretty affluent because my wife's family has quite a bit of money and she is a magazine editor. She lets the girls get away with murder and they get everything rthey could possibly even dream of wanting. I have a very big issue with this since my three sons (19 18 aand 17) are expected to follow very strict rules. I was in the army for several years and my children are expected to abide by my rules or face the consequences.

The girls however are completely out of control, especially the youngest one, Audree. My wife and i both agreed on a curfew for the all six kids when they moved in. She convinced me to change the curfew of my sons to be midnight for all of the kids. I agreed but with hesitation. Like always before my kids have always gotten here on time or before their curfew while her daughters completely disregard the rules. For example, Audree was late for curfew 4 times out of the 7 days last week. My wife didn't even talk to her about it. When i confronted her al she said was "She is only 16. I think we should just let her live her life." I found out the other day that her girls have never been grounded, never had acurfew, and are very open about teh fact that they go to parties and drink. Sam has gotten in 4 accidents since she has lived here, and Meagan has her boyrfriend over all the time without supervision, all things i dont tolerate from my own kids. Audree came home in tears the other night because she got a ticket for driving 19 MILES OVER THE SPEED LIMIT! My wife just hugged her and tried to calm ehr down the entire night and i never heard a single word about the ticket, which i had to pay for sicne none of her kids have jobs. I almost feel as if she is condoning this outrageous behavior since she never repremands her kids. I don't know how to explain to my kids about thsi double standard in our house but i feel like i can't interfere quite yet with her disiplining (or lack there of)since i am not their real father and have only been in their lives for 3 years. I just don't know how much more of this disrepect i can take from them. They are beautiful girlsand i love them like my own. I wish i could treat them this way though. I feel like i owe it to them to lay down the law and punsih them for things like curfew and partying and bad grades but i dont know if it will just put more stress on our relationship that could eventually cause tension between my wife and I. How should i handle this?

Hi. Sorry for the delay in answering your question. Before I start, I think its fair to warn you that I am not an expert in relationships, and relationship related problems. I will do my best though.

First of all, I can certainly understand your frustration with the way your step daughters are being treated. I believe a certain amount of discipline is necessary in raising a child.
However, at the same time, I can't say I have any experience with the extremely strict system you describe.

Whichever way one chooses to go, it is very important that both parents are consistent. Deciding whether or not it is correct for you to start to discipline the children, is something you should decide with your wife. Unlike the first time however, this time you should try to make the arrangement more defined (in regards to specific consequences and areas of responsibility).

Make an "official" agreement, and let the kids know this ahead of time. For example, from now on matters relating to curfews will be handled by you, and only you. You can also let them know exactly what violation of those rules imply ahead of time.

What I think is important here is that you ease into it. If you lay down the law overnight and suddenly impose a whole new set of rules, then you might alienate the kids. However, if you do this bit by bit, and with your wife's backing then I dont think its too early for you to step in as the father figure.

The first step is to have another serious talk with your wife. Explain to her how much this is frustrating you, she must understand that the double standard is something that is unsustainable in the long run. It is unfair to your children, and it teaches hers that they can get away with anything.

I think that a compromise of some sorts is the only way to solve this problem though. I dont think military styled discipline will ever work in that household. Somehow, both of you need to agree on some sort of middle road, define clear rules and areas of responsibility, and learn to work as one unit.

I know I haven't exactly presented anything revolutionary here, but if I were in your situation this is how I would try to proceed. I hope you manage to resolve this matter as painlessly as possible.

Good luck.

ok here is my workout scheduale, im a male and 15, 5'10, 170 pounds

Chest and Biceps
Triceps and Back + shoulders
Legs can have their own day
One day should be committed to just cardio
One rest day, at least
Everyday you can do abs...abs are core muscles that can be worked everyday, along with obliques

Now I have some free weights, a flat bench, two bars, and thats about it. what are some excersises i can do with those to work thesse out the best i can for eachday

Ok let me try to work out some exercises that you can do with your equipment, and that stay in line with Evolutions advice below.

As mentioned, the best exercises are free weight compound moves, so your equipment should be adequate providing you have enough free weights.

Chest: Barbell (BB) or dumbbell (DB) bench press, push ups, DB pullover
Biceps: BB or DB curl, hammer curls
Triceps: Narrow grip bench press, skullcrushers, triceps extensions
Back: Deadlifts (these really hit a lot of muscle groups including legs), Pull ups (if you are able to), DB or BB rows
Shoulders: DB or BB press, upright rows, clean and press
Legs: Squats, lunges, romanian deadlifts, good mornings

Here is a site that will show you how to do these things (and where you can find more options/ variants):

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/exercises.htm

Just remember, stick to the big compound movements, and particularly squats and deadlifts.

Good luck.

Oh, and I also agree with that abs should not be trained daily.

Okay I am 16/f to start off :)

My height is between 5'6'' and 5'7'' and I weigh around 145lbs.

I used to be 180 lbs around about 2 years ago and I am glad I've lost that weight. However I am still not comfortable with my weight at all.

I even had minor eating disorder like bullimia and anorexia. But I never starved for over 3 days because it was pretty much impossible to not eat when my mom makes me eat infront of her. So I was bullimic on and off. Not throwing up everythign I eat. Only doing it when ever i thought i ate too much. Which I dont do that any more neither.

So I am sure I killed my metabolism then. So I am going on a new road without any eating disorders and I;ve been working out pretty regularly for 2 months now.

I used to jog about 4 miles but now I jog for 2-2.5 miles. I breakdance about 20-30 minutes here and there. I lift two 3 lbs dumbells when I workout my arms and do sit ups. (i am planning to do 200 sit ups, i used to do over 500 but then i stopped and now starting again)
and after my jogging, I practice my handstand and cartwheels.

I don't think I overeat, nor snack that much. In fact I dont eat junkfood at all, however there are days when I just go too crazy from depriving myself from it, I guess I eat junkfood sometimes.

For breakfast I eat a big bowl of cereal(which i am trying to eat the serving size now)

Lunch, i eat whatever my mom makes me. but she balances it out really good with veggies and meat

In fact I love eating veggies and we eat fruits for snacks

So why am i not losing any weight? My goal weight is to be 125 lbs

There are some things you can do to try to boost your metabolism. First off start eating very often. Try to work in a small balanced meal every 3 hours or so. Then, eat a few hundred calories below what you burn for say two weeks or so. After two weeks, take a day where you eat a few hundred calories above what you burn. The idea here is to let the body know that there is plenty of food, and that it should not go into starvation mode.

As for exercise, you seem to do well with cardio, but I would really recommend trying to work in some more resistance training if you can. Try to go to the gym and lift weights if possible. That type of exercise is generally more effective at making an impact on your metabolism for longer periods of time.

Also remember to drink plenty of water. You can also try include more hot and spicy foods in your diet, which also have a minor effect.

As for your general diet, its hard to comment since i dont have a good picture of what you eat. Just make sure you keep saturated fats very low, that you intake a small but regular amount of essential fatty acids (very important in the weight loss process... you get them from fish, nuts, olive oil, canola, flax, etc), and that you keep your carb portions moderate (including fruit).

Good luck.

So today i cheated on my diet today and i ate way way waaay more calories then usual but its to late to go to the gym and i want to know of some really great calorie burners that i can do at home.. preferbly fast ones too. i just feel so guilty and i'll never let myself live it down.

Indigo is totally right. You cant beat yourself up about these kinds of things. Trust me, one day off here and there wont increase your weight.

In fact, it can be good to take a cheat day here and there. When you diet, your metabolism has a tendency to slow. When you take a cheat day and eat a few hundred calories over what you burn, you tell the body there is plenty of food and it prevents it from entering starvation mode. So, once in a while, it can even be recommended.

Just get back into it tomorrow, and you wont suffer a bit from your little indulgence.

Good luck.

edit: Oh, as for calorie burning (if you really must) you would need to do some sort of a cardio. I would suggest going for a run outside if thats possible. Otherwise anything like aerobics (e.g. if you have a workout video or something), biking, etc, are all good ways to burn calories.

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