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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

ok.. lets just say im really bad at computers..

if i have a myspace song up and i want to deleat it so i have no song at all.. how do i do that? can i do that?

and does anyone know the code to make certain words bold in like comments and stuff?

thanks so much.

When you go on your profile & you see the song, it'll have view & delete. Click delete & it'll ask you if you're sure you want to delete it. Click yes, and you've got no more song.

< b > bold < / b >
< i > italics < / i >
< s > strikethrough < / s >
< u > underline < / u >

Those are the codes. Take out the spaces & they'll work. =)

♥T!NA

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hey...im 16/f and im in a long term, serious relationship with a guy. we're definitly in love adn ready to start to have oral sex.

alright...heres the deal...some woman have something called a big inner labia [lips] which is basically when your inner labia is big and sort of hangs...thing is...i have that...and im scared that maybe a lot of girls have normal, small inner labias and that because mine is bigger hell get grossed out or things wont go smooth and im just really nervous and self concious about it...does anyone else have the same labia like this and experienced oral sex...if so...tell me what heppend because im really nervous just about the way my inner labia looks and im scared of what hes going to think

He might be just as self conscious as you. Don't worry about it. He loves you, so I'm sure he won't care. He probably won't even notice.

♥T!NA

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i have 1 main friend and dont really hang out with anybody else.i need help with getting more friends.how do i do that? whats the eaiseiest way to make new friends?oh, and im a gurl at the age of 13.thx!

If you see people you think you wanna be friends with, talk to them. See what they like & what interests them & if they're similar to you. Become their friends. =) You're a young girl. Girls your age have almost everything in common. And if not, that's cool too. Opposites with diff. interests make things more fun.

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I sort of don't agree with a lot of society.I just don't agree with how people are most of the time.Occasionally,when I'm in a wild environment everything seems so absurd and crazy to me.I remember being at a few parties and being fine,but after a while I just went off alone because I couldn't handle everything.It just seemed so intense,but I realize that everyone was just being themselves.

Simply,I feel isolated. It feels like I'm an outsider and there's no one to connect with,not even other people that are outsiders.The funny thing is,I don't seem like the kind of kid that would be like this.But I just don't have anyone,and it's killing me.

Anyway,what's wrong with me?

There's nothing wrong with you. You see things differently than other people do, and that's a good thing. You're the crative type & your life will be good. Making friends will suck though.

Observe people though. See what they're interested in & if you think it's similar to your interests, talk to them.

Being a loner is a good thing, but it's also a bad thing. Take advantage of it. =)

♥T!NA

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Ok, here it goes. My ex boyfriend was my best friend. He didnt really act like my boyfriend when we were going out and i didnt really have a problem with it, or i just didnt say anything about it... well, he saw he was being a huge jerk, and heard it from a lot of people... and i guess he didnt want to deal with all the drama because he is not use to it. Well, when we were going out, he would skateboard and sometimes ignore me and stuff... We ended it. But we were best friends, and its definately not the same. I barely ever see him now and i hate to say it, but i still really like him, alot. I dont know what to do... I've been playing it cool, making it appear like nothing is wrong... but i can tell that i still like him. Im still not use to not having him as a bf, like i still search for him in the halls and i hate it. What should i do? And.. i really want to.. atleast, be friends with him, atleast.

Talk to him about it. Tell him you still wanna be friends, but also tell him that he's not making an effort. And think about it, if he isn't making an effort, why should you? If you're playing it off now, he probably thinks you don't wanna be friends so if you act like you don't care, he might actually think you don't. So he started not to care either. Let him know you still care & see where things go from there.

♥T!NA

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This is a very long question because i have alot to explain so please be ready for quite a long read.

It all started a few months ago when a college mate was becomming very desperate to get a gf, he was asking people left right and center and then was rejected almost every time until he met this girl. From what i can guess she didn't want to reject him like he had been before and after two days told my friend "she wasn't ready for a relationship right now" this completely destroyed my friend and he spent weeks getting over her until finally he started his search all over again. i wasn't exactly heppy over this fact because it seemed to me that every so often he would complain about how "he was never going to get a gf" and stuff like that. I tried my best to help him and tell him that he was looking in all the wrong places. This went on for a few more weeks but while this was going on I ended up talking more and more to the girl and we became pretty good freinds. She helped me through a breakup i had recently gone through. The problem occured when i realised i was developing feelins for this girl so i ended up talking more and more to her. This put a serious strain on my friendship with my friend because I soon found out he was not over her yet and had been talking to her while i had been. After a while of this she told me she had feelings for me and i told her i felt the same way. Things with my freind got very bad here up to the point where we stopped talking but i couldn't just ignore what i was feeling for this girl. She told me she would go out with me if it wasn't for my friend and maybe she would later on when he got over her. I knew she didn't want to hurt my friend and i was half expecting her to say it but it didn't make it any easier. She also told my freind at this point she wouldn't take things any further with me but i didn't find this out til later through one of my other friends. Time passed and me and her got alot more friendly with each other and we were always talking and stuff. I didn't know what to think at this point because I felt very confused about what she was telling me and what she was doing. Then one tuesday (i'll always remember that tuesday, it was the worst day of my life) at the end of what had been a good day (she had borrowed my jumper because of the cold) after class i waited outside her room and walked her to her buss then did wha i normally did to get home. After getting home i went up to my room and turned on my laptop, signed in msn (the usual stuff) and kept a close eye on it incase she signed in, I stayed up til 3 in the morning in case she came on but she didn't so i justsorta fell asleep. The next day i was so tired and worried because i didn't know what had happened (she usually caem online at some point) but it was wednessday so i never saw her then later I was on msn and she came online. she told me in painful detail about this boys house she went around on tuesday. I kept thinking to myself why she was telling me these things and whether she realised how much she was hurting me. A few days after this she came up to me with tears in her eyes telling me that this guy had told her he only wanted a bit of fun with her and never cared about her. I couldn't help but feel a little happy about this and that made me feel terrible about myself. I hated that i was taking joy in someone elses misery. Things went on and soon we were almost back where we started until one day she told me that "she didn't want another relationship". I was too blind to see that this was exactly what she had done to my friend before. I thought about it and said i still wanted to be freinds but I wish so much i had just walked away right then because it would have saved me from the worst pain i have ever felt. This went on for a little while and I realised that she had a thing for the guy who had hurt her before and he aparently wanted a real relationship now. I asked her repeatedly if she liked him and it hurt more and more each time because i knew she was lieing to me. Eventually i got her to admit the truth and i just couldn't take it. I walked away to around the corner and blacked out. according to my friends I acted normal during this time but i couldn't remember any of it. I later learned this was due to stress.

This is where i am now, it's been a month since all this happened and for the most part i'm over it. That is to say that you wouldn't know from looking at me what i'm feeling inside but every night i cant even sleep because every time i close my eyes I relive those painful moments again and again. I havent had a good nights sleep since this happened. I cant even see anything that reminds me of her without the tears welling up in my eyes and I have to make some excuse to leave. MY question is what do i do, because I cant keep this up for much longer and also is it a good idea to move on? even if i still feel this way?

I need serious help and any suggestions would be much appreciated. If your still awake after reading that please give me any thoughts because i am completely lost.

First off, a girl is never worth losing a friend to. Girls come & go, but friends are forever.

Second, if you noticed the pattern in what she did to your friend, she did it to you too. You should've realized right then that she was not the one.

The best way to move on is to just give it time. It could take a long time, or it could take a short period of time. But no matter what, time heals everything.

Rekindle the friendship with your friend, and drop this girl like a bad habit.

♥T!NA

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i was talkin to my boyfriend one day on aim and he said he was gonna hack into my computer and i was like um no and he was like why not you have nothing to hide right? well he did it anyway and i know he did because he then proceeded to read me a myspace msg from some guy [i had just met him and he lives on the opposite side of the country so it was just a random msg] and was askin me about it like testin me and sayin i think this guy likes you and all this crap [he said i was cool. thats it] and i was like no how can he i dont even know him?! and he said so youre sayin he didnt say he likes you? and i was like no? and he said dont lie to me. i eventually got him to quit and he swore he wont do it again but i told him that makes me feel invaded and he was like well you have nothing to hide right? and i was like thats not the point! ugh so now i dont know what to do bc i feel i cant do anything on here cuz he'll hack into it. he always says he trusts me and ive never given him a reason not to its not like he was suspicious of me cheatin or anything, so he had no reason to do it! also anytime i say im msging or talkin to or goin out with one of my friends he asks who over and over again until i give him a name [he doesnt even know my friends personally except for 2]. ugh i hate it! i hate sharing so much info. but if i dont tell him he gets irritated with me and holds it against me. i dont know what my question is but helpp?? 16-f hes 17-m.

I would dump him. He claims he trusts you, but then he hacks into your computer to make sure you've got nothing to hide. Your privacy was invaded for no reason, and now you're scared to do anything else.

Leave him, because the chances of him doing it again are high.

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I have this boyfriend who I've been seeing for a little over a year and a half. He lives in another state and i see him maybe once a month if im lucky. The problem is, i went to see him last weekend and on sunday he totally ignored me and would sit on the opposite side of the room as me. he paid more attention to his dog! he told me he loved me when he saw i was upset! but what's up with him??

Maybe the distance is starting to get to him. Talk to him about it.

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when my bf and i have sex i make myself moan, yeah it feels good but i can lay there and be silent but i dont want to be so i make moaning noises. are you like that too? or do they just come out of you? i just dont get if moans are "fake" or if you actually cant help them.

I can't help mine.

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does anyone have any tips on " moving on " or possibly " winning your bf back" ahha thanks

It depends who broke up with who, and why you broke up. If he broke up with you & decides he misses you, he'll come back. And if you break up with him, and he still misses you, he'll do his hardest until your his again.

For moving on, time heals everything.

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what is a prick? when someone said oh, hes such a prick.. what does it mean?

It's another word for a man's genitalia. Or when a guy's being an asshole. Usually the same meaning for when somebody says "Oh, she's such a cunt."

Both are terribly rude. Don't use them. =)

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So theres this guy at my school that I like but i dont think he notices. I am not ready for a relationship yet but I want to make him like me. What do i do?

(p.s) i go to a small school with only like 20 kids

There is no way to make him like you, but since your school is small, I'd just say hi to him whenever you see him & become his friend. When you think things are going well, & you're ready for a relationship, ask him out. =)

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My boyfriend calls me names and tells me I am all sorts of horrible things. I don't think that is acceptable in the slightest, but I guess I DO, because I'm still with him, right? I have this state of mind that I am not all of the bad things he tells me I am, unless I stay with him... then I feel as if I have become those awful things. Which makes me feel like I deserve to hear everything he has to dish out. Afterall, why should he respect me when I don't even respect myself? Isn't that true?

Thing is, I wouldn't stand for this behavior from anyone but him, and that is a fact I am sure of! I have never taken poor treatment of any degree in the past, and I come from what someone would call the "perfect" family whose parents have the "perfect" marriage. I was raised right. I was taught manners, and I know the importance of respect. So why am I still with him?

He really just has a poor attitude. He is only mean to me when he loses his cool, but he is everything I've ever dreamed of when his temper is straight. So our goods outweight our bads. But does that make his act okay? We are both in our early 20's, and we do not live together. We've been a couple for years, but he hasn't always been this way. I'm not afraid of him physically hurting me or my loved ones, but yet I still can't find the strength to leave. I feel like the most disgusting, pathetic excuse for a human being for admitting this, but..... I feel like I have nothing better to run to. I've grown up a lot over the past few years, and he's been there through everything. He is such a part of my life, that I feel too scared and flat out lazy to lose him only to take a step backwards.

Do you think I deserve this treatment for having not yet left? I feel like I have brought this all on myself. I have, haven't I? Because I am the only one who can stop it, and I haven't, correct? Can anybody help me with finding a train of thought to help myself gain the courage and self-respect it would take to break away from him? And stay away?

I don't think you deserve this treatment at all. I would leave the relationship asap. There is no right time to leave except now. Verbal abuse will eventually lead to phsical, mental & emotional abuse. I know you think "Oh, he wouldn't physically hurt me." but think again. The people you least expect to abuse you can be the ones to change your mind.

Get out while you can, and find someone who treats you like a queen.

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Lately I have just been spending time with my brother because I am trying to get myself on the right track (in school off alchohal etc.) Am i doing the right thing by taking baby steps on bettering myself and not hanging out with friends?

Honestly, I think you are doing the right thing. If your friends drink & whatever, not hanging out with them is a good thing because you won't be influenced or pressured to drink. Good for you. =)

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I have been really depressed lately. ( i have clinical depression anxiety and post traumatic stress dissorder) what are things i can do to make myself feel better about myself and make myself have control over my anger?

I would see a doctor & a counselor. Doctors can get you on some medicines to help control your anger, depression, pts, & anxiety. While a counselor can help you get in touch with your feelings.

Write or listen to music. That always helps me when I feel depressed.

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On myspace I really would like to have the song "I'll be missing you" on there. It is by Puff Daddy Ft. Faith Evans and through all the searches I've done on the myspace music player I couldn't find it. Does anyone have any suggestions to get this song on myspace. I don't want a video.

This is probably gonna be a huge pain in your ass, but download it to your computer. And then make a musicmyspace. Upload it to there & then you can add it to your normal myspace site.

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okay there is this guy right..and i talk to him everyday.I like him alot. But i never know what to talk about..what do i do? what do i talk about with him?

Talk about things that interest you. Music, movies & school might be some good things to talk about. Find out what he likes & then go from there. =)

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when you are griding with a guy, can you like hold hands with him like intertwine your fingers? is that ok?

Move his hands where you want them to go. And yes, it's totally okay. Do what makes you feel comfortable or good. =)

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me & my bf are totally in love.
but we graduate this year and are going to dif.high school.help?

Try to see if he can go to your highschool or if you can go to his. If it's totally impossible, try & hang out as much as you can. Do your school work first, and if you still have time, hang out for a bit. Weekends are cool to hang out too.

Trust me, I've been in this situation before & everything worked fine. =)

♥T!NA

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is masturbating daily a health hazard? i'm 13/male

Not at all. It helps with stress and burns calories. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. =)

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