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oral sex...self concious advice!
hey...im 16/f and im in a long term, serious relationship with a guy. we're definitly in love adn ready to start to have oral sex.
alright...heres the deal...some woman have something called a big inner labia [lips] which is basically when your inner labia is big and sort of hangs...thing is...i have that...and im scared that maybe a lot of girls have normal, small inner labias and that because mine is bigger hell get grossed out or things wont go smooth and im just really nervous and self concious about it...does anyone else have the same labia like this and experienced oral sex...if so...tell me what heppend because im really nervous just about the way my inner labia looks and im scared of what hes going to think
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Take a deep breath and exhale. Youu can relax. What you need to know is that you are normal and so is your labia, vagina, vulva and reproductive system for that matter.
Not everyone's genitals look the same or like the anatomy text books or health diagrams or however they show them looking in sex-ed and or books you may have read about anatomy or sexuality on your own.
Quite common is discoloaration or different skin color and in some women larger labia and or clitoris. It's all fine and nothing to be upset about. In fact it may in fact enhance your pleasure.
As far as your boyfriend goes he likely won't notice and will not bring it up. It will not gross him out either as he probably knows and have learned that genitals can look a little different on both sexes. Some guys are circumcised, some are not and some can have discoloration or birth marks or whatever.
He loves you and will still love you afterwards. Trust me, it's the last thing on any guys mind. He's probably just as self-concious about his penis as you are of your vagina, breasts etc. etc. He's probably only wondering if he's going to be bad at this or if you are going to have a good time.
I wouldn't worry but if you are concerned about it just be truthful with him and tell him what you were worried about and I'm sure you will both be able to laugh together about it and he'll revel his fears too.
When it comes to having any type of sex you need to communicate and especially above all talk about fears or what you both find embarassing about sex and or your bodies.
It will bring you closer so that when you do decide to do this you won't be all tense and can actually enjoy it. What's the point in doing it otherwise if you cannot both enjoy it?
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He might be just as self conscious as you. Don't worry about it. He loves you, so I'm sure he won't care. He probably won't even notice.
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don't worry about it, like you said your in a serious realationship. he loves, i think it's going to take more than a bigger labia to scare him away. he might be as selfconcious as you are. don't worry. he probably won't even notice.
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