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Hai I'm 14/f and lately I've been thinking a lot about smoking. Everyone in my family has smoked at least once and my mom is the only one who contunues to smoke. Also my best guy friend smokes as well and has offeres me mutiple times but Ive always turned him down. I really don't know I'm somewhat stressed due to school and slight family issues so I want to know what to do. I'm just so unsure of wht to do at the moment please help.
Why do you want to smoke? Just because everyone eles tried it? To be cool? To fit in?..
These are so wrong of reasons. Just because other people have done things does not mean tou have to follow in their footsteps. Technically, This is peer pressure. You are acting on what others have done and are thinking if making a real stupid choice.
Do not do it, Just be your own person. Stop worrying whst other people have done or do. Most of all. Think for yourself and stop letting peer pressure get the best of you
i love a guy who has a gril and i hve told him how i feel and he hasnt responded on it he still acts as my frnd ,wht should i do
He is in a relationship meaning he is not available. You except he us in a relationship and move on. Guys that have girlfriends are not up on the pick list. It is wrong to come between relationships, Would you really want to be that girl that caused him misery? No. Find someone else
My mom recently got married to a guy who's 15 years younger than her, and lately he's been acting very unfatherly-like towards me. My mom goes out to work and when I get out of school its just me him and my other siblings. At first he wasn't so weird...I mean we'd say good morning, and then pretty much avoid each other all day. Then he started sitting with me at breakfast, trying to converse. After, we started talking more and more and I guess we opened up more to each other. However about a month ago, things started getting really weird. He started asking me really awkward questions like "are you a virgin"and "when are you planning to lose it"...he also kept asking me about my relationship status, and things I just wasn't comfortable discussing with him. And after a while, those kinds of things seemed to be the only things he wanted to discuss. After those conversations, things started getting even more odd and disturbing. He makes comments about my chest or my butt. He started getting really touchy-feely with me. When I'd be in the kitchen he'd like wrap his arm around my waist, and when we'd sit on the couch and watch tv together, he'd get really close to me and sometime he brushes up on me and I just try to avoid him. At first I really tried to convince myself that he was just trying to be fatherly. However, I soon realized this wasn't the case as he started saying really innapropriate things and looking at me in a creepy way. Not that long ago he even tried to slip his hand into my shirt in a "jokey" kind of way if that even makes sense. After I'd asked him why he'd done that he told me he was just playing around and that he wasn't serious. I really doubt that. I really don't know what to do at this point...I'm not 100% sure that he's not playing around...but then again I feel really disgusted and violated by him. I really don't want to start unnecessary drama...and plus my mom would not believe me. My mom has been in & out of me and my siblings lives, other ppl have raised us and then she gets us back and she's barely there, when she doesn't have a job, she's out of town with her friends partying and my step dad helps with the bills. If I told her she would start a huge fight with me and not believe me. I'm really freaked out! I keep thinking about it and He has been looking at me weird
i want to tell my mom. what if she doesnt believe me?
I had already answered this question, Seeing you deleted I will give you the same exact answer....
You should try recording him
Whether he is joking or not he has crossed the line far to many times.You should try to at least let your mother become aware of the situation. Although she may not fully believe you at first, She will keep an eye out a bit more as ut will be in the back of her mind. This guy is being a creep and is harrassing you. If he tries to touch you, Tell him straight up to back off! Lock your bedroom door at all times but you need to let your mother become aware of this
If someone had intercorse for the 1st time and didnt use any protection is their a posibility that they could become pregna nt? Im just curious. im 13
Yes, You can get pregnant at any time.
If you don't know this, You should not be having sex.
15/f im going to the OBGYN becasue i think i hvae a problem with my vagina like a yeast infection or something. but i also want to ask the doctor about birth control and when i can get on it. i told my mom that if i dont want her in the room shes gonna have to leave, and shes like no you cant im staying and then she said i have no rights like she has to stay so like wtf...is the doctor gonna ask me if i want her there or not? or am i gonna have to be like can you get out? im not sexually active but i still want it to be safe but i also have cramps. so should i say i need the pill for cramps or becasue im sexually active? also how am i supposed to pick it up so my mom doesnt know about it or let alone pay for it like this makes no fucking sense and i hvae no money so i guess they would put it under planned parenthood.
At 15, You legally ha e the right to go into a doctors office without your parents around with you. There is a law called +Patients Privacy Act) Anyone 14+ has the right to their privacy.
What baby names go well with the last name Welsh? I'm not sure of the sex so girl or boy names please. Also, if you can think of any middle names too that would be great. I'd love to hear everyone's suggestions
Thank you!
Carolyn Marie Welch
Alyanna lynn Welch
Sarah Marie Welch
Julie Ann Welch
Brenlyn Ariel Welch
Vanessa Lyn Welch
Hailey Ann Welch
Melissa Welch
Ryan David Welch
Brandon Adam Welch
Jason Michael Welch
Richard Welch
Jarred Welch
Justin Welch
Adam Welch
Joseph Welch
Hey guys
My boyfriend just got his first car, its really nice too. Im happy for him but to be honest, im worried that this means it is easier for him to go hang out with other girls without me even knowing. This car allows him to be alot more free and mobile and i am not a needy possesive girlfriend but i have been cheated on many times by other guys so i have very bad trust issues.:( i want more than anything to trust him, but now that he has a car, he can pretty much get away with anything right?
So basically you do not trust him?
What is a relationship without trust? Nothing.
Kitten is right, Most relationships someone has a car. If anything be happy, He can now take you out and you can go places as a couple. Stop assuming the worst if your boyfriend. This is how you ruin relationships, Chill out.
Is it bad that I masturbate using one of my mom's vibrators ? P.s. I'm f/13 .
It's a bit disgusting to be quite honest with you. The vibrator belongs to someone, It was used. It is very unsanitary and disturbing.
No, This is wrong. How do you even know you can't contract possible STD? ... Stop. NEVER use someone eles personal items.
I am a 16 year old girl. I fell in love with someone I met online!! Lame I know but I honestly do still love him. He has stopped talking to me and blocked me on Facebook. We were "together" for 8 months. Someone please tell me how I can get over this man! I feel like my heart is run over by a semi-truck
You can't technically fall in "love" with someone you never met. I think rather then falling in love with this person" You fell in love with the thought of this person liking you for a period of time.
He could of had someone you do not even know about or as I hatw to say it but if he was flirting with you then 99% of the time you were not the only one.
You move on by realizing it wasn't real, It was an online fantasy. You did not know this person and for all you know it may not even be who he says he is.
If it was someone you have seen before then again, It still wasn't real. There iz a huge difference between in person and talking on a computer.
Focus on trying to meet someone who is in person.
My mom recently got married to a guy who's 15 years younger than her, and lately he's been acting very unfatherly-like towards me. My mom goes out to work and when I get out of school its just me him and my other siblings. At first he wasn't so weird...I mean we'd say good morning, and then pretty much avoid each other all day. Then he started sitting with me at breakfast, trying to converse. After, we started talking more and more and I guess we opened up more to each other. However about a month ago, things started getting really weird. He started asking me really awkward questions like "are you a virgin"and "when are you planning to lose it"...he also kept asking me about my relationship status, and things I just wasn't comfortable discussing with him. And after a while, those kinds of things seemed to be the only things he wanted to discuss. After those conversations, things started getting even more odd and disturbing. He makes comments about my chest or my butt. He started getting really touchy-feely with me. When I'd be in the kitchen he'd like wrap his arm around my waist, and when we'd sit on the couch and watch tv together, he'd get really close to me and sometime he brushes up on me and I just try to avoid him. At first I really tried to convince myself that he was just trying to be fatherly. However, I soon realized this wasn't the case as he started saying really innapropriate things and looking at me in a creepy way. Not that long ago he even tried to slip his hand into my shirt in a "jokey" kind of way if that even makes sense. After I'd asked him why he'd done that he told me he was just playing around and that he wasn't serious. I really doubt that. I really don't know what to do at this point...I'm not 100% sure that he's not playing around...but then again I feel really disgusted and violated by him. I really don't want to start unnecessary drama...and plus my mom would not believe me. My mom has been in & out of me and my siblings lives, other ppl have raised us and then she gets us back and she's barely there, when she doesn't have a job, she's out of town with her friends partying and my step dad helps with the bills. If I told her she would start a huge fight with me and not believe me. I'm really freaked out! I keep thinking about it and He has been looking at me weird
i want to tell my mom. what if she doesnt believe me? And I don't want to be away from my brothers and sisters
You should try recording him
Whether he is joking or not he has crossed the line far to many times. You should try to at least let your mother become aware of the situation. Although she may not fully believe you at first, She will keep an eye out a bit more as ut will be in the back of her mind. This guy is being a creep and is harrassing you. If he tries to touch you, Tell him straight up to back off! Lock your bedroom door at all times but you need to let your mother become aware of this.
is it okay for an almost 18 year old girl to date a 24 year old guy who has 3 year old twins?
It is not illegal
However getting involved with someone who has children will not be as available to you then someone who has no kids. You will have to accept that the mother of the kids will always be in the picture somewhat, His kids will always come before you etc.
Honestly, I would go with Rahzie on this one.
I most certainly would not want to be involved with anyone who has kids at the age of 18
Okay, this is really awkward and hard to say. Well, I just received a spanking because of my grades. It really hurt, but I got a little wet?? I feel really weird now. Is this normal? As I've said in previous questions, I'm 14, so it might be a hormonal thing.
Uh, I would be a little weirded out to be spanked at the age if 14? You are far too old and that is a bit inappropriate.
Okay, so I'm 18, female and in my last year of secondary school (or high school) and there's this guy in my class who has been flirting with me over the past few months.
At the start it was just general flirting, but soon he started feeling my legs whenever I sat beside him, and even when I told him to stop, he'd still keep doing it.
Then he asked me in January to go to the debs (Irish version of 'prom') with him and I said okay, but a month or so later he said that he wasn't sure if he was going ... I still don't know if he is or not.
Then he kept up the usual flirting and annoying me until a few weeks ago when it was a non-uniform day in school. I wasn't wearing anything seductive, or whatever, but he kept feeling me up all through the day and I told him so many times that I didn't want him to do it, but he kept on doing it.
The next day I gave out to him and he said sorry and that he'd never do it again ...
Then he asked me for my number, and I don't know why I gave it to him, but I did ...
So since then he's been texting me about nothing but sex-related things.
He started asking me all about the guys I have had sex with before, which was completely none of his business.
He suggested having no-strings attached sex with me, and I said that I would never do that. So he asked me if I did have feelings for him, and I said yeah, because I just do (I don't know why).
Then he said that he would go out with me, but he thinks it sounds gay ... Which makes NO sense at all since I'm a girl.
Two nights ago he was asking me why I don't take dirty pictures and I told him that I never would ... and then last night he sent me a dirty picture! I went mad at him, and he said that he was sorry, but then he tried to convince me to send one back ... so I told him to text me again when he's not thinking about sex, and he hasn't since then.
I know most guys are crazy about sex, but I don't want a guy who's just going to talk about it to me constantly. I don't even know why he talks about sex so much because he's a virgin, and everything he knows is just from what he hears from his friends and what he sees on p*rn.
Should I tell him that I want someone much, much more than a sex-obsessed fool?
Should I explain to him that I'm tired of talking about sex?
Should I just ignore him?
I just don't know what to do about him!
He sexually assaulted you and completely disrespected you. Why the hell would you even question whether you should keep in contact? He sounds like a real ass, An arrogant one too.
Truth? No, I do not think you should try to keep contact with him He is extremely immature and has a lot if growing up too do.
Yes, I think you should stop talking to him. If he calls, text or appraches you, ignore him. He does not sound like a good match, he needs to learn to show respect and courtesy befire he can even talk to a woman and be a decent human being.
Well ok, i'm best friends with a boy and a girl they have never met and now i'm dating him too but i have been told i have to choose one or the other and i can't. The girl is like a sisterto me and the boy is everything i wanted what can i do? i'm stuck plz help :( xx
Who said you have to choose?
1, If she is like a sister to you then she should respect your relationship and be happy for you. Also, she would have no right interferring with your relationship.
2, If he is a good boyfriend and really cares about you, then he wouldn't be making you pick your friends. That is a sign of someone who is controlling and manipulative. This would not be a healthy relationship for you.
Assuming that your boyfriend is the on making you choose between your fruend or him, No, he would not be everything you want. This guy is trying to ruin a good friendship because he doesn't approve. This kind of behavior is selfish and bullying. He has no right to tell you that you cannot be friends with her. To be honest, Good friends are hard to come by hang onto them.
You don't choose, That is how you settle it. Be mature and if someone is pissed you didn't choose sides then you will no who truly cares about you. People who respect you, will respect your peers and relationship.
Alright so im 14 years old and in my relationship its getting pretty BORING. I love my boyfriend sooo much but we dont talk on the phone or hang out. I want to be more fun. We only see each other in school. In between classes. I try my very but i dont think thats even good enough. Im flirting with him and messing around with him but what else could i do???? Somebody please help. Its important and i dont want to end our relationship but hes like my first love actually (:
A school relationship will not work if you do not see each other outside if school.
Being a good couple means enjoying each others company, Even when you do nothing at all.
My husband and I are in our late 20's, We love hiking, Movies, Grabbing a quick lunch and hanging out at the beach, malls etc. Most of all though, We can sit and do nothing at all and sometimes those are the best moments.Being a good partner is about understanding one another, Respect, Trust and Honesty.
To be quite honest, You are young. At fourteen no bou wants to settle down and get serious, Outside of school or not..
You need to be realistic.
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I Want To Be The Next Big Thing From Chicago. I Love To Sing. Music Is My Life, I Can't Live Without It. Everyday I Watch My Dream Fade From Within My Reach Because I Don't Know What To Do and Where To Start. I Cry Almost Every Day/Night Because I've Never Wanted Something This Bad In My Life. Everyone Believes In Me And They Believe I'd Make It But I Just Don't Know What To Do. Please Help Me! :'(
Have you thought about contacting your local fair for an audition?
Perhaps ask your school if maybe they would allow you to perform in the auditorium?...
Have you tried Youtube?... If you have you could share your video on facebook to friends etc.
These are starts, Maybe not huge but everyone starts somewhere.
Learn to work on promoting yourself, Go to local pubs and participate in karaoke contest etc. Put yourself out there
I use to have a best friend 3 years ago. We talked about everything and he haven't talked at all. Arguments and police have been involved twice because harassing text messages they called it. I'm gay and a few years later he came out saying he was. He harassed me over the internet calling me names from facebook and on twitter. After we graduated high school all these happened. When school started back in the fall he met new friends and haven't talk to him at all. He apologized and wanted to become friends again and he started back with all the harassing again and calling me a stalker. I ignored it. So, he went to school hours away but in the same state and our town we live in now. It's very small. I seen him last night and ignored him and he was following me in the parking lot last night at walmart and I drove away. He didn't wanna talk. We both have restrainting orders on each other. About 2 years ago. I need to tell him something when he came out that I really like like him. But he called the police on me saying I was harassing him. I don't think or worry about him anymore. But what should I do? I blocked all contact from him and got a new number and blocked all friends who are closed to him that I was close to too with him. including his family. help what should I do?
Continue ignoring him, He sound extremely immature.
If you see him again, Ignore him. If you show you don't care soonet ir later he will get it. I am not sure if you still do, but what exactly is there to like about a person that is so much drama?.. You both had so many issues that you had to fild a restraining order against one another. Let him play a fool, You move on and meet someone else.
Im a 17 year old female and my family has a lot of restrictions on me. I don't have a boyfriend because it is not allowed and my family is watching me most of the time. When I was 16, I began masturbation and needed more if you know what I mean. We acquired a great dane a few months ago and so I have been letting my dog hump me. My family still doesn't know. I have been getting what I need. Is it ok to continue my "practices"?
This is animal abuse
Alsi having sexual relations with an animal is considered beastiality. It is disgusting and it's also a crime
A girl told me I had a mustache so i shaved my upper lip which was a BIG MISTAKE! will waxing my upper lip get rid of the greenish shadow or do i have to do something else? will the hairs be uncomfortable the rest of my life? i'm SCARED!
BY THE WAY, I AM A GIRL AND 12 YEARS OLD
Never shave hair that is not supposed to be shaved, This will cause it to grow faster, darker and thicker. Really, Who cares what other people say and think anyway. I bet this girl isn't perfect.
It really isn't that uncommon for women to have hair on tkheir bodies surprisingly. I actually was just reading an article on yahoo yesterday about it. Anyway, Sweetheart, Do not let little things get to you. It is not worth it at all. Learn to ignore other people as there will always be someone who has something to say. If its not hair, It'd be something else. Ignore it
Also, You could try waxing like the user above me suggested but the reason I wouldn't recommended it is because sometimes it can irritate your skin, expecially in sensitive areas such as the upper lip.
Im 21, my boyfriend is 22. We have been together for over 3 years. We have been doing a sort of long distance for 2 years as i have attended college away from home. I am recently getting frustrated at the fact that we have been together so long, and he is making no plans or mentions to move to the next step, such as moving in. I am an hour away going to college and have a senior year and masters left. He is currently finishing his associates at our community college at home and has no plans after job wise or continuing education. I know he is only 22, do you think this is normal for his age being confused, or do you think that he should be able to tell me what he wants and should be considering the next step.I have mentioned to him how I cant just wait around, but i dont wanna put to much pressure because he is only 22, but at the same time how do i know i am not wasting my own time?
I see a few problems
1, Distance
2, You are both in college
He msy not be entirely ready to take a next step just yet. I didn't move in with my husband until I was 23. So yes, He may be 22 but he may also just not be ready. You both are in college and he may be feeling the stress from that, The only reason to know for is to talk him about it but do not pressure him. My honest opinion, Wait until you both at least graduate college.