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boyfriend got a car
Hey guys
My boyfriend just got his first car, its really nice too. Im happy for him but to be honest, im worried that this means it is easier for him to go hang out with other girls without me even knowing. This car allows him to be alot more free and mobile and i am not a needy possesive girlfriend but i have been cheated on many times by other guys so i have very bad trust issues.:( i want more than anything to trust him, but now that he has a car, he can pretty much get away with anything right?
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Ok, it's understandable that you have trust issues. But you need to deal with that, being cheated on is in the past. He hasn't done it right?
You don't trust him, you want to but you don't. You need to deal with that yourself.
Most teenagers get cars, so plenty of relationships, someone has a car. Not every boy will cheat on their girlfriend.
Pretty much every adult relationship, they have cars. Lots of people have cars. It doesn't mean that they are all cheating on each other.
This is your own problem. You know that, you need to get past that. You can't compare your current relationship to the guys in your past. It will ruin your current relationship, it will ruin your future relationships.
So let this go, be happy for him and learn to trust him. If he hasn't cheated before, and if he is a good guy, then you need to learn to trust.
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So basically you do not trust him?
What is a relationship without trust? Nothing.
Kitten is right, Most relationships someone has a car. If anything be happy, He can now take you out and you can go places as a couple. Stop assuming the worst if your boyfriend. This is how you ruin relationships, Chill out.
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Without being patronizing, in like 90% of adult relationships they have a car!
Its sounds like you have to tackle your trust issues head on. Has he cheated before?
I think its a question of perception really. In my view, having a car is a good thing because like you said he has more freedom. Therefore, when he does see you the relationship will be stronger as you wont be together all the time-you'll be very much living separate lives and the coming together again at the end of the day. This is good for a relationship to last.
I doubt your bf would use his new car to pick up girls-after all, it'd have cost him a lot of money, he has to pay a bomb on insurance if its a new car and he has his girl waiting for him back home.
I think try to hush the worries in your head for now else you'll go insane and it'll nag you all the time. Unless he does act strange and as if he is cheating, then its time to ask for help.
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