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7 month boyfriend/8 years of best boy mate OR best mate girl {8 yrs too}
Well ok, i'm best friends with a boy and a girl they have never met and now i'm dating him too but i have been told i have to choose one or the other and i can't. The girl is like a sisterto me and the boy is everything i wanted what can i do? i'm stuck plz help :( xx
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If they are not getting along and that's why they want you to choose, then talk to them. Explain that you care about both of them.
It's not mature at all to make someone choose.
If your boyfriend is telling you to choose between him and your best friend then he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend.
If your best friend is telling you to choose between her and your boyfriend, she doesn't sound like a very good friend.
What are their reasons to why they want you to choose? Does one of them think that you are spending more time with them than the other? Do they have their own personal problems against each other?
You didn't give too much detail but I tried to help as best as I can.
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Maybe if you talk to both of them and tell them how much both of them mean to you then they will agree just to be civil for your sake. If they both care about you as much as you think they do they should agree. Because boyfriends and friends are equally important sometimes. Best of luck xx :)
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Who said you have to choose?
1, If she is like a sister to you then she should respect your relationship and be happy for you. Also, she would have no right interferring with your relationship.
2, If he is a good boyfriend and really cares about you, then he wouldn't be making you pick your friends. That is a sign of someone who is controlling and manipulative. This would not be a healthy relationship for you.
Assuming that your boyfriend is the on making you choose between your fruend or him, No, he would not be everything you want. This guy is trying to ruin a good friendship because he doesn't approve. This kind of behavior is selfish and bullying. He has no right to tell you that you cannot be friends with her. To be honest, Good friends are hard to come by hang onto them.
You don't choose, That is how you settle it. Be mature and if someone is pissed you didn't choose sides then you will no who truly cares about you. People who respect you, will respect your peers and relationship.
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