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ok its October 10 and the end of my period was October 6th
on October 7th and 8th me and my boyfriend had sex, and we didn't use a condom, and he cummed inside of me. Could i be pregnant?
And when could i find out ( when do the symptoms show and when can i take a pregnancy test? ).
Please help.
Thanks! (link)
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Well you did have unprotected sex around a very fertile time. It is very possible you could be pregnant. Signs to watch for if you are pregnant. Soreness in the breasts, darking of your nipples. People can have morning sickness as soon as two weeks of pregnancy. Others may not have any vommitting until three months of pregnancy or longer. Some people may never have vommitting everyone is differant. My suggestion is this you will need to wait until next month, if you do not start your period wait about four days after your period would normally end, and go get a pregnancy test. If you are under age, and can not buy a pregnancy test, look in your phonebook and find a free local clinic and make an appointment to see them. They can arrange a pregnancy test. If you know anyone over 18 they can go to any dollar store and ask at the counter for a pregnacy test. They cost $4.00 there. But watch for the signs, you will have soreness, maybe some dizzyness, smells may bother you, certain foods may make you feel like throwing up. You will notice changes when your hormones begin to take on a mind of their own. I hope this information helps, if you need anymore help let me know, tell me if this information helped you out thanks...
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Kay, so this is going to sound like a stupid thing to say but i dont know if im bi or not.
I'm 16 years old and i mean ive always liked boys and still do, but in the past year or so i've been becoming more sexually attracted to females.
The thing is, i could never see myself having a proper relationship with a girl.
I was talking to my boyfriend about it and he's happy with me being bi because i just like boys more.
It's hard to describe but when i see a girl i can think "yeah shes pretty" or "hot", but i dont have any like deeper feelings, like wanting to be with them in a commited sense.
The whole idea of girl on girl action and things like that turn me on and i have this urge which seems to be more of a fantasy to do that with girls but does that really make me bi?
I mean, when i think of someone whos bi, i imagine they like girls and boys just as much and would want to have proper relationships with them.
Its good to be able to talk to my boyfriend about this stuff so he can make me feel comfortable no matter what, but i just dont really know if i am or not if that makes sense lol.
if someone can give me some advice that would be great xx (link)
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Those feelings you are having seem pretty normal to me. I can look at a woman and think wow she is pretty, or even wow she is hot. I can tell you with all honesty it has not ever gotten any farther than that with me. Your feelings may change later on, or if you ever act on this attraction to woman, its really only then you will be able to tell. All most all guys are gonna like that aspect of a woman being bi. Its like every guys biggest fantasy. The truth is only time will tell if you are bi. Sounds to me that your just have normal thoughts though. Some girls may feel its weird to have those kinds of thoughts though. I am straight and I have had those thoughts myself so I feel as if its normal. If the attractions get much stronger later on and your feelings drawn to a woman, the portental to become bi s possible. Most woman though do experimentation on this types of issues, its very common when people are in collage. Most of them turn out to not even be bi, it was just something they wanted to try and see what it was like. If you do think you are, its good that you where upfront with your boyfriend about it. It's good to know that you have a strong enough relationship with him to talk about issues like this. But for know I would not be to concerned about those feelings. I dont think you have much to worry about. If anything changes let me know I hope this helps some, please let me know...
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okay lets start this off with im 14/f. and hes 14/m okay well he also has a girl friend. its very disapointing but any way last weeekend was our homecomeing were fresh man. and well i was dacening with my friends and he pulled me aside and said i looked beautiful and he loved my dress(aww how cute right?) so i gave him a hug and said you look dashing haha. well now hes on my mind at school sometiems . and monday i think it was i went to give my old boyfriend a hug because were still friends and the guy i like well alex well call him was there! so i gave um adam a hug then alex was like wow rachel way to give me a hug. ha i kinda was like oh im sorry heres a bigger hug for you then.! okay well everyday i pass him in the halls before 1st hour and before thirdrd and after school i see him because i have cheer practice and he has base ball..mmm. he gives me this crooked smile witch is really really cute. and he gives me a hug everyday now. oh and something eles you should know is ive dated some of his friends like adam and his friend scott and i almost went out with his friend edmond. oppps but i all ways thought he was the cutest out of them all. hes allways kinda been there in the back of my head. but hes moveing to the front of it know and im not srue what to do sence he does have a girl friend who he doesnt seem to close to but ive never seen them out of school together. but my questions are. does he have any feelings for me if u can tell should i back off sence he does have a girl frien? these are the things i need to know. (link)
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Being honest when you like anyone is always best. Weather he has a girlfriend or not, there is no reason you cant be honest with him and tell him that you like him. What happens after that is totally up to him. If he breaks up with his girlfriend and then wants to be with you, then you have your answer. If your having feelings of guilt because of the way you feel knowing he has a girlfriend, you shouldn't. He is sending all the messages your way that he is interested. Be clear and upfront with him and say I would never want to do anything to cause problems between you and girlfriend, but I wanted to let you know that I do like you and have for some time now. Tell him you just needed him to know that cause you where tired of caring that around with you, and it makes it hard being around him when you feel that way knowing he has a girlfriend. Also be clear that you are not ok with cheaters. You would only want to be with him if he is no longer with his girlfriend. So if he is interested and does not say anything right away after you talk to him, give him a few days. See what happens and let me know I hope this helps, please let me know what you think...
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I'm looking for creative ideas for asking a guy to Sadies.
Someone at my school already used the "washable and permanent marker on a t-shirt" technique, which I think is ingenious, but I don't want to copy her. lol
All I have so far is sending him a note or a sports card that says, "Football helmet $50, Jersey $35, Football $20, date with (my name) to Sadies... Priceless"
Any cool ideas? (link)
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I really like what you have so far! Its cute its short its funny. Sometimes simple is the way to go. I would send exactly what you have, and nothing else. Only thing I could really say is instead of a card, how about balloons, put the words on balloons tye it to his locker. Its bold he cant miss it, and just pray no one pops them. You could even add a picture of you instead of signing the balloon. If you could get a picture of him you could also add that as well. I think that would be very mememorable. If I think of anything else I will let you know right now I am drawing a blank. I hope you like this idea let me know.... Wishing you the best have a great time at sadie hawkins..
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Hey there, im 16f. I really am starting to think that everyone in my family is starting to take me for granted and just, not appreciate me. I am the middle child, that may be part of it, but. I live with my mom, my older bro 17, and my younger sis 10. A few examples are, when i do dishes, no body notices because my bro dirties them all up about ten minutes later, when i spend time with my family they treat me as if im an outsider.
- I had this really good friend that dumped me for my bro and is currently sleeping with him. My mom treats her as a replacement for me. Thats how i feel since my mom always invites her over even though i despise this girl now (she comes over enough as it is to see my brother), has 'private' convos about her life with this gal (stuff i don't know is happnin in her life), spends quality time with her, and doesn't care that im hurt seeing this 'so-called friend' suck faces with my bro. Besides he has three other girls hes going with right now! Today, my sister started crying, i did't even know, and my mom was like "hey, did you hit her or something!!" and I was thinking 'jeeze, i did't even know' and it is NOT like me at all to hit someone or be mean or anything like that. But my mom seems to think everythings pretty much my fault, except when my bros around. Hes a troublemaker. I work pretty much eveyday of the week. Part-time after school and on weekends. I would much rather be at work then at home, at least i can see everybody in my town, have a real conversation, and know these people appreciate me. I am very independant, and when i come home its like 'I don't belong here.' Because there is my 'so called friend' on the couch living here. Shes here every night. I don't like looking at her for too long. Whenever I help my sister with her homework for example, my sister will ask how do you spell 'pineapple' and i will tell her, but she isn't listening, so she gets mad and i tell her again, and she is still not listening. My mom then says to me "why won't you tell her the word?! it isn't too hard!" and i get in shit for trying to help her with her homework. Then, two minutes later, my 'so-called friend' walks in, and since she is so goody goody with my sis, she helps her and they are total best friends. That is how easy i am replaced. I don't like being in my home being degraded most the time. It doesn't make me feel appreciated at all. I keep a positive attitude, and now mostly try to keep to myself at home because of this. I basically spend most my time in my room. What do I do?! I am slowly getting pushed down into a pit. (link)
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Well I am gonna be straight with you, frist off I would confront this so called friend. There are unresolved issues with her you need to handle. This friend hurt you, and no one else seems to take that into account. I am sure you feel betrayed and used by her, and know she is a part of the home fixture because of your brother seeing her. I agree that a face to face talk with your mother is in order. Your mother needs to understand how hard it is to be around a person that did this to you. I know your brother is seeing her, but I feel that when you talk to your mother you need to ask her if they could possibily go hang out somewhere else. Your mother allowing this girl so much freedom their bothers me. Have you been upfront with her. Does your mother relize that your brother has other girls and just not her? It does sound like things are a bit out of control. Your mother seems destracted by the examples you gave. Your mother needs to put her foot down on some things that are going on. She needs to pay more attention to whats going on with your brother. Is your mom prepared to be a grandma? Seems like she is sending the message to your brother that this behavior is acceptable. As far as your so called friend, is she not getting kindof what she has comming to her? If you brother is acting and doing what you said, is she not being used by him? What goes around comes back around. I understand how you must feel. Your taking on alot of responability and it seems like no one cares or even notices because they it to many other things going on at once. I would talk to your mother and stress all these things, and ask her to please not allow your so called friend around so much. Suggest that they hang out somewhere else for awhile you need some down time. Also I think you need to comfront the so called friend and get those feelings out of your system. I hope this helps please update me on the home front...
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So I'm REALLY not a jealous person by nature. My boyfriend of almost a year and I have the same circle of friends and we're really open and basically very happy. And we're okay with each other's other-sex friends.
And yet, there's this one, who for some reason makes me insanely jealous.
See, one night we were talking about how it's okay to find other people attractive, so sort of jokingly we were mentioning people (like rock stars and all that) and he said her. And I was okay with it at first. Then, though, inexplicably whenever he brought her up I felt this weird sense of sadness and anger.
She's in one class with me and one with him, and apparently they talk sometimes, so he tells me about her occasionally. She has a boyfriend too, and my boyfriend's consistently telling me how much he loves me. Consciously, I know I've got no reason to worry.
Then one day at a store we were looking at pictures and he looked at one and was like, hey, that looks like her. I never realized I could feel so jealous about one little comment, but I did. He apologized, and so did I (I didn't mean to get upset, after all).
The thing is, now, every day I'm in that class I can't help but look at her. I feel so jealous just being around her, and every time she talks to me I have no clue what to say. I don't know, she's nice to me and all, but there's this weird thing deep in my subconscious that connotes her with sadness now.
Anyway, sorry this is so long. But what can I do? I don't like feeling jealous, and it's silly because consciously I'd probably really want to be friends. She likes a lot of the same music as I do, but something in me makes me want to keep my distance.
No rude answers please, this was hard to say to begin with. (link)
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How you feel is completly normal. That feelings of being jelous and even feelings awkward is all things you should not really worry about. That statement he made triggered the thoughts of what would he do, if me and him ever had problems? Does he secrectly like her? All these emotions are normal. You might stare at her and even compair yourself with her, as a possible competion in the future. All these random thoughts that may cross your mind are noraml. We all have fears deeps down inside, and when he said something about this girl it rriggered this kind of emotional responce. The fact that you know this person and see her as well, makes it even more real. Do you feel that becomming firends with her, might leave more of a doorway open for your boyfriend? Maybe allow them to become closer than you want them to be? These are all things that may cross your mind. The best way to handle all this is be nice to her if she is nice to you. Going as far as wanting to become her friend, that might be more than you can handle right now. If you guys where to all hang out it may increase the fears you already have and cause stress on you and your boyfriend/friend. I think the best thing to do is keep it nice but dont get close to her. Not because of her herself but because of the thoughts you might have in the back of your head. I really do think that would be best in this situation. Let me know what you think, and tell me if this helps any or at all. I really hope it does help though.
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im 28 years old and i live with my parents due to being unemployed, but i have been looking for a new job for almost a year now. problem is if i do something good my mom never says shes proud of me. she likes to go on and on about how good my 21 year old brother is doing because he has a good paying job, a family, and has his own house. but if i try to bring anything up about my brother my mom accuses me of being jeolous which makes me mad because im not. i would just like to be successful like him because i admire him.i feel like i will not be successful because i have a learning disability that makes it hard to advance in my life. is their anyway to make my mom proud of me too. i feel like the black sheep of my family. thanks for answering my question (link)
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You know sometimes parents have no idea what they are doing or really even pay attention to what they themselves are saying. Parents may say things in such a way not realizing how it is comming accross to you directly. What you said in your statement about your brother I think is wonderful. Have you ever told your mom that in those words. Your disability that you mentioned, dont allow yourself to feel that, that is an issue that is going to hold you back in any way. How we view ourselves plays a big part in our overall attitude. If you feel yourself that this holds you back others will see that in the way you present yourself. Dont get down on yourself for not having a job at the momment. Truth is its hard for everyone right now, when it comes to landing a job. I have been looking for work myself with no luck at all, so dont feel to bad about that. As far as your mom not being proud of you, I am not so sure that is really how she feels. Have you ever asked her that directly? Or is that the impression she gives you, by how she speaks about your brother? Sounds to me like you need some ressurance from her that you are not failing and she needs to be more supportive of you and your efforts. As far as feeling like the black sheep of the family thats a pretty normail thing. I am an only child and I myself have felt that way. So keep doing what you are doing, and dont let those feelings that you have over welm you. Have a talk with your mom, and be honest with her on how she has made you feel. Maybe it will shine some light on how she has been, and she can be more supportive towards you. I hope this helps, please update me and let me know if you need any more adive. Best of luck on the job hunt I am rooting for you.
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This year, being my freshman year in highschool, I decided to completely stay away from drama and what not. Of course, I some how got sucked in and spit out, losing my best friend and my personality in the process. It's not that I don't know who I am, it's just that life is so dull, I don't know what to do. I'm not making any new friends, I'm not interested in anyone, I'm just sitting here waiting for something exciting to happen. I used to be the person to cause the excitement. I feel so dull. I guess I'm just sort of thinking a lot. I read "The Last Lecture" the other day, and I guess, corny as it sounds, it go me thinking about life itself. Maybe I'm just spending to much social time in my head? It's just awkward around people now. I feel like I'm losing my friends because of this. I don't know how to snap out of this trance. It's not like it's always like this. I was grounded a few weeks ago for about 2 months from my comoputer, phone, and ipod, and I found that I'm much happier without these material items, but now that i'm ungrounded, I've gone back to being addicted to all of my things. I guess I just want to know what's causing this dullness inside of me...I feel like something really big is going to happen in my life soon but I'm not sure what it is or even if it will, so I'm waiting? I just don't see the point of life anymore (not in a suicidal way). Please help me snap out of this trance. (link)
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We all need a break from drama once in awhile. Feeling dull is that that uncommon. Don't dwell on your thoughts so much or worry about things you can not change that are in the past. As far as the excitement goes, just sounds to me that you need a pick me up. Something to spark your spunk again. I would suggest getting out of the house and cutting loose for a bit. Do anything that does not require in depth thought. Go to the mall with some friends. Plan a night to hang out with other people and talk smack. Start making some plans for halloween, and be creative. I personally find that anything that destrats you in a possitive way, helps you to not dwell in your own world so much. Also a way that helps me cope is to write down my thoughts, it seems that once I do this I feel as if I have vented some what and it does help for me. Other people play sports or games. Some can just hang out bsing. Sounds like you just need to reconnect with things, and do something fun, anything you consider fun. But I do feel you need to get out of the house, and you need to make some plans so you have something to look forward to. Talk with some friends on the phone start to reconnect with people on the phone as well. Keeping to many things inside is not good. Try to figure out differant ways to deal with the stress of drama in your life. This does sound like a mild depression, so I am strongly encouraging you to hang out with some friends. It will help even if you dont really do much. Having your friends around is very important when it comes to snapping out of this kind of feeling. I hope this helps, please let me know what you think, I will try to help you get past this point with any more questions you might have... But try these suggestions and get back with me and let me know if you are still feeling this way about things, or if things seem to get a little easier.
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I met this guy this beginning of school, and I was new to the school. I was talking to one of my friends there, and I saw him, and I was like shittttttttt who's that?! And she told me and I was like I want him, I'm gonna get him. And sure thing, I did get him. We got to know each other real well, we starting falling in love I swear, and we were together for about 2 weeks at this time. We had so much in common, I came into his room, it was full of German flags, I was like holy shit, you like Germany?! And he's like hell yeah! And my news was that well hey I was born there and I go there every year. I fucking love Germany. It was crazy. We finished each other sentences. Told each other we loved each other, cared about each other, and missed each other all the time. And we weren't obsessive either, we'd talk on the phone like twice a day at most. We had a great relationship. But thing is, I was his first. So when it came to school, he wasn't that affectionate and didn't really know how to act. So anyways, we dated, then for some reason. He broke up with me, because he heard I was going to break up with him because of the way he was acting. So he dumped me. After that, we were still talking to each other, hanging out, and obviously not over each other. He asked me out 2 days later. Everything was going smoothly and we liked each other so much. When I was around him, I got butterflies and I felt so happy, it's like nothing I've ever felt for a guy before. He was perfect literally. So we hang out this one weekend, we go to a party, get drunk as fuck, and I puke in his aunt's bathroom and miss the toilet. He has to clean up my puke for 45 min. while I'm outside puking some more. SO his mom finds out we got drunk, and she had to drive me home, and his family is not too happy at all. So him and I are still close. Then in the morning I text him and tell him we're not hanging out today even though we have plans. He says hey I don't know about us anymore. And I started getting teary eyed wondering what the hell is wrong. He tells me he doesn't want to be with me anymore. So I'm like alright why again? He says because he has mixed feelings right now. So we're still friends, and hang out and stuff. One day we talk on the phone and he wants to hang out with me to help him babysit. The women doesn't end up coming home till 4 a.m. We sleep together of course. I tell him, if you want me, I'm not going to wait forever. He says I'll ask you back in a week span, I fucking miss you, love you, yadayadayada. So the week comes by, we don't even talk. So then we're still friends, but things are moving slowly for no reason. I haven't done anything to him. So then somehow he hears that I was talking shit about him I guess, which I really wasn't, I was just mad because he ignores me in school and treats me like shit in public. He just doesn't act like the same person all the time. It was like he was fake or something or new to this relationship thing. Well anyway, now since he heard that, he doesn't want to deal with me shit and all this, he's not talking to me at all, not even looking at me. I try texting him, he doesn't talk to me. He's just cutting me out of his life. I'm fucking miss him so much and I want him back so bad. I have no idea what to do. He won't talk to me and it's killing me like crazy. I really don't know what to do. I just wish we could at least be friends then him hating me. Because it really sucks. I just want everything back to the way it was. I would talk to him face to face, but I'm way too scared. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you.(: (link)
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Well this sounds to me as if things moved very quickly. Also did you ever consider that fact that maybe his parents might not approve of him having a girlfriend? Parents can put alot of pressure on a child when they see something they are not comforable with. Lay down rules condidtions and so on. I believe that when he told you he was confused most likely he really is. When your sexually active with anyone, sometimes it adds alot of stress that younger people can not handle as well as adults. He might worry about things like could she be pregnant? What would I do? What would my parents do? If he feels that you guys might continue a more intamit relationship like this, it is a possiblilty, one he is not prepared to handle. I know that you are scard to face him, but you guys did engage is adult activity and in my opinion if you are able to do that, you should be able to handle confronting him face to face. I am not trying to sound harsh or mean, but if you truely care for him, then this is something you need to build up the courage to do. The way it is right now, I think you both are confused. But I do feel their are other factors involved as well. Maybe something he is afraid to say to you. No guy is going to admit he stopped seeing you because his parents told him so. That is an example. Another is when guys get scard or feels they are getting to close to someone, they tend to back away. Every guy is differant and in my experiance younger guys tend to NOT want to feel as if they are tied down in any way. Responsibility of any kind can scare alot of guys. Even being responable for someones elses feelings can be scary. I do feel that a good face to face talk is in order here. When you speak with him, pay attention to his body language. If he seems strange or not quite the same as things where before, you will be able to tell when your talking with him. Another thing to remember is, not all guys really know how to communicate very well when it comes to talking to a woman. So dont hang on every word, just take in what he is trying to get across to you. After you say what you need to say, and ask what you need to ask. Give him time to think and answer. Even if he cant give you a direct answer right away. Let him take in all of what you have to say, give him time to process it. If you get a responce like I dont know, then give each other space. When he is ready to share with you he will. Just dont push answers right now cause you need one. I hope this helps, let me know how it goes.
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There's this guy iam talking to and he seems like a really sweet guy and I think he really likes me becouse he's constantly opening doors for me and helping me with my schoolwork he bought my a coffe and he offered to carry it for me so iam pretty sure the he likes me and i like him to but iam 19 and the guy is 39 and i feel like he's to old for me but i live with my cousin and she says that age is just a number and iam also afraid of getting hurt becouse everytime I go out with a guy that I really like and I think that really likes me to breaks my heart and iam afraid of getting my heart broke again.
what should i do? (link)
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All older guys seem to be attracted to younger woman. With this guys age I would have a bit of concern though. Questions and concerns such as, was this guy every married? Is he still married? Does he have children? Is he divorced? Even though age does not matter all the time, you have to take into account what life experiances, has he gone through already that you have not. Men who are divorced or get divorced always seem to want to go with someone younger verses a person in the same age range as them. Alot of married men cheat as well. My suggestion is you really have to know what your getting into before hand. Dont be afraid to ask questions upfront to this guy. He may be a great guy, but do you research and find out as much as you can upfront before making any kind of decision. There are some guys out their that age that would treat you very well I am sure, but really know what you want out of life and from a mate, before you make any rash decisions. You really dont have a bases for life ecperiance, not compaired to someone that age. And when your his age he will be a senior. Do you think you could ever be with someone who you might have to care for when you are 30 something. Its alot to take in, and alot to think about. It all depends on the person though, what is he capable of and what are you capable of. But I strongly suggest finding out as much as you can about him before hand. You are still very young, and their are many many fish in the sea... I hope this helps some, please let me know what you think, or any other questions you might have...
When it comes to finding anything serious out such as STDS. The only way to really protect yourself is to ask your partner upfront if they might have any. Certain people may not be honest with you though, not matter how much you feel you trust them. Always be safe use protection, when engaging in any sexual act with anyone. When your sexually active its always improtant to go to the doctors to get check ups from time to time. We all have certain risks involved when you engage in sexual activity. Just be aware of these risks and take as much precaution as you can. Make sure you do get regualar check ups by a doctor so if an std is present at any time, you will know right away. Some STDS can be taken care of right away, other ones you will live with for the rest of your lifetime. I hope this helps answer your question if you need any further help please feel free to leave me a message in my inbox. I hope this helps...
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I've masturbated a lot and i can get off in like 5 minutes but when my GF tries to eat me out or finger me I can't ever do it without help(dildo, vibrator, etc). It kills me because she thinks its her but I think its me. I really dont know...
Did I masturbate too much and damage my clit? Or is it my fault? Or is it her fault? WTF (link)
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Well this could be as simple as you know your own body better than anyone else ever will. It takes time to figure out how to please anyone in a phyical way. My suggestion is to be more open with her, tell her what really gets you excited. If you not shy, let her see for herself and watch. She should not feel as if it is her fault though, we all learn with trial and error. You should just keep reassuring her that it is not her fault. As far as your concerns about masturbating to much, I really dont feel that is the problem. Maybe you should express yourself more, and when your partner is doing something that feels great tell her. Its like giving an update on the situation. Encourage her and continue to reassure her more, and I am sure this will not continue to be an issue. Communication, listening and paying attention to your partner, is all very vital in reaching a climax. I hope this helps please let me know, if this makes any differance...
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I'm losing all my friends because im annoying and the im always being a beep all the time how can i get my friends back or get new ones
P.S. almost everyone teases me cuase im short could u give me combacks to the teasing to (link)
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Wow you know I got teased alot in school. I wore glasses, was little on the heavy side, and didn't really fit in. A sence of humor was my best weapon for dealing with everyone though. I was corny and would slam my self better than they ever could. Soon they would just stand their and stare, they couldnt come up with anything better to say. So soon it became second nature nothing they did bothered me cause I could handle insulting myself 10 times worse. You dont need to react in a bad way, that feeds more insults and more attention, cause they know they got to you. The best way to handle people like that is to act like non of it bugs you at all. When I got picked on I would laugh right along with them, slam myself tell them is that the best you can do etc. I would come up with new material on the spot everyday, and most of the time the people picking on me would end up laughing at their own friends because of things I said about them. The point is let it roll off your shoulders to a point, dont get mad get creative.
If someone says hey shorty, say I am not short I am vertically challagened thanks for playing come again.
If someone is straight up mean, say I dont mind being short it saves me from having to look at your ugly mug everyday.
Find out all the plus sides of being short and use them. I am not very tall myself, and I love it.
Here are my plus sides of not being tall. Dont have to go to a big and tall store to shop. Dont have to hurt my neck to stare down or duck under doorways. Dont have to have my BF stand on a ladder to give me a kiss. My daugher who is 13 is the same height as me LOL And always remember you may be short, but their is always gonna be someone even shorter out their than you. Dont let it bother you so much. We all are differant no one is ever the same. Once you can handle all this and not let it bother you so much, people wont see you they way they choose to see you know. They will see you for the person that you are, and not the size you are.. I hope this helped let me know if this helps at all keep me posted and tell me if your friends start to see a newer brighter side of you..
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ANYONE WHO ANSWER'S WILL RECIEVE A 5 because i thank you for reading my long situation!
im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say idk..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant. (link)
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I have been in your situation before. The fact that he has a girlfriend is a bit tricky in handeling what needs to be done. I think you made the right call on not doing anything with him phyically. You need to met up with him face to face and tell him how you truely feel. this will eat at you for years never knowing how he truely felt about you. You need to confront him about everything and leave the call up to him. I would make it clear however that you could only feel right with him if he was no longer with his girlfriend, he would need to break up with her. So you will have to lay it on the line and see how he feels, but at least you will know that you did everything you could to win his heart in the right way. You cant keep all this inside and the person you need to tell you still have contact with, do it while you still have the chance. If you keep it all inside, you will kick yourself later. I can tell you first hand, I never had the guts to tell someone how I felt till it was to late. I have not seen this person now since like a year after I graduated. So 13 years of regret sit on my shoulders and I still wonder to this day, what if. This person is now married and I am happy for him. But it does make you thnk hard on the things that you could have done to make a differance or at least have a chance. So I am asking you not to be foolish and learn from my own mistakes. Tell him how you feel, and only he can make things right if he feels the same about you. I hope this helps, please let me know how it all works out..
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if a girl is having problems reaching her point but feels it is almost there but never comes,what is the problem and how can i make it happen? (link)
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There could be many reasons why this is an issue. First one is it could be a subconcious isssue. Mentally something is holding them back. Second it could be medical issue, meaning something phyical that only a doctor could find. Their are many things that contibute to this,it really not that uncommon. Woman who are mentally stressed or just not into it, will sometimes never orgasism. If this is something that continues on though, I would recommend seeing a doctor about it and be checked out. If their is nothing phyically wrong, then its something mentally holding them back. Aslo knwoing your partner and what they like, is a very important key factor. Make sure you know dislikes and likes wen it comes to being intomate. If something is being done that makes a person feel uncomfortable it can have alot to do with this kind of situation. All in all if this is something that remains and issue getting a phyical is important. If the phyical shows nothing wrong, seeking some other professional advice might be nessary to get to the root of the problem. Mainly be honest and upfront about things, dont feel rushed take your time, try to make it a non stressful situation. Realy show her how important she is to you, dont makeit seem like a challage or a mission. And dont let this kind of issue ruin anyones self esteem, it happens. I hope this helped keep me posted and let me know how it going.
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my best friend and love of my life wants to join the marines wen he gets out of high school. he is into all the dangerous stuff n im so scared that something will happen to him. i want to be happy for him and i support him in his decision but i really dont want him to go. can anyone give some help on how to get through this because im having a really difficult time with it and ive even cried about it. and i dont want to tell my boy about it because i want him to know i support him in everything he does.i just dont want anything to happen to him but i always see how many marines die on the news and stuff. thank you for the help!!!! (link)
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When it comes to anyone you love, its always hard to let go for any reason. Holding back any feelings or views on the situation at hand is not good on your part. If something did happen to him, you could never really cope with not saying the things you just mentioned here. Express how you feel always, dont hold back on what he means to you and how it will effect you emotionally. As far as supporting him, its a conflict when it comes to friends or any loved ones. A natrual reaction is to keep them safe and never see them suffer. You have to talk with him and know the reasons why he wants to do this so bad. Maybe when he explains it more in detail, you can have some comfort in knowing how important this is to him. It may make it a little easier to cope with, and understand the reasons that you are supporting him in. I would aslo mention to him that him keeping in contact with you is very important. Letting him know how much he will be missed may also give him some comfort and peace of mind. Its never easy to let go, but when its important to someone we have no choice. He just needs to know that you will support and love him no matter what. I hope this helps, may god watch over all our troops, and bring them all home.
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what are some things to talk about when you're just getting to know a guy that you're attracted to? i dont want to be boring or have long awkward pauses (which always happens) so im kind of nervous
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The best way to feel more comforable when talkng to a guy that you dont really know, but want to know better. I find it alot easier to talk to a guy when I am own my own turf so to speak. A place that you feel comforable the most. It also helps to have a close friend that likes to talk alot you know te ones that are never quiet. Its easier to have other people around in the beginning until you get more comforable and know him enough to be yourself. Having other people their keeps that silence gap from becomming an issue of feeling weird. If you have a mutual friend that kindof of knows you both that would be ideal for this situation. Once you feel more comforable around this guy it will all come natually and you wont feel like your forcing conversation. Everyone is nervous at first with anyone new, and it just more difficult when you like them. This to me seems like an easier transition for you until you feel more confidant and have the confidance to do it on your own. I hope this helps, let me know how it goes..
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Okay so first let me explain. I have two great friends, and we've been practically sisters and i know they always will be. Lets call my great friends, Lisa and Sue. There is another girl group at our school as well. They have some pretty mean girls in their group, but two of them are just ok (not very nice though). Lets call the ok girls Pam and Janice. Now, Pam has spread some pretty harsh rumors about Lisa, but Lisa says they've worked it out. However Pam still occasionally says some mean things about Lisa behind her back. Now Lisa, Sue, and I have always been civil to this other group, in fact Lisa, Sue, Janice, and Pam were all on the same XC team. they have all these inside jokes that they wont tell me and Sue even invited Pam and Janice over to make cookies and stuff. Lisa and Sue still tell me that they are just being nice, but now they seem to be really becoming friends. I know that Lisa and Sue would never ditch me, and that we would always have the better friendship, but i want to tell Lisa and Sue how this new behavior has been hurting a bit. Like Sue and Pam have things in their IM infos that talk about their cookie party or whatever. I feel left out, and i want to tell Lisa and Sue how i feel but i am scared they will think i am being ridiculous because even i know they would never ditch me. all i want to say is that i feel left out. should i just let the inside jokes slide and get over it or should i tell them how i feel, if so what should i say??? (link)
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I would surely tell them how you feel, but would not harp over the inside jokes to much. My suggestion is to feel more included start making jokes with them. Let them know how much it hurt to not be a part of it. Start using your own sence of humor to get their attention. When you make people laugh stuff just seems to work out. I am sure that when they see that side of you more often, you will be included. There could be many reasons why you where not a part of it from the beginning. Could be your personality, could be some of the stuff being said was dirty or harsh about others, an they where not sure how you would react. But overall dont worry about the things you cant change that are in the past. Head in to a newer direction and let your funny side come out. Great personalities go a very long way in life, dont sweat the small stuff, you will be a much stronger person in the long run. I hope this helps, besides I love good jokes if you ever wanna share one with me. Keep me posted and let me know how things are going..
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My roommate in college, Julie, never ever aknowledges me. I don't know what if she has a problem with me or what. When she comes home she goes straight to another girl to talk about her upcoming trip, her problem, or ask to run an errand with her. Of course, if noone else is around to do with she'll ask me which is almost never since there are 4 of us girls. I want to confront her because it absolutely bothers and annoys the hell out of me. I also feel she does not care too much about me.
(example when one of our roommates when for a check up Julie could not stop talking about how she hopes it goes okay, when it was nothing major it was just a check up on the knee, but when I had 2 appts for something very serious (that could have surgeries) she seemed to have cared less.)
Anyways, what do i do? write a letter? if so, what do i say without sounding like a jerk?!
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Well being upfront with her is important. The example you just gave would be a good way to point it out to her. It would show how ignored and left out she makes you feel. You could also try to get more envolved with whats going on with everyone there. Make your presence known even if your just being silly, get their attention more often. If she continues to just go to her room and acts the same way after you have a meaningful conversation with her, then this is what I suggest. Start making some other friends, bring them in so you have your own company around that does not involve her. Once she sees how independant you've become and how much time others want to spend with you, it might give her the outlook as if maybe she was missing out on something all along. People take things for grant it every day when it comes to friendships. they just expect you to b their when they need you, but often times they are not the same way when it comes to you. They are just not around. Friendship is a two way street expect to get back what you give. If they can not, or are not willing to, then this is not someone I would call a true friend. Only invest time with those that return the same actions you give. If you the kind of person that is their for a friend no matter what, then dont reamin friends with someone who is never there for you when you need them. No one is perfect either, and their may be something that she is not telling you, that is behind how she is acting. You will never know until you confront her, and you dont have to be mean or be a jerk, just be upfront and talk in a normal tone. Do it in private between you and her, ith no one else around. If she continues on after that talk in the same manner, it seems pretty clear this is a one sided friendship. I hope this helps and wish you the best of luck. Let me know how it goes, or if you need any more advice.
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ok so i want a myspace really bad cause like very one i know has one and there always talking bout itand it makes me fell left out. i had one but my mom found out bout it( i didnt know i wasnt allowed to have one) and made me erase it and i really want to ask her if i can make one but i dont know what i should say and how to bring it up( i am 13). (link)
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Well I am so happy I came across your question. I have a daughter that is 13 as well. As a matter of fact her birthday is today just turned 13. As her mother she has been begging me since last year to have her own myspace page. I told her once she turned 13 she could under these conditions. She could only be on when I was ine room. She could only talk to people or friends that she knows in person. The best thing for you to understand is that as a parent we are obligated to protect our children we love you guys so much. Include your mother make her feel as if she is a part of it, let her help you design your page, let her know that you wont hide anything from her and give her your information when you sign up, so she can monitor it if she is not in the room with you. You have to relize their are so many evil things in this world and the internet can be one of them. People are not always as they seem, and younger pre teen adults are easy targets. You can talk with her, and explain that alot of pre teens are using this site. I know I hear about it all the time from my own daughter. The main thing is make your mom a part of it so she feels comforable with the situation, you will be surprised on how much that will make a differance. Let me know if you have any luck, or have any more questions.
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I am a sophomore girl in one of the most elite high schools in the nation. Call me shallow but i am one of the "in" crowd too. im not cpnceited, but i will admit a great deal of my friends are. I'm always feeling pressured by what everyone expects of me to be. Since i am one of the more well known kids literally im supposed to be a size 0, have had sex a bajillion times, never to lose my cool, and basically just be perfect. Here's the main issues: My natural body is a size 6, i know not huge but not a 0, so i have forced myself to throw up only a few times. I've never made it past first base, though i've been there MANY times. My family is so messed up: beyond normal dysfunction. My brother is gay and proud, and he got caught at the high school two years ago with drugs before being sent to rehab (THE ONLY STUDENT TO EVER BE SENT TO REHAB IN THE PAST 15 YEARS). I am always worried that someone at school will pair me with him and then i'd be ostracized. My parents have been divorced since i was a little under a year old and my mom works 16 hour days so i never see her or my stepdad, who is also a doctor. I mean I've got money, thats not the problem. The problem is i feel like im trapped in a small barred box and everyone is poking me and trying to get me to do tricks for them. I feel trapped. Its like i'm screaming in a crowded room but no one can here me. On the outside i have it all together, but on the inside? i'm losing it. Everything with me revolves around fitting in and being loved, i guess just because i never had that in my home life. And also being apart of this elite group of kids takes a toll on me to. Ive been programmed to think only certain things are beautiful and being different makes you a freak. Im always worried that as soon as i leave the group they'll talk about me because loyalty has no meaning in the inner circle. I have no doubt that half the people i hang out with would tear my rep apart if they were guaranteed my part in the "chain" Its a vicious cycle but now im stuck and i feel so alone.
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This sounds to me that you have alot of pain, you are not willing to let anyone see. Your afraid to be alone and might even feel that others only pretend to care, but really dont. You mentioned your brother, do you have feelings of some jeliouly there? That he can be that way, and i does not affect him like it affects you? Growing up with your parents never being around has to be very difficult. Even though we dont really like putting up with our parents they play a very vital role in how we all grow up. I think you may feel abonded in a way or not important enough to the people that really matter to you. Please dont starve yourself and do your body damage. If your meant to be like a size six, be a size six and be proud of the body god gave you. As far as your group of friends you have know, friends come and go, only focus on the ones you know truely care about you. I would also have a talk with your parents and let them know that you need them in your life, and they need to let you know that you exsist and that you matter. All the money in the world cant make you happy, its the people who love you that make up the person you will become. I am very concerned about the drugs and the inner depression you have. I know you went to rehab at that is great, very big step. Your reactions to situations show that you are lashing out in the only ways you know how to deal with everyday pessures. Maybe even to get attention or to be noticed. I know you say that when you talk you feel that no one is really listening. That is a terrible way to feel, and I understand first hand how frustrating that can be. I am not hear to tell you how to live your life, but I am concerned and it really hurts to see someone in alot of emotional pain. I really would like to offer more advice or help, bt I will wait for you to get back with me and you can tell me what you think?
One last thing all the sex, everything I have read tends to show me your on a self destruction path. Harming yourself, or trying to ecape reality, because you hurt so much inside. Although others cant see it, I am very worried about you. Please update me from time to time so I know how you are....Life will get better, I will help you in ay way I can.. But most of all I will listen, even if thats all you need.
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