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wanna be happy for him but its so hard
my best friend and love of my life wants to join the marines wen he gets out of high school. he is into all the dangerous stuff n im so scared that something will happen to him. i want to be happy for him and i support him in his decision but i really dont want him to go. can anyone give some help on how to get through this because im having a really difficult time with it and ive even cried about it. and i dont want to tell my boy about it because i want him to know i support him in everything he does.i just dont want anything to happen to him but i always see how many marines die on the news and stuff. thank you for the help!!!!
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When it comes to anyone you love, its always hard to let go for any reason. Holding back any feelings or views on the situation at hand is not good on your part. If something did happen to him, you could never really cope with not saying the things you just mentioned here. Express how you feel always, dont hold back on what he means to you and how it will effect you emotionally. As far as supporting him, its a conflict when it comes to friends or any loved ones. A natrual reaction is to keep them safe and never see them suffer. You have to talk with him and know the reasons why he wants to do this so bad. Maybe when he explains it more in detail, you can have some comfort in knowing how important this is to him. It may make it a little easier to cope with, and understand the reasons that you are supporting him in. I would aslo mention to him that him keeping in contact with you is very important. Letting him know how much he will be missed may also give him some comfort and peace of mind. Its never easy to let go, but when its important to someone we have no choice. He just needs to know that you will support and love him no matter what. I hope this helps, may god watch over all our troops, and bring them all home.
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I went through a similar situation last year, and it's hard, i know. The worry never goes away, and there is always a chance that things might go wrong. BUT they can go just as wrong here. People die in car crashes everyday, and yet we still drive everywhere. This isn't really any different, everything about life is dangerous, you just have to trust him to take of himself for you.
Maybe this bit of information will cheer you up, my boyfriend is a marine and he's set to be shipped out soon and he says that most marines never see the front line. It also depends on his job, that'll determine how close to the action he actually is.
But as far as you wanting to keep your fears from him, i think it's a bad idea. You shouldn't try to tell him what to do, but expressing your concerns only deepens your relationship. Talk him about what your feeling, nothing i or anyone say will compare to what his comfort will do for you.
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A lot of my friends from high school joined the army, navy and marines as well. It was scary to think that they're going off like that, especially because I don't support the idea of war and such (but I back those willing to defend the country 100%). They went and they're fine, but I know they might not have been.
I talked to them about it later, when we were sitting around and such. They told me how glad they were they joined and how much they enjoy it. I told them that I'm scared every day that they won't come back. They were really surprised that I showed such concern, but they just told me that they know what they're risking and that they'll always come home.
Talk to him about it. Chances are you won't change his mind, but at least he'll know. Also, if he doesn't know he's your best friend and the love of your life, you need to tell him. Things like that will really make a difference in the way people live their life.
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I think you should talk to him about how this makes you feel. Let him know that you're afraid something will happen to him. I mean I wouldn't talk him out of it if he really wants to do it though. Still I think he should know how you feel. Hope this helps you.
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