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i just want my mom to be proud of me for once!
im 28 years old and i live with my parents due to being unemployed, but i have been looking for a new job for almost a year now. problem is if i do something good my mom never says shes proud of me. she likes to go on and on about how good my 21 year old brother is doing because he has a good paying job, a family, and has his own house. but if i try to bring anything up about my brother my mom accuses me of being jeolous which makes me mad because im not. i would just like to be successful like him because i admire him.i feel like i will not be successful because i have a learning disability that makes it hard to advance in my life. is their anyway to make my mom proud of me too. i feel like the black sheep of my family. thanks for answering my question
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it seems to me that she is playing favorites witch is wrong but it dosent matter if she isnt proud of you as long as your proud of yourself because she isnt your pupet master if shes proud of you it gtill donsent change you life only YOU have the power to that!if you know you arent jealous of your brother and you admire him you are the only one you need to convince just be proud of youself because at the end
YOU are the one that matters
YOU are the only one that you need convince
and one day................
YOU ARE ALL YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE LEFT.
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You know sometimes parents have no idea what they are doing or really even pay attention to what they themselves are saying. Parents may say things in such a way not realizing how it is comming accross to you directly. What you said in your statement about your brother I think is wonderful. Have you ever told your mom that in those words. Your disability that you mentioned, dont allow yourself to feel that, that is an issue that is going to hold you back in any way. How we view ourselves plays a big part in our overall attitude. If you feel yourself that this holds you back others will see that in the way you present yourself. Dont get down on yourself for not having a job at the momment. Truth is its hard for everyone right now, when it comes to landing a job. I have been looking for work myself with no luck at all, so dont feel to bad about that. As far as your mom not being proud of you, I am not so sure that is really how she feels. Have you ever asked her that directly? Or is that the impression she gives you, by how she speaks about your brother? Sounds to me like you need some ressurance from her that you are not failing and she needs to be more supportive of you and your efforts. As far as feeling like the black sheep of the family thats a pretty normail thing. I am an only child and I myself have felt that way. So keep doing what you are doing, and dont let those feelings that you have over welm you. Have a talk with your mom, and be honest with her on how she has made you feel. Maybe it will shine some light on how she has been, and she can be more supportive towards you. I hope this helps, please update me and let me know if you need any more adive. Best of luck on the job hunt I am rooting for you.
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