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Too much masturbation?
I've masturbated a lot and i can get off in like 5 minutes but when my GF tries to eat me out or finger me I can't ever do it without help(dildo, vibrator, etc). It kills me because she thinks its her but I think its me. I really dont know...
Did I masturbate too much and damage my clit? Or is it my fault? Or is it her fault? WTF
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wow stop stressing hun..its your body its what your mind likes..its nobodies fault thats what you like vibrators or dildos .
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You're in the habit of getting off in your unique way, as quickly as possible. It can take time for you to mentally and physically readjust! There are delights to sex with yourself or with someone else, and differences as well.
You shouldn't expect your girlfriend to get you off as quickly as you do it yourself. Time, patience, and exploration are key here - as are good communication. Show or tell her what you like. Be willing and open to try new things, and realise that orgasms can take awhile to happen with a partner.
Regular orgasms are really good for your reproductive health system; you've not damaged your clit. Different things work for different people - if you sometimes need a little help when you're with your girlfriend, so be it. Make it a fun thing you can share with her.
Other things that could be affecting you are psychological ones - if things in your relationship aren't quite right, it can be really hard to have a good level of intimacy. If you need to have a chat with your girlfriend about anything, do so! Likewise, the worry and stress about not orgasming with her will make it even harder - again something to be gentle and patient with yourself about.
I wish you both the best.
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Well this could be as simple as you know your own body better than anyone else ever will. It takes time to figure out how to please anyone in a phyical way. My suggestion is to be more open with her, tell her what really gets you excited. If you not shy, let her see for herself and watch. She should not feel as if it is her fault though, we all learn with trial and error. You should just keep reassuring her that it is not her fault. As far as your concerns about masturbating to much, I really dont feel that is the problem. Maybe you should express yourself more, and when your partner is doing something that feels great tell her. Its like giving an update on the situation. Encourage her and continue to reassure her more, and I am sure this will not continue to be an issue. Communication, listening and paying attention to your partner, is all very vital in reaching a climax. I hope this helps please let me know, if this makes any differance...
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