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Bi or not?
Kay, so this is going to sound like a stupid thing to say but i dont know if im bi or not.
I'm 16 years old and i mean ive always liked boys and still do, but in the past year or so i've been becoming more sexually attracted to females.
The thing is, i could never see myself having a proper relationship with a girl.
I was talking to my boyfriend about it and he's happy with me being bi because i just like boys more.
It's hard to describe but when i see a girl i can think "yeah shes pretty" or "hot", but i dont have any like deeper feelings, like wanting to be with them in a commited sense.
The whole idea of girl on girl action and things like that turn me on and i have this urge which seems to be more of a fantasy to do that with girls but does that really make me bi?
I mean, when i think of someone whos bi, i imagine they like girls and boys just as much and would want to have proper relationships with them.
Its good to be able to talk to my boyfriend about this stuff so he can make me feel comfortable no matter what, but i just dont really know if i am or not if that makes sense lol.
if someone can give me some advice that would be great xx
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Too much worry about defining yourself.
Who knows.
You might date women in the future, you might not. You might bring a woman into bed with you and a boyfriend in the future, you might not.
Bisexual means different things depending on who you ask, and since labels only matter in regards to what other people think, is there really a point in trying to figure out if you fit into someone else's idea of what sexuality is?
Just like what you like, and if you think you like something else, explore it.
And if someone asks you to tell them "what you are" just say "Interested"
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Those feelings you are having seem pretty normal to me. I can look at a woman and think wow she is pretty, or even wow she is hot. I can tell you with all honesty it has not ever gotten any farther than that with me. Your feelings may change later on, or if you ever act on this attraction to woman, its really only then you will be able to tell. All most all guys are gonna like that aspect of a woman being bi. Its like every guys biggest fantasy. The truth is only time will tell if you are bi. Sounds to me that your just have normal thoughts though. Some girls may feel its weird to have those kinds of thoughts though. I am straight and I have had those thoughts myself so I feel as if its normal. If the attractions get much stronger later on and your feelings drawn to a woman, the portental to become bi s possible. Most woman though do experimentation on this types of issues, its very common when people are in collage. Most of them turn out to not even be bi, it was just something they wanted to try and see what it was like. If you do think you are, its good that you where upfront with your boyfriend about it. It's good to know that you have a strong enough relationship with him to talk about issues like this. But for know I would not be to concerned about those feelings. I dont think you have much to worry about. If anything changes let me know I hope this helps some, please let me know...
onedayatatime
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I dont think so b/c you can say a girl is pretty heck you can think anyone is pretty but that dont mean you like them
(but hey if you think you are ..........all im saying is follow you instincts!!!!! but i think your in a confusing stage)
hope you do whats right
tatianna
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