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Iam afraid of getting hurt
There's this guy iam talking to and he seems like a really sweet guy and I think he really likes me becouse he's constantly opening doors for me and helping me with my schoolwork he bought my a coffe and he offered to carry it for me so iam pretty sure the he likes me and i like him to but iam 19 and the guy is 39 and i feel like he's to old for me but i live with my cousin and she says that age is just a number and iam also afraid of getting hurt becouse everytime I go out with a guy that I really like and I think that really likes me to breaks my heart and iam afraid of getting my heart broke again.
what should i do?
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I think that, in your case, age is a little more than 'just a number.' If you're 19 and he's 39, chances are that the two of you are very, very different.
You're probably attending college... You're discovering who you are, what you want from life... He, on the other hand, has all ready established his character.
Questions to consider: What if he's looking for a serious relationship/marriage? Would you be ready to make such a committment in the next few years, or would you rather leave your options open? Does he want children? How do you feel about children? Are you emotionally prepared to bare the responsibility of a parent? Are there things that you feel like you need to do before being in a serious, committed relationship? Such as: living by yourself, traveling... Or just having fun with your friends? These things are all important. Give it some thought... I'd really hate for you to miss out on certain life experiences.
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All older guys seem to be attracted to younger woman. With this guys age I would have a bit of concern though. Questions and concerns such as, was this guy every married? Is he still married? Does he have children? Is he divorced? Even though age does not matter all the time, you have to take into account what life experiances, has he gone through already that you have not. Men who are divorced or get divorced always seem to want to go with someone younger verses a person in the same age range as them. Alot of married men cheat as well. My suggestion is you really have to know what your getting into before hand. Dont be afraid to ask questions upfront to this guy. He may be a great guy, but do you research and find out as much as you can upfront before making any kind of decision. There are some guys out their that age that would treat you very well I am sure, but really know what you want out of life and from a mate, before you make any rash decisions. You really dont have a bases for life ecperiance, not compaired to someone that age. And when your his age he will be a senior. Do you think you could ever be with someone who you might have to care for when you are 30 something. Its alot to take in, and alot to think about. It all depends on the person though, what is he capable of and what are you capable of. But I strongly suggest finding out as much as you can about him before hand. You are still very young, and their are many many fish in the sea... I hope this helps some, please let me know what you think, or any other questions you might have...
When it comes to finding anything serious out such as STDS. The only way to really protect yourself is to ask your partner upfront if they might have any. Certain people may not be honest with you though, not matter how much you feel you trust them. Always be safe use protection, when engaging in any sexual act with anyone. When your sexually active its always improtant to go to the doctors to get check ups from time to time. We all have certain risks involved when you engage in sexual activity. Just be aware of these risks and take as much precaution as you can. Make sure you do get regualar check ups by a doctor so if an std is present at any time, you will know right away. Some STDS can be taken care of right away, other ones you will live with for the rest of your lifetime. I hope this helps answer your question if you need any further help please feel free to leave me a message in my inbox. I hope this helps...
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