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i think i love him, and he's not even mine..
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im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say idk..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
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Alright hun, this is tricky, and really hard i know!
But i honestly think you need to tell him these things.
Because ive been in a similar-ish situatuion, but did'nt tell him and its something i regret SO MUCH!!!!!
and it still hurts, but the difference is that i lost mine....
but you have a chance to see if its for real...so i say go for it girl get your man!
*Bri*
Keep me posted!!!!!!
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I have been in your situation before. The fact that he has a girlfriend is a bit tricky in handeling what needs to be done. I think you made the right call on not doing anything with him phyically. You need to met up with him face to face and tell him how you truely feel. this will eat at you for years never knowing how he truely felt about you. You need to confront him about everything and leave the call up to him. I would make it clear however that you could only feel right with him if he was no longer with his girlfriend, he would need to break up with her. So you will have to lay it on the line and see how he feels, but at least you will know that you did everything you could to win his heart in the right way. You cant keep all this inside and the person you need to tell you still have contact with, do it while you still have the chance. If you keep it all inside, you will kick yourself later. I can tell you first hand, I never had the guts to tell someone how I felt till it was to late. I have not seen this person now since like a year after I graduated. So 13 years of regret sit on my shoulders and I still wonder to this day, what if. This person is now married and I am happy for him. But it does make you thnk hard on the things that you could have done to make a differance or at least have a chance. So I am asking you not to be foolish and learn from my own mistakes. Tell him how you feel, and only he can make things right if he feels the same about you. I hope this helps, please let me know how it all works out..
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