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Hey...Im sabrina.
Im 18, I may be young, but i have been through many things i thought would never in a lifetime happen to me! I try to give the best advice i can, so feel free to ask me anything!
*Bri*

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So my boyfriend and i were the cutest, happiest, most loving couple out there ..then he went on a cruise. now that he's back he doesn't say anymore cute things like "youre beautiful" and it seems he doesn't appreciate me as much. we used to text throughout the entire day, now he's being short and not really holding out well in conversations. this has been going on for like 3 days, idk if it's just some post vacation thing or what. please help!

Honestly he could just want a little space. i know you dont want to hear it, but sometimes its what it takes, dont stop talking to him or anything just dont call or text him as much.
*Bri

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Okay. I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. Well my last period was 11/9. Well its now 12/9. So its only two days late, but I'm still kinda worried. I mean, mine are late bc I'm not on BC or anything. But I just I'm kinda freaked out. He said we used something everytime. I'm trying not to worry bc I know that can make it late too. I looked up signs and symptoms and everyone I have, (sour breast, tiredness, and late period)it says that other reasons are stress and your about to start. I have only 3 out of 25 signs, so I'm thinking things are on my side. Which stress is true, because its basketball season and I always stress about it, haha. And I also could be starting. I think I'm having cramps but idk.


any help maybe?

Hey,
i honestly dont think you need to worry!
Really! your just stressing yourself out by thinking about it all the time...its happened to me, i was 3 weeks late because i stressed sooo much, and finally when i calmed down and stopped thinking about it my period came. so just take a deep breath and stop worrying i really really dont think you habe anything to worry about!
:)
*Bri*

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I am 16/f. I feel like every datable guy already has a girlfriend, and I'm the odd one out. Every time I really like somone, they are already dating somone or are "talking" to another girl. Like yesterday I was sitting next to this boy I really kinda like on a bus ride to a feildtrip. He was talking to one of my girlfriends who was sitting in the seat in front of ours, and since she knows I like him she said, "Hey David, when are you going to get a girlfriend?" and he said "Well, I'm working on it." and she said "Oh who is it?" and he wouldn't say, so she said, "Is it one of the other basketball team managers?" (because he is a team manager) and he like blushed and got akward and shook his head yes. So the point of that story is he is not referring to me. (I am not a team manager). It is not like I'm upset about this newfound information, more like frustrated. I mean, I thought I seriously had a chance with this kid, because even though he is really nice and he's cute, he is just not really popular or anything... he is just normal. But even HE is already going for somone else. And really, Im not sad, just frustrated! It is not like I am ugly, mean, or anything, its just that everyone else is alreay paired up! No nice guys are single! And all the single guys I know or even am friends with... well, they are single for a reason. They have just got some trait or another that makes them undatable in my mind. (And please dont say consider them... trust me, I've been there- on instances when I needed a date for a dance or somthing, and I am not doing that again!) Im lonely, and my frinds keep going on group dates and stuff and I am left out. Why are the guys I like always taken? What should I do? I want a boyfriend but they are all taken!

Ok this is going to sound cliche, and you probably dont want too hear it but...Honestly you are still young.
I had the EXACT same feelings when i was your age!!! not lying, and people would tell me this all the time, but i would'nt listen...
just wait and let things just happen. If you go out trying to force something to happen, its not going to. Your only 16, you dont need to focus on finding a boy....honestly you should be out having the time of your life, not focusing on boys.
I was alway the single one in my group to, but i just had fun and just went with the flow...and i have found him!, well he kinda found me, but i was patient and let it happen as it was supposed to and things fell into place right!
You will find him i promise...dont know when it will be but you will!
so just have fun and be patient my dear.
*Bri*

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How can i make my girlfriend feel like the most im portant girl in the world?

Tell her that.
Tell her how much she means to you, girls love it when guys tell them things like this.
just hold her, hold her hand, put your arm around her.
text her out of nowhere something cute.
surprise her with flowers!
things like that...
hope i helped!
*Bri*

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Hi.
I'm Sammantha (17/F) and my best friend is Jason (17/M) We've been bestfriends since preschool (14years) and we've grown really close.
He told my sister he liked me but i don't know if he was just messing around, coz' thats the kind of guy he is but I really like him, more then a friend. But I don't want to weird out our friendship coz' we're so close.

I have been in this situation before!!!!
And when you've been such good friends with someone foe sooo long, they just kinda grow on you ya know.
Hmm, well i think you shold flirt around the subject a little with him, like ask who he has his eye on lately, things like that.
But if your brave enough, i would honestly just ask him what he thinks about you?
I mean you only get one chance why not take it.
I would go for it girl, cause i just let my chance go...and now we hardly even talk.
its was hard for me. but ive found my Mr. right, but thats a whole different story.

It might be wierd for you to ask, but guys dont care and wont get all freaked out or anything.
Its worth a shot, cause who knows he could have been in love with you this whole time but was just scared to bring the subject up to you...
i wish you the BEST of luck!!!!
Please feel free to ask me more
and keep me posted!!!!!!!!
*Bri*

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I'm a quiet girl, don't associate myself with others much because i don't want to be negatively assosiated with people in any way by accident.

Well I was walking the walkway and this guy that's the same grade as me but SHORTER called me a douchebag and one of his friends were like "that's mean!" but then someone from their group was like "YOU'RE A DOUCHEBAG!" and then another person from their group said "Come on (name), get over here and beat the crap out of them! Don't let them stomp over you like this!"

But like how adults always say to not fight back, I just continued walking down the hallway. I'm just going to leave this to God and hope that Karma will come into play. I went into the bathroom, and just sat there, starring.

Why would they randomly decide to call me a douchebag like this? I never did any harm to anybody. I have them in a couple of my classes and we rarely talk but we talked a few times and they were NEVER like that before.

I'm just so hurt, my self esteem is so low, and it took my whole strength to keep my self from bursting out in tears during the whole day at school. What do i do now?

And how can I let out this anger and stress in a healthy way other than listening to music? (because that isn't really letting it out).

I think that shouting real loud as loud as i can like in the movie works but I'm never at home alone and I don't drive o it's not like I can drive myself to the park and scream...

Thank you so much in advance

I would'nt let this get to you!
they are young and immature!
I would just do what you said, let it go to God.
BUt i really would'nt let this get to you!
Your young and beautiful and dont need to worry bout them.
just live your life the bast way you can, and have fun!
*Bri*

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Hi, I'm 14 and me and my girl have been dating for about a month and a half and I want to know if girls are comfortable with being eatin out or felt up or should I just stick to kissing?? Thanks, justin

I really think you are too young to try that sexual of things.
your young and your girlfriend is prob the same age, and i may be wrong but she probably would be uncomfortable with that, so i would stick to kissing, making out.
Hope this helped
*Bri*

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18 female.
i have somewhat of self-confidence only because every guy i pretty much meet tells me i'm so gorgeous (sorry not to sound conceded) and sometimes i do believe i am pretty, but other days i will just hate the way i look. i'm somewhat outgoing, around people i know pretty well and i do talk around people i just meet but why is it that i feel so shy and feel like i can't be myself around the guy i like? i've known him for about 3 and a half years now, but i just always think about what i'm going to say before i say it because i don't want to say something stupid, i don't act crazy around him because i'm afraid he will think i'm annoying, or just plain weird. i am a fun girl to be around though, but around him i am a sort of different. we flirt, but i just wish he could always see the crazy side of me because he is outgoing, and very funny. he always knows how to make me laugh. he will dance wherever he is, he will sing out of nowhere to a song on the radio, he will do anything to make me smile and i love that. when i'm with my best friends, i'll act stupid, i'll dance crazy and be a complete dork and they all think i'm funny but when i'm around this guy, i can't let myself go. for example, one day in the summer we were at my friends house and he was acting crazy and was like dancing on me, grinding on me and just acting goofy and i just stood there and was like "oh my god haha.." now if it were one of my best girl friends, i would of been dancing with them and all of that but i can't let myself do it with him. i know he should like me for me, but i'm just nervous because i don't want him to think it came out of nowhere you know? i talk really really fast, so alot of times people don't understand me haha and so if i say something he will be like what? and i'll just be like nevermind. and like over text one day he confused me and i was like you're confusing and he was like well you say weird stuff. and i was like ohhhh, okay? what's that suppose to mean you know. i just wish i could be the crazy girl i am when i'm with my friends. i'll admit, i don't know how to dance for anything i've never really dirty danced with a guy before, never really had an actual boyfriend yet all these guys give me attention and i don't understand why. i'm still a virgin, not a slut at all. is there anything that could help me overcome being so low key around this guy, i want him to know the real me.

Ive been like this before!
But Honestly you neeeeed to be like you are when your with your friends! I honestly think he would love it, and would eat it up! He's obviously like that and opened up around you, i really think you should too, guys love it when a girl is confident and outgoing and not shy and timid.
When he's around just dont think about it, just let go and have fun, it will be worth it in the end, and it would make things so much less akward for you!
Hope things go good!
*Bri*

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how do you know if you have come across love and what is it anyways?

It is completely different for eveyone.
Love is such a strong feeling! And honestly only you can know if your in love. Its like having your absolut best friend by your side who you are also physically attracted to. Its feeling safe and secure with your partner. Its the butterflies you get whenever you see them or when they touch you. love is that feeling that you need to see them...and cant get them off your mind!
I recently had this question, and nobody could answer it for me, i just knew. Its such an amazing thing, love. Dont let it slip away...cherish it!
Hope this helped a little.
*Bri*

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If you have se at 15 can the boy get arrested even if he was 15 also? Im not having sex but people say they can go to jail for 20 years and stuff.....

IF you are both 15 than no.
If he were 18 than yes.

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So two weeks after school started my brother, who's a sophmore tells me that the senior boys are going after the prettiest freshmen girls this year(PS- I never told my friends)....like sex.... well 2 of the freshmens have already done it with 2 of the seniors.... i have family friend who is a senior boy and he is majorly cute...and fit...and well i have a little crush on him......well all of a sudden he starts hanging around me.... he sits by me at lunch.... and recently he gave me a candy cane gram and it said "I like you a lot. Your different then most girls. Your beautiful." And then I started liking him a lot more.. Like boyfriend more. But my friends know the rumor and they don't trust him......i told them he's been a family friend for a long time. They told me he'd have sex with me then dump me. And now I barely talk. He will start a conversation and ill try to end it quickly. Then he keeps asking me why!!Im so confused on what to do....i feel if i tell him about the rumor, he'll think i wont trust or i thought hes been lying this hole time and never talk to me. and i also feel if i dont do anything my friends will be pissed at me..or not want to hang around me!HElp?!?

ps. 14/f
sorry its long

First of all, seniors dont hate freshman!
most of them are just annoying and immature.
anyways i do think you should tell him about the rumor to see what he has to say..
but honestly, you are only 14 and he's what 17, maybe 18...that equals a bad situation.

I dont think you should focus on someone so much older and just concentrate on your friends and people your age. :)
*Bri*

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hi i gave my boyfriend head about 3 months ago and my throat still hurts i went to the doctor about two months ago and she told me i had a sinus infection and gave me medicine i took all except one because i dropped it on the floor so i threw it away but i was wondering if i got an std from my boyfriend or if im still sick thank you love madison:)

It could be possible you contracted an STD but the only real way of knowing is to get tested.
you could very well just be sick also...
but i would see your doc. again just to be on the safe side...
*Bri*

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dont hate me for asking this, but if a girl were having sex with a guy, and it was really physical, and she sucked his penis, what would it taste like?

It does'nt taste like anything.
honestly...
And its not gross either...
plus most of the time your so caught up in the moment that it does'nt really matter and you just go for it lol
but you dont have anything to worry about.
just make sure your completely ready :)
*Bri*

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so... my boyfriend and i are probably going to have sex pretty soon, and i don't know if i'm supposed to be shaving or waxing or anything down there.. i heard somewhere that you can just leave it but i don't know what most people do. i don't want him to be grossed out or anything if i just leave it how it is. please help, thanks

well do you have any hints as to what he likes down there??
Most older guys just like girls to be cleaned up.
but honestly i think you should just talk to him, or hint around the subject to see if you can get the answer your looking for.
I shave, completely, just because its so much cleaner, and easier but just do what your comfortable with, and if he really loves you, he wont really care.
:)
Hope i helped
*Bri*

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im so stressed out, first off. last year i went through extreme depression, and i got grounded, so i was captive in my house. if anyone has been depressed, when youcant do anything its hell. This year, i am better.. but, my mom all the sudden has been up my ass. She doesnt let me go out, do anything, where ever i go she wants to talk to parents, drop me off, i cant drive.. im 17. All my friends go out, her best friends kids go out, im very mature for my age... and my boyfriend goes to parties, and hes 18 and i dont wanna hold him back i mean hes allowed to, but my mom is nuts, it makes me depressed, wanna fuckin do shit to myself when im upset sitting home everyone is out. I dont get it either, my brother went out at 17 had parties at my house... im very mature for my age, have college friends, i have 2 jobs, i have 90 grades. i do everything for myself pay for everything.. what should i do?

I do know what you mean, and ya talking to your mom would be best, and yes calmly!
you need to bring the point up to her that you wrote here, tell her these things and ask her does she really have any reason not to trust you?!?
I did this with my mom, and it ended up being really emotional, and yelling and crying and such, but i got my point across and she lightened up! mega!
its hard but just find a time when you can talk to her, it'll be worth it.
hope it works out!
*Bri*

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Alright.. basically me and my boyfriend have been together over a year, then he moved to florida to go to college, i lived here still in new york.. we tried to be together, he couldnt put forth the effort to even talk to me, and this was us trying to work our a long distance relationship. then we broke up, ididnt talk to him for a few weeks, then a couple weekends in a row i got drunk with his friends that still lived here, and ended up texting him and talking to him on the phone.. so ya, then he ended up getting into two car accidents down there, made me care for him completely, on account last year i lost my best friend.. i dont ever wanna let anyone out of my life i care for. he recently a month ago ended up coming home cause things didnt work for him there, we're together again. My feelings are different.. i think its cause i am really hurt, by him just leaving, the little things he did.. before he left things were basically perfect though. anyways... when ever we dont hang out, i want to fight with him, like iwant to. Even about nothing, its not healthy i know.. we've kinda talked about things..but i think in me, i feel like i fight with him cause the things he did to me, he deserves it, but hes treating me good..

idk really, what should i do?

My best frinend was actually in a similar situation, but her boyfriend did'nt move, he just broke up with her, but a couple months later they went back out, and she had the same feelings!
Its not that he's doing anything wrong you just feel you need to yell at him or fight with him right?
well if you honestly feel things are good and you really have no reasons to fight, then i would try something to get your mind off that feeling. Because my friend did'nt and she would just fight with her ex about nothing at all, and he got sick of it and ended things again, she truly loved him and was sooo hurt. I think you should try and not think about what happened, but try to focus on whats happening now and have fun.
sry if it wasnt much help...
but hope it goes good!!!
*Bri*

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Well i have this friend that i've known for years, he's been with this girl of his for a very long time and even though she completely despises me, is a complete ditz, and couldn't come up with something interest and indepth to talk about to save her life , he's stayed with her, mostly out of the inability to break it off and the fact that he doesn't really care one way or the other since he wouldn't gain anything by leaving. needless to say he;s indifferent and putting just enough effort into it to make sure he still gets a fuck every once in awhile, besides she's too stupid to see through anything like that. He's told me a few times he's in love with me but we always agree its better not to really talk or act on those types of emotions since we're both in relationships. Besides i could never imagine being in a relationship wih him so hasn't a clue what i feel since i never intend to tell him. Well anyway today while i was in class he was playing with my hair, which he usually does, then he rested his hand on my shoulder and started rubbing his thumb across my neck, then he moved his hand and cupped my cheek and i heard him sigh from behind me. I don't really know what to make of this, so can somebody help?

hmmm, akward.
I dont think you should act on those emotions either.
He does'nt sound like a very good guy anyways, plus you have a boyfriend!
I dont think you should completely stop talking to him, but i dont think you should talk to him as much, or maybe attemp talking to his girlfriend, she at least deserves to know what he's doing, even if she is a total B*tch.
*Bri*

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Okay so for the past week i've been dating this guy. We havent hung out yet, weve only been texting, and talking on the phone. But he always sent me texts that were cute and made me smile. Starting this sunday, he was being very distant, and either responded with 2 words, or didnt respond at all, OR took 4 or 5 hours to respond. Hes been doing it for a long time now and i dont know whats up.
do you?

He's just being a guy.
and sucks to hear but he could very well have just lost interest, or just busy.
but you'll never really know unless you talk to him!
i would get together sometime and just talk to him, or call him up or something, but i would'nt text because he could judt get annoyed with texting...
hope it goes good!
*Bri*

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so me and my ex have been on and off for a year.
It's been a pattern he would stop talking to me for 2 weeks (i wouldn't call text or anything!) and then he'd text me non stop begging for me back. I just don't understand he says he loves me but he always leaves me and does the single thing because he loves girls, he loves flirting, he just loves all the attention. He's never cheated on me though he's just sooo honest it hurts which is just as bad. He said he likes it but he LOVES being with me. But this last time was different we lasted with no break ups nor fights for 1 month and 1 week lol sounds pretty sad but i was happy about it. Well now he's back do doing his own thing but I'll know he will be back. . .i juts wanna know why he does this and how can i get over him I'm tired of crying all the time it hurts so bad. At first when he text me to get me back I'm the biggest hardass and i'll blow him off but he keeps on and on begging for me and he says the sweetest stuff and that it will be different. . .and even though i know it won't i cling to that hope and try it again. everytime he thinks he's going to really going to lose me he won't leave me alone. . .someone please help me


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I 100% agree with the person below!
I have a friend with a boyfriend like this, and its so sad to watch it happen over and over again!

Its so not healthy and you need someone who will treat you with the respect you need, and not leave to have some fun for a little while then when he decides, come crawling back!
I honestly think you just need to break things off for good. You will be so much happier not wondering when he'll come back, or when he'll leave again...
its ultimately up to you, but truth is, he's a DOUCHE and you dont deserve that!!!
*Bri*

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so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do?

That is the hardest thing for some people, getting closure.
Its hard getting over someone for sure, but the best way for me, was to completely cut my ex out of my life.
and honestly just focus on what you have now.
you obviously broke it off for a reason, and have something so much better now.
So just have fun now, and focus on now, and not the past.
hope you get what your looking for!
*Bri*

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