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Closure
so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do?
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i think you just found your closure. you have admitted that you would never want to get back together with him and that he wasn't a good person. Why talk to someone you don't want to? that's not going to give you closure, it's just going to cause drama. what you should do is just keep on having a good relationship with your current boyfriend. enjoy him and know that you are lucky enough to have found someone worth your time. and know that you breaking up with him means that you won and that somethings may remind you of your ex because you were with eachother long-term, but you don't want him. trust me, he sounds liek a jerk, [no offense] so just move on and have fun with your boyfriend. dont dwell on the past when you have the present and hopefully the furture with this great guy your with now.
good luck! hope i helped! xxo :]
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That is the hardest thing for some people, getting closure.
Its hard getting over someone for sure, but the best way for me, was to completely cut my ex out of my life.
and honestly just focus on what you have now.
you obviously broke it off for a reason, and have something so much better now.
So just have fun now, and focus on now, and not the past.
hope you get what your looking for!
*Bri*
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Accept that your past relationship is over. Any reminders of your ex get rid of. Make sure you don't compare the current guy you are with to your ex.
But really just try and remove your ex from you life. Accept the relationship you had, accept that there were good times and bad times and just try and leave them in the past where they belong.
The fact that you want closure is closure itself you are ready to put this all behind you, so now just accept that and do it. Easier said than done, i know, but you just have to try!
Concentrate on your new relationship.
Good luck!
:)
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1. Don't talk to your ex. Stop all contact with him. Delete him from myspace, facebook, and your phone.
2. Let your good friend know that you really like him and that your ex means nothing. You have to put his emotions into this equation.
3. Don't think about your ex. Keep yourself busy. Remind yourself of all the bad times is you do start thinking about him.
4. He sounds like a jerk. Who needs him.
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