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im so stressed out, first off. last year i went through extreme depression, and i got grounded, so i was captive in my house. if anyone has been depressed, when youcant do anything its hell. This year, i am better.. but, my mom all the sudden has been up my ass. She doesnt let me go out, do anything, where ever i go she wants to talk to parents, drop me off, i cant drive.. im 17. All my friends go out, her best friends kids go out, im very mature for my age... and my boyfriend goes to parties, and hes 18 and i dont wanna hold him back i mean hes allowed to, but my mom is nuts, it makes me depressed, wanna fuckin do shit to myself when im upset sitting home everyone is out. I dont get it either, my brother went out at 17 had parties at my house... im very mature for my age, have college friends, i have 2 jobs, i have 90 grades. i do everything for myself pay for everything.. what should i do?
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Your mom is scared to let you out of your "cage" again because I'm guessing she fears that it will happen to you again. She might feel that if you stay at home, you cannot possibly get into trouble anywhere else. She's trying to be extra careful with you because she doesn't want anything bad happening to you. After all, you're her daughter and I'm sure she loves you. I know you're missing out on social time with your friends and it does hurt to know that you social life is injured. You see, it depends on what got you depressed that's holding your mom back from "a life." Getting to know the parents of your friends, isn't a bad thing, really. It can actually make you and your friend closer because your parents have instilled a trust in each other. Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. Try not to yell. Show her you're mature when you're talking to her and she will take you serious. Hope I've helped.. even a little :]
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I think it's a great idea to let your Mom read your post. Sometimes we express ourselves better in the form of a letter. She may not know you're feeling these things. She may be worried that you cannot take the pressures of a hectic lifestyle b/c of your condition last year and afraid you might have some sort of breakdown. She also may have just gotten used to having someone always around the house and just be feeling a little lonely and not wanting her baby to grow up so fast. Parents also sometimes just treat their daughters differently. Young women are physically often more vulnerable then young men and are saught out by all types of predators even in their own age group. Nowadays some families are a bit different; but 30-50 years ago it was completely common to treat your daughter completely different. It was the norm. Take care though and good luck. I think if your mom reads your post; she may understand your feelings much better and at least she'll communicate her reasoning behind her behavior and maybe you guys can come to a comprimise.
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I do know what you mean, and ya talking to your mom would be best, and yes calmly!
you need to bring the point up to her that you wrote here, tell her these things and ask her does she really have any reason not to trust you?!?
I did this with my mom, and it ended up being really emotional, and yelling and crying and such, but i got my point across and she lightened up! mega!
its hard but just find a time when you can talk to her, it'll be worth it.
hope it works out!
*Bri*
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Talk to your mom. Calmly. I stress that! Make sure you don't do it in a confronting fashion. Just sit down with her and tell her how you are feeling and tell her you would like to know why she is being like this. Try and come to some compromise.
Just talk to her.
Good luck!
:)
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