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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?

If you move out, you will not be able to college... On top of this, he's a grown man, and you my dear are still a minor. He WILL go to JAIL.
I'm twenty one years old, and fight with my parents constantly. It's a lot cheaper then trying to do it on your own, and you can save your money the more you stay there. Just keep an eye on what you spend your money on.
Stay at home and go to college. No man is worth giving up your entire life for.

xoxo,
dottie4

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what does a girl say if a boy asks you out

Say "you ask all the men out."
;)

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dottie4

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Hey, okay so i've been in a few relationships in my life and they were not bad relationships but not great. I have also been single the past few months, and don't get me wrong I love being single but I'm kind of missing having a guy there for me and care for me. Is that wrong? I know I shouldn't go looking for a guy and use him just for that reason. I am just saying I miss having a guy around me to care for me (not just best friends).

I guess what I'm asking is how do I go about finding a guy in my life who will care for me? I'm not really looking for anything serious, but just kind of a love spark i guess haha. I am not a player or anything, so don't think i'm using guys for sex or anything. thats not what I'm looking for at all.

I am a pretty social person, but lately i've been busy with school work (college) and i'm going to europe for the next 2 months, so is there any way I can meet some new people or find a spark in my love life? I've tried online dating but it doesn't really work for me especially since you have to pay. I've tried meeting people at parties and social gatherings but its always awkward because I don't know them that well. Ive tried talking to guys in classes but they either don't feel the same way about me or we have nothing in common.

Help! Please and thank you :)

19/f

There's nothing wrong with wanting to date! Your only nineteen years old, so don't think there's anything wrong with "looking." Since your in college have you tried joining clubs at your school? Or you could ask some of your friends to set you up with a friend. Since you've tried the online dating thing, it can't be any more different then that, and it's free. If you see a cutie just go up and start a conversation. Try to find some common interests (Music, Majors, Etc.) Keep your eye on the prize babe :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I think im pregnant with a person that ive been seeing for a year. He has been married to someone else for 11 1/2 out of 12 months.. Does he have the right to know or can I just not tell him and get rid of it?

It's your decision. If you want to tell him, tell him. If not, then don't. You make your own decision. Still not completely aware of why your seeing a married man... =/

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok im 13 f and i really want a new wardrobe because ive been starting to stop wearing hollister and aeropostel and start moving on to like forever 21 wet seal etc. so i really want more clothes but my mom thinks i have enough clothes but i really want newer clothes since mostly all my shirts say hollister and aero and stuff like that. but she still will say no but i really want to have a better style and not as boring especially for winter? what are some ways i can get her to get me newer clothes and go shopping??

Why not go hit up some thrift stores? A lot of the time they still have the tags on them. Or you could trade with your friends. I'm sure they have stuff that you like. :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hi I'm looking for a easy healthy way to lose wieght I need good eating tips and excerises that I can do in small spaces inside (no exercise films) I'm 15f I'm 20 pounds overweight can you help me I'm willing to stopp eating so many snacks I just need good tactics can I set a goal for losing 20lbs by like October or I just need help with this

There's these magic pills you can take that will help you lose weight if you eat right and exercise. ;)

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14/f
My boyfriend gave me a necklace for my birthday a few weeks ago. I wore it to school, then took it off at the end of the day in the locker room so I could change for tennis. I thought I put it in my backpack but I looked and I can't find it anywhere. I checked all around my house too. So tomorrow we have a date and he asked me to wear the necklace. I really don't want to tell him I lost it! I don't know what to do! I feel horrible!

Buy one that looks just like it.

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how do you stop watching pornography,sexual urges etc.
if christian, feel free to add any usable bible quotes to memorise to abstain from these things

AGE: 13
GENDER: MALE

Bate. ;)

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Hi im 14/F and I am wondering if its weird to have your first kiss at a public swimming pool? is that normal?

I don't think so.. My first kiss was at Home Depot in a car when I was 15... As long as it's with someone you like that's all that matters.

xoxo,
dottie4r

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most of the times when i smoke weed i dont feel anything.
how do you smoke? do you inhale all the smoke?

You shouldn't do it. It's illegal. You could go to jail. :/

xoxo,
dottie4

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Wat is the best facial cleanser & mask for bad skin wit blemishes & blackheads? My skin isnt really that dry but its not oily either.

There is no "best" facial cleanser to clear up bad skin. This is something I've dealt with for quite a while so I'm pretty sure I know a thing or two about it. I've seen at least 3 dermatologists, and been on tons of stuff... Stuff would help for a little while, and then would stop. The best thing that has helped me with my complexion is a mild soap, and sun. Make sure you get plenty of Vitamin D and be sure to put on sunscreen. I notice just natural things like eating a healthier diet, drinking plenty of water, exercising, and spending time outside has helped out my skin tremendously. What you do that's good for the inside, it will show on the out. I can almost 100% guarantee it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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16/f/India
Okay so I am in senior year. Here 12th grade is VERY important..My admissions into a good college will be only on the basis of the marks I score in my "board examination" which is held at the end of the year. The papers are not checked by my teachers but by some other teachers who don't know me and are teaching in some other school. This is done to make the examination fair. The cutoffs for any college where i live (new delhi) are CRAZZY. I mean nothing below a 475/500 is acceptable.
I have Physics, Chemistry, Computer science, English and Maths as my subjects.
Im telling you all of this just so that you know there is a lot of pressure to perform well.. and I have to in order to get a good college.
Ive just been real distracted for a while. I don't know how to concentrate on my studies. I dont feel like sitting with my books. It is freaking me out because every day matters to me. Please help!!!!!

Hey don't stress yourself out number one. I'm in college right now and maintain a 3.8 out of a 4.0 gpa in one way or another. What I do to help me study is chill outside, when the weather is nice.. :) Either that or have a designated place set where you study and nothing else. Assuming the place where you sleep is a bed, don't study there. Or you can go to the library, even stay after school. If you have friends that have the same goal as you, it might help to study with them. Right now I'm attending community college. If you have something like that there, I don't think there's anything wrong with starting out there.. A lot of my credits will transfer to the school I want to go too. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?

As long as neither of you make a big deal of it, it won't be. You two were it seems just vulnerable. However, you might begin to develop feelings for him, and him for you. If that happens just let it happen. Sometimes friends going into relationships actually work.

xoxo,
dottie4

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can men use pamprin or midol for bloating its dumb for mne to ask but nothings helping

Take a poop.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years..and we love eachother alot the last few days he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship anyore because he has too much family problems and i just stress him out extra, which isnt true, yes we do fight, and im not gonna lie before the breakup we fought alot, but about stupid stuff, i tried to fix things and i told him im sorry and i really wanna work things out, and that i miss him and love him and i can help him out with his problems, but he just says he doesnt want anyone in his life, and he wants to be alone, and listed me a bunch of reasons of his family issues, but even before his family prolems he said he doesnt want to be commited to me because he feels like hes too young, hes 18 years old and im 17, we have been through the worst and best times, it may not sound that way because im currently very devistated with whats going on, he asked me never to speak to him again and he just doesnt wanna talk anymore,he bought me a blackberry on our 1 year, and i just had my brother give it back to him.. what do you guys think? its hard for me to beleive its over, i dont want it to be but he says he has no time to fix things right now because of everything thats going on in his life,i know you guys dont know him personally,but do you think when he straightens his shit out hed miss me? he always said he REALLY cant live without me, and loves me alot..and now we ended on bad terms. =/ help? i really would like to know if guys usually pull of this stuff and regret it later.

I'm sorry hun. I've been through this... My ex and I dated for 3 1/2 years and he ended it with me abruptly for really no good reason. The best thing to do.. I know this is going to be hard, but just move on. Try to surround yourself with good friends, and eventually date again. I wouldn't say right away though because I tried that and it didn't work... Give him what he wants. And don't pick up if he calls, or IMs you.. I know it sounds harsh but I know about this kind of thing from first hand experience...

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have a boy best friend, he has been my best friend for the last 3 years. We've in secondary school now and he's known this girl like a year and half.. and they've recently become close. now apparently they're 'best friends'.. I feel hurt, I feel replaced and I feel like I'm second best. I know this sounds childish but I do feel hurt. this girl isn't even nice, he's going to end up getting hurt and she's done this to me before with my life long best friend who I rarely see anymore. I don't want to say anything to him about it because I know he'll tell her what I say. I love him, he's like a brother to me and I can't let him go. He means to much to me. I just wish that I wasn't always second choice.

Hmm.. I would ask if you could hang out with both of them. Maybe she's not as bad as you think. Just get to know people.. Everybody deserves a chance.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Is mastrbating bad for grls nd boys of age 16+??

Yes. Very bad. Anyone that does that is committing a sin and needs to stop...

xoxo,
dottie4

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Help! I have a mole invasion at my house! It is going to head toward my pool and if it gets under there My family won't have a pool anymore! My dad is using a mole trap like where it scares the mole to go away and poison to where it digged you know.But this question is dedicated to my family. SO WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO KILL THE MOLE OTHER THAN THE TRAP?? HELP ME BIG TIME,FANS!! -Danielle =(

Watch Caddyshack. ;)

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay so I met this guy at a concert, and he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. We then went to eat and we talked for like over an hour. Hes really cool and I like him.
He texted me the next day after we ate, but then he didnt text me again. So I text him after a day or so, and he still answers and has a conversation with me when I do text him.
He works 12 hours a day during the week, so I figured thats why he doesnt initiate the conversation.
But, I initiated the conversation the last couple of times, and I'm wondering if me always starting the conversation is strange? Like clingy? I like him, and I want to talk to him, so I just text him. I'm trying not to overanalyze it and just get to know him.
I'll take guys/girls perspective on this. thank you!

I don't think it's that big of a deal. Now if you sent lets say... 10 messages in a row that would be strange and clingy. haha! Good luck!

xoxo,
dottie4

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this would be helpful

O.o Is that you asking us that? HAHA!
I'm sure there's plenty of people that would love a babysitting gig. Just ask around.

xoxo,
dottie4

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